Love You Hate You Miss You [NOOK Book]


Get this, I'm supposed to be starting a journal about "my journey." Please. I can see it now: Dear Diary, As I'm set adrift on this crazy sea called "life" . . . I don't think so.

It's been seventy-five days. Amy's sick of her parents suddenly taking an interest in her.

And she's really sick of people asking her about Julia. Julia's gone now, and she doesn't want to talk about it. They wouldn't get it, anyway....

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Get this, I'm supposed to be starting a journal about "my journey." Please. I can see it now: Dear Diary, As I'm set adrift on this crazy sea called "life" . . . I don't think so.

It's been seventy-five days. Amy's sick of her parents suddenly taking an interest in her.

And she's really sick of people asking her about Julia. Julia's gone now, and she doesn't want to talk about it. They wouldn't get it, anyway. They wouldn't understand what it feels like to have your best friend ripped away from you.

They wouldn't understand what it feels like to know it's your fault.

Amy's shrink thinks it would help to start a diary. Instead, Amy starts writing letters to Julia.

But as she writes letter after letter, she begins to realize that the past wasn't as perfect as she thought it was—and the present deserves a chance too.

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Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Amy used to sleep around, party hard and have a wild time with her best friend Julia—until Julia dies in a car accident. Readers meet 16-year-old Amy fresh out of rehab—a recovering alcoholic who is also trying to recover her will to live. Amy feels lost without Julia: she has no real friends and believes her parents not only don't know her but don't want to. The events leading up to Julia's death—which give Amy the impression that she killed her—unfold during Amy's post-rehab sessions with her therapist and her parents. Amy's letters to Julia sit between straight narrative chapters, and throughout Amy marks time by counting the days since Julia's death. The teenager's initial, severe alienation may account for the flat affect in the first half of the story, though as Amy reawakens to the possibility of moving on and life becoming meaningful again, Scott's (Living Dead Girl) prose becomes layered with emotion, some of it achingly sad. Amy's story stays mainly in guilt, despair and anger throughout, but shifts slightly toward hope as Amy moves through her grief. Ages 12–up. (June)
VOYA - Cheryl French
Amy's best friend is dead, and Amy thinks it is her fault. After a summer spent at Pinewood treatment center, Amy must grapple with her grief, her guilt, and her return to high school without Julia. Her identity is now wrapped up in quotation marks, leaving her afraid to hope, fearful of how vulnerable hope makes her feel, and frightened of exposing her "true" self. Through a combination of letters to Julia and first-person narrative, readers learn about their friendship, their families, Amy's drinking, and the night that changed everything. Readers are quickly drawn in and get to know each character, even if only briefly. There are no easy answers in this story and no happy ending. It is emotional, heartbreaking, and believable. Scott's writing is clear and spare, almost poetic in the imagery that is created. Amy's sarcasm and insecurity, her conversations with peers and adults, and her ongoing letters to Julia offer teens an authentic voice. The pain, confusion, insights, and hope Amy expresses will speak to teen readers. The issue of binge drinking is handled clearly and bluntly, and without preaching: readers understand why Amy drinks and why she stops. This book is not for readers in search of something light and fluffy, but those who are looking to go deeper, who are willing to engage in questions of choice and consequence, friendship and love, family and self, grief, guilt, and hope will find much within these pages. Reviewer: Cheryl French
School Library Journal

Gr 11 Up

Sixteen-year-old Amy, an honor student returning to school in the fall following a brief stay in an alcohol treatment center, has isolated herself from her friends as punishment for the death of her best friend, Julia. In letters to "J," Amy provides insight into her own character as she reminisces about their shared exploits, including shoplifting, drug and alcohol abuse, sexual promiscuity, and pregnancy tests. It is through these letters, along with Amy's therapy sessions and eventual conversations with family and friends, that the teen acknowledges her role in the fatal car accident. Amy's parents try to overcompensate for their initial ignorance of their daughter's problems but remain clueless as to how to relate to her. All the while, Amy is aware of her need for their attention as she appreciates little things like cooking with her mother. At times slowed by descriptions of school cliques and Amy's rejection of them, the plot is elegantly carried by her honest, clear expression of how she feels about what she is going through.-Sue Lloyd, Franklin High School, Livonia, MI

