Loveology Study Guide: God. Love. Marriage. Sex. And the Never-Ending Story of Male and Female.

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In the beginning, God created Adam. Then he made Eve.

And ever since we’ve been picking up the pieces.

Loveology is a theology of love from God’s point of view.

The five sessions start with God’s design for marriage and works backward, dealing with sexuality, romance, singleness, and what it means to be male and female. Pastor and writer John Mark Comer shares about what is ...

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Overview

In the beginning, God created Adam. Then he made Eve.

And ever since we’ve been picking up the pieces.

Loveology is a theology of love from God’s point of view.

The five sessions start with God’s design for marriage and works backward, dealing with sexuality, romance, singleness, and what it means to be male and female. Pastor and writer John Mark Comer shares about what is right in male/female relationships—what God intended in the Garden. And about what is wrong—the fallout in a post-Eden world.

The Loveology video-based Bible study is for anyone who wants to learn what the Scriptures have to say about sexuality and relationships and for people who want to ask the why questions and get intelligent, grace-and-truth answers.

As you walk through this five-week study, you will come to better understand what God fully intended back in the garden. By comprehending the brilliance behind God’s original plan for love and marriage and sex and romance—if we can redefine that fuzzy, amorphous, confusing word “love” and look at it through the lens of Jesus—your marriages and relationships will be radically altered as a result.

This study guide is designed for use with Loveology: A DVD Study (sold separately) and contains video notes, individual or group reflection questions, and between session personal applications to enhance your journey through the video study.

Sessions include:

  1. Love
  2. Marriage
  3. Sex
  4. Romance
  5. Singleness
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780310688372
  • Publisher: Zondervan
  • Publication date: 2/4/2014
  • Edition description: Study Guid
  • Pages: 112
  • Sales rank: 378,806
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.30 (h) x 0.30 (d)

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Loveology Study Guide


By John Mark Comer, Jay Fordice

ZONDERVAN

Copyright © 2014 John Mark Comer
All rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-0-310-68837-2



CHAPTER 1

Love


Based on the preface and chapter 1 of the Loveology book by John Mark Comer

Love is the source of our highest highs and lowest lows. Love is joy and laughter and gift and freedom and faith and healing, but when love goes south, it's a knife to the chest.

(Loveology, p.14)


Introduction • 2 minutes

If you know anything about the Gospels, you know people are always coming to Jesus with questions about anything and everything. They ask questions about life, God, theology, and law. You name it, they ask it.

In the book of Matthew, chapter 19, we read one example. The Pharisees—the religious teachers of the day—come to Jesus and test him. They ask him if it is lawful for a man to divorce his wife.

Contrary to what you might think, divorce was at pandemic levels in first-century Jewish culture. And sadly, more than 2,000 years later, here we are struggling with the same dysfunction and brokenness.

We are all facing abysmal odds when it comes to marriage and love. And many would argue it's because somewhere along the way we lost the plotline. We're confused, at best, when it comes to love.

Jesus answers the question of the Pharisees, but not in the way they expected. He points them back to the plotline—back to the beginning. It's from the lips of Jesus that we get our loveology.


Dig in • 3 minutes

Before you watch the video, take time to dig into the following question. Think about how it relates to you as an individual and then briefly discuss it as a group.

Just as in the first century, divorce is all around us. You'd be hard pressed to find anyone today not affected by divorce. How has divorce had an impact on you and your view of love and marriage?


Video • 10 minutes

Play the Session 1 video. Take notes as you watch. What resonates with you? What concepts or thoughts are new to you? What do you disagree with?


Video notes

Tension between the world and God


Fifty percent fail rate: Fear and insecurity regarding marriage


Jesus' view of divorce


The faulty view of "falling in love"


What is love?


Deep feelings of affection versus active involvement


Jesus' example


Rayah, dod, and ahavah


Group discussion • 40 minutes

First impressions

Take a minute as a group to talk about a few things that hit you from the video. Refer to your notes and share around the group.


Asking the wrong question

Read Matthew 19v1–6 aloud in the group (see below). Then answer the questions that follow.

When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.

Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?"

"Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.

1 As always, the Pharisees are trying to posture and corner Jesus with a challenging question. How does Jesus respond to their question about divorce?

2 Where does Jesus say marriage began? Why is this significant? Why does it matter?


Junk drawer theology

In love. What does that even mean?

