Making Divorce Work: 8 Essential Keys to Resolving Conflict and Rebuilding Your Life

Making Divorce Work: 8 Essential Keys to Resolving Conflict and Rebuilding Your Life

by Diana Mercer, Katie Jane Wennechuk
     
 

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You can get divorced without losing your shirt or your sanity. Given that so many marriages end in divorce, divorce without devastation is an idea whose time has come. Making Divorce Work gives you the tools and inspiration to renegotiate your relationship with your spouse, put an end to unproductive arguments and behaviors, determine a fair win-win settlement, and

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You can get divorced without losing your shirt or your sanity. Given that so many marriages end in divorce, divorce without devastation is an idea whose time has come. Making Divorce Work gives you the tools and inspiration to renegotiate your relationship with your spouse, put an end to unproductive arguments and behaviors, determine a fair win-win settlement, and move on from your marriage happy, healthy, and whole. You will learn:

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
This common-sense guide to surviving the stress and disappointments of divorce approaches the fear factor involved in such a big life upheaval with practical steps to facilitate healing. Setting the "peaceful divorce" as the ultimate goal to aim for, the authors offer easy-to-follow advice like giving your ex the benefit of the doubt and carefully following "8 Peace Practices." One will remind readers of the critical role of self-care: "We recommend that you deal with your divorce the same way you would deal with facing a serious heath crisis." In addition to insightful lists and journaling topics, Mercer and Wennechuk prompt readers to create their own "new beginnings mission statement." Useful chapters on grief and forgiveness all underscore the necessity of taking the high road whenever possible. "Think of the people you've met who can't wait to tell you how awful their former spouse is. They don't realize that this reflects on them...after all, who would marry the monster they describe?" (Dec.)
From the Publisher
"This most positive offering comes from family law mediator Mercer and certified divorce mediator Wennechuk, who claim that the way one proceeds with a divorce, whether amicably or acrimoniously, will directly influence the quality of life afterward....Anyone considering or getting a divorce would benefit from reading this book."
-Library Journal

"Making Divorce Works translates Diana and Katie's unique mediation model into skills anyone can use and that will revolutionize the way people get divorced."
-Len Jacoby, founder, Jacoby & Meyers Law Offices

"Imagine a world in which instead of ruining your life your divorce could help you redefine your goals for yourself and your family. Making Divorce Work shows you how to make this happen in eight simple steps."
-Nell Merlino, author, Stepping Out of Line, CEO and Founder, Count Me In for Women's Economic Independence

"... chock full of simple, everyday, practical steps that can ease our way through a minefield so we come out not just with our sanity intact, but actually far more conscious as individuals. Its countless insights show how a breakup-whether we want it or wish to God it weren't happening-can end up actually advancing our wellbeing."
-David Robert Ord, author of Your Forgotten Self and Lessons in Loving

"...the book that every person facing a divorce must have. Many divorce books can be read—-this book must be studied. The authors not only intuitively and insightfully understand what people going through divorce need and how they feel, they also offer self-help tools such as writing a Divorce Mission Statement to help readers prepare for success through this life challenging event."
-Forrest (Woody) Mosten, author of Collaborative Divorce Handbook and Complete Guide to Mediation.

"...brings consciousness, clarity, practical applicable wisdom, and common sense insight into what is undeniably one of the most heart- wrenching experiences any human being may have to face. ...a practical, creative, and healing tool to support not only those moving through this experience, but also those wishing to be of greater support when their loved ones are faced with such an extreme life change."
-Michael Brown, author of The Presence Process and Alchemy of the Heart

Library Journal
This most positive offering comes from family law mediator Mercer and certified divorce mediator Wennechuk, who claim that the way one proceeds with a divorce, whether amicably or acrimoniously, will directly influence the quality of life afterward. Therefore, they offer eight keys for resolving family conflict (e.g., asking oneself, "Would I rather be happy or right?") and eight peace practices (e.g., de-escalating a situation). The authors emphasize taking the high road; guide readers through examining their current financial, relationship, and parenthood goals; and provide a step-by-step plan for achieving them. Anyone considering or getting a divorce would benefit from reading this book.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780399536236
Publisher:
Penguin Publishing Group
Publication date:
12/07/2010
Pages:
272
Sales rank:
1,158,057
Product dimensions:
5.53(w) x 8.23(h) x 0.74(d)
Age Range:
18 Years

What People are saying about this

From the Publisher

"This most positive offering comes from family law mediator Mercer and certified divorce mediator Wennechuk, who claim that the way one proceeds with a divorce, whether amicably or acrimoniously, will directly influence the quality of life afterward....Anyone considering or getting a divorce would benefit from reading this book."
-Library Journal

"Making Divorce Works translates Diana and Katie's unique mediation model into skills anyone can use and that will revolutionize the way people get divorced."
-Len Jacoby, founder, Jacoby & Meyers Law Offices

"Imagine a world in which instead of ruining your life your divorce could help you redefine your goals for yourself and your family. Making Divorce Work shows you how to make this happen in eight simple steps."
-Nell Merlino, author, Stepping Out of Line, CEO and Founder, Count Me In for Women's Economic Independence

"... chock full of simple, everyday, practical steps that can ease our way through a minefield so we come out not just with our sanity intact, but actually far more conscious as individuals. Its countless insights show how a breakup-whether we want it or wish to God it weren't happening-can end up actually advancing our wellbeing."
-David Robert Ord, author of Your Forgotten Self and Lessons in Loving

"...the book that every person facing a divorce must have. Many divorce books can be read---this book must be studied. The authors not only intuitively and insightfully understand what people going through divorce need and how they feel, they also offer self-help tools such as writing a Divorce Mission Statement to help readers prepare for success through this life challenging event."
-Forrest (Woody) Mosten, author of Collaborative Divorce Handbook and Complete Guide to Mediation.

"...brings consciousness, clarity, practical applicable wisdom, and common sense insight into what is undeniably one of the most heart- wrenching experiences any human being may have to face. ...a practical, creative, and healing tool to support not only those moving through this experience, but also those wishing to be of greater support when their loved ones are faced with such an extreme life change."
-Michael Brown, author of The Presence Process and Alchemy of the Heart

Meet the Author

Diana Mercer is the founder of Peace Talks Mediation Services in Los Angeles, California. Mercer has been featured in Consumer Reports, the Wall Street Journal, Consumer Reports Money Adviser, and the Ladies’ Home Journal. She has been published in the Los Angeles Daily Journal, as well as the American Bar Association’s ABA Journal, the ABA’s ADR Journal, and the Los Angeles Times. She has written numerous articles on divorce and child custody for continuing legal education programs.

A graduate of Indiana University School of Law, where she received the American Jurisprudence Award for Excellence, Mercer is a member of the Mortar Board Honor Society for service and academics.

Mercer is the co-author of Your Divorce Advisor: A Lawyer and a Psychologist Guide You Through the Legal and Emotional Landscape of Divorce with Marsha Kline Pruett, Ph.D.

Katie Jane Wennechuk is a certified divorce mediator. As a marketing professional, Wennechuk has enjoyed a successful career in business development for a variety of industries.

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