Love the One You're With

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Ellen's relationship to Andy doesn't just seem perfect on the surface, it really is perfect. She loves his family, and everything about him, including that he brings out the best in her. That is, until Ellen unexpectedly runs into Leo. The one who got away. The one who brought out the worst in her. The one she can't forget. This is the story about why we chose to love the ones we love, and why we just can't forget the ones who aren't right...
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Ellen's relationship to Andy doesn't just seem perfect on the surface, it really is perfect. She loves his family, and everything about him, including that he brings out the best in her. That is, until Ellen unexpectedly runs into Leo. The one who got away. The one who brought out the worst in her. The one she can't forget. This is the story about why we chose to love the ones we love, and why we just can't forget the ones who aren't right for us.

Emily Giffin brings both humor and heart to her novels and has an uncanny ability to tap into the things women are really thinking and feeling. With LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH, she proves, once again, why she is the fastest rising star of women's fiction writing today.

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New York photographer Ellen Graham has it all: a creative job, a supportive husband, and a life that many of her girlfriends envy. That blissful equilibrium threatens to tumble down, however, when she encounters Leo, an old flame who became an obsession. Told in the first-person, Love the One You're With vividly presents a woman wrestling with the wisdom of the title advice. Highly prized by readers in hardcover; now in mass-market paperback and NOOK Book.

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Kathleen McInerney's reading as first-person narrator Ellen is sensitive, nuanced and multilayered, laying bare the conflicting emotions and contradictions in Ellen's heart as she's torn between her loving husband and the old flame seeking to rekindle their former romance. She sounds like she's genuinely thinking out loud, her voice tinged with guilt as she searches for the right words to articulate her confused feelings. McInerney is also spot-on when it comes to adapting vocal directions from the text itself. Listeners are told at various times that a character's voice is "weary and very wary" or that he speaks "wryly, with a suppressed smile in his voice." In every case, McInerney's reading conveys exactly what the text calls for. This excellent production brings out the best in the book. A St. Martin's hardcover (Reviews, Mar. 17). (June)

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Library Journal

New York City-based photographer Ellen Graham is a happy newlywed-until a chance meeting with an old boyfriend leads her to revisit the past and question her present in Giffin's (Baby Proof) fourth novel. When Ellen crosses paths with her journalist ex, Leo, her obsessive love for him resurfaces. Leo quickly finds an inroad to Ellen's life, offering her up a plum photography assignment she can't refuse. Ellen remains faithful to her husband but can't deny her strong feelings for Leo. Nonetheless, she agrees to move to Atlanta to make her husband happy. Of course, once settled there, Ellen is profoundly unhappy and reconnects with Leo, making plans to take photographs for another of his articles. The tension builds as Ellen balances on the brink of an action that could change the course of her life. Giffin delivers another relatable and multifaceted heroine who may behave unexpectedly but will ultimately find her true path. Sure to be a hit with the New York Times best-selling author's many fans, as well as reach new readers with the publisher's planned $500,000 marketing campaign; recommended for all public libraries. [See Prepub Alert, LJ1/08.]
—Karen Core

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"Giffin's talent lies in taking relatable situations and injecting enough wit and suspense to make them feel fresh. The cat-and-mouse game between Ellen and Leo lights up these pages, their flirtation as dangerously addictive as a high-speed car chase." —People


“Giffin is a dependably down-to-earth, girlfriendly storyteller.” —New York Times


“Giffin excels at creating complex characters and stories that ask us to explore what we really want from our lives. LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH skillfully explores the secret workings of a young woman's heart, and the often painful consequences of one's actions.” —The Atlanta Journal-Constitution


"Giffin’s fluid storytelling and appealing characters give her novels a warm, inviting air, and her fourth is no exception. Giffin’s snappy prose makes Ellen’s dilemma compelling, once again proving she’s at the top of the pack." —Booklist


"Though it's easy to resent Ellen for taking her ideal life for granted, Giffin's vivid depictions of Ellen's steamy past with Leo help you commiserate with this realistically insecure woman." —Entertainment Weekly


“Giffin’s books are funny, sensitive and truthful depictions of female friendships and the complexities of marriage and motherhood.” —Atlanta Peach


“Ellen's conflicting thoughts and emotions ring true from page one through the book's teary (well, at least for this reader) conclusion.” —Ft. Worth Star-Telegram


