Love Is the Killer App: How to Win Business and Influence Friends

Love Is the Killer App: How to Win Business and Influence Friends

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by Tim Sanders
     
 

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re you wondering what the next killer app will be? Do you want to know how you can maintain and add to your value during these rapidly changing times? Are you wondering how the word love can even be used in the context of business?

Instead of wondering, read this book and find out how to become a lovecat—a nice, smart person who succeeds inSee more details below

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re you wondering what the next killer app will be? Do you want to know how you can maintain and add to your value during these rapidly changing times? Are you wondering how the word love can even be used in the context of business?

Instead of wondering, read this book and find out how to become a lovecat—a nice, smart person who succeeds in

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Publishers Weekly
Remember when the online biz was the playground of the business world? Yahoo! exec Sanders does, and with a vengeful nostalgia. In his almost dementedly excited book on how to get ahead in business by being loveable and smart, Sanders beats the drum of the New Economy louder and more happily than just about anyone out there. The "Big Statement" here Sanders is a proponent of reading as much as possible and boiling it down to an essential Big Statement is that a kill-or-be-killed mentality won't get you far in today's business environment. Better to spread love, by connecting with people, giving out advice, using every available moment to increase your knowledge and being a "lovecat." It's hard not to get swept up by the rose-colored glow of this gleaming "bizlove" philosophy, where people are excited to come to work and where they give out hugs and encouragement to everyone they come across. But being a lovecat, Sanders emphasizes, does not mean being a sucker. Naturally, as with most hype, the relentlessly upbeat narrative leads to some ridiculous overgeneralizations, like "during the Depression people worried about survival. Today the affluent worry about whether or not they are going to have a good experience." Sanders also vastly overestimates the availability of choice in today's job market, saying that if your boss isn't reciprocating your love, just get a new job ("A fresh start is a mouse click away"). These lapses aside, he is convincing. Cynics will argue that a sheep in a pack of wolves will simply be eaten, but a sheep armed with Sanders's brand of intelligent enthusiasm will more likely charm the wolves into submission. (Feb. 14) Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information.
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“Tim Sanders shows us that being a ‘lovecat’ is a great business strategy and I wholeheartedly agree. This book teaches us the value of relationships in the workplace, and it’s rich with practical, effective strategies for enhancing and developing them.” —Philip C. McGraw, Ph.D., author of Life Strategies: Doing What Works, Doing What Matters

“This is not an ‘easy’ book. It is a genuine original. (And I know how overused that word is.) It will-should-must change your life. I know Tim Sanders—and he and this book are for real. Believe it. And become a (wildly successful) ‘lovecat.’ ” —Tom Peters, author of the bestselling In Search of Excellence and Reinventing Work series

“Aretha Franklin knew the secret: RESPECT. Tim Sanders knows how to spin it. In business, you get ahead by helping other people get what they want—it’s simple, it’s obvious, but it’s so easy to forget. Love Is the Killer App reminds us that maybe, just maybe, looking out for number one is not the way to get ahead.” —Seth Godin, author of Permission Marketing and Unleashing the Idea Virus

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780553712858
Publisher:
Random House Audio Publishing Group
Publication date:
02/05/2002
Edition description:
Abridged, 4 CDs, 4 hrs. 45 min.
Product dimensions:
5.67(w) x 4.90(h) x 0.95(d)

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Chapter 1

I.

THE LOVECAT WAY

Not long ago, after I had delivered a speech on the new economy, a woman entering the job market approached me and told me she had career anxiety.

"I'm not worried that I won't land something good," she explained. "I'm afraid that work will be too cold and impersonal. What can I do to guarantee I'll be successful but also happy?"

The answer? The same advice I gave Chris: "Be a lovecat."

At a large sales conference last month, I met two men, one in accounting, the other in management; both of them were afraid. It wasn't that they feared the changes going on around them-they feared being left out of them.

"How do I drill into this World Wide Web thing?" one of them asked. "I don't know what to work on because this isn't my skill set. Am I still relevant? Is there anything I have to offer that can add value?"

The other man said, "I don't think I can compete with these kids þying out of schools loaded with their new-economy knowledge and jargon. Everyone else seems to be jumping into new roles, but I think the world is limiting me with all its rules and biases."

"That's not how the world is run," I replied. "It's run via intangibles -- knowledge, networks, and compassion."

