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Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants
     

Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants

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by Lynn Cowell
 

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Do you ever wonder…
What does she have that I haven’t got?
Why doesn’t he ask me out?
What makes her popular? Why not me?
  
Maybe it’s time to change the questions you’re asking. Maybe it’s time to ask instead: What does it take to

Overview

Do you ever wonder…
What does she have that I haven’t got?
Why doesn’t he ask me out?
What makes her popular? Why not me?
  
Maybe it’s time to change the questions you’re asking. Maybe it’s time to ask instead: What does it take to become magnetic?
 
Packed with revealing quizzes, interviews with guys, and practical tools, Magnetic empowers you to:
 
· Move beyond negative thoughts, capricious emotions, and others’ opinions as you gain unshakeable confidence.
· Limit the draining affect of “girl drama” so you can invest your time in becoming the best you.
· Replace the agonizing frustration of wanting to be noticed and liked with a deep assurance that you already are.

As you live out nine amazing characteristics—known as the fruit of the Spirit—you will not only cultivate an inner and outer beauty, but you will also hold an irresistible appeal for godly guys. Shift your focus from a guy to the Guy and become the magnetic young woman God created you to be.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher
Praise for Magnetic

“This book should be read by every single Christian teenage girl (even girls past teen years who are single). It is brilliant in concept, full of scripture, easy to read, impactful, and will keep the short attention span of busy teens and college girls. I give my friend Lynn and this book my highest endorsement!”
—Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times best-selling author of Unglued and Made to Crave, and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries

“The message of this book is exactly what I want my teenage daughter to hear: ‘You have a deep desire to be loved and admired, but focus on finding the love of Jesus first. Focus on developing and living out the fruits of the Spirit. And that is what will cause you to shine before a watching world.’ Thank you, Lynn, for this personal message that every teenage girl will find magnetic.”
—Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and best-selling author of For Women Only and For Young Women Only

“In a culture where teen girls are bombarded with false messages about what makes them attractive to boys, Magnetic offers a different and Jesus-honoring way. Lynn’s engaging ‘I’ve been there’ style will draw teens in as they encounter a mentor’s heart passionately poured out on the pages. Full of biblical truths tucked strategically inside relevant stories, and laced throughout with practical ‘apply it now’ tools, this book should be in the backpack of every teen girl you know!”
—Karen Ehman, Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker, author of seven books including LET. IT. GO. and Everyday Confetti

“With the heart of a friend who gets you and a mentor who loves you, Lynn Cowell will help you (the girl God loves) become all He created you to be! In the powerful message of Magnetic, you will discover the balance between wanting the attention of a guy and embracing the unconditional love of the most important Guy! Learn how to laugh more and worry less about what others think, while developing irresistible beauty and investing in relationships that bring out the best version of the girl God created you to be!”
—Renee Swope, best-selling author of A Confident Heart and Proverbs 31 Ministries radio co-host for Everyday Life with Lysa & Renee

“Every girl wants to be magnetic. Every girl needs to read this book. You’ll find it entertaining and full of endearing advice. Lynn Cowell has provided the total package in this book once again!”
—Bekah Hamrick Martin, author of The Bare Naked Truth

“My friend Lynn Cowell really knows how to tap into teen girls’ hearts. Her book Magnetic is relatable, memorable, and breaks the mold of typical teen books. This book will be on the must-read list for my three daughters!”
—Nicki Koziarz, writer, speaker, and Proverbs 31 Ministries online Bible study coordinator

“Lynn has a God-given ability to reach the depths of a teen girl’s heart with the message of love Jesus has for her. Magnetic is an invitation for teen girls to trade boyfriend-based identities for a forever agape identity in Jesus Christ.”
—Erin Bishop, founder and president of the Whatever Girls Ministry

“Every girl needs a mentor who points her to true north and helps her navigate the challenges of life. Lynn Cowell is that mentor. In a world that offers so many confusing messages for young girls, Lynn gives clear direction and profound wisdom along the journey. This is the book every teen girl needs to read!”
—Jill Savage, CEO of Hearts at Home and author of No More Perfect Moms

“In Magnetic, Lynn Cowell has done an amazing job of guiding the reader in how to put godly desires into action. Lynn challenges readers with these words: ‘Your choices today shape the woman you’ll be tomorrow. Who do you want to be?’ I believe this book will help young women understand how the fruits of the Spirit make them magnetic, shining in their hearts and showing through their actions.”
—Sharie King, wife of Clayton King and author of True Love Project and 12 Questions to Ask Before You Marry

