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Before You Lead
For the greatest experience in leading your mentor couples,
be sure to look over a copy of both the Marriage Mentor Training
Manual for Husbands and the Marriage Mentor Training Manual for Wives so that you're well acquainted with the format. Familiarize yourself with the session outline and gather the necessary materials. Note: There is no video component for this session.
Session Outline (50 minutes total)
I. Welcome and prayer (5 minutes)
II. Icebreaker questions (10 -- 15 minutes)
III. Course overview and exercises (20 minutes)
Schedule, format, materials, etc. (10 minutes)
Training exercise: Exploring Potential Fears .
of Marriage Mentoring (5 minutes)
Training exercise: Exploring Personal Hurdles and Motivation (5 minutes)
IV. Question time and wrap-up (10 minutes)
Welcome and Prayer (5 minutes)
Welcome couples to the group and pray to open the session. Time permitting, and depending on who is doing the training,
you may want to ask the pastor or appropriate member of
the pastoral staff to offer a brief personal welcome and word of encouragement.
Icebreaker Questions (10 -- 15 minutes)
Direct couples to the three bulleted questions on page 11 of the manual. Have each couple introduce themselves and briefly answer at least one question of their choosing. Depending on the size of the group, you may need to monitor time per couple or break into smaller groups to ensure that everyone has an opportunity to share.
Course Overview and Exercises (20 minutes)
This initial session is intended to provide everyone a look at what is ahead for them in the marriage mentor training program,
including the overall schedule, individual session format,
necessary materials, and so on. Present the information contained on pages 12 -- 18 of the manual however you feel most comfortable, whether by summarizing, reading portions yourself,
or having a group member or two do the reading. Don't assume that couples have already read it. During this portion of the session, there are two exercises for everyone to explore, both individually and as a couple
(the first is on page 13, the second on pages
16 -- 17). Introduce them to each exercise, explaining that these are typical of what they can expect throughout the training. Give them about five minutes for each one --- a minute or two for the on-theirown aspect and the rest of the time for discussing answers with their spouse.
Question Time and Wrap-up (10 minutes)
Especially if there are no opportunities for questions during the session itself, be sure to save a few minutes for this at the end of each session. If you don't have an answer to a particular question,
make note of it and try to have an answer by the next session.
Ask couples to read, if possible, chapters 1 -- 7 of The Complete
Guide to Marriage Mentoring before the next session. Then close your time together in prayer.