It never seems to change. No matter how and where I meet these people, and no matter what their age or experience level, I have found one common truth: Men and women across the country are trying desperately to understand how to maintain their value as professionals in the face of rapidly changing times.

Until recently, bizpeople could survive for years without advice, without connection skills, perhaps even without new ideas. But now that the bizworld is moving at a velocity once unheard of, many of us can't keep up. We've made some bad decisions, we've received some bad advice, we didn't get connected to the right opportunities, we're feeling left behind or left out.

Technology has revolutionized our landscape. Before the information revolution, business changed gradually and business models became antiquated even more slowly. The value progression evolved over decades and double decades. You could go to college, get an M.B.A. and work for forty years, and your pure on-the-job knowledge stayed relevant. Relationships were for the most part geo-bound, and only a handful of people comprised your entire business network.

That was yesterday. Forget about today, because tomorrow is upon us. And to succeed in tomorrow's workplace, you need a killer application. (What's a killer app? There's no standard deÞnition, but basically it's an excellent new idea that either supersedes an existing idea or establishes a new category in its Þeld. It soon becomes so popular that it devastates the original business model.)

What is that application? Simply put: Love is the killer app. Those of us who use love as a point of differentiation in business will separate ourselves from our competitors just as world-class distance runners separate themselves from the rest of the pack trailing behind them.

This isn't just a feel-good message that I sense audiences want to hear. I believe that the most important new trend in business is the downfall of the barracudas, sharks, and piranhas, and the ascendancy of nice, smart people-because they are what I call lovecats. They will succeed for all the reasons you will discover in this book.

But first, what do I mean by love?

The best general definition I have ever read is in the noted philosopher and writer Milton Mayeroff's 1972 book On Caring: "Love is the selfess promotion of the growth of the other." When you are able to help others grow to become the best people they can be, you are being loving -- and you, too, grow.

Mayeroff actually used the word caring more often than the word love, although love is interchangeable with such terms as caring, charity, and compassion. But because "Show me the love" has such a ring to it in a business context, love is the word I prefer to use.

Mayero°, however, talked mostly about love in our personal lives. We need a different definition for love in our professional lives.

When we start a job, whether as recent graduate or CEO, we take on a contract to create more value than the dollar amount we are paid. If we don't add value to our employer, we are value losses; we are value vampires. My definition of added-value: The value with you inside a situation is greater than the value without you.

In your personal life, you can make decisions based on personal needs. If you wish to remain friendly with a toxic person, you have every right to do so. But business is not personal. Love in the bizworld is not some sacrificial process where we must all love one another come what may. There is no free love in the new economy. Every member of your team depends on each and every other member to contribute. You can't afford to take on people who will sink your value boat. So the definition of love must be modified to guarantee that it means not only you, but all the people who populate your bizworld, are value-added for that bizworld.

Here, then, is my definition of love business: the act of intelligently and sensibly sharing your intangibles with your bizpartners.

What are our intangibles? They are our knowledge, our network, and our compassion. These are the keys to true bizlove.

Who are our bizpartners? Potentially, they are each and every person in our work life, whether our bosses or bankers, our clients or competitors, the money guys with the cash to burn, the writers who spin it up so the stocks can churn.

In the following three chapters we will discuss each of the three intangibles in detail, but here they are in short form:

By knowledge, I mean everything you have learned and everything you continue to learn. Knowledge represents all you have picked up while doing your job, and all you have taught yourself by reading every moment you can Þnd the time. It means every piece of relevant data and information you can accumulate. You can Þnd knowledge almost anywhere-through observation, experience, or conversation. But by far the easiest, most efficient way to obtain knowledge is through books.

Think of your brain as a kind of piggy bank. Smart people fill it up with all they learn until they possess a formidable wealth of knowledge. Then there are those who sit around all day and never put anything in their bank; all they accumulate is a large butt. You see these people every day, on planes, trains, and in lounges, staring off into space, downing cocktails, heading off to business meetings ill-prepared. Like kids who don't know how to put pennies in their banks, these adults don't know how to accumulate knowledge.

When I give a speech, I often tell my audience that if they feel I have anything valuable to say, they should consider this: My knowledge isn't inherent. I wasn't born with an IQ of 200. I haven't started a colossal business. I am not a rocket scientist. Six years ago my career path wasn't any more remarkable than anyone else's. Then I went on a reading tear. And the more I read, the more I went into business meetings and won people's hearts -- and their business, too.

