Love Has Wings: Free Yourself from Limiting Beliefs and Fall in Love with Life

Love Has Wings: Free Yourself from Limiting Beliefs and Fall in Love with Life

by Isha Judd
     
 

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Isha Judd has taught thousands of people a simple system that shows how to find the luminous state of mind she calls “love-consciousness,” in which every moment of life — even the most challenging and frustrating — can be filled with love, peace, and self-acceptance. In these pages, Isha will teach you to:

* Free yourself from

Overview


Isha Judd has taught thousands of people a simple system that shows how to find the luminous state of mind she calls “love-consciousness,” in which every moment of life — even the most challenging and frustrating — can be filled with love, peace, and self-acceptance. In these pages, Isha will teach you to:

* Free yourself from the most common fear-based illusions we cling to out of habit, illusions such as “there is not enough,” “comfort is king,” and “being passive protects me from making mistakes”

* Empower yourself to permeate all your roles and responsibilities with love-consciousness, to joyfully become the best woman or man, partner, parent or child, and employee or boss you can be

* Soar above fear, boredom, impatience, jealousy, insecurity, loneliness, and the uncertainty of a world in crisis

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
In a world of increasing uncertainty, each person has the opportunity to make a difference by becoming “love-consciousness” and emanating peace, Isha writes. Love-consciousness is not the same as the love humans feel for one another; it’s “the presence of love in everything, the energy that is our very being.” When the mind is filled like an overflowing teacup with worry or trivial matters,, there is no space for this new vision of love-consciousness. To empty the mind an individual begins by unlearning old opinions and ideas, and releasing resistance to change. Isha elegantly guides readers in this process by exposing some of the most commonly held, fear-based, illusions about reality, such as “I am a small, separate being,” and by examining the problems that these illusions can create in interpersonal relationships. A globally revered spiritual teacher, Isha offers insightful advice and practices for cultivating love-consciousness, and shows how filling one’s personal life with peace, honesty, and transparency is the most profound and effective way to the creation of a peaceful planet. (May)
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“A globally revered spiritual teacher, Isha offers insightful advice and practices for cultivating love-consciousness, and shows how filling one’s personal life with peace, honesty, and transparency is the most profound and effective way to the creation of a peaceful planet.”
Publishers Weekly

“Amid the doomsaying and arguing being broadcast through so many channels, Isha Judd’s message of hope and transformation is refreshing, encouraging, and eminently practical.”
Martha Beck, author of Finding Your Way in a Wild New World

“It’s time for everyone to choose love instead of fear, and embrace their lives with joy. Isha’s new book shows us how.”
Marci Shimoff, New York Times bestselling author of Love for No Reason and featured teacher in The Secret

“This book will help you detoxify your mind of toxic ideas. I highly recommend it.”
Dr. Alejandro Junger, New York Times bestselling author of Clean

“I know, from my experience as a physician and healer, the power of love. This book is filled with the wisdom of the ages, presented in a practical manner so we can all use it to change and heal our lives and as a result heal the world. You can abandon your wounded past and, through the guidance provided here, rebirth yourself without any labor pains.”
Bernie Siegel, MD, author of A Book of Miracles and Faith, Hope & Healing

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781608681211
Publisher:
New World Library
Publication date:
04/10/2012
Edition description:
Original
Pages:
224
Sales rank:
740,731
Product dimensions:
5.00(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.50(d)

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Love Has Wings

Free Yourself from Limiting Beliefs and Fall in Love with Life


By Isha Judd

New World Library

Copyright © 2012 Isha Judd
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-60868-121-1



CHAPTER 1

Illusion #1: I Am a Victim

EXPRESSED IN THE BELIEF: Things happen to me that make me less than satisfied.

REALITY: I am an infinitely powerful creator.


The circumstances that have shaped each of our lives are as unique and individual as our personalities — no two people's are the same. Yet our ability to grow as individuals, to evolve into more compassionate, loving, and conscious people, depends not on what has happened to us but on our attitude toward these situations. When faced with hardship, do we lie down or step up? Do we resist, or embrace the situation for growth?

Ultimately there are two attitudes we can take in life: the attitude of a victim and that of a creator.

The victim cannot see beauty, abundance, or the inherent perfection of each moment because he has an idea of how things should be, an idea that has inevitably been violated, an idea that is at odds with what is. This sense of dissonance breeds anger — anger toward life, toward god — but it manifests in the victim as a passive, depressive heaviness, inertia, and seeming disinterest, appearing more like sadness than anger. Ultimately, it represents hatred of self, violence toward self. It is the ultimate rejection of what is: violence toward life.