“Giffin’s book is instantly relatable. Few don't wonder how their lives would be different if they had turned left rather than right at life's big forks. Her writing is realistic and entertaining. There are unexpected plot twists and measured jabs at materialism and Southern societal norms, and Giffin's funny, honest voice lends credence to this modern riff on the old adage that the grass appears greener on the other side of the fence.” —Charlotte Observer


“I so loved Emily Giffin's last three books that I almost didn't want to crack her latest effort, for fear it would be the Superman IV of the author's literary opus. Mercifully, the new book not only lives up to its elegantly constructed predecessors, it arguably surpasses them in style, maturity, emotion and overall relatability. An achingly honest look at the notion of love as the sum of our choices as opposed to the contents of our vows.” —Edmonton Journal


“Giffin’s books are smart, sad and witty . . . Giffin is bold enough to allow a mainstream heroine to be happily married while still maintaining her curiosity about the road (or the guy) not taken, let alone considering infidelity. And she’s able to show the strains that these considerations take on family, friends and husband . . . It’s the difference between appealing to a mass audience and a reader who wants her ideals challenged rather than affirmed, often intentionally ending in ambiguity and compromise. It’s the stuff of real life, stripped of literary pretensions.” —National Post


“Who hasn't fantasized about what might have happened if? Giffin does an excellent job of letting us live that one out vicariously while telling us a story that is so modern, multi-layered and moving that you'll feel a little sad when it comes to a close.” —Gentry magazine


“Giffin is a masterful storyteller and manages to infuse energy, freshness and suspense into what could have been yet another predictable ‘woman-at-a-crossroads’ story. (Giffin could, in fact, teach some literary authors a few things about how to write compelling plots with strong motors.) The best thing about this book is Giffin doesn't play it safe or shy away from allowing her heroine to explore lust, infidelity and the road not taken. The dichotomy of passion and comfort, lust and security, is nothing new to literature, and yet in Giffin's deft hands, I really had no idea who Ellen would wind up with until the very last page, and more important, I actually cared.” —The Globe and Mail


“This sweet tale satisfies through well-drawn characters who are forced to make some tough real-life decisions.” —Star


“Love that’s clouded by the memory of an old romantic relationship is the subject of Emily Giffin’s aptly titled LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH. Readers will follow Ellen with fascination and trepidation as she enters the dangerous waters of what might have been—or still could be.” —Hartford Courant


“LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH is a delicious novel for anyone ever caught between what is right and what is irresistible.” —Bookpage


"Giffin delivers another relatable and multifaceted heroine who may behave unexpectedly but will ultimately find her true path.” —Library Journal


“Giffin’s fourth novel demonstrate much depth as she explores the conflicts that arise between passion and common sense.” —Kansas City Star


“For anyone who has wondered about the path not taken. Thought-provoking . . . and perfect for an afternoon in the sun.” —New York Resident


“Giffin has a remarkable gift for taking banal relationship issues and infusing them with life through her characters. LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH is Giffin’s most moving book yet. The romantic tension hangs off the pages like webs, trapping the characters as they attempt to live conventional lives. As always, Giffin’s writing will leave you fully satiated.” —Woodbury magazine


 “Emily Giffin delivers the characters and stories we love in her fourth novel.” —OK! magazine


 “Giffin's characters are all quite likable, and this book is full of fun New York details and musings on the human condition that are more insightful than many books.” —Minneapolis Star-Tribune

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781250025395
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Press
  • Publication date: 2/26/2013
  • Format: Mass Market Paperback
  • Edition description: First Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 372
  • Sales rank: 74,136
  • Product dimensions: 4.10 (w) x 6.70 (h) x 1.20 (d)

Meet the Author

Emily Giffin

Emily Giffin is the author of five New York Times bestselling novels, including Something Borrowed, which has been adapted as a major motion picture. A graduate of Wake Forest University and the University of Virginia School of Law, she lives in Atlanta with her family.

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Love the One You're With

By Giffin, Emily

St. Martin's Press

Copyright © 2008 Giffin, Emily
All right reserved.

