Lip Service: Challenging the Sexual Script of the Modern Woman

Lip Service: Challenging the Sexual Script of the Modern Woman

by Kate Fillion
     
 

Women aren't the best of friends, models of sisterly support, or paragons of emotional honesty. From the woman who sleeps with the boss, to the woman who tells her friend she looks fine when she doesn't, to the woman who pressures a male friend to have sex, no woman is immune to the impulses of envy, competitiveness, aggression, and coercion. None of this should come… See more details below

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Women aren't the best of friends, models of sisterly support, or paragons of emotional honesty. From the woman who sleeps with the boss, to the woman who tells her friend she looks fine when she doesn't, to the woman who pressures a male friend to have sex, no woman is immune to the impulses of envy, competitiveness, aggression, and coercion. None of this should come as a surprise women are human beings after all. Yet despite all evidence to the contrary, the myth of women's moral superiority persists. And although gender roles are now more fluid than ever before, especially among the generations born after 1960, the rhetoric of polarization continues. In Lip Service, journalist Kate Fillion challenges our cherished convictions about women's natural instincts and shows how our most ingrained beliefs about gender differences actually blind us to the complexities and contradictions in women's and men's behavior. More important, she demonstrates in powerful terms how confining and self-destructive this skewed perspective is for women in all aspects of their lives - including office politics, their intimate relationships with men, their friendships with women, and their own self-images. Based on extensive academic research and in-depth interviews with North American women and men, Lip Service paints a startling and ultimately very human portrait of the widening divide between women's actions and how we choose to interpret them. Acknowledging this is not antiwoman. In fact, Kate Fillion so convincingly argues, confronting the darker side of women's behavior frees us from the unequal moral standards and restrictive typecasting of the currently accepted codes of conduct, and allows women to be honest about who they are and what they want.

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Donna Seaman
Journalist Fillion believes that we would all be much better off emotionally and culturally if we would stop paying lip service to that stale old myth about men and women being psychological opposites. According to our society's "sexual script," women are the "intimacy experts," adept at communicating and at love, hence morally superior. Men, by contrast, are reticent to a fault and reluctant to forge relationships. These absurd generalizations, Fillion argues, have become "barriers to equality." In an attempt to dismantle them, Fillion interviewed more than 100 women and men about everything from friendships to relationships, fantasies, sexual harassment, and the difference between rape and unwanted sex. As always, people's personal lives are intriguing, but Fillion goes beyond mere prurient interest in her analysis and reaches some refreshingly frank, even provocative conclusions. This dose of reality is a healthy alternative to books, for instance, that describe men and women as creatures from different planets. As far as we know, we're all earthlings, splendid in our diversity.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780060172909
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
02/29/2000
Edition description:
1st ed
Pages:
368
Product dimensions:
5.78(w) x 8.64(h) x 1.23(d)

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