Love That Works: The Art and Science of Giving

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This original, highly readable book poses a clear distinction between our customary form of love, which almost guarantees failure, and higher, more generous ways of loving that can succeed and enrich both individuals and society as a whole. Love That Works draws on history, psychology, and the theology and science of love to offer a proposal on how to be successful in love and romance. It starts by showing why love fails to meet expectations, often ending sadly or even ...

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Overview

This original, highly readable book poses a clear distinction between our customary form of love, which almost guarantees failure, and higher, more generous ways of loving that can succeed and enrich both individuals and society as a whole. Love That Works draws on history, psychology, and the theology and science of love to offer a proposal on how to be successful in love and romance. It starts by showing why love fails to meet expectations, often ending sadly or even tragically.

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What People Are Saying

Les and Leslie Parrott
You owe it to yourself - and your love life - to read this book.
Seattle Pacific University
Stephen G. Post
Bruce Brander has written an absolutely splendid book which highlights the many problems associated with a culture that primarily thinks of love in the context of fleeting romantic attractions.
Case Western Reserve University
Jean Bethke Elshtain
Love That Works is a lively, well-crafted text that delves into the rich, multiple meanings of love. This is a book for everyone.
University of Chicago
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781932031775
  • Publisher: Templeton Press
  • Publication date: 9/28/2004
  • Pages: 172
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.50 (h) x 0.50 (d)

Meet the Author

Bruce Brander is an international journalist and author of several books on travel and social philosophy. He has been a staff writer and photographer of newspapers in New Zealand and the United States, was a writer and editor for National Geographic, and for twelve years served as a traveling journalist and editor for World Vision, a global relief and development agency. Bruce Brander lives in Colorado Springs, Colorado.

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This original book from Bruce Brander offers a fresh look at love and romance. Brander draws examples from history, psychology, science, and theology to point out the usual sources of failure in the quest to experience love. He then presents a plan that leads us to a successful, more generous way of loving that enriches both individuals and society. The encouraging message of this book is that we all have the capacity to experience love that continues to grow. We discover that it is not necessary to fall in love; we can learn to rise to love.
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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 21, 2007

    A reviewer

    This book offers the kind of information I wish I'd known when I was 20 years old. It answers all the perennial questions about love to anyone's satisfaction: Exactly what is love? How do I know if I'm in love? Is this love or infatuation? And most of all, how can I love in a way that will benefit myself and everyone around me? Without being preachy or self-helpish, Love That Works approaches its complex topic from a background of broad knowledge and profound ethics. We find the history of love (yes, love has a past). The impotence of modern science to analyze love also is here. Most, or worst, of all, we see a clear picture of the dreadful trouble love is in today because it has lost its decency. So what to do? After we fall in love (and FALL we probably shall), we then can rise to higher, more generous forms of love. Other forms of love? And what are these? I always thought romance was the only game in town. But it's not. It's really the lowest, least mature form of love, selfish and ill-fated from the start. Romance is only beginner's love. It's positively infantile, whining, 'I want, I need' (and therefore I love). It's so much Baby Love. Why do you imagine modern romancers call each other, 'Baby?' The higher loves are largely forgotten in our time of 'gimme-gimme what I cry for.' They have been well known in other times and places, and they need to be relearned by anyone who wants what this book offers: Love That Works. The next-higher level above hungering romance is a sweet and devoted camaraderie, where people look out for each other's interests, happiness and welfare as much as for their own. This is romance as it was in the days when romance was still sweet. People whose marriages succeed rise to this level of mutual concern. Of course, the highest level of love is no-strings-attached giving, the lofty unconditional love we see exemplified in Jesus and Gandhi and good mothers. We too can rise to this highest love, at least occasionally, if we try. As we aim for these higher forms of love, we find ourselves growing and maturing in our emotional- spiritual well-being. We become healthy, happy, warm and giving people and are successful not only in love but in life itself. What a message! What a revelation! I thank the author for his 30 years of research and treasure this well-written, informative and valuable book. Love, Doris Blanchard

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 5, 2005

    A Fine Guide to Total Love

    Love That Works covers the subject of love better than any other book I've seen. Its pages explore love's varied history and our present confusion about love, showing the way to a better way than we know today. The book shows that we so often fail in love because we love only fragmentarily, not understanding that romance is only the beginning and we must grow from there into higher and more mature kinds of loving. This book virtually guarantees readers a way to successful love relationships -- a remarkable and valuable achievement.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 30, 2004

    Among the best...

    As a scholar, I have a whole shelf of books on love and close-relationships, and Love That Works is arguable the finest book on effective love written for many years.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 23, 2004

    This Book Might Save Their Love-Lives

    I plan to have a copy of Love That Works for each of my four children as they grow to maturity. This book holds the potential of saving them from the brutal realities and heartbreak of the modern romance mill, and helping them build love that lasts and rewards.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 2, 2004

    A great help for successful love

    This superb book is really well-researched. It told me why my first three romances were disappointing and what to do to make my final one successful. I wish I'd read this book years ago.

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