Kirkus Reviews
How do you survive sobriety after killing your best friend? That question encapsulates Amy's life, which she shares through letters to best friend Julia and journal entries, dated with the number of days since the accident that killed Julia. Amy is an engaging narrator, deeply hobbled by her guilt and just beginning to understand herself now that she does not drink. However, she describes drinking at school and then says she was diagnosed in treatment as a binge/party drinker, leaving readers confused and seeming to gloss over a serious problem. She claims her height and red hair as reasons behind the social awkwardness that led to the drinking without offering real depth; and, it turns out, she wasn't even driving the car. Romance and a new friend, plus finally breaking through her parent's devoted love for one another, allow Amy to move beyond her grief and recognize that Julia herself was no paragon. Wobbling between grit and romance, Scott's latest serves neither well. Like Amy, the novel is flawed but appealing. (Fiction. 12 & up)
Claudia Gray
“Few other writers tell stories as heartbreaking, hilarious, complicated and true as Elizabeth Scott, and LOVE YOU HATE YOU MISS YOU is probably her very best yet.”
Voice of Youth Advocates (VOYA)
“Emotional, heartbreaking, and believable. Scott’s writing is clear and spare, almost poetic in the imagery that is created.”
“Reminiscent of John Green’s Looking for Alaska (2005)...a satisfying story of an engaging heroine successfully naming and confronting her demons.”
Children's Literature - Amalia Selle
Amy is just emerging from rehab after not having a drink for 74 days. She returns to a life now empty because it lacks her best friend Julia. Amy's parents try to relate to their daughter but find sixteen years of ignorance about Amy hard to conquer. As the unlikely third wheel to her parent's relationship, Amy finds it easier to remain silent. Per the instructions of her psychologist she begins a journal. Yet she addresses her entries not to a dear diary, but to her dead friend Julia. Mourning Julia's death and struggling to adjust to a life free from the numbing effect of alcohol, this journal becomes the outpouring of all her pain, guilt, and fear. As a first-person narrative in the form of journal entries, this story creates a vivid, honest, and heart-wrenching picture of what it is to both loose a close friend and deal with alcoholic addiction. An engrossing read, this book may present disturbing themes in a way that pulls the reader into Amy's confusion, yet it concludes with an ending that hints at restoration. Reviewer: Amalia Selle
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780061861406
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 5/26/2009
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 304
  • Sales rank: 221,193
  • Age range: 13 years
  • File size: 360 KB

Meet the Author

Elizabeth Scott grew up in a town so small it didn't even have a post office, though it did boast an impressive cattle population. She's sold hardware and panty hose and had a memorable three-day stint in the dot-com industry, where she learned that she really didn't want a career burning CDs. She lives just outside Washington, DC, with her husband; firmly believes you can never own too many books; and would love it if you visited her website,

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  • Posted March 3, 2009

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    Loved It!

    Amy is full of guilt. She can barely look at herself after what she did. It has been 75 days since she walked away from the car accident that took the life of her best friend, Julia. She never should have gone to that party, never should have said what she said, never should have drank what she drank.

    After grueling weeks of therapy at Pinewood, a rehabilitation center, Amy is starting school again with a whole new look. She is now the outsider, the girl with no friends because she killed her only one. The only way Amy knows to vent is through drinking and ever since the night of the accident she can't even look at a bottle without getting sick.

    The new Amy, the one that doesn't drink or drive or party, finds that the only way she can get her feelings out are through writing in a journal to Julia, a journal filled with things that she could never get the nerve to actually tell Julia when she was still alive.

    Elizabeth Scott takes you into the mind of a teenager who can barely live with herself after what she did but who finally manages to face reality and realize that the only way to move on is by letting go of the past. Love You Hate You Miss You is a story of healing and of learning to cope with the things you can't change. Through journal entries, Amy's memories of past times, and weekly therapy sessions, the reader can really see what Amy is going through.

    Having read more than one Elizabeth Scott novel in the past, I had high expectations for this book and once again, Elizabeth Scott did not disappoint. The concepts of guilt, friendship, and love are beautifully put together in this story about the importance of friendship and family.

    8 out of 8 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 26, 2010

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    Heartbreaking, emotional and ultimately uplifting

    I finally picked up a copy of Love You, Hate You, Miss You last week. I'm not sure why it's taken me so long to get around to this book as I am something of a fan of Elizabeth Scott. She's one of the best authors around for realistic love stories. Not to mention the kissing scenes, ah the kissing scenes, they're the turn your insides squishy kind.

    If she just wrote gorgeous romances, I would gobble them up and move on. What makes her one of my favourite authors and makes her books worth re-reading, is the romance and everything else. There's always so much going on with the main character, beside their falling in love and it's always so beautifully woven together.

    I've noticed that her books always seem to have the theme of loss somewhere in them, whether it's the loss of a parent, the loss of a friend or the loss of an illusion you held.

    In Love You Hate You Miss You loss takes center stage. Amy has been left heartbroken, guilt ridden and alone, following the death of her best friend Julia. If that wasn't enough she's also dealing with not drinking, when alcohol used to be the thing that made her life easier. Her usually distant parents are taking an interest in her, she's being shunned at school, and she's confused by her feelings for a boy she used to know. Then there is the guilt that hits her every time she enjoys something without Julia.

