Mapping the Terrain of the Heart: The Six Capacities That Guide the Journey of Love / Edition 1

Mapping the Terrain of the Heart: The Six Capacities That Guide the Journey of Love / Edition 1

by Stephen Goldbart, David Wallin
     
 

ISBN-10: 0201608650

ISBN-13: 9780201608656

Pub. Date: 01/28/1994

Publisher: Addison-Wesley

If you have read other books about love that have fallen short, read this book. Mapping the Terrain of the Heart is an eloquent guide through love's diverse landscapes that provides a whole new way to think about love relationships. Both descriptive and prescriptive, it is a book for anyone looking to experience a committed relationship full of passion and tenderness.…  See more details below

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If you have read other books about love that have fallen short, read this book. Mapping the Terrain of the Heart is an eloquent guide through love's diverse landscapes that provides a whole new way to think about love relationships. Both descriptive and prescriptive, it is a book for anyone looking to experience a committed relationship full of passion and tenderness. In the labyrinth of love, every one of us has our own inner map. Psychologists Goldbart and Wallin lead us along the metaphorical superhighways on the map of love by charting six easily grasped skills - the six capacities of love - that are each necessary to a long-term, stable love relationship: the capacities for erotic involvement, for merging, for idealization, for integration, for "refinding," and for self-transcendence. The authors demonstrate in a very practical, hands-on way how individuals and couples can use these capacities to work on breaking down their usual defenses and grow toward a deeper understanding and connection. In defending ourselves against disappointment in love, we frequently - and often unknowingly - throw up obstacles, create roadblocks, and take detours around these six capacities. We think such detours will take us where we want to go in a relationship, but too often they do not. Goldbart and Wallin's sophisticated but accessible approach - using case studies and practical pointers throughout - is based on solid psychoanalytic theory while creating a completely new model for love relationships that also makes intuitive sense. Mapping the Terrain of the Heart offers a comprehensive psychology of love that maps out the paths to a successful relationship and shows how both individuals and couples can progress toward that ever-elusive goal of lasting and passionate love.

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780201608656
Publisher:
Addison-Wesley
Publication date:
01/28/1994
Pages:
285
Product dimensions:
5.73(w) x 8.54(h) x 1.17(d)

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments
Preface
Introduction: The Inner Map, the Six Capacities, and the Role of Defenses in Love1
Ch. 1The Capacity for Erotic Involvement: The Role of the Body in Love27
Ch. 2The Capacity for Merging: The Role of Boundaries in Love66
Ch. 3The Capacity for Idealization: The Role of the Romantic Ideal in Love116
Ch. 4The Capacity for Integration: The Role of Acceptance in Love159
Ch. 5The Capacity for Refinding: The Role of the Past in Love190
Ch. 6The Capacity for Self-Transcendence239
Conclusion: Passionate Love as a Journey of Transformation266
Bibliography277
Index281

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