Mapping Your Romantic Relationships: Discover Your Love Potential

Mapping Your Romantic Relationships: Discover Your Love Potential

by David Pond, Cosmic Patterns
     
 

ROMANCE IS A TWO-WAY STREET
(Keeping it alive requires more than love! And sex!)

Romance is delicate. It requires trust & communication. It calls for understanding & acceptance. It involves support & faith. Romance is like a fire that can consume & burn out, or a gentle flame that warms two people through thick and thin for all their lives.

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ROMANCE IS A TWO-WAY STREET
(Keeping it alive requires more than love! And sex!)

Romance is delicate. It requires trust & communication. It calls for understanding & acceptance. It involves support & faith. Romance is like a fire that can consume & burn out, or a gentle flame that warms two people through thick and thin for all their lives.

Falling in love is easy; so is falling out of love. Falling into each others arms is easy; extracting oneself can be hard. Mind-blowing sex can happen, and then be gone.

Romance is different. Love is sustained and sexuality becomes as much mind and spirit as physical and emotional. Romance turns two people into a couple. Romance is built upon knowledge each of the other person - knowledge of their needs, dreams, desires, fantasies, and of their strengths & weaknesses, and also knowledge of the couple they become. Relationship astrology provides this knowledge.

This unique book explains all this, and the accompanying CD-ROM enables you to cast the charts of any individual and allows you to print out exclusive interpretive reports to study and understand how to strengthen and enrich your relationship.

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Editorial Reviews

Library Journal
Those who are looking for a solid book about astrology and its role in relationships should consider this one. A professional astrologer and yoga teacher who holds a Masters of Science in experimental metaphysics, Pond simplifies the complicated world of astrology, explaining such fundamental topics as planets, signs, aspects, and houses. In Part 1, he takes readers step by step through the birth chart to provide personality profiles, while in Part 2, he deals with synastry, or the art of chart comparison. When two people in a relationship compare the planets in each partner's house, they get a sense of how their strengths and weaknesses complement one another or conflict. A CD-ROM (not seen) helps readers calculate and interpret relationships. Recommended for astrology and self-help collections in public libraries.-Marija Sanderling, Lane Memorial Lib., Hampton, NH Copyright 2004 Reed Business Information.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780738704203
Publisher:
Llewellyn Worldwide, Ltd.
Publication date:
06/01/2004
Series:
Astrology Made Easy Series, #3
Pages:
264
Product dimensions:
7.48(w) x 9.22(h) x 0.66(d)

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Getting Started
We are all different, that is obvious. But how often we feel uncomfortable when faced with our differences with others and feel that if one way is right, the other must be wrong.We're not like this when we go out into nature.We can go for a walk on a trail through the woods and enjoy the diversity of all the different types of plants and trees.
We don't pass judgment on whether a tree should be taller or shorter, greener or fuller;
we just accept the beauty of the diversity.Were it only that easy with people! If you could be that gracious and accepting of people, in all their diversity, you would be the most peaceful person on earth! But it is not that way for us in our everyday relationships.
People push our buttons-nature doesn't; people do.

Relationships push our buttons because we have buttons.We have issues that only get activated in relationships. Using astrology as a tool for exploring your relationships,
at a minimum provides a framework for exploring every nook and cranny of your personal relationship portrait, and every nook and cranny of the combined energy of a relationship.
Each planet represents a different aspect of your total being, and exploring each planet's make-up in your chart gives you a framework for understanding how it all fits together-the joys and the sorrows.

And truth be known, love does hurt, sometimes. Many people have the attitude of
“Love is a risk, you might get hurt!” I wish they had been taught the truth, that love does hurt and so does not risking love; that hurts too-the hurt of loneliness. It is not a risk that you might experience some pain on this planet; it's a guarantee!