"Love" is a junk drawer we dump all sorts of ideas into, just because we don't have anywhere else to put them.

I "love" God, and I "love" fish tacos. See the problem?

The way we use the word is so broad, so generic, that I'm not sure we understand it anymore. How should we define love?

(Loveology, p. 27)

3 How do you define the word "love"?


4 How does the world define the word "love"?


5 What do people really mean when they say they have "fallen in love"?


6 How is love as a noun—an emotion—not a full picture of love? How do we know from the Scriptures that there is more to love than just emotion?


7 Describe the different words for "love" in Hebrew. How are they different from or similar to our modern view of love?

• Rayah:

• Dod:

• Ahavah:


Love incarnate

8 How does God define the word "love"? What context does he give us?


This idea of Jesus as the model for how we are to love each other sounds docile and tame and cliché, but when we actually read about the life of Jesus, it's stunning.

(Loveology, p. 31)


Washing feet

There's a growing trend among followers of Jesus. During their wedding ceremony, the bride and groom take time to stop and wash each other's feet. In the moment, it's beautiful and emotive and romantic. The groom slips the bride's shoe off her foot. He gently dips her heel in the water, softly massages her foot while he rinses it with fresh water. He then dries it with a towel and puts her shoe back on her foot. The bride then does the same.

It's an amazing picture of ser vice and love, but it's not quite there. You have to understand first-century culture to get the full picture of this practice.

Think dirt roads, hot temperatures, and high humidity. Think sandals, dust, livestock, and agriculture. Think manure and sand and sweat and stench.

In the first century, they didn't wash feet for symbolism. They washed feet out of sheer necessity. And it was a nasty job. One that was saved for the lowest of the low. The bottom of the barrel. Only servants. Only the lowest servants. It's hard to even compare the job to something equivalent today.

It is in this context that Jesus steps into this space. He gets on his knees, takes off his outer clothes, grabs a bowl, and gets to work. Scrubbing. Cleaning. Washing. The disciples didn't take this as a loving gesture. Read the story. They were outraged! It was wrong. Downright cruel. There was no way they were going to let their master—their rabbi—wash their filthy feet.

9 Read the story from John's perspective (John 13v1–17). What does this story tell us about love?

But the stories go on. The Scriptures are full of accounts that give us vivid pictures of Jesus' love for humanity. And seldom were they pleasant. One of the most graphic pictures of his love comes in John 19. The scourging. The Via Dolorosa. The cross. The death. All love. All grace. Life-changing if you can grasp the gravity and reality of it all.

10 Read about the Via Dolorosa (John 19v16–30). What does it tell us about love?

And then there's the original picture of love. The unadulterated plan. God's initial intent in all its innocence and beauty and grace. The Garden of Eden.

11 Read about the Garden of Eden (Genesis 2v18–25). What does it tell us about love?

12 Where in your life have you been misdefining love? How does Jesus' example change your outlook?


Scripture & prayer • 5 minutes

Choose two people to read the following Scripture aloud. Then individually meditate on its significance for your life, sharing your thoughts with the group if time permits. Challenge each other to memorize the verse during the coming week. End in prayer.

This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.

(1 John 4v10)


Midweek study: Love • 20 minutes

Based on the preface and chapter 1 of the Loveology book


Love: A word study

Is "love" a noun or verb? It makes a difference. What do the Scriptures teach us? Take some time during the week to see for yourself. Below are several passages that talk about love. Is it a noun (possessive; something you get; strong feelings), a verb (something that is done; something acted upon), or both?

• John 15v13—Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends.

• 1 Corinthians 13v4–7—Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

• Mark 12v30–31—" 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.' The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these."

• John 14v15—If you love me, keep my commands.

• Genesis 29v20—Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.

• 1 John 3v16—This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.


1 Why does it make a difference if love is treated as a noun or verb? What are the implications?


2 What does this tell us about God?


3 What does this tell us about marriage?


(Continues...)

Excerpted from Loveology Study Guide by John Mark Comer, Jay Fordice. Copyright © 2014 John Mark Comer. Excerpted by permission of ZONDERVAN.
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Table of Contents

Contents


Introduction, 007,

How to use this study, 009,

Session 1 Love, 013,

Session 2 Marriage, 031,

Session 3 Sex, 053,

Session 4 Romance, 073,

Session 5 Singleness, 091,

Insight for leaders, 107,

About the author, 109,

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