Making Sense of Your Teenager

Making Sense of Your Teenager

by Lawrence Kutner
     
 
In the final volume in Dr. Kutner's Parent & Child series, the author gives reasonable and practical advice to help parents navigate the rocky teen years. From puberty, dating, and appearance to eating disorders, depression, and sexuality, Dr. Kutner emphasizes communication, limit setting, and freedom of expression as the keys to a healthy parent-teen

Overview

In the final volume in Dr. Kutner's Parent & Child series, the author gives reasonable and practical advice to help parents navigate the rocky teen years. From puberty, dating, and appearance to eating disorders, depression, and sexuality, Dr. Kutner emphasizes communication, limit setting, and freedom of expression as the keys to a healthy parent-teen relationship. 224 pp. 12,000 print.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
In three previous books (Your School-Age Child, etc.), Kutner, a psychologist and columnist for Parents magazine, covered the stages of child development, from pregnancy through infancy and the beginning of school. Now, he offers advice on what to do if your child starts smoking, how to handle driving, putting the brakes on overspending for the prom and how to offer guidance about jobs and college. Kutner reminds parents that teens, though on the cusp of adulthood and often rebellious, still need and want firm limits. Don't abdicate your authority, he warns: "Your child has to learn to live with the fact that the two of you can disagree but that you're still the parent." Appearance and embarrassment, two teen obsessions, are covered in detail; Kutner reminds parents that teenagers are "convinced that their behavior and appearance is the focus of everyone's attention." In straightforward style, Kutner also touches briefly on tougher topics like anorexia, drug and alcohol abuse, depression, suicide and talking to teens about sex. To lighten up the procession of advice, most of which is well-worn if also well-put, Kutner throws in examples from his own childhood and psychological practice, reminding readers by example that a sense of humor is a sine qua non of dealing with teens: "Falling in love for the first time and obtaining a driver's license are perhaps the two most profound events in an adolescent's emotional development." (Apr.)
Publishers Weekly
In three previous books, Kutner, a psychologist and columnist for Parents magazine, covered the stages of child development, from pregnancy through infancy and the beginning of school. Now, he offers advice on what to do if your child starts smoking, how to handle driving, putting the brakes on overspending for the prom and how to offer guidance about jobs and college. Kutner reminds parents that teens, though on the cusp of adulthood and often rebellious, still need and want firm limits. Don't abdicate your authority, he warns: 'Your child has to learn to live with the fact that the two of you can disagree but that you're still the parent.'

Appearance and embarrassment, two teen obsessions, are covered in detail; Kutner reminds parents that teenagers are 'convinced that their behavior and appearance is the focus of everyone's attention.' In straightforward style, Kutner also touches briefly on tougher topics like anorexia, drug and alcohol abuse, depression, suicide and talking to teens about sex. To lighten up the procession of advice, most of which is well-worn if also well-put, Kutner throws in examples from his own childhood and psychology practice, reminding readers by example that a sense of humor is a sine qua non of dealing with teens: 'Falling in love for the first time and obtaining a driver's license are perhaps the two most profound events in an adolescent's emotional development.'

Publishers Weekly - Cahners\\Publishers_Weekly
In three previous books (Your School-Age Child, etc.), Kutner, a psychologist and columnist for Parents magazine, covered the stages of child development, from pregnancy through infancy and the beginning of school. Now, he offers advice on what to do if your child starts smoking, how to handle driving, putting the brakes on overspending for the prom and how to offer guidance about jobs and college. Kutner reminds parents that teens, though on the cusp of adulthood and often rebellious, still need and want firm limits. Don't abdicate your authority, he warns: "Your child has to learn to live with the fact that the two of you can disagree but that you're still the parent." Appearance and embarrassment, two teen obsessions, are covered in detail; Kutner reminds parents that teenagers are "convinced that their behavior and appearance is the focus of everyone's attention." In straightforward style, Kutner also touches briefly on tougher topics like anorexia, drug and alcohol abuse, depression, suicide and talking to teens about sex. To lighten up the procession of advice, most of which is well-worn if also well-put, Kutner throws in examples from his own childhood and psychological practice, reminding readers by example that a sense of humor is a sine qua non of dealing with teens: "Falling in love for the first time and obtaining a driver's license are perhaps the two most profound events in an adolescent's emotional development."
Library Journal
A noted psychologist, columnist, and author (Pregnancy and Your Baby's First Year), Kutner once again gives parents sound advice -- this time regarding the parent-teen relationship. In the fourth and final book in his 'Parent & Child' series, he offers insight into teenage behaviors that on the surface are confused, contradictory, and awkward actions that, in fact, reflect the adolescent's grappling with such issues as self-identity, bodily changes, romantic attractions, and peer pressure.

With an emphasis on the importance of communication and understanding, Kutner's advice to parents is at once intelligent, practical, and witty. Pervading his comments on potential problems is his positive and reassuring attitude about the teen years. While acknowledging that 'life with teenagers is an adventure,' Kutner reminds parents to 'hang on and enjoy the ride'; fortunately, he provides a road map that will help them make the trip without a serious breakdown.--.Pamela W. Bellows, Northwestern Connecticut Community-Technical College Library

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780688102180
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
04/28/1997
Edition description:
1 ED
Pages:
224
Product dimensions:
5.80(w) x 8.57(h) x 0.95(d)

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