We've been disempowered by the modern attitude that one shouldn't feel any type of discomfort. This neuters us.We are stronger than this. The pain of loss, the intensity of passion, jealousy, anger-these are not new emotions. But all of a sudden we find ourselves at a place in history where many people have been led to believe they can't handle emotional pain.Well, we can, we are, and we will.We become disempowered when we believe we shouldn't have to feel any discomfort.

Astrology is a way to regain a connection with your whole truth. It helps you reconnect with your soul heritage: the skills, abilities, talents, shortcomings, and challenges that your soul came here to experience. Simply studying your birth chart will help you know the complexity of who you are, and this will have a beneficial impact on all your relationships. If you know yourself from the inside out, you will be less dependent on other people's opinions of you. Sharing the whole you, the real you, could only be beneficial in relationships.

Throughout this book, you will learn how your personal birth chart can unlock the mysteries of what relationships mean to you. Your birth chart is highly individualistic and will give you information about your specific needs, talents, wants, and challenges concerning relationships. Studying your partner's birth chart gives you these same insights into your partner's needs in relationship and provides a tool for understanding why many of the differences between the two of you are absolutely appropriate.

Part One

Basic Astrology
Astrology is a language. Learning astrology is like learning any foreign language. You already have the ideas, concepts, and experiences of your life within you; you are just learning a new language for what you are already experiencing. To learn a language, you need to know its alphabet, and in astrology, this is made up of the planets, signs, houses,
and aspects. Think of yourself as being the director of the play of your life. As the director,
you have free will to script your play as you choose, but you need to know the nature of the cast you are working with. The actors and actresses are the planets; the signs are the roles the characters came to play; the houses are the settings for this all to take place in; and the aspects reveal how all of the characters get along with one another.

Planets: The characters; the actors and actresses in the play of your life.

Signs: The scripts and roles the characters are to perform.

House: The settings where the characters play out their roles.

Aspects:How the characters either support, or are in conflict with, each other.

Your birth chart itself is a map to all of these players in your life and how they are best staged to work out their individual roles in a way that doesn't interfere with the needs of other players in the chart. Otherwise, problems erupt. Every chart has its inconsistencies.
You can explore one part of your chart that describes you in a certain way, and it feels right. You can then explore another part of your chart that describes part of you that is equally true, yet is in conflict with the first part. This typically manifests as challenges in the outer world with others or situations that are an expression of the conflict within your own chart. This goes on until you script a lifestyle that allows for all of these discrepancies in your own life. Then these outer problems seem to disappear, or at least the impact they make on you diminishes.

The point of using astrology is to help you accept what you have been given to work with, and then to help you find healthy ways to incorporate this into your life. Your birth chart is the map to living in harmony with yourself and the world around you. Let's jump in.
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The Planets-
The Cast of Characters
We all have all the planets in our birth chart. You are just one person, but you also have the same full cast of characters within you that everyone else does. One person, yes, but various voices within you concerning relationships, emotional issues, career, anger, and even the urge to leave it all behind, to name a few. We all have all of these voices and more. In this presentation, I'm encouraging you to consider each of the planets as the various characters in the play of your life, remembering that you are the director. Your astrological birth chart is a map to all of these characters. By studying each of the planets in your chart, you come to know the natural way that each of these planets expresses itself.

The Sun
The leading actor in your play.
The center of the solar system that animates all of life is the same life-generating force in your chart. The Sun is your connection to the most vital aspect of your being-it is that important. Although not the all and everything, this is the part of you that animates and influences all other parts of you, your basic life essence. The sign your Sun is in describes the role you came to perform to feel this most vital connection to life.

The Moon
The leading actress in your play.
The Moon deals with the emotional side of life; thus the sign of your Moon represents your emotional style-how you express your emotions and how you receive emotional expression from others. The Moon also represents your most natural way of responding to change, how you nurture yourself and others, your comfort zone, and the environment in which you would be most comfortable. The Sun is how you project yourself,
and the Moon represents the habits you develop to rest, retreat, and restore yourself.

