Losing Your Parents, Finding Yourself: The Defining Turning Point of Adult Life

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An eloquent book that explores the impact on one's life of losing a parent as an adult, and the effect it has on families, careers, and friendships--now in paperback.

Losing a parent is an event that happens, sooner or later, to nearly everyone. Yet seldom has the impact of parental death on the identities of adult offspring been examined. This book fills that gap. Backed by her original study and filled with compelling case histories, Secunda's book explores what happens to men...

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Overview

An eloquent book that explores the impact on one's life of losing a parent as an adult, and the effect it has on families, careers, and friendships--now in paperback.

Losing a parent is an event that happens, sooner or later, to nearly everyone. Yet seldom has the impact of parental death on the identities of adult offspring been examined. This book fills that gap. Backed by her original study and filled with compelling case histories, Secunda's book explores what happens to men and women when they are on their own in ways they have never been before. She addresses myriad issues, including:

  • What does it mean to be living without parents to please or rebel against?
  • How does adult "orphanhood" alter relationships with one's siblings, partner, friends, children, or one's career choices?
  • How does it reshape one's sense of self?
Losing Your Parents, Finding Your Self offers the assurance that out of loss can come unforeseen gain--that on the other side of sorrow, we can discover new hope, wisdom, and strength.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780786886517
  • Publisher: Hyperion
  • Publication date: 4/25/2001
  • Edition description: Reprint
  • Pages: 330
  • Sales rank: 540,855
  • Product dimensions: 5.18 (w) x 8.00 (h) x 0.00 (d)

Meet the Author

Victoria Secunda is an award-winning author, journalist, and lecturer whose previous books include When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends, Women and Their Fathers, and When Madness Comes Home. Her work has appeared in Harper's Bazaar, Woman's Day, and Glamour. A frequent guest on network television and radio programs, she lives with her husband, photographer Shel Secunda, in Connecticut. Both her parents are deceased.
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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix
Foreword: "I've Lost My Reference Point" xv
Introduction: Childhood's End xxix
Part 1 The Changing of the Guard
1 Point of Departure: When One Parent Dies 3
2 The Relationship to the Remaining Parent 26
3 Voices from the Grave: Legacies and Loyalties 56
Part 2 Ripple Effects: The Consequences of Parental Loss
4 Realigned Family Ties: Siblings and Only Children 87
5 Changes of Heart: Effect on Romantic Partnerships 120
6 Parenthood Reconsidered: On Having, and Not Having, Children 146
7 Achievement: Reappraised Careers 178
8 Friendships Reassessed 206
Part 3 The Reconfigured Self
9 Unfinished Business: Coming to Terms with the Past 233
10 A New Sense of Family 257
11 After We've Gone: Creating a Legacy for the Future 276
Appendix The Parental Loss Questionnaire and Survey Results 283
Notes 291
Bibliography 311
Index 323
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