The only way to break this pattern of victimization is by taking the role of the creator. Creators praise their creations; victims criticize. Creators live in appreciation; victims, in complaint, not taking responsibility. These are total opposites. Creators embrace whatever comes their way. They respond to everything with a yes, which enables them to live life in abundance. Victims, on the other hand, are resentful and negative. They cannot see life's inherent perfection or beauty, because they have a rigid idea of how things should look. Shrouded in a cloak of seething passivity, this is the ultimate rage: it is the rejection of existence, the denial of what is.

I am responsible.

Whenever I look at my life with a no, with a different idea of how things should be, I am rejecting life. Because I cannot control the game, I will not play. I cannot understand, so I will not accept. Such is the obsessive extremism of a fearful intellect; its complications suck all the joy out of life. Consciousness lives in the union of the heart. When you live from the heart, there are no questions. When you are the absolute, the desperate need to understand disappears; it is engulfed by the pregnant joy of pure being. The heart wants for nothing more when it has found love.

How do I transform myself from a victim into a creator? By focusing on love-consciousness, on the silent depths that lie within us all, until I become the mind without thought. Why? There is no why. It just is. When you notice yourself resisting what is — thinking, something could be better in this moment or something is unjust — let go. Remember that when you flow, when you surrender, you are being god. When you are fighting, you're being a resentful child who won't take responsibility. Nothing could ever be better in this moment, nothing is unjust, because god is everything; you are god within everything; god is joy; and it's all your creation.


Freeing Yourself from Victimhood

Please understand I am not suggesting you intellectually convince yourself that you are not a victim. On the contrary, if you feel like a victim in any aspect of your life, allow yourself to feel it. Embrace your inner victim. Love your inner victim. You will not become free of it by rejecting or judging it. Feel the emotions your feeling of victimhood provokes: sadness, anger, resentment. Scream into a pillow. Cry. Beat on a mattress. Do whatever comes naturally. Embrace your inner victim, and you will soon learn to see through it. As you release these accumulated emotions, the attitude of the victim will lose its charge and soon disappear.


Releasing the Blame

Ultimately, being a creator means taking responsibility for your life. The victim sees responsibility as an uncomfortable concept, a chore: it is much easier to blame someone else for my discontent. Yet in reality it is not easier: it simply takes the decision to stop suffering out of your hands. Until you take responsibility for your own happiness, you are a slave of your surroundings. When you finally do, you find true freedom.

We usually think freedom means being allowed to do what we want and go where we choose. Yet this definition of freedom overlooks the fact that the person who controls and judges you the most is you. True freedom is not something that can be granted or taken away by another: only we have that power over ourselves.

Freedom is self-acceptance. It is allowing ourselves to be, letting go of the desperate need for approval that makes us adopt uncomfortable social norms in order to fit in. External approval will never be enough as long as we continue craving it, and this is true because of one simple truth: we do not approve of ourselves. Because of this, we try to get others to do it for us. But trying to substitute external approval for self-love is like turning up the television to drown out the cries of a baby — a distraction that does nothing to help the situation.

True freedom is freedom from victimhood. It is about taking responsibility for who you are, embracing who you are, and trusting in your own inner voice.

Taking Responsibility for Our Choices

Ultimately, being responsible means taking responsibility for ourselves, for the choices we make in every moment.

We really have no idea how powerful we are. We tend to see ourselves as tiny individuals in an enormous world, doing our best to sway the tides that come between us and our desires. Yet there is a truth that can change this perception, destroy the feeling of victimhood, and bring true freedom:

What you focus on grows.

Our focus creates our reality. If we are focused on what is wrong in our lives and our worlds, what are we going to see? What's wrong. Yet if we are focused on the things we love, the things that inspire us and fill us with joy, we start to see the beauty we were so blind to before. You can transform your experience of life in an instant, just by turning your focus inward. Just by bringing your attention deep into yourself instead of getting caught up in the dramas and worries of the world, you can break lifelong patterns of discontent and preoccupation.

So if it's so simple, why don't we do it? I know why: because we don't want to. We don't want to be happy — we'd prefer to fight for what we think should be fixed. We don't want to surrender: we want to win. We don't want to embrace our reality: we want to chase our ideas of how things should be, instead of accepting them as they are. Why? Because we are convinced we know best how our lives should be.

Children don't do this. They embrace what they have without question. When I lived on the Colombian coast, the local boys would play football barefoot with coconuts. They weren't moping around thinking, If only I had some Nike sneakers! Then I could play much better. If only we had a real ball instead of this coconut! They didn't think like that. They were having so much fun as it was, enjoying what they had.