Mercury
The narrator.
Mercury is the messenger and communicator of the planetary family; it keeps the dialogue moving. The condition of Mercury in your chart shows how you gather information,
make it useful, and communicate it to others.Mercury's sign reveals your learning style and what you tend to think about. Your Mercury also shows your natural listening abilities.

Venus
The feminine romantic lead.
Venus is both the patron of the arts and the goddess of love. Venus represents your capacity to appreciate and enjoy beauty, and to bring these refinements into your life. It also represents your capacity to receive love and the qualities you are most attracted to in others. It is the part of you that you would most like to share in your close involvements with others.
For a man who hasn't incorporated his inner feminine, his Venus, along with his
Moon, will likely describe what he is looking for in a woman. For a woman, Venus represents her attitude of who she is as a woman, which is highly affected by the influence of the important women in her early life.

Mars
The masculine romantic lead.
Mars is your ability to act on your passions and desires. It is your warrior, the male, aggressive,
assertive part of your character that represents how you stand up and defend yourself, initiate action, act on your passions, and express your anger and frustration.
Mars combined with Venus represents your sexual magnetic field: what you value and want to receive through Venus, and how you go about getting this with Mars.
For a woman who has not yet incorporated her inner masculine, her Mars, along with her Sun, will represent qualities she is looking for in a man. For a man,Mars represents his attitude of who he is as a man, which is often affected by his early male role models.

Jupiter
The adventurer who always wants to expand the plot.
Jupiter, the largest planet, represents how you reach out to participate in a larger reality.
The types of beliefs and philosophy that guide you on your path are shown by Jupiter's sign, which also represents where you seek your rewards and opportunities. The condition of your Jupiter also shows how you express your generosity.

Saturn
The rigid authority figure, stern and unbending.
Saturn represents the nature of the challenges you have to face on the way to becoming a full authority in your life. In the early years of life, Saturn represents authority figures in the world around you telling you how you are supposed to be. Ideally, you ultimately internalize your relationship to authority, and Saturn then represents your self-control,
self-restraint, and self-discipline. This is what Saturn demands: self-mastery, that's all!
Until you have internalized this relationship to authority, you are subject to the approval and disapproval of others, the police, bosses, etc. Your Saturn placement shows where you have fears concerning authority.

Chiron
The mysterious healer who knows things others don't.
Chiron was discovered in 1979; thus we're still learning about its impact on people's lives. The myth of Chiron is that as a young centaur, he was playing with a poisoned arrow and wounded his thigh. This being a potentially fatal wound, he set upon a course of learning everything he could about healing. From dealing with this wound, his destiny of becoming a teacher of healers unfolded. You will find information about Chiron included in the interpretations in the CD-ROM included with this book.

Uranus
The rebel who always wants to stir things up.
Uranus is the rebel, the revolutionary, or the reformer, but never the conformer. It is the voice of the Awakener, who puts situations in front of you that force you to consider reality in a whole new light. Uranus is the cosmic trickster, unpredictable and unexpected.

Neptune
The glamorous illusionist who is not what she appears to be.
Neptune is the urge to escape the trivial concerns of everyday life; the urge for transcendence.
As one of the farthest planets from the Sun, Neptune pulls your attention to distant realms. Its vehicle is imagination, which allows you to consider realities that aren't immediately present, from the highs of creative and spiritual inspiration, to the lows of escapism and illusions.

Pluto
The intimidating power figure who's not above using sinister means to get his way.
Pluto is the farthest planet from the Sun in our current understanding of the solar system,
and represents those forces in your life that are furthest away from your conscious understanding of who you are. Pluto gives clues to your subconsciously held motivations that compel you to behave in certain ways without your conscious choice. Obviously,
this is not the easiest planet to get a grasp on. For the spiritually inclined, Pluto is where you must surrender to the role that you are to act out in the larger play of life;
your soul purpose and destiny. It also represents the parts of your character that you must purge in order to discover your soul purpose. It can represent buried shadow material that is too gruesome for the psyche to hold in the everyday conscious mind.