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781601425805
Publisher:
The Doubleday Religious Publishing Group
Publication date:
09/16/2014
Pages:
224
Sales rank:
249,624
Product dimensions:
5.10(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.70(d)

Read an Excerpt

Chapter 1—The Power to Become Magnetic: The Captivating Characteristics That Make a Girl Gorgeous

Why doesn’t he like me? I just couldn’t figure it out. What is it about me that isn’t as attractive as her? Am I not as pretty? Am I too loud? Are my friends not cool enough? The questions gnawed at me, eating away at my confidence. He had liked me once; surely I could get him to like me again. There had to be a way.

I was determined to find out what was wrong with me.

Maybe it was my body. Once, when I was surrounded by people who already intimidated me, my “friend” Dave called out, “Hey, Lynn, why do you bother wearing a bra? You’re so flat, you should just wear Band-Aids.” If only I could have evaporated into thin air.

Then again, maybe it was my hair. Not only was it curly, it was out of control. Dave nicknamed me Lucy, as in Lucy from the cartoon Peanuts. Not exactly the image you’d find under hot on Wikipedia. I wondered if her hair was the reason Schroeder, the piano dude, never asked her out.

Flat and frizzy…I convinced myself these were the reasons I couldn’t attract Greg, the guy I wanted. Maybe I never would. It seemed I didn’t have what it took to get this guy.

Do you ever wonder…
   What does she have that I haven’t got?
      Why doesn’t he ask me out?
         What makes her so popular? Why not me?
            What’s wrong with me?

Do you sometimes feel as if your life’s equation is Boy + Me = Valuable?

Invisible to Perfect Guy, it’s easy to think, The problem must be imperfect me. Maybe you’ve even tried fixing “the problem”:
   Hair: new color, new cut. Check.
   Clothes: cute outfit. Check.
   Friends: do what it takes to become more popular. Working on it.
   Body: join the gym. Ask Mom and Dad.
   Yet, no matter how hard you try, it’s never enough.

The Magnetic Attraction
Back in my own “wish I were dating” days, my highs and lows depended on whether or not I saw him in the hall; my happiness was determined by whether or not he noticed me. The crush I had was crushing me.

I wish there had been someone who could have helped me. Although maybe I wouldn’t have listened. But I wish someone could have shown me that the longing in my heart pointed not to my need for a guy, but to my deeper need for something even greater. That I was created to be loved perfectly and unconditionally, made to have my heart filled each and every day with love from the Perfect Man, Jesus.

I wish someone could have shown me I am valuable just as I am, created for an amazing purpose—and nothing on this planet should hold me back from my purpose, especially not some guy!

Then I could have spent my time, energy, and emotions, not on a guy I didn’t have, but on the One I did. I could have moved from obsessing over why I wasn’t wanted to becoming the type of girl a guy would want. Not just as someone to date but as the one he’d want to spend the rest of his life with.

I remember making the list, a gargantuan description of everything I was looking for in the guy I would marry one day. The more powerful list would have described the woman I wanted to become, the woman he couldn’t resist!

What would happen if you made the switch now? Shifted your focus off a guy and onto the Guy?

What if, together, we discovered an irresistible beauty deeper than designer clothes, skinny jeans, and flawless skin? A confidence so attractive, nothing could cause us to lose it? A glamour simply magnetic?

In my quest to discover true beauty, I began to see gorgeous as much more than the face in my mirror. Gorgeous is not skin deep but heart deep, a beauty that develops as my heart discovers and returns true love.

This beauty, this attractiveness, is found in the girl who has what I call Nothing on this planet should hold you back from your purpose, especially not some guy! captivating characteristics—what the Bible calls the fruit of the Spirit. These heart traits are described in Galatians 5:22–23: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

Let’s unpack what the Bible means by the fruit of the Spirit. Picture a gorgeous piece of fruit, a luscious and juicy Florida orange. The bright and plump skin calls, “Peel me!” As you pull back the skin, juice squirts everywhere. This orange is just the kind Tropicana looks for!

