Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: The Koan of Relationships

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In today's world, freedom is our basic condition, and until we learn to live with that freedom, and learn to live by ourselves and with ourselves, we are denying ourselves the possibility of finding love and happiness with someone else.

Love can only happen through freedom and in conjunction with a deep respect for ourselves and the other. Is it possible to be alone and not lonely? Where are the boundaries that define "lust" versus "love"...and can lust ever grow into love? In ...

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Love, Freedom, and Aloneness: A New Vision of Relating

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In today's world, freedom is our basic condition, and until we learn to live with that freedom, and learn to live by ourselves and with ourselves, we are denying ourselves the possibility of finding love and happiness with someone else.

Love can only happen through freedom and in conjunction with a deep respect for ourselves and the other. Is it possible to be alone and not lonely? Where are the boundaries that define "lust" versus "love"...and can lust ever grow into love? In Love, Freedom, Aloneness you will find unique, radical, and intelligent perspectives on these and other essential questions. In our post-ideological world, where old moralities are out of date, we have a golden opportunity to redefine and revitalize the very foundations of our lives. We have the chance to start afresh with ourselves, our relationships to others, and to find fulfillment and success for the individual and for society as a whole.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780312291624
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Press
  • Publication date: 12/28/2002
  • Edition description: First Edition
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 142,539
  • Product dimensions: 6.10 (w) x 9.15 (h) x 0.68 (d)

Meet the Author

Osho is one of the best-known and most provocative spiritual teachers of the twentieth century. Beginning in the 1970s he captured the attention of young people from the West who wanted to experience meditation and transformation. More than 20 years after his death, the influence of his teachings continues to grow, reaching seekers of all ages in virtually every country of the world.

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Table of Contents

Preface ix
PART ONE: LOVE
Chapter One: Lovey-Dovey 3
Chapter Two: Real and Unreal—The First Step 6
Chapter Three: The Virtues of Selfishness 17
Chapter Four: Attached to Nothing 21
QUESTIONS
* Will you please speak about the difference between a
healthy love of oneself and egoistic pride? 28
* Why is love so painful? 32
* How is it that the inscription on the Greek temple of
Delphi says "Know Thyself" and not "Love 37
* How can I love better? 43
PART TWO: FROM RELATIONSHIP TO RELATING
Chapter Five: The Honeymoon that Never Ends 55
Chapter Six: From Lust to Love to Loving 59
Chapter Seven: Let There Be Spaces 63
Chapter Eight: The Koan of Relationship 68
QUESTIONS
* How can I know that a woman has fallen inlove in
reality, and not playing games? 71
* If the jealousies, the possessiveness, the attachment,
the needs and expectations and desires and illusions 77
* What is the difference between liking and loving, to
like and to love? And also, what is the difference 81
* There are many people I love but Idon't feel committed
to. How can I predict if I will love them tomorrow? 83
* Even if sometimes lovelike feelings arise in my heart,
immediately I start feeling this is not love, it is my 87
* In the East, it has been stressed that one should stay
with a person, one person, in a love relationship. In the 89
* Lately, I have begun to realize how even my lover is a
stranger to me. Still, there is an intense longing to 94
PART THREE: FREEDOM
Chapter Nine: Tabula Rasa 103
Chapter Ten: The Fundamental Slavery 109
Chapter Eleven: Beware of the Popes 121
Chapter Twelve: Is There Life After Sex? 128
Chapter Thirteen: It Takes a Village 137
QUESTIONS
* You said that love can make you free But ordinarily we
see that love becomes attachment, and instead of freeing 148
* My boyfriend feels less and less like making love, and
this makes me upset and frustrated, even to the point 153
* My sex life has become very quiet lately—not that
I don't want sex or that I am not courageous enough to 155
* How can I know if detachment or indifference is growing
within? 159
* In your vision of a model society, would there be one
large commune or a series of communes? What would be 162
PART FOUR: ALONENESS
Chapter Fourteen: Aloneness Is Your Nature 171
Chapter Fifteen: Strangers to Ourselves 178
Chapter Sixteen: Solitary and Elect 180
Chapter Seventeen: The Lion and the Sheep 195
QUESTIONS
* Never belonged, never been on the "inside,"
never felt "at one" with another. Why such a 201
* Why does my sadness feel more real than my happiness? I
want so much to be real and authentic, not to wear any 204
* As I move deeper into meditation and looking into who I
really am, I am having trouble maintaining any 210
Caveat: Two Women and a Monk 213
Epilogue: Embracing the Paradox 233
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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 1, 2005

    Wow

    This book was profoundly eye-opening for me. It challenged everything I thought was true about relationships based on my own experience and my past observations. I now better understand how a lot of culturally imposed ideals have negatively affected how I relate to others, particularly in positions of great attachement. I have shown this book to many others, who have either borrowed it or bought their own after reading just a few pages, and I will reference this book continually for help in the future.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 10, 2004

    A Mind Changing Book

    This book is superbly life changing. It changed my perspective in living, love and relationships.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 14, 2014

    I have read this book several times after a painful divorce. I n

    I have read this book several times after a painful divorce. I now look at relationships different. I realize they are not about attachment or control of the other but just letting love flow. This book also touches on sex, and how being alone is not what you think it is. 

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 2, 2014

    Life changing

    I will never view a relationship the same way ever again. Everyone should read this book, it is profound and beautiful

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