South Node
People and experiences from the past.
Your South Node describes the skills and talents you brought with you from your own past lives, and often, the experiences of your early family life. The South Node describes the area of life that is familiar and easy, but offers no growth.

North Node
People offering helpful direction for growth.
The North Node points to the area of life that will provide you with soul growth. But this is not familiar or comfortable, so it takes time to learn to draw from this source of food for the soul. It is not so much about effort and making your North Node work for you; growth comes by allowing experiences in the sign and house of your North Node.

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The Signs-
The Roles You Came to Play
The signs are the twelve archetypal roles through which the planets express themselves.
We all have all the signs represented somewhere in our chart, and they reveal the appropriate roles to follow in the area of the chart where they fall.

The Elements: Fire, Earth, Air, and Water
The elements are of key importance in understanding the signs. The elements are the four main qualities of life experience; the cornerstones of the human experience. They are fire, earth, air, and water.When you divide the twelve signs by the four elements, you get three signs in each element, representing the three stages of development of the particular element.

The Fire Element: Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius
Fire needs fuel, and the first thing that is evident of the fire signs is that they are all active signs; they need activity for the fuel to burn. Fire rises upward, and the fire signs all seek to live a life filled with inspiration, which leads to excitement, energy, drive, and an outgoing nature. Fire is the initiating, creative spark around which life coalesces.Where the fire signs fall in your chart is where you should “fire up” and project yourself fully into the affairs of these houses. Fire is the catalyst, the spark that ignites others into action;
thus fire signs are often found in leadership positions.

The Earth Element: Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn
“Down to earth” is a phrase that aptly describes the temperament of the earth signs, and the keywords reflect this: realistic, sincere, genuine, steadfast, organized, and skillful.
These are the attributes of earth; nothing fancy, but something very real. This is the element of the builders and the doers who have the patience and follow-through to bring projects to completion. The earth signs demonstrate competence in dealing with the material world, and where they fall in in your chart is where you are willing to be patient in building the quality of life that you believe in. The earth signs take pride in excellence in all they do, and are competent, capable, and reliable. This task-oriented element indicates where you like to stay busy attending to projects.

The Air Element: Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius
The air element is the realm of the mind, and these signs need ideas for nourishment like others need potatoes and carrots. Thinking, talking, writing, and interacting with others are some of the ways in which we engage the air element. This movement of ideas is what most affirms life itself to the air signs. The hunger to learn and to be in intellectually stimulating circumstances is primary. The air signs are the mental gymnasts that can become bored in a lifestyle with too much routine and not enough mental stimulation.
Interaction is the key for the air element. There is a strong need to get out and about and among people in the social realm. Where the air signs are in your chart is where you like to stay informed and keep tabs on what is going on.

The Water Element: Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces
The water signs introduce the emotional level of life, and thus represent the trickiest level of all because of our culture's ineptness in truly understanding the emotional side of life.With the water signs, it is important to accept the fluid nature of the emotional world, which is tidal like the great oceans: high tide, low tide, in rhythmic measure.We think of our emotions as up and down, or good and bad. If you have a strong emphasis on the water element in your chart, learn how to change “up and down” to “outward and inward.” What a difference this can make; there is less judgment implied. Water-sign people need to engage in healthy inward-turning activities and need plenty of quality time alone for this, but this is not what the outside world tends to support.Where the water signs are in your chart is where you need to feel, rather than think, your way through.

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The Houses-
The Settings Where Your
Characters Play Out Their Roles
The houses are the twelve areas that the chart is divided into, showing the settings, or where in life the activity of the planets is to take place. If you don't have any planets in a particular house, it doesn't mean this area of your life will be empty. For example, the
First House rules the body, but if you don't have planets in the First House, you will still have a body! It is best to think of empty houses as “neutral zones.” By comparison,
houses that hold a concentration of planets compel you to the activity of that house.
From a spiritual perspective, it could be said that you don't carry any karma in the empty houses; you are free to make of them what you will. Some of the houses, particularly the Seventh and Eighth Houses, deal more directly with the relationship process and will be explored more thoroughly in that light.