    If this novel is about being lost it is also about being found and finding out who you are. Amy had Julia on a pedestal. But while Julia was a wonderful friend in many ways, she wasn't perfect. She could be selfish and inconsiderate and she enabled Amy's drinking. Amy has to come to terms with that in order to let Julia go.

    I loved all Amy's relationships in this book, with Julia, with her parents, with Patrick and with Laurie her therapist. They all allowed us to see different aspects of Amy and how she viewed herself. My favourite relationship was her resurrected friendship with Caro or Corn Syrup as Julia had nicknamed her. I felt so sorry for Caro, who is almost as lost as Amy but better at hiding it, and so proud of her at the end of the book. Yay Caro!

    As a reader Love You, Hate You, Miss You isn't a comfortable journey to go on, it's heartbreaking and emotional. Amy's grief pours off the page and slams into you. I ached for her. It's definitely a journey worth taking though. Love you, Hate You, Miss You is Elizabeth Scott at her best.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 25, 2010

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    Heartbreaking, Yet Full of Hope

    A single night and a collection of choices can change a person's life forever. Amy learns this the hard way when her best friend Julia dies and she holds all the fault. Amy and Julia were the best of friends. They told each other everything.or at least they said they did. When Julia dies after a night at a party, Amy can't help but believe it was all her fault. Without Julia around, Amy's life is entirely different. Her parents have unwrapped themselves from one another long enough to pay attention to her and Amy can't escape the stares at school. She says that she killed her best friend and even though her shrink is trying to get her to move on with her life, Amy can't see how that is fair. Murderers don't get to have a happy life, but maybe Amy needs to realize that what happened in the past isn't all her fault and if she can let go and move on, she may still have a happy future.

    Elizabeth Scott has once again amazed me with her striking ability to delve into the mind of a teenage girl and do it so genuinely and so realistically that even the most disheartening and sarcastic moments are completely heartfelt. Love You Hate You Miss You has a heavy plot line that isn't meant to be viewed as simply a story about hope and moving on. Amy believes she killed her best friend and feelings like that are not easily dismissed. Amy creates a journal of letters to her dead best friend Julia. Through these letters, her sessions with her shrink, and some interactions with classmates, Amy is able to see another side to both Julia, as well as herself. Scott braves the psyche of such a troubled and guilty young girl and does so with such ease.

    The characters in Love You Hate You Miss You are all hurting in some way or another. Amy feels the gamut of emotions because of Julia's death and her part in it. Her classmates Caro and Patrick are also going through difficult times in their life. Their interactions are, at times, amusing, but so sad in other ways. These are just kids. They're all so young and they have all had to deal with so much pain. Caro probably has it the easiest, but her storyline is just as affecting as Amy's and Patrick's. Life can be hard. Bad things do happen, but human beings have the incredible ability to persevere and I think that is the message that Elizabeth Scott wants to convey.

    Opening line: "Dear Julia, Get this I'm supposed to be starting a journal about 'my journey.' Please. ~ pg. 1

    Favorite line: "Now I could talk and they would listen. Now they wanted to. Now. It made something twist hard inside me because I always wanted them to really talk to me, really listen to me, but if I'd known what would make it happen - God, if I'd only known." ~pg. 136

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted February 3, 2010

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    This book is more on the serious side. It goes back and forth from letters Amy writes to Julia in a journal to Amy facing real life. It starts the day Amy leaves the rehab center and takes you through her journey. She must now deal with the lost of her best friend and bear the guilt.

    Several serious topics are discussed. There's death and loss, teenage drinking/using, and false guilt. At times, I felt so bad for Amy, I wanted to bawl my eyes out. Maybe somehow write myself in the book and give her a great big hug! Amy deals with so much. I love how her parents use to be a bit neglectful because they were so wrapped up in each other. Then everything happened and they finally changed and tried to reach out. One person that really ticked me off in this book is Julia's mother. I literally wanted to slap her across the face!

    I thought Love You Hate You Miss You was beautifully written and would recommend it to any who has dealt with grief or anyone who just enjoys a good read.

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted July 1, 2009

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    I've said this before and I am going to say it again: Elizabeth Scott's writing is chameleon-like. Some of her books are fluffy and light, the perfect poolside read, while some of her other books take on darker undertones. Where does her new book fall on this continuum? It's dark, not disturbingly dark but still dark, because the main character's emotional pain is very apparent.

    I believe wholeheartedly that accidents happen and that blame is a waste of time and doesn't fix the problem. I also believe that you can't change the past, only move on with the future. While I may believe that, it doesn't mean that everybody else believes that.

    This is especially true for Amy, the main character in LOVE YOU HATE YOU MISS YOU. She is hurting and thinks nobody in the whole world understands how it feels to lose a best friend. Even worse, she blames herself for her friend's death.

