Love Is an Orientation Participant's Guide: Practical Ways to Build Bridges with the Gay Community

Love Is an Orientation Participant's Guide: Practical Ways to Build Bridges with the Gay Community

by Andrew Marin
     
 

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In this six-session small group Bible study, Love is an Orientation, Andrew Marin leads you in peaceful and productive ways to engage the theological, political and social disconnects between the Christian and the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender communities.See more details below

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In this six-session small group Bible study, Love is an Orientation, Andrew Marin leads you in peaceful and productive ways to engage the theological, political and social disconnects between the Christian and the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender communities.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780310891277
Publisher:
Zondervan
Publication date:
12/19/2011
Pages:
96
Sales rank:
846,624
Product dimensions:
5.40(w) x 8.20(h) x 0.50(d)
Age Range:
18 Years

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Love Is an Orientation Participant's Guide


By Andrew Marin

ZONDERVAN

Copyright © 2011 Andrew Marin
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-310-89127-7


Chapter One

SESSION 1

Love Is Our Orientation

Many Christians see a GLBT person's "out and proud" status and automatically group that individual into a broad category of God-hating militants. To begin this journey of building bridges, however, we need to put ourselves, as much as heterosexual Christians can, into the cloudy circumstances and daily life of what it is to live attracted to people of the same sex. (Love Is an Orientation, p. 23)

Starter Question

Describe a time when you knew someone loved you, whether you felt like you deserved it or not. What did they do that communicated love? How did that experience impact you?

Video Teaching Session #1

Use the following outline to follow along with the video or take notes if you wish.

Love must be our orientation.

Inward perspective

Reminder: "Love the sinner; hate the sin," versus, "Love the sinner; hate the sin in our own lives."

Reminder: "Right from the gate, I can't relate."

Power and privilege

Be a servant, a listener, and a learner first.

Outward interaction: building bridges

False models of the ideal situation

Difference between validation and affirmation

Cultural reconciliation versus biblical reconciliation

Live and love in real time.

Video Discussion

1. Andrew observes in the video presentation that if you are a straight person, "right from the gate, you can't relate." If we can't relate, then we must become learners. On a scale from 1 – 5 (1 being unwilling, 5 being eager), how willing are you to learn about someone who is gay? How willing are you to learn about gay culture?

If you lean toward the 1 end of the scale, what is causing you to hesitate about this learning process?

If you lean toward the 5 end of the scale, what inspires you about this learning process?

2. If you have ever done so, describe a time when you sat down with someone who is LGBT and listened to their story. Without revealing names, what did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

3. What do you think a biblical reconciliation with LGBT people might look like in your church? If you were to switch perspectives, would an LGBT person agree with your description of reconciliation? Why or why not?

4. We can sometimes be attacked for engaging people who are different than we are. When that happens, Andrew says, we must genuinely work to love our enemies. Explain how you will seek to live at peace with those who might consider you the enemy if you try to build a bridge. How might you be attacked?

How will you show love toward them?

LEADER TIP

In Session 1, Andrew talks about validating each other's stories. Set a culture in your group of validating each others' stories. See the Leader Tips in Appendix C for ideas of how to do this.

This first session may be awkward or emotional or volatile or intriguing.

Scripture Discussion

1. Read aloud 1 John 3:23: "And this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us." Imagine that a lesbian couple started attending your church on a regular basis. Explain what it would mean to love them as the Lord commanded us. What are three things you would do or say to the couple to try to communicate God's love to them?

Put yourself in the shoes of the couple. Do you think they would agree these three things communicate God's love? Why or why not?

2. Colossians 4:5 – 6 says, "Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone." Paul is giving the Christians in Colossae some sage advice on how to interact with those who aren't from their community. Historically, would you say the church has been wise or unwise in its actions toward the LGBT community?

How can your church make the most of every opportunity in its interactions with LGBT people in your community? Are these actions that will be described as wise by the LGBT community? Why or why not?

When you think of a potential conversation with an LGBT person, what might a dignified conversation that is "full of grace" sound like? What kind of questions would you ask?

How will you seek to communicate love, respect, and transparency as you talk with an LGBT person?

3. In the video, Andrew mentions Jesus' interaction with the Roman centurion (Matthew 8:5 – 13 or Luke 7:1 – 10) as an example of biblical reconciliation: " Jesus is the hinge: he came, died, rose again to reconcile God to human and human to human."

The Romans were the ruling occupiers of Israel at the time of Jesus. They were the ones with the power. But the centurion realized his power wasn't enough to heal his servant. As a Jewish man in that culture, Jesus didn't have much perceived power. Yet the centurion knew differently. He was willing to lay down his power because he needed Jesus. Jesus' response to this interaction was, "Truly I tell you, I have not found anyone in Israel with such great faith" (Matthew 8:10).

Describe the power you have, either individually or culturally.

How willing are you to put aside your power in order to be reconciled to someone who is LGBT, and how will you go about living intentionally past the power structures culture has dictated?

How might Philippians 2:3 – 4 — "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others" — affect how you think about this?

Wrap-Up

An essential component of learning how to love is learning how to listen. If your group has time, complete your study by opening your heart and listening to one of the stories from the Real Stories section on the DVD.

Then go around the group and ask each person to tell one insight or action step they will take away from this session. Pray for each other and the stories that you heard as you shared.

Next Steps

Choose one of the following steps to further explore the session topic or to act on what you've learned. You may want to keep a journal of the steps you take, or discuss them in your next group gathering.

1. Brainstorm some ideas of what your community could do to engage in bridge-building activities between conservatives and LGBTs.

2. Name one thing you will do this week to learn about LGBT people or their culture. Here are some ideas to get you started:

• Visit one of the websites under the heading in Appendix A that feels least like you (e.g., if you consider yourself conservative, visit a site under the heading "Progressive").

• Read about the history of LGBT people in the United States.

• Read an LGBT news outlet online, for example, the Windy City Times, Washington Blade, Metro Weekly, 365gay.com, Frontiers LA, or the Advocate.

• Ask an LGBT person if they would be willing to share their story with you over coffee. Take care to listen and ask open-ended questions. No preaching allowed. And pay for the coffee.

3. Read the following Scriptures. Ask God to give you ideas of how to apply each passage to building a bridge with the LGBT community.

• Proverbs 16:7

• Matthew 5:43 – 48

• Luke 6:27 – 36

• Philippians 2:3 – 4

• 1 Tim othy 4:15

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