The First House and the Ascendant
The First House (also called your “rising sign”) shows how you go out to meet the world in anything you do; thus it is vitally important in that it molds how you approach everything.
It is not only your most natural way to present yourself to the world, it is also your best way of doing so. Your Ascendant describes your “attitude of approach” toward all that you do.
The First House rules the body and your self-image. It is your most immediate experience of life, where you are most directly aware of your separate sense of self and that which is closest to your self-identity. You will strongly identify with any planets in your
First House.

The Second House
The Second House describes the skills, talents, and abilities you develop to provide for your security. This shows your attitude about your own personal resources, including your money, possessions, and the skills you have for acquiring these needs. This is where you need to develop confidence in your ability to provide for yourself. Although this house is not directly related to relationships, indirectly, the personal security that you experience will have a huge impact on your relationships. To feel security, you must take it out of the future and cultivate the activities that make you feel secure in the here and now.

The Third House
The Third House relates to all issues connected to the everyday use of your mind: what you tend to think about, how you communicate, and what occupies your mind. Third
House activities are fueled by the desire to get the information that can improve your life; whether this is for educational or recreational reasons, the need is to be informed.
How you go about figuring things out when you are puzzled by something is also revealed here. The Third House is also the house of siblings and your first relationships outside of mom and dad.

The Fourth House
The Fourth House is your need to establish a home for yourself-a sanctuary where you can drop all your cares of the world and just be. The sign on your Fourth House describes your attitude toward and need to create roots in your life. All family issues, from the conditioning of growing up in your family of origin, to your nuclear family that you create as an adult, are the concerns of the Fourth House. The Fourth House represents the personal foundations you create that support every other aspect of your life. This is also where you will live and create a family with the people in your life whom you feel closest to.

The Fifth House
All matters concerning the heart are activated in the Fifth House. This house also describes what fun and play mean to you, and your approach to children, romance, entertainment,
and creative expression-how you pour your heart into whatever you do. The Fifth House awakens the need for recreation, celebration, joy, laughter, and songs from the heart. Since romance is a Fifth House issue, this area is of vital importance for relationship astrology.
There is more to a meaningful relationship than romance, but it sure adds a spark that is obviously missing when it is not there. If your relationship lacks romance, look to your own Fifth House to see how to unlock the expressive energy of romance.

The Sixth House
At first glance, the Sixth House of work, health, and daily routines doesn't seem to be involved much with relationships. It is also the house of all unequal relationships, as with employees or people you hire for services.

Can you care for yourself in a gentler way? I like the attitude of caring for your body as if it were a pet of yours. If you treated your body with the same loving care as you would for a pet, you would be a master of your Sixth House and would manifest relationships that were more supportive.

The Sixth House also governs your daily schedule and should not be understated in its ultimate impact on your life and relationships. If you have a picture of your ideal life,
and yet the ingredients are not there in the daily life that would lead to this ideal, how could you make it come about? There is your Sixth House homework: get more control over your daily schedule so that day by day, you are moving step-by-step toward your ideal life. In relationships, creating a daily schedule that blends with your partner helps.

The Seventh House
The Seventh House is most commonly called the house of relationships and is where you learn about yourself reflected through the other people in your life.We call the Seventh the House of Relationships as if it were a noun, but the Seventh House could more accurately be described as a process.We also call this the house of agreements, but then it necessarily involves disagreements, and specifically the process of bringing agreement to disagreement. This is the art of negotiation: the diplomacy of never settling for less than what is in your best interests, nor demanding more than what is fair. Making agreements,
for any reason, that do not honor the self, never lead to anything worthwhile.
Planets in your Seventh House need involvements with others to get activated. You can't do your Seventh House alone-it represents your shared experiences.

