Man Up: Cracking the Code of Modern Manhood

Man Up: Cracking the Code of Modern Manhood

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by Carlos Andres Gomez

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Inspired by the award-winning poet and actor’s acclaimed one-man play, a powerful coming-of-age memoir that reimagines masculinity for the twenty-first-century male.

Award-winning poet, actor, and writer Carlos Andrés Gómez is a supremely gifted storyteller with a captivating voice whose power resonates equally on the live stage and on the

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Inspired by the award-winning poet and actor’s acclaimed one-man play, a powerful coming-of-age memoir that reimagines masculinity for the twenty-first-century male.

Award-winning poet, actor, and writer Carlos Andrés Gómez is a supremely gifted storyteller with a captivating voice whose power resonates equally on the live stage and on the page. In one of his most moving spoken-word poems, Gómez recounts a confrontation he once had after accidentally bumping into another man at a club. Just as they were about to fight, Gómez experienced an unexplainable surge of emotion that made his eyes well up with tears. Everyone at the scene jumped back, as if crying, or showing vulnerability, was the most insane thing that Gómez could possibly have done.

Like many men in our society, Gómez grew up believing that he had to be ready to fight at all times, treat women as objects, and close off his emotional self. It wasn’t until he discovered acting that he began to see the true cost of squelching one’s emotions—and how aggression dominates everything that young males are taught.

Statistics on graduation rates, employment, and teen and young-adult suicide make it clear that the young males in our society are at a crisis point, but Gómez seeks to reverse these ominous trends by sharing the lessons that he has learned. Like Hill Harper’s Letters to a Young Brother, Man Up will be an agent for positive change, galvanizing men—but also mothers, girlfriends, wives, and sisters—to rethink and reimagine the way all men interact with women, deal with violence, handle fear, and express emotion.

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Publishers Weekly
In this self-help memoir, poet and performer Gomez uses his experiences as a springboard for grappling with the plight of contemporary masculinity. The child of a Colombian-born diplomat father and an American professor, Gomez shifted to one country after another, unsure about his identity and where he belonged. Even after his family settled in the U.S., Gomez frequently transferred between schools, and his parents’ divorce left him with even deeper questions about his place in the world. Over time, Gomez embraced his mixed cultural background and discovered that his uneasiness over his heritage could be transformed into a source of strength. Each chapter of the book opens with poetry or some kind of dramatized scene. Early chapters unfold in linear fashion, but as the book progresses the organization becomes more thematic—sex, heroism, love, death. A former social worker in the Bronx, Gomez identifies as Latino, and although he went to prep school and the Ivy League, his greatest empathy is for the oppressed. This dedication is admirable, but Gomez’s advice rarely rises above the self-evident: use condoms, treat women with respect, see other people as human beings. (Oct.)
From the Publisher
"Carlos Andres Gomez delivers a powerful message with Man Up. This book will help you look inside and ask yourself not only what it truly means to be a man today, but also how you can become more connected to the collective consciousness. An important read that will create a much needed dialogue."
Russell Simmons, author of the bestselling Do You! and Super Rich

"Carlos Andres Gomez does not claim to have all the answers, but that's what's great about this book. He addresses the preconceived notions of manhood and masculinity that most people go their entire lives never questioning. Man Up is the result of a thoughtfully examined life; a book that will make us all more enlightened."
Hill Harper, author of the bestseller Letters to a Young Brother

"In recent decades, America has publicly wondered what it means to be a man in this day and age. As we've languished in our search for role models, the possibilities have been an endless series of contradictions. With Man Up we finally have the model-the man-we've been looking for."
Zach Wahls, author of the bestseller My Two Moms

"I think [Gomez's writing] is wonderful…a strong, beautiful, smart voice."
Nikki Giovanni

Library Journal
"I will not rest until one dream is made real: that we might redefine what it is to be a man." Sound too dreamy? In fact, Gómez, New York's Slam King in 2006 and a two-time International Poetry Slam Champion, as well as an actor and a former social worker, is an energized example of street-smart credibility. We've heard the news that men should feel free to show such emotion, but Gómez delivers it for the 21st century.
Kirkus Reviews
A young Latino man recounts his coming-of-age amid the usual foibles inherent in growing up. In his debut memoir, writer/actor Gómez brings his one-man show to the page, exploring issues of fear, forgiveness, sexuality and what it means to be a man. A self-described "middle-class, racist, light-skinned Latino," the author often employs race as a lens through which to view his world. After an early childhood spent overseas, Gómez returned to a race-conscious America and became increasingly aware of issues regarding race. "During basketball games, at first I would be treated like everyone else, but when the referee heard someone call me Carlos, he would make tighter calls on me," he writes. Gómez's complaints are hardly limited to the basketball court, but soon included the failures of various schools, none of which seemed to give Gómez the support he required. The book becomes far more engaging when the author considers his own role in his life's choices, reflecting on the hard questions. He concludes that while he was occasionally a victim of the world's biases, oftentimes he played the part of the perpetrator as well, particularly in regard to his relationships with women. Gómez's straight-talk approach to his philandering (as well as his obvious regret) becomes the highlight of the book, a strand of narrative that seems to absolve him of past trespasses. A greater trespass, however, is Gómez's seemingly conscious choice to awkwardly assemble his life story to fit a storyline--a trick he often employed to impress women. "I am a pimp," Gómez admits, speaking of his past relationships, "one who conveniently coopted this narrative throughout his life, on frequent occasion, and exploited the act of honesty to get what he wanted." His mea culpa, while appreciated, does little to excuse the memoir its more indulgent and didactic moments. A confidently told but not wholly inspiring memoir.

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“I think [Gómez’s writing] is wonderful…a strong, beautiful, smart voice.”
—Nikki Giovanni

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