I am not denying the importance of working toward a better world. I admire any activity that helps unite humanity and improve the quality of life on this planet. Yet if we are focused on what's wrong, even with the intention of making it right, we are perpetuating discontent and nonconformity with what is. Let's focus on what we have achieved, on the wonderful, incredible world we live in and the passionate and inspired individuals who are giving their best to humanity every day. Let's focus on what we can give, on the ways we can lead more joyful, fulfilling lives. Let's focus on being fully present, on knowing ourselves, accepting ourselves, embracing ourselves. Then naturally we will share that love with those around us.

What are you focused on right now? On the frustrations of the past, and the worries of the future? Why not try, just for today, to focus on enjoying each moment, on giving the best you can in each situation that is presented to you?

Discover the power of focus, and in doing so, take responsibility for your own happiness.


Becoming a Creator: Do You Have What It Takes?

Society manufactures victim-consciousness. The media champions the victim, fighting for the underdog, feeding the idea that we are victims who need to be saved from our oppressors. This mentality is so ingrained in us that it is hard for us to understand that we are not victims. The idea might even offend us; it might seem cruel or lacking in compassion. Yet seeing people as victims is the most debilitating attitude we can have: it holds people in their impotence, denying their ability to change. A compassionate attitude inspires people to greatness, beyond their external situations. I am not suggesting we deny injustice or ignore the needs of the human family; I am suggesting that the most important and lasting service we can give is to heal our own inner victim and, as a result, our perception of victimhood in others.

It takes courage to be a creator. You must stand in your own greatness and take full responsibility for everything that happens in your world, but the rewards are endless: the result is supreme satisfaction, with yourself and with life.


The Grass Is Always Greener

One classic form of victimhood comes from suffering for what we cannot have. We have become experts at finding what is missing and focusing our energy on it: a surefire way to suck all the happiness out of life. A woman who cannot give birth can forget the positive aspects of her life in her frustration: she might have the perfect partner, conditions to adopt if she wishes, fulfillment in her work, the freedom to travel and pursue her interests. But her rigid idea of how things should be, her disappointment with what she cannot have can become her obsession, overshadowing the magic and opportunity present in every moment. The same can happen with any part of life we feel is lacking: the missing soul mate can eclipse the passion we have for our career, or our unemployment can blind us to the support of a loving family. Even the emails in my spam folder reflect our tendency to focus on what is missing: I am constantly bombarded with penis enhancement offers, and (although I don't wish to belittle these difficulties or the feeling of impotence that comes with them) it has become clear to me that a feeling of anatomical shortcoming is just one of many scapegoats we tend to blame for all our stress and frustration. We blame our dissatisfaction on this one thing we cannot change. In doing so, we relinquish our capacity to find joy in all the wonderful things life brings.


Victim vs. Creator Responses to Real-Life Situations

There are many situations where it is easy to see the difference between a victim response and that of a creator. The following examples can help you become more aware of your own victim attitude and begin to make new choices.


Contemplation

• Ask yourself, How do I attempt to fill an internal hole with external recognition? How do I depend on other people's praise to make up for my own self-criticism?

• Has anything happened to you recently that you blamed on someone else? Are there areas of your life in which you feel powerless or victimized? Can you change your outlook and take action to make yourself a creator in these areas instead?

CHAPTER 2

Illusion #2: Comfort Is King

EXPRESSED IN THE BELIEF: Comfort is always a good thing! The more, the better.

REALITY: All of life's challenges make us strongwer.


In our society, people view comfort as king. Anything that makes life easier and requires less effort is prized. We have learned to refrain from speaking our truth for fear of conflict and to avoid confronting our fears whenever possible. We have come to value routine over the unknown, and security over spontaneity. Yet often the things that make us uncomfortable — the hard knocks, the disappointments, and the losses — are what challenge us most in our lives. We wish we did not have to weather these storms, yet they are what make us strong. They give us maturity and responsibility, and after all, what better teacher can we have than our own direct experience?

Life becomes stagnant when we remove or avoid its challenges. If a child is spoiled, her parents or servants doing everything for her, when she finally faces the world, she will find herself without the skills to function in society. Similarly, if we overprotect ourselves and try to avoid the inevitable conflicts of life, we may find comfort, but we will not build the skills that lead us toward growth. We may find distraction, but not self-realization.

