Love Tactics: How to Win the One You Want

by Thomas W. McKnight, Robert H. Phillips

Overview

Maybe that special someone is not as far out of reach as you think. Maybe what you need are a few effective strategies to finally make the right moves. Even if you’re very shy, a little on the quiet side, or simply not the social success you’d like to be, Love Tactics is here to help.

This book presents dozens of techniques designed to help you win the love of that special someone. With each tactic, you’ll find yourself becoming more enthusiastic, confident, and eager to approach the person of your dreams in an effort to win his or her love. Then, for those who have already found a romantic partner but have lost or are in danger of losing that person, the authors present tactics for winning back a lost love. The dream is in sight—and Love Tactics is all you need to make that dream a reality.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780757000379
Publisher:	Square One Publishers
Publication date:	01/01/2002
Pages:	176
Sales rank:	1,128,002
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.50(d)

About the Author

Thomas W. McKnight is a human relations expert whose columns have appeared in leading singles newspapers and magazines. He has conducted relationship workshops throughout the country, and has appeared on numerous radio and television shows, including Oprah.

Robert H. Phillips is a psychologist and the director of the Center for Coping in New York. He is also the best-selling author of eight books.

Table of Contents

Contents

                        Introduction     

PART ONE  Winning the One You Want

            1.         General Strategy    

            2.         Acting with Self-Assurance     

                        Be Nice to Yourself     

                        Identify Your Goals     

                        Relax!     

                        Talk with Confidence     

                        Know What You Want in a Prospective Mate    

                        Plan Out Where to Meet Others     

            3.         Taking the Offensive     

                        Be First to Show Interest in the Other     

                        Go for One Date at a Time     

                        Avoid Being Defensive     

            4.         Making Time an Ally     

                        Take Your Time (Go Slowly)     

                        Be Attentive on a Regular Basis     

                        Be Persistent     

            5.         Pacifying Their Fears and Gaining Their Trust     

                        Show You Care    But Don’t Say It!     

            6.         Being Irresistibly Likable    

                        Light Up!    

                        Show Those Pearly Whites (Smile)!     

                        Speak with Enthusiasm!     

                        Talk Positively    

                        Discuss the Other Person’s Interests     

                        Use Flattery     

                        Understay Your Welcome     

                        Be Graceful in the Face of Rejection     

            7.         Exhibiting Self-Mastery and Leadership Ability     

                        Plan Out Dates     

                        Demonstrate Independent Thinking    

                        Communicate Your Personal Destiny     

                        Be Unpredictable     

                        Act Indifferently to What They Think of You     

                        Don’t Fish for Feedback     

                        Show Anger When Appropriate     

                        Show Forgiveness After Expressing Anger    

            8.         Cultivating Their Emotional Dependence     

                        Actually Be There (In Person!)     

                        Listen Reflectively    

                        Avoid Being Critical    

                        Express Genuine Admiration and Praise     

                        Supply Sympathy    

            9.         Shaking Their Confidence     97

                        Use Silence     

                        Drop ’em Cold!     

                        Create Competition     

                        Break a Date!     

            10.       Keeping Them Interested and Hoping    

                        Pop Back Into Their Life     

                        Send Mementos     

                        Awaken Physical Attraction     

            11.       Confronting Diplomatically     

                        Confront Resistant Behavior     

            12.       Demonstrating Commitment     1

                        Hang in There!    

                        Say “I Love You   ” 

            13.       Removing Final Barriers     

                        Strategically Withdraw     

                        Enjoy Being with the One You Want!    