Then there is another orange. Puny and shriveled. Something on the tree went terribly wrong. Bugs, disease, lack of sun? Whatever the reason, the orange never reached its full potential. Dried up, the ugly fruit is no use to anyone!

What caused the drastic difference between these two pieces of fruit? One so beautiful, the other so…not? The juicy orange, pleasingly healthy, drew in all it needed to reach its full potential. Sunshine, water, and nutrients from the soil nurtured the fruit into the fullness it was created for. The other orange did not absorb the nourishment it needed.

When you’re planted in God, you become like the tangy, appealing fruit! He provides you with all you need to reach your full potential—to be the best you you can be!

That is one beautiful you!

Instead of chasing after the guy running from you, you’re pursuing the One coming after you. In the process of seeking His heart, you’ll become the amazing individual He designed you to be, a girl who is irresistibly magnetic, beautiful inside and out!

Think of the two pieces of fruit. Which one attracts your interest?

The same is true for guys. They are drawn to you when you are at your best, your greatest potential! So the you you become impacts who you’ll attract. If that guy you’re crushing on is mature and solid in his faith, he’ll be attracted to a girl who is mature and solid in her faith. Notice I didn’t say that the guy you’re crushing on is going to return the favor. I am saying that the type of guy who will be drawn to you is someone who shares your priorities and passions. A guy who is like you is the guy who will like you.

You’re thinking, Yeah right! I don’t see this happening. You obviously haven’t been to my school. You have no clue what guys are like; there aren’t any of that type of guys, the godly guys, out there.

I agree there aren’t too many guys pursuing God. But check this out: there aren’t too many girls pursuing God either! The few guys I have met who are running hard after Jesus, though, are keeping their eyes open for a girl who is doing the same.

Gorgeous Glorifies God
Have you ever met a girl who has a genuine love for other people? Instead of being focused on herself, she focuses on others, making those around her feel wanted, special, valued. There is something so beautiful about her!

Think of a girl you know who’s joyful. She looks on the bright side. You feel good just being around her! Who doesn’t want to be close to a girl like that? She’s more fun to hang out with than the one constantly complaining.

What about the one resisting the pull of girl drama, refusing to get dragged into arguments or backbiting? She’s peaceful, her calm outlook refreshing.

Got a friend who never uses the word annoyed? Patient with others, her time is your time. Every conversation doesn’t have to be about her; she really listens and cares.

Think of a girl you’d describe as kind and good. Every person is important and valuable to her. She never says “I was only joking,” because she doesn’t have a rude comment to cover up.

Have a friend you can tell anything? Your secret’s placed in a vault when you tell her. You have no fear of your secret slipping out; she’s faithful. She’ll be your friend through everything.

How about the girl who is gentle, not controlled by peer pressure, not obnoxious or attention seeking? Comfortable with who she is, she’s intentional about her choices because her priority is honoring herself and her God.

A girl like that is magnetic. Who could resist wanting to be around her?

Guess what? You can be that girl!

How?

These magnetic traits are the result, or fruit, of the girl who has given her entire life to Jesus. She now spends her emotional energy allowing Him to live His life through her.

Now, you don’t have to burn yourself out trying to become perfect. These gorgeous qualities will show up as you spend time with God and He pours His perspective into you!

Get Up and Get Growing
To help you toward your goal of becoming the girl He wants, we’re going to investigate these captivating characteristics together.

Right now I’m picturing you joining me on a Thursday night when my living room is filled with a group of girls who love Jesus and are trying to figure life out. We’ve been getting together for about five years, learning more about God and ourselves. I know you’d fit right in!

If you don’t have your own group, you can start one! Pull a group of your friends together, make a snack, and go through Magnetic together. Of course, it’s also perfectly okay to do this with just the two of you: Jesus and you.

As you go along, you’ll find questions to help you see how the fruit of the Spirit can grow in your life. You’ll also find lots of insights from girls much like you as well as comments from godly guys about what they find attractive. I interviewed both guys who have found their own magnetic girl and those who are still looking. Their comments are really revealing!

I love quizzes, so I’ve included one for each of the captivating characteristics. In the back of the book, you’ll find a chart where you can record your score for each one. This way you can identify which of the captivating characteristics are your strengths and which are areas where you need to grow. You’ll find the chart on page 187. Try folding down the corner of that page to make it easy to find quickly.