ISBN: 9780312348670

Chapter one

It happened exactly one hundred days after I married Andy, almost to the minute of our half-past-three-o'clock ceremony. I know this fact not so much because I was an overeager newlywed keen on observing trivial relationship landmarks, but because I have a mild case of OCD that compels me to keep track of things. Typically, I count insignificant things, like the steps from my apartment to the nearest subway (341 in comfortable shoes, a dozen more in heels); the comically high occurrence of the phrase "amazing connection" in any given episode of The Bachelor (always in the double digits); the guys I've kissed in my thirty-three years (nine). Or, as it was on that rainy, cold afternoon in January, the number of days I had been married before I saw him smack-dab in the middle of the crosswalk of Eleventh and Broadway.

From the outside, say if you were a cabdriver watching frantic jaywalkers scramble to cross the street in the final seconds before the light changed, it was only a mundane, urban snapshot: two seeming strangers, with little in common but their flimsy black umbrellas, passing in an intersection, making fleeting eye contact, and exchanging stiff but not unfriendly hellos before moving on their way.

But inside was a very different story. Inside, I was reeling, churning, breathless as Imade it onto the safety of the curb and into a virtually empty diner near Union Square. Like seeing a ghost, I thought, one of those expressions I've heard a thousand times but never fully registered until that moment. I closed my umbrella and unzipped my coat, my heart still pounding. As I watched a waitress wipe down a table with hard, expert strokes, I wondered why I was so startled by the encounter when there was something that seemed utterly inevitable about the moment. Not in any grand, destined sense; just in the quiet, stubborn way that unfinished business has of imposing its will on the unwilling.

After what seemed like a long time, the waitress noticed me standing behind the Please Wait to Be Seated sign and said, "Oh. I didn't see you there. Should've taken that sign down after the lunch crowd. Go ahead and sit anywhere."

Her expression struck me as so oddly empathetic that I wondered if she were a moonlighting clairvoyant, and actually considered con-.ding in her. Instead, I slid into a red vinyl booth in the back corner of the restaurant and vowed never to speak of it. To share my feelings with a friend would constitute an act of disloyalty to my husband. To tell my older and very cynical sister, Suzanne, might unleash a storm of caustic remarks about marriage and monogamy. To write of it in my journal would elevate its importance, something I was determined not to do. And to tell Andy would be some combination of stupid, self-destructive, and hurtful. I was bothered by the lie of omission, a black mark on our .edging marriage, but decided it was for the best.

"What can I get you?" the waitress, whose name tag read Annie, asked me. She had curly red hair and a smattering of freckles, and I thought, The sun will come out tomorrow.

I only wanted a coffee, but as a former waitress, remembered how deflating it was when people only ordered a beverage, even in a lull between meals, so I asked for a coffee and a poppy seed bagel with cream cheese.

"Sure thing," she said, giving me a pleasant nod.

I smiled and thanked her. Then, as she turned toward the kitchen, I exhaled and closed my eyes, focusing on one thing: how much I loved Andy. I loved everything about him, including the things that would have exasperated most girls. I found it endearing the way he had trouble remembering people's names (he routinely called my former boss Fred, instead of Frank) or the lyrics to even the most iconic songs ("Billie Jean is not my mother"). And I only shook my head and smiled when he gave the same bum in Bryant Park a dollar a day for nearly a year—a bum who was likely a Range Rovermahadriving con artist. I loved Andy's confidence and compassion. I loved his sunny personality that matched his boy-next-door, blond, blue-eyed good looks. I felt lucky to be with a man who, after six long years with me, still did the half-stand upon my return from the ladies' room and drew sloppy, asymmetrical hearts in the condensation of our bathroom mirror. Andy loved me, and I'm not ashamed to say that this topped my reasons of why we were together, of why I loved him back.

"Did you want your bagel toasted?" Annie shouted from behind the counter.

"Sure," I said, although I had no real preference.

I let my mind drift to the night of Andy's proposal in Vail, how he had pretended to drop his wallet so that he could, in what clearly had been a much-rehearsed maneuver, retrieve it and appear on bended knee. I remember sipping champagne, my ring sparkling in the firelight, as I thought, This is it. This is the moment every girl dreams of. This is the moment I have been dreaming of and planning for and counting on.

Annie brought my coffee, and I wrapped my hands around the hot, heavy mug. I raised it to my lips, took a long sip, and thought of our year-long engagement—a year of parties and showers and whirlwind wedding plans. Talk of tulle and tuxedos, of waltzes and white chocolate cake. All leading up to that magical night. I thought of our misty-eyed vows. Our first dance to "What a Wonderful World." The warm, witty toasts to us—speeches filled with clichés that were actually true in our case: perfect for each other . . . true love . . . meant to be.