PART TWO  Winning Back the One You’ve Lost

            14.       Learning How to Win Back a Lost Love     

                        Decide if It’s Worth It     

                        Know When to “Cut Your Losses   ” 

            15.       Showing a Willingness to Change     

                        Assess Your Strengths and Weaknesses     

                        Be Willing to Change and Grow    

                        Create Some Excitement     

            16.       Fixing Communication Skills     

                        Start a Healing Conversation     

                        Keep Interactions Warm     

                        Understand    Don’t Just Agree; Listen    Don’t Just Hear     

                        Keep on Stroking    

                        Insist    Don’t Plead     

            17.       Using Attention Wisely     

                        Demonstrate the Advantage of You     

                        Give Freely of Your Love     

                        Share Quality Time     

                        Share Burdens and Responsibilities     

            18.       Being a Successful Competitor     

                        Face Your Rival     

                        Withhold What They Want     

                        Be Persistent and Consistent     

                        Suggest Conditions for Reconciliation     

                        Give the Other Person a Vacation from You     

                        Consider a Professional    Third-Party Viewpoint     

                        Evaluate Who is Winning the Game     

                        Don’t Settle for a Relationship That Requires Force     

                        Proceed with Faith     

 

                        Final Words     

                        About the Authors     

Preface

Introduction

The reason is very clear why Love Tactics has become a perennial bestseller over the last two decades. Why? The answer is painfully obvious to anyone who has ever felt the agonizing frustration of not having their love reciprocated.

Isn’t it ironic that in spite of the many technological advances made within the last century, people today are still as frustrated as ever in their quest for true love? Our society is full of individuals who have disappointedly abandoned their idealistic dreams of romantic fulfillment. It almost seems a law of nature that the one you want never wants you back, while the ones who are interested in you are simply incapable of stirring your emotions! Love forever looms on the horizon, but is just out of reach.

Many have given up, deciding that nothing can be done to alter an apparently loveless destiny. They have resigned themselves to going through life, taunted by the prospects of love, but never truly possessing it. You may have experienced such feelings of helplessness yourself. If so, then this book is the answer to your prayers.

Love Tactics demonstrates why there is a very real reason not to give up hope. Love is not the mere result of chance meetings determined by pure luck. Believe it or not, love is a predictable human response! It results whenever a person’s key psychological needs are satisfied. It’s true that, on occasion, love does seem to occur accidentally. But even in these cases, such relationships still conform to the principles of romantic behavior outlined in this book. Anyone who chooses to consciously apply these rules of love in an intelligent manner need not go through life unloved. Succeeding in ro­mance, then, only requires becoming aware of your ability to modify and influence the emotional moods, attitudes, and behaviors of others through well-proven psychological techniques. We’re not talking about taking unfair advantages—just using strategic common sense!

As you can probably imagine, it would be impossible to include all the different strategies, techniques, and tips that can possibly be used in winning the one you want. So Love Tactics provides the basic formula from which you will be able to derive your own solution to your particular circumstances. As you read the book, you’ll find your­self becoming more enthusiastic, confident, and eager to approach others in your goal to win the person of your dreams.

Divided into two main sections, Love Tactics presents dozens of techniques that are designed to help you in the most exciting search-and-succeed activities of your life. These strategies, which are found in Part One, will help you win the love of that special someone. Part Two goes a step further by helping those who feel they have already found their love, but have lost or are in danger of losing that person. How to win back another person’s love is the theme of this section.

Not all of the strategies found in Love Tactics are suitable for every situation. Different approaches work better than others, depending on the particular need of the moment. Experience will help you see which tactics are best suited for different conditions. None­theless, you’ll also learn that certain fundamental principles of psychology always apply, and are the basis for your selection of tactics.

You must nurture friendship, respect, and passion in order to win the heart of the one you want. This fundamental understanding is the bedrock foundation of the Love Tactics strategy, and the way to ultimately win. Trust that if you cultivate the relationship properly, you will ultimately reap a magnificent harvest!

Of the many lessons you’ll learn in Love Tactics, remember this important truth above all else: The way to true love is not to sit back and wait for the person of your dreams to magically appear. Rather, it involves choosing the one you want above all others, and then winning them over using known principles of human romantic behavior.

Yes, you can win the one you want! You can also win back the one you’ve lost! You don’t have to settle for anything (or anyone) less. The dream is in sight! It’s merely a matter of psychology. Love Tactics will acquaint you with the science of human behavior as it relates to love and romance, and teach you how to win the one you want!