As we’re going through Magnetic, sometimes you might feel like change in your life is coming fast. Then a bad day will trip you up and you’ll think, I’ve not changed at all. Not true! You are growing; you just had a setback. Get up and get going! Just keep on taking small steps, one after another, as Jesus leads you to become the girl He wants.

Grab your Bible and a journal, and let’s do it! Let’s learn what it means to be magnetic!

Meet the Author

Lynn Cowell is a speaker with Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of His Revolutionary Love: Jesus’ Radical Pursuit of You. Lynn speaks to young women nationwide about the radical love of Jesus Christ and how to build an inner confidence that leads to smart choices. Lynn and her husband, Greg, have been married for over twenty-five years and are the parents of three.

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asyl2012 More than 1 year ago
When looking up the word magnet in the dictionary, the most common definition is a person or thing that has a powerful attraction. That being said, what kind of magnet are you? What people are you attracting? What lifestyle are you living that makes them want to join you? Lynn Cowell opens up her heart to us in her book Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants. She stressed that we shift our focus from a guy to our great Savior and become the magnetic woman that He created us to be. We live in the generation of females that live in a state of wonder. They wonder why they have yet to be asked out, why they are not popular, why they are not on the fast track to married life, and so much more. Sadly, if we do not control these wonders, we are left useless in the work that God has for us. Lynn reminds us that as we live out the Fruit of the Spirit (“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.” ~Galatians 5:22-23), we will cultivate an inner beauty that will radiate on the outside! As we shift our focus from guys to our Savior, and live the magnetic life that attracts others to Him, in His timing we will attract that Godly guy that He has for us. Don’t rush… Ladies, pick up a copy of this book, you won’t regret it!
tiffanya94 More than 1 year ago
Magnetic easily won its way into my heart. I absolutely loved every word of this book. Lynn Cowell hit the nail on the head with this book! This book had me finding myself questioning the actions of my life. The little quizzes at the end of the chapters showed me where I needed to let Jesus in more. I know people said this book was targeted towards teenagers but I’m 20 years old and I found a lot to connect with. I think college age girls can find things to relate to in Magnetic. I also agree with a lot of other reviews that every single Christian girl needs to read this book! I think with the way our society is today by making young girls think they need to dress, act, talk or look a certain way to attract guys makes our need for a book like Magnetic, greater. Let me just say that the cover for this book is absolutely beautiful. The picture does not do it justice. The greenish and blue colors fading into each other really grabbed my attention. I would have loved if the book was hardcover but I will make an exception for Magnetic any day. Also, the writing on the cover is gorgeous. I think they just help set the cool tone of this book. This book will always be my number 1 choice when recommending Christian books to young girls. There is no reason a young girl shouldn’t read about putting Jesus first and learning to become Magnetic not only for a boy but for Jesus. I just absolutely adore this book. I would definitely tell every parent with a teenage or college daughter to purchase this book for them. I can’t find one bad word to say about Magnetic. I give it 5+ stars! I received this book for free from Blogging For Books Program in exchange for my honest review.
tntcarlson More than 1 year ago
Focusing on the Fruit of the Spirit, Lynn Cowell lays out a plan for teenage girls to become Magnetic. As the mother of a 12 ½ year old daughter (with two more following closely behind her), I am continually on the lookout for instruction on how to equip my girls to pursue God’s best for their lives. Magnetic has become an invaluable book in our home library. While I picked up the book in an effort to impart wisdom to my daughters, I found myself face-to-face with the mirror as this book inspired transformation in my own life. If you are a woman with younger girls in your life or a young woman with your whole life ahead of you, this book is a must read. Magnetic will equip you to become the girl God wants (which will in turn make you attractive to everyone around you)!
walkbyfaithnow More than 1 year ago
Lynn Cowell has given girls a new, real way to view themselves and their world. No longer must our girls conform to the ways that life has in store for them but has shown them a true way to live and connect with others.
Kris_D More than 1 year ago
If you are or if you know a young lady in her teens or early 20s I highly recommend you get a copy of this book. Lynn has a way of connecting with young ladies. She just "gets it". My daughters both loved her last book and can't wait to read Magnetic. One of my favorite quotes from her book is: "Gorgeous is not skin deep but heart deep, a beauty that develops as my heart discovers and returns true love." In a world that focuses on the outside, it's important that young ladies understand that true beauty comes from within. God has created us to be magnetic.