So what I say to my audiences is: Don't let a guy like me get a step up on you. Maybe you've been in business for twenty-five years. Maybe you have stuff on your résumé I would die for. Yet you're stopping in the race to let me catch up. And it's all because I keep reading.

I can't tell you how often people ask me after a speech, "Could you give me your book list? I should have been doing this for the last thirty years."

Says Harry Beckwith in The Invisible Touch: "Instead of thinking about value-added, think about knowledge-added. What knowledge can you add to your service, or communicate about your service, that will make you more attractive to . . . business partners and customers?"

By network, I mean your entire web of relationships. In the twenty-first century, our success will be based on the people we know. Everyone in our address book is a potential partner for every person we meet. Everyone can fit somewhere in our ever-expanding business universe.

Relationships are the nodes in our individual network that constitute the promise of our bizlife and serve as a predictor of our success. Some of the brightest new-economy luminaries, such as Kevin Kelly (New Rules for the New Economy), or Larry Downes and Chunka Mui (Unleashing the Killer App), argue that companies, organizations, and individuals comprise, and are most highly valued for, their web of relationships. If you organize and leverage your relationships as a network, you will generate long-lasting value (and peace of mind) beyond your stock options, mutual funds, and bank accounts. You will also create a value proposition for new contacts, which in turn drives membership in that network-the prime law of business ecosystems, known as the Law of Network Effects. Value explodes with membership, and the value explosion sucks in more members, compounding the result. These famous wise words put it more succinctly: Them that's got, gets.

But not all of us know to go out and get. Try out this metaphor: When we are born, we receive a fishing net. Throughout our lives we troll for contacts-while in school, at work, or through professional organizations and clubs. If we are fishing well, we accumulate a network of people who support us, who appreciate our value, who lead us to new opportunities. But not all of us use our net wisely. While some of us fill our nets with prizewinning fish, others let their nets languish and fall to the bottom of the ocean, stuffed only with the deadweight of old tires.

Those of us who end up with the best-stocked net have a most valuable commodity. When we are fully and totally networked, we are powerful. Alone, even with all the wisdom in the world, we are powerless: castaways adrift in an impersonal ocean. Without a network, knowledge is nearly useless. Knowledge is your power source or your battery, but relationship is your nerve center, your processor. You get value from your knowledge, but it becomes real when you share it with your network.

I believe that Silicon Valley's greatest innovation is not the invention of wowie-zowie hardware and software, but the social organization of its companies and, most important, the networked architecture of the region itself-the complex web of former jobs, intimate colleagues, information leakage from one Þrm to the next, rapid company life cycles, and the agile e-mail culture.

Once, scarcity created value. Today abundance can create value. In the old days, when we traded tangibles such as gold, the less gold that was available, the higher its value. Supply-and-demand ruled. Now the opposite can be true. Abundance creates power. If you have a great idea for running a business, and it is adapted throughout your industry, your idea is more, not less, valuable. Value today derives from an idea that everyone has accepted, and then competition sets in to perfect the execution of that idea.

The more people in your network, the more powerful the network. COPYRIGHT Copyright 2002 by Tim Sanders

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What People are saying about this

Philip C. McGraw
Tim Sanders shows us that being a 'lovecat' is a great business strategy and I wholeheartedly agree. This book teaches us the value of relationships in the workplace, and it's rich with practical, effective strategies for enhancing and developing them.--Philip C. McGraw, Ph.D., author of Life Strategies: Doing What Works, Doing What Matters
Seth Godin
Aretha Franklin knew the secret: RESPECT. Tim Sanders knows how to spin it. In business, you get ahead by helping other people get what they want - it's simple, it's obvious, but it's so easy to forget. Love Is the Killer App reminds us that maybe, just maybe, looking out for number one is not the way to get ahead. (Seth Godin, author of Permission Marketing and Unleashing the Idea Virus)
Tom Peters
This is not an 'easy' book. It is a genuine original. (And I know how overused that word is.) It will-should-must change your life. I know Tim Sanders - and he and this book are for real. Believe it. And become a (wildly successful) 'lovecat.' --Tom Peters, author of the bestselling In Search of Excellence and Reinventing Work series
Stephen R. Covey
This clever, creative, yet immensely practical book beautifully illustrates Carl Rogers's profound insight, 'That which is most personal is most general.' ---Dr. Stephen R. Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

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