I remembered our flight to Hawaii the following morning, how Andy and I had held hands in our first-class seats, laughing at all the small things that had gone awry on our big day: What part of "blend into the background" didn't the videographer get? Could it have rained any harder on the way to the reception? Had we ever seen his brother, James, so wasted? I thought of our sunset honeymoon strolls, the candlelit dinners, and one particularly vivid morning that Andy and I had spent lounging on a secluded, half-moon beach called Lumahai on the north shore of Kauai. With soft white sand and dramatic lava rocks protruding from turquoise water, it was the most breathtaking piece of earth I had ever seen. At one point, as I was admiring the view, Andy rested his Stephen Ambrose book on our oversized beach towel, took both of my hands in his, and kissed me. I kissed him back, memorizing the moment. The sound of the waves crashing, the feel of the cool sea breeze on my face, the scent of lemons mixed with our coconut suntan lotion. When we separated, I told Andy that I had never been so happy. It was the truth.

But the best part came after the wedding, after the honeymoon, after our practical gifts were unpacked in our tiny apartment in Murray Hill—and the impractical, fancy ones were relegated to our downtown storage unit. It came as we settled into our husband-and wife routine. Casual, easy, and real. It came every morning, as we sipped our coffee and talked as we got ready for work. It came when his name popped into my inbox every few hours. It came at night as we shuffled through our delivery menus, contemplating what to have for dinner and proclaiming that one day soon we'd actually use our stove. It came with every foot massage, every kiss, every time we undressed together in the dark. I trained my mind on these details. All the details that comprised our first one hundred days together.

Yet by the time Annie brought my coffee, I was back in that intersection, my heart thudding again. I suddenly knew that in spite of how happy I was to be spending my life with Andy, I wouldn't soon forget that moment, that tightness in my throat as I saw his face again. Even though I desperately wanted to forget it. Especially because I wanted to.

I sheepishly glanced at my reflection in the mirrored wall beside my booth. I had no business worrying about my appearance, and even less business feeling triumphant upon the discovery that I was, against all odds on an afternoon of running errands in the rain, having an extraordinarily good hair day. I also had a rosy glow, but I told myself that it was only the cold that had flushed my cheeks. Nothing else.

And that's when my cell phone rang and I heard his voice. A voice I hadn't heard in eight years and sixteen days.

"Was that really you?" he asked me. His voice was even deeper than I remembered, but otherwise it was like stepping back in time. Like finishing a conversation only hours old.

"Yes," I said.

"So," he said. "You still have the same cell number."

Then, after a considerable silence, one I stubbornly refused to fill, he added, "I guess some things don't change."

"Yes," I said again.

Because as much as I didn't want to admit it, he was sure right about that.

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Copyright © 2008 by Emily Giffin
Published in May 2008 by St. Martin's Press

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The New York Times bestselling author of Something Borrowed, Something Blue, and Baby Proof delivers another captivating novel about women and the choices that define them. This is the story for anyone who has ever wondered: How can I truly love the one I’m with when I can’t forget the one who got away?

Ellen and Andy’s first year of marriage doesn’t just seem perfect, it is perfect. There is no question how deep their devotion is, and how naturally they bring out the best in each other. But one fateful afternoon, Ellen runs into Leo for the first time in eight years. Leo, the one who brought out the worst in her. Leo, the one who left her heartbroken with no explanation. Leo, the one she could never quite forget. When his reappearance ignites long-dormant emotions, Ellen begins to question whether the life she’s living is the one she’s meant to live. Love the One You’re With is a powerful story about one woman at the crossroads of true love and real life.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 11, 2009

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    Not my Favorite

    I loved Emily Giffin's previous works. I found the charactors funny, likeable, and relatable. However, I was completely sick of Ellen about a third of the way in. I read this book in just two days, but not because I couldn't put it down. It was because I just wanted it to be over. I didn't find Ellen funny or endearing, and quiet frankly, I thought she was a selfish person. Yes, we all have to make decisions in life, but she should have explored these feelings before she got married, not after. It was very tough to emphasize with her self destructive, immature behavior. I didn't find this book suspensful at all, just annoying.

