Living When a Young Friend Commits Suicide / Edition 1

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In the last thirty years, the suicide rate among young people has tripled. In this book addressed to the young survivors of this epidemic, Earl A. Grollman, the internationally known lecturer, writer, and grief counselor, and Max Malikow, a psychotherapist and pastoral counselor, offer solace and guidance to adolescents who are confronted with someone of their own age who is contemplating or has committed suicide.

Discusses why people commit suicide, how to deal with the various emotions caused by the suicide of someone you know, how to help someone suicidal, religious issues, and popular misconceptions about suicide.

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Editorial Reviews

You have just learned that a friend has committed suicide. What do you do now? The grief, anger, guilt, and other emotions that one might experience are described in this thoughtful book, intended to help young people coping with a sad and difficult time. In a calm and conversational style, two wellknown counselors offer their thoughts and insights to troubled teens. This compassionate and gentle volume addresses many of the issues raised by suicide including the religious questions triggered by such a death, what one may expect to feel immediately after this event, how to tell if someone is suicidal, and even how to talk to the family of the victim. Young people facing the terrible and all too frequent occurrence of teen suicide will find this a warm and soothing source of help and counsel. The authors avoid the pitfalls of selfhelp books and manage to sound neither preachy nor overbearing. Living When a Young Friend Commits Suicide: Or Even Starts Talking about It is not meant to be used for research papers because it does not contain statistics or facts about teen suicide. Instead, the book achieves its goal by providing young adults with answers and guidance as they deal with one of life's greatest tragedies. Further Reading. VOYA CODES: 5Q 2P M J S (Hard to imagine it being any better written; For the YA with a special interest in the subject; Middle School, defined as grades 6 to 8; Junior High, defined as grades 7 to 9; Senior High, defined as grades 10 to 12). 1999, Beacon Press, Ages 12 to 18, 109p, $12. Trade pb. Reviewer: Jamie S. Hansen
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A welcome guide for young people who are trying to come to terms with a friend's suicide. Setting straight the myths about suicide and addressing the feelings of shock, grief, anger, and guilt, the authors offer practical, empathetic advice. Copyright 2000 Cahners Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780807025031
  • Publisher: Beacon
  • Publication date: 9/28/1999
  • Edition description: None
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 126
  • Sales rank: 803,747
  • Age range: 12 - 17 Years
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.50 (h) x 0.25 (d)

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 2, 2014

    Y and how am i still alive?

    I really dont understand why im still alive. I cut myself and ive tried killing myself before. Ppl think i do it for attention. If they think u do it for attention y did it take a full year formy mother to find out that i was cutting? It took two cops to come to my house at 8 at night cuz they saw a suicide note in the garbage. I dont know how they knew it was me. I think about cutting and dying everyday. Ive stopped for almost 2 months but my parents and other are so mean to me. They dont care. The only reason im still here is because im in love with my bf. His name is cruzito biddle. Hes amazing. I love him so much. I miss my friends that killed themselves. I just want them bck. My best friend tanner killed himself recently. My mom doesnt know or underdstand why im my scene/emo self. Its who i am. Someone please respond to this and if u know anyone thst can help me please let me know bfore its too late. -Alyssa

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 4, 2014

    I once was bullied at scool and i thought of commiting suicide

    I once was bullied at school and i almost commited suicide

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 5, 2014

    To Ashlee-u r here for a reson

    Ashlee ikno just how u fel...i fel thr samr way all the time...but Tyler gets me thru it just fine<3 as will i ash, u wrnt put here to be msde fun complete ur mision...and mine is to help u thru
    XOXO Goth Girl

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 12, 2014

    Dont take your life away

    Everybody has to understand one thing.... Dont let people judge you. Thier opinion dosent matter. Dont take your like becuase someone makes fun,hurts, or torments you. If you ar egetting bullied move schools, tell your parents. If your parents are mean to you tell a relative or someone you can trust or have a close relationship with. You could even liv with the, if your parents dont treat you well. Just remember when your commoting suicide, your helping the bully, you are making them more confident so they will go ahead and do the same thing to another kid. All im trying to say is dont take you life away.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 8, 2014