The story of the Buddha is a perfect example of this. As the prince Siddhartha, he was protected from the world to the point of never seeing the aged or the sick. When he eventually discovered the things that had been hidden from him, he was unprepared for the shock he felt. He then went to the other extreme, committing himself to a life of penance and suffering, before finally finding the "middle path." The extremes of the world are all part of life, and by exaggeratedly protecting our children from these realities, we are not doing them any favors.

How did you grow from a child into a responsible adult? Was it by not making any mistakes? Or was it through learning from the consequences of your actions? Ultimately, we have to go through things ourselves before we fully understand. To flourish and grow as individuals, we must face the world head-on and embrace the losses and disappointments life brings us. Then, instead of perceiving difficult situations as obstacles in our way, we can utilize them as opportunities to grow, to push through our boundaries and expand our horizons.

It is natural to experience ups and downs in life. We are having a human experience, and that entails a wide range of feelings and situations. When we begin to nourish an internal space of security and unconditional love through the expansion of love-consciousness, we start to experience these extremes more freely. We begin to embrace the contrasts of life and find adventure in change and uncertainty. Self-realization is not about living in a permanent blissed-out state where you never feel any emotions. It is about embracing the contrasts of life fully, without fear. When we are rooted in internal freedom, the need to control our circumstances falls away and we can dance unfettered to the varying harmonies of the symphony of life.


Moving Out of Your Comfort Zone

Comfort stems from fear of the unknown and fear of failure. We feel safe within its confines, but in reality comfort is a gilded cage barring us from our true greatness. When we're not challenging ourselves to be more, we are settling for mediocrity. We lament what's missing from our lives, but we don't move into action in order to change it. The fear of failure clouds our perception of our full potential. The mind convinces us we are not capable of more, so we stay put.

We cling to comfort because we fear our greatness. It is safer to sit in the shadows than stand in the limelight: there we risk criticism and external judgment. Greatness requires the courage to stand alone and not compromise our truth. It provokes change and causes evolution. Greatness goes out on a limb; it doesn't stick to the status quo. To trust ourselves, to stand in integrity without abandoning ourselves in order to please others — that's greatness.

There is a certain level of collective complacency within society. To break with that and stand alone requires courage, but if we wish to be free from our own inertia, we must take the risk and stop worrying about what other people might think. We must be willing to make what we consider to be mistakes; to try new things and have new experiences; to dare to show ourselves and express ourselves.

If I stand out from the crowd, if I do something noteworthy, I put myself in a place of responsibility. It requires less effort just to sit back and blame my financial situation, my upbringing, or society for not fulfilling my dreams. Yet we are all capable of moving beyond our comfort zone and achieving greatness; in fact, some of the most inspiring and celebrated individuals in history have gone beyond all odds to realize spectacular achievements. They are the ones who said yes when the world said no, the ones who could have used their extreme circumstances as an excuse to achieve nothing, but chose not to.

Michelle Bachelet is an example who has particularly inspired me, a single mother who went through exile and her father's death under torture before becoming the first female president of Chile — as not only a socialist but also an agnostic divorcee in a traditionally Catholic country. Her commitment to the welfare of her people weathered initial public disdain to eventually garner her the highest approval ratings for a Chilean president in the past twenty years; to her country she was as a mother, warm but firm, knowing that her children would thank her later for insisting on doing the right thing.

There was once a ten-year-old boy who had lost his left arm at an early age. He would stand outside the local judo dojo, watching wistfully as the other boys trained. One day the sensei joined him outside.

"Would you like to learn judo?" he asked.

"I'd love to, but I can't," the boy replied, pointing to his missing arm.

The sensei looked at him. "I can teach you judo," he said.

They began classes immediately. In the first class, the sensei taught the boy a simple move and asked him to repeat it over and over to perfection. After three months, the master had refused to teach him any other moves, insisting he practice tirelessly the same move he had learned in his first class.

"Can't we try something new?" the boy asked. "There are so many different moves in judo, and I've only learned one!" But the master was adamant and insisted he continue practicing the same move. Not quite understanding but trusting in his teacher, the boy continued training.

Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first tournament. To his surprise, using his single move he won his first two matches with ease. The third was a little harder, but after a while his opponent lost his patience and charged at him; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. The boy looked in disbelief at his teacher, amazed to find himself in the final round.


(Continues...)

Excerpted from Love Has Wings by Isha Judd. Copyright © 2012 Isha Judd. Excerpted by permission of New World Library.
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Meet the Author


Isha Judd is the founder of Isha Educating for Peace and the author of Why Walk When You Can Fly? She travels throughout the world teaching diverse groups, including prisoners, ex–guerrilla soldiers, troubled youths, and the general public. Born in Australia, she now lives in Uruguay.

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