    12 out of 21 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted September 26, 2009

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    Love the One You're With

    The bottom line is that love, and the work it takes to make a committed relationship succeed, is a very messy process, one that many of us like to gloss over in hindsight. This book doesn't do that and I would argue that it's one of the most truthful depictions of that proces I've read in a long time. After I finished the final page, I was left wondering if the relationship that remained at the end of the book worked out in the long run. I am guessing that's the quesiton the author wanted to leave us to ponder. I found this book a bit difficult at first because the narrator seemed, I don't know, spineless in a way. How easily she acquiesced to her ex-boyfriend's proposal of being "friends," how she couldn't conjure up anger at what he did to her in the past, etc. This didn't seem particularly promising since the entire book is told from this woman's (seemingly) weak perspective. There is never a "repeat" when it comes to love stories. Even though the drama may have happened once or twice before (girl meets man, girl loves man, girl meets new man, girl loves new man, girl loves both men, girl has to choose) the storytelling that surrounds the drama is what makes a book good or not.
    Ms Giffin is talented in that she makes me care for her characters. Even though I want to strangle them for some of their decisions, I still care about them and really just want them to be happy in the end. This book keeps your interest pretty much the whole time. It is very relatable. I've read all of Emily Giffin's book and I love them all.

    9 out of 10 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted July 19, 2009

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    Not what I was expecting.

    Not my favorite book ever. But I liked the overall theme. It is not as enjoyable as Something Borrowed and Something Blue. I really didn't like all of the flashbacks because it seemed like it was draging on forever. I didn't really like the main character in this book, she was very annoying at times. This book gets quite boring at times, I couldn't wait for it to end.

    6 out of 9 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted July 29, 2010

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    So worth your time!

    On the surface, Ellen Graham appears to have the perfect life. She has a successful career as a photographer and is married to Andy, an attorney, a good guy.
    Newly married, she runs into a seriously passionate ex who left her years before, an encounter that causes her to question everything she's done since. This is a story that takes place primarily in Ellen's head as she struggles to figure out whether the choices she made were the right ones even as she crosses all sorts of moral lines. But within that storyline, Giffin constructs something smart, thoughtful and relatable. You can only imagine the trouble this could cause! Happy reading! So worth your time!

    5 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 3, 2009

    Tolerable, but doesn't compare to Something Borrowed/Something Blue

    This book wasn't bad, it just wasn't as good as Something Borrowed and Something Blue. The biggest problem I had with it was the lack of character development. All of the characters, including the narrator, were one-dimensional stereotypes. There wasn't one character that I really cared about, identified with, or felt like I "knew". I couldn't even envision what they looked like. The narrator, Ellen, isn't particularly interesting or likable, and that's a big problem.

    I got the impression that we are supposed to sympathize with Ellen, sort of like we sympathized with Darcy in Soemthing Blue. But unlike Darcy, Ellen doesn't have the personality, the character developemnt, or the appealing quirkiness to make us understand or care about her. She just comes across as an ungrateful b*tch who doesn't deserve the loving, wonderful husband that she has. The extent of her inexplicable obsession with her assh*le ex boyfriend (who is basically "Marcus" from Something Borrowed and Something Blue, but with a different name) was never really explained to my satisfaction, nor was there a compelling argument made for why "what they had" (which was basically an emotionally abusive and unsatisfying relationship based purely on sex) was worth risking her marriage for.

    The one good thing about this book is the character of Margot. I would like to see a book from her point of view, focusing on Margot, her husband, and their new baby but also touching on her friendship with Ellen and her feelings about Ellen cheating on her brother.

    5 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 27, 2009

    Not her best work

    I was disappointed in this book after reading Something Borrowed and Something Blue, both of which we page turners. I was interested enough to hang in there to see how it turned out, but there were a couple times I had to make myself keep going.

    3 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted March 14, 2009

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    Absolutely Loved It!!

    I really enjoyed reading this book. It was very romantic at times. You can't help but understand what the main character is going through. It was intriguing the whole way through. Finished it in less than a week! If you liked her other books, you'll definately love this one!!

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted July 28, 2012

    Great Summer Read

    LOVE Emily Giffin. I have taken all her books to the beach this summer and have fallen in love with all the characters. Awesome, easy reads.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 12, 2012

    Great book!

    Just lile all the rest of Giffin's books.. amazing!!

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 24, 2010

    Didn't love this book. Heroin trys to throw good life away for a bad relationship. Ellen was immature and still stuck in the bad boy syndrome at 31. Who at 31 really wants to go from a partnership back to a hero worship one where she is second rate?