    Over and over again, Amy is told it was an accident. You could say it to her a million times but it wouldn't matter - she still blames herself. She should never have done what she did. Truth be known, there were a lot of things she shouldn't have done, but who am I to preach to the choir?

    Following a stint in rehab, Amy must go on with her life. Dealing was a bit easier in rehab because it was a controlled environment, but out in the real world, among her family and peers, dealing with Julia's death is an emotional roller coaster. Her shrink thinks writing a diary would help her greatly. At first, Amy is against the idea, but then she starts writing letters to Julia, which actually helps her cope.

    Some of what Amy writes is funny, some letters are incredibly sad, while other letters are filled with anger. Many things come out in the letters. Through these letters we learn a lot about Amy and Julia's relationship, Amy's insecurities, as well as her home situation. Truths that were buried come to light and Amy learns that the past wasn't as perfect as she thought. And maybe it is the present that she should be focusing on.

    I applaud Scott for not writing the pat happily-ever-after types of books. Once again, Elizabeth Scott has written a book that will stay with you long after it is done. How long do I have to wait until her next book comes out?

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 11, 2014


    I read this book fo many times i think the spin is past broken

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 29, 2013

    Good book

    This was a good book and very hard to put down it even made me cry once put very goof

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 9, 2013

    LM + CS

    Equals hatred yet love at the same time... how could this happen?

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 7, 2013

    Say wwwwhhhhhaaaaatttttttt???????????

    How did she kill her bestie???????????????

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  • Posted September 26, 2012

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    I have read a few of Elizabeth Scott's books before and I really like her style of writing,and this book fits right in with the others. Amy is so guilt-ridden that her best friend died in a tragic car accident, and we pick up her life 75 days after the accident and her leaving a rehab facility and going back home, back to school, and worse, facing all the people at school and elsewhere. I like how you go back and forth between Amy's journal and what happens to her in school and at her therapist's sessions, you see that Amy is not only sad for her loss, shes confused, and very alone. I like Caro(or as Julia called her, Corn Syrup) and she is as sad and lost as Amy, but she deals with things and starts to really improve by the end of the book. In a way, i hope that her improvement helps Amy.
    This book is really hard to go through. The depression and the feelings Amy expresses are painful to read and process. But it makes you see things in a different way and I think a better way. Its well worth the effort to see what Elizabeth has done for the characters in this book.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 17, 2012

    A Great Read.

    Love You Hate You Miss You is a very good book. It mentions loss and grief and guilt after a terrible accident, causing the death of Amy's best and only friend Juila. Amy has to cope her feelings and work to move on afterwards. I recommend this book to mature people(13 and up) because of some more adult events. Overall, an amazing read i will remember forever. :)

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 1, 2012

    hit close to home.

    although she didnt die, my julias soul did. it was hard to read at times simply because i always thought of her. but it was very touching and i just fell in love with amy. her parents were a concept i never had encountered in a book before which i really liked. the ending was terrible tho. i couldnt believe it was over! there was no closure. but overall, it was a fantastic read. i will be recommending to others.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 15, 2012

    I loved it

    This book was really good.

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    Posted March 21, 2012



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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 4, 2012


    OMG i couldn't put this book was amazing

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 1, 2011

    Wouldn't Recommend It

    It's not exactly the best book I've read. I don't think this book is worth it very much.

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  • Posted January 26, 2011

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    tragic but gripping

    i couldnt put this down. its very realistic- anyone who has lost a friend and then felt like they had lost themselves too will be able to relate. not just a book for teens. i am in my mid twenties and enjoyed it.

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  • Posted July 4, 2010

    Amazing, but sad.

    Before i read "Love You Hate You Miss You," i had read the excerpt of it in "Stealing Heaven." When i read the few pages that was supplied, i knew that i had to read it. Boy, am i glad i did! I love this book so much. I felt Amy's pain all the way and tried to imagine myself in her shoes. It was such a sad story...My faveorite line was "I suppse he's making a real fashion statement, but this is highschool.You're not suppose to be real. You're suppose to be enough like everyone else to get through and out into the waiting world." pg.46. <- So true. This was such an amazing story; i just wanted to go and hug Amy, and tell her everything would be alright. Elizabeth Scotts book was the best ever-(i've reread this book four times!) and she hasn't failed at tell how the consequences for drinking are so very brutal.

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  • Posted March 10, 2010

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    This book is awesome!

    This book is really good and very much like the one i recommended

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  • Posted September 17, 2009

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    I felt Amy's pain from the beginning. It was very heartbreaking but this story was very good. I liked how it ended but it's still sad cause she will live with the pain of losing her best friend forever. Elizabeth Scott did an amazing job!

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