The Eighth House
The Eighth House is the house of sex, death, and shared resources. The Eighth House is where you go through the deeper transformations that come from having an intimate relationship, or not. Yes, the underlying need of the Eighth House is to undergo such a deep transformation with your partner that both of you are changed in ways neither could have done by yourselves, but the Eighth House is also the repository of all the memories of every time you've ever been hurt, stepped on, cheated, done wrong, and abandoned. Thus, the work of the Eighth House is to keep the heart open so the armor from old wounds won't block the need for intimacy.

The Ninth House
The Ninth House is your need to reach beyond the introspective world of the Eighth
House and engage in the opportunities for growth and expansion available to you. It is the house of travel, all things foreign and ethnic, higher education, philosophy, politics,
and all opportunities to expand beyond your current reality. It is where you take the experiences of your Eighth House and generalize them into larger truths, applicable to the entire world around you. It is a transition house, from the relationship quadrant to the social quadrant. This is where you form your beliefs that will be your operating system for how you relate to the larger world. It is where you need to feel connected to your partner's ethics and philosophical outlook on life. It is where you can take part in activities with your partner to expand the world of your experience together.

The Tenth House
The Tenth House is your house of aspirations, particularly concerning career and professional and social goals. If you aspire to something that is in your best interests, and this dovetails with that which is the public's best interests, you experience the honor and the notoriety of the Tenth House. Thus, it represents your public standing and reputation.
This house reveals your capacity to achieve and sustain success. In relationships, this drive for success can compete with the time it takes to have healthy relationships, so balance is required.

The Eleventh House
The Eleventh House is where you need to continue to expand the scope of your social involvement through friendships, your social life, and participation in groups and organizations that have social service at heart. This is where the “I” becomes “We,” and this participation with “We” gives you a sense of belonging. This house also reveals your capacity to have friendships and how important they are to you. Social causes, political activism,
and volunteering for community action are all ways of participating in the
Eleventh House.

The Twelfth House
In many ways the Twelfth House is the most mysterious and hard to understand of all the houses. It is where you are meant to stand back from the world and contemplate its meaning. The inner world holds prominence with the Twelfth House. It reveals who you are behind the scenes, in the dark. This is the house of spirituality, as the separate ego identity is meant to dissolve in the Twelfth as you become aware of larger realities and the fact that there is more going on than meets the eye. This is the interface between you and the informing guides, saints, deities, or angels that you believe in. The Twelfth
House is where you begin to understand spiritual law and how it manifests as karma in your life. The hidden realm of dreams also comes to life in the Twelfth House.

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Meet the Author

David Pond (Washington) is a professional astrologer, national speaker, yoga teacher, writer and guide for spiritual journeys to sacred sites around the world.

David was originally trained as an elementary school teacher. It was here that he learned how to present complex ideas in a simple manner. He then went on to gain a Master of Science Degree in Experimental Metaphysics from Central Washington University. His formal education complements his many years as a practicing professional astrologer, and his life long study of yoga and meditation, thus giving him an in-depth awareness of the field of metaphysics.

A well respected member of the metaphysical community, David has co-author two books: The Metaphysical Handbook, which sold over 20,000 copies, and Crystals, Stones & Chakras. He is also a contributing author in Astrological Counseling and The Mountain Astrologer.

David utilizes his skills by giving lectures, private consultations and taped readings. David has helped individuals find a deeper meaning in life, get in touch with their source of strength, improve relationship skills and identify and overcome problem areas.

David and his wife Laura organize yearly trips to sacred sites such as Bali, the Yucatan and Hawaii.

Cosmic Patterns Software is located in Gainesville, Florida and has a team of computer programmers, technical, and administrative staff who have been developing the Kepler software package since 1982. Kepler has gone through over 20 new versions since 1982, and has evolved and changed tremendously, keeping up with the changes in technology, and introducing more and more power, flexibility, and ease of use with each new version. Kepler has blossomed into an extraordinarily elegant, easy-to-use, flexible, and powerful program. Pegasus was released for sale in 1999.
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