    Leo is a taker and her husband is supporting partner. I never have loved characters that have extreme hero worship for a man. Ellen is fixated on a man that essentialy was bad for her emotionaly and professionaly. I just didn't like this book as much as other of her books.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 10, 2010

    Love the one you are with - or not

    This was one of the hardest books to read initially since it was tough to feel any sort of bond with Ellen, but in the end I wasn't as disheartened by the story as I thought I would be. You always want life to have a happy ending with everything tied up in a neat bow. This book makes you think about the would ofs and could ofs if life had only played out a little differently. Unfortunately I think part of that has to do with the key player making her decisions and the repurcussions that they have later in life. A decent book in the end but not a great one in my opinion.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted February 17, 2009

    I Also Recommend:

    Something Loved

    I loved this book, just like I loved all of her other books. I like the style of writing. I like how the story could have happened to someone.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 19, 2008

    A fabulous read you won't want to put down!

    In Emily Giffin's fourth novel, LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH, Ellen has a wonderful life with her husband Andy. She has a successful career as a photographer and she truly believes her life to be perfect. But after a chance encounter with her ex, Leo, Ellen's life goes into a tail spin. For Ellen, Leo was 'the one who got away,' and his reappearance in her life makes Ellen question everything about the life she's chosen. What makes LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH stand out for me is the writing. Emily's writing never disappoints-- she has a way of infusing so much feeling into every scene. She's not afraid to make her characters unlikeable and is able to make her readers fall in love with them, despite their flaws or bad decisions. Most of all, this book will make you think about your life and the decisions that you've made. I read LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH in two days (okay, so I've read *all* of Emily's novels in two days!). Whether you like Ellen or not, whether you respect her choices or begin yelling at the book because of what she's done, you'll find this book to be utterly un-put-downable.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 31, 2008

    What if...

    Ellen Graham is happy. She's newly married to Andy, a successful photographer and has the love and support of her family. She doesn't question her life or the choices she has made that led her to her current life. That is until, one brief moment, she sees Leo. Just like that her past becomes an unwelcoming invasion in the present. Ellen quickly finds herself at a crossroad. The 'what if' question quickly turns into an obsession as she finds herself constantly comparing her life with Andy to what she think life would be like with Leo. Despite the warnings her head tells her about starting a friendship with Leo, she accepts a photography assignment that he set up for her. Agreeing to the shoot, will force her to finally make a decision about her marriage and the woman she really is. I really liked this book. I have to admit, I put off reading it because so many people told me how disappointed they were with it because it wasn't as good as Something Borrowed and Something Blue. I have to say, I disagree. The reason I liked Ms. Giffin's early novels was it seemed as though the characters were telling me their stories instead of me reading them. This is how I felt while reading this book. I pictured Ellen and I catching up, over a long lunch, after not seeing each other for awhile and she wanted to inform me about her life. Ms. Giffin is very descriptive in her writing, which I thought only added to the richness of this novel. It is quite easy to judge Ellen and wonder why she makes the decisions she does. To her, it makes sense. She needed to confirm she made the right choice. She needed to move on. Love the One You're With is about walking down the path of 'what if' when it unexpectedly comes your way, however, it's also about feeling secure that the decisions you made in the past were the best decisions for you.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 4, 2013


    This book was AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 18, 2013

    Awesome read!

    This book makes you value and appreciate the one you're with.

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  • Posted November 26, 2009

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    I just couldn't love it no matter how hard I tried

    I loved all of Emily Giffen's other novels but I just couldn't love, "Love the One You're With" because of the main character. She came across as shallow and selfish. She just couldn't appreciate the wonderful people who surround her. The story was well written but the story itself was not enjoyable to me. It took me a while to read the book because of how much Ellen irrated me. I was moderately satisfied with the end but felt it took too long for the resolution to come about. It also bothered me that it only took Ellen about two minutes to stop torturing herself and the other's around her. I love this author and look forward to her next novel.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 22, 2015

    Ok......not a book i couldn't put down.

    Story is slow moving with little excitement or fun twists.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 22, 2014

    Enjoyable read

    Well written and paced. Interesting and well developed main characters with amusing secondary characters. Intriguing storyline that never dulls or bores.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 2, 2013

    Add me

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