    I lost a friend due to suicide

    I lost a friemd in2013 he shot himslf in his school ...... the stoy is that he was not in class so his friend went in the bathroom and found him dead on the floor with the gun in his hand with his jead off blood everwhere and the night before he died he said sorry and hung up i miss him alot but h is not hurting anymore.........suicidevis a sad thing to go though and that
    I miss you ty. And i love you R.I.P -skittles

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 4, 2013

    to ashlee

    plz dont kill yourself! you are important to at least one person in this world. think of how much pain they would be in if you died!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 19, 2013

    To abby

    No, never forget. Just dont dwell on them for long. Those who are dead live on in our memories and as long as we shall live they will not die. That is what i beleive, that we must simply move on, but we must never forget them. I miss her alot but since she isnt coming back i must move on and live the rest of my life.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 8, 2013

    To preston

    Hey how are you. Abby

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 2, 2013

    Dont do it

    Dont commit suicide some one loves u and nif you do tell some one please no one plz dont do that i hate the people who make u want to kill urself .

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 26, 2013

    From preston

    No matter what you are going through, just remember that someone loves you, remember that you are someones reason to live and that there is someone somewhere who cares for you. You matter to someone and that is a reason to live. Three months ago my girlfriend commited suicide because she was bi, and because of that people bullied her. She shot herself when her parents were gone, and when i rode my bike to her house to see why she wasnt answering my calls i found my girlfriend lying dead on the ground with half her skull missing and a gun in her hand. Im only f*ucking fourteen. Why does this s*hit happen? Someone please tell me why. -im sorry to anybody ive ever treated badly, im so sorry.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 31, 2013

    To preston from katie

    Its ok just ignore them the r *ucking a-holes. And trust mw i now how u feel my life has been a living h**l ever since i was eight but trust me i am life gets better it always does. Reply to katie

    Ps : how old r ?

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 26, 2013

    To Preston

    Sorry for your lose my friend kill herself over a guy she was only 14 and i am 14 to she call me and told me i was her best friend and she love me but she said she was done with hurt of watch her ex bf be with sum one else she could not go on any more it was late at 1 in moring she call me and that she going to kill her self. I ran to her house because she a block away from me i was just a minute late i think about her everyday how could she do that did she know i love her as sister cause were so close or why did she not tell me her sercets i would listen i would of help her because she help me throught my break up sometimes i want to die with her just to get out of pain she wrote a note to me it said "Abby, ur amazing thank for be there for me when everyone else was not there i gonna be happy now no more pain no worrying dont u worry about me this wat i want to fo we c each other soon i love best friend Sara" i cant going on to like everyone else do i dont know how and how could they just go on with out her i know how u feel u feel Preston from Abby

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 12, 2013

    Why am i still here

    I hate life. How can i still b living. Ive prayd to god to kill me. If u hav knife or gun giv it to me plz
    Bye bye

    0 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 11, 2013

    Too many pills?

    I took over 50 pills of different kinds yet im still here. Why. Im tired of feeling. Im tired of trying and dissappointing people. Im tired of it all.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 6, 2012

    Fuck u


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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 8, 2012


    My ciOusin commimted suicide... she posted some thing on facebook.. her parents wernt home and she shot her self walked into the bathroom and got in the tub... her parents gound her when they got home... she shot herself in the head... her mom held her limp hand when the ambulance waz on the way... that was almost a year ago... after her 3 others commited suicide... my other cousin her sister just had twins when she died

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 29, 2003

    Very Comforting

    Although I don't have much to say...I just wants others interested in this book to know that it is very comforting. After the death of a young friend, many teens feel confused and depressed, and almost always ask 'why'? I know I did after I lost two good friends to suicide. The book helps teens to understand the situation and how to deal with it. I found the book helpful and think others will too.

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