The Marriage Project

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More love, more laughter—more lingerie.

What would marriages look like if for 21 days, husbands and wives put their marriage on project status? Plenty of books describe how to improve marriage, how to save a marriage, and how to ramp up the intimacy in a marriage. In The Marriage Project, Kathi Lipp shows readers how to put the fun back in marriage with 21 simple yet effective projects, such as doing something...

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More love, more laughter—more lingerie.

What would marriages look like if for 21 days, husbands and wives put their marriage on project status? Plenty of books describe how to improve marriage, how to save a marriage, and how to ramp up the intimacy in a marriage. In The Marriage Project, Kathi Lipp shows readers how to put the fun back in marriage with 21 simple yet effective projects, such as doing something they enjoyed together before they got married or flirting with their spouse via e-mail or text messages.

Each of the projects contains:

  • a project description
  • suggestions for how to complete the project
  • reports from other couples on how they accomplished the project
  • a prayer
  • a place to record project results

In addition to the daily projects, three bonus projects encourage couples to turn up the heat in the bedroom.

For couples who haven't given up on the dream of being head-over-heels with their spouse again, The Marriage Project provides just the right boost.

Included are tips on how to use The Marriage Project to revitalize marriages in a local church or small group.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780736925280
  • Publisher: Harvest House Publishers
  • Publication date: 12/1/2009
  • Pages: 227
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 0.80 (d)

Table of Contents

Foreword 11

A Leader's Perspective 13

Acknowledgments 17

Laying a Foundation: Preparing for The Marriage Project

1 Why The Marriage Project? 21

2 Being Married on Purpose 25

3 A Quick How-To Guide for The Marriage Project 31

4 Why 21 Days? 35

5 Prepping for the Projects 37

6 Creating Your Encouragement Crew 39

The Marriage Project Encouragement Covenant 43

7 How to Handle Tough Situations During The Marriage Project 45

8 Planning for Those Barry White Moments: An Introduction to Bonus Projects 51

9 Learning to Date Again: An Introduction to the Major Projects 59

10 "But My Marriage Isn't So Hot": The Marriage Project for the Rest of Us 69

11 Glossary of Terms 73

Building Up Your Marriage: Launching The Marriage Project

The Send-Off 77

Week 1 Projects

Project 1 In Less Time Than a Bad Sitcom: Give Each Other 30 Minutes 81

Project 2 It's All About Her: Make Her a Hallmark Holiday 89

Project 3 Getting to Know You: Get the Vital Stats on Your Mate 95

Project 4 Sweet Treat: Doing Something Special Just for Him 101

Project 5 Turning Up the Heat: Cooking Together 105

Project 6 Burning Passion and Burning Calories: Getting Active Together 109

Project 7 A Day to Pray: Present Your Spouses Requests to God 115

Major Project 1 Date Your Mate: Half and Half 119

Bonus Project 1 Sex: Circle It in Red on the Calendar 123

Week 2 Projects

Project 8 A Little Hands-On Attention: Give Each Other a Massage 127

Project 9 It's All About Her: Love, Love, Love 133

Project 10 Bella Notte: Have a Treat by Candlelight 139

Project 11 It's All About Him: R-E-S-P-E-C-T-What it Means toHim 143

Project 12 Lingerie 149

Project 13 Check Mates and Check Marks: Getting the Job Done 155

Project 14 Candlelight Weather Report: Carve Out Some Time to Just Sit and Talk Over Your Day 161

Major Project 2 Date Your Mate: Do Something You Enjoyed Before You Got Married 165

Bonus Project 2 Sex: Having "The Talk" 171

Week 3 Projects

Project 15 Look to the Example of Others: Who Do You Admire? And Why? 175

Project 16 It's All About Her: Couch Time 181

Project 17 Removing Obstacles: Getting Rid of Something that Drives Your Spouse Crazy 185

Project 18 It's All About Him: Couch Time 189

Project 19 All the Kids Are Doing It: Text or Email Some Sweet Nothings 193

Project 20 Clean Toilets Are Sexy: Help Out with One of Your Spouse's Chores 197

Project 21 What I Like About You: You Really Know How to Dance, How to Pay the Bills, How to Be Nice to My Mom 203

Major Project 3 Date Your Mate: Double Your Pleasure, Double Your Fun 207

Bonus Project 3 Sex: Ladies, It's Ladies' Night 211

Tools of The Marriage Project

The Marriage Project Planner 215

The Marriage Project: A Leader's Guide 219

Recommended Resources 225

Dear Reader 227

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  • Posted April 24, 2010

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    This was fun!!!!

    When I caught myself kissing the cat good-night and patting my husband on the head, I knew I needed help.

    After nineteen years of marriage and one kid, hubby and I are definitely getting complacent. That spark that used to power our relationship has long since been buried under responsibilities, work, and life in general. As an avid romance reader and aspiring romance author, I was embarrassed to realize how far I'd let my relationship go. When I read this description, "more love, more laughter - more lingerie," I knew The Marriage Project would be right up my alley.

    Little did I realize there would be "homework!" Or that I'd have to admit my flaws to another couple, at least long enough to rope them into doing the program with me. But, Kathy Lipp's philosophy that 21 days can make or break a habit convinced me to go ahead and buy the book.

    I'm glad I did.

    At first, we slogged through the daily assignments. Giving each other 30 minutes of gilt free time, getting to know each other, cooking together, getting active together, dating each other, praying together. Then we got to the biggie -- SEX!!! That's when this assignment really started getting fun.

    As of today, we are halfway through week two and I'm actually looking forward to each assignment (really can't wait for lingerie day). Already, we are enjoying each other more. Surprisingly, even after being together all this time, I've learned a few new things about my husband.

    I can't say if The Marriage Project is the next big cure for rocky marriages. What I can say is that I'm having a heck of a lot of fun and even after this short amount of time, I can see a difference in mine. Of course, it helps that I'm no longer mixing up my good-nights anymore. ;-)

    Reviewed by Tami Brothers
    The Petit Fours and Hot Tamales Blog
    Rating: 4 Petit Fours

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  • Posted April 21, 2010

    Fun and Creative Ideas

    Not just a book for women, Kathi Lipp provides a how-to plan for both husband and wife to spend twenty-one days focusing on the love and fun in their marriage. This plan is not about fixing your spouse, but about growing together through love and laughter.

    Twenty-one days is not so long to commit to a project, but long enough, Kathi Lipp hopes, to form new habits that will last beyond the twenty-one days. Through daily projects (ideas for being more intentional about marriage), weekly projects (date nights) and bonus projects (sex), Kathi Lipp provides ideas for both husbands and wives to bless each other in simple yet powerful ways, leading to "More love, more laughter - more lingerie!"

    The Marriage Project is an easy read filled with Kathi Lipp's fun and humorous voice and stories. These projects can be tailored to almost any situation, including parents with young children or married couples who need to stick to a tight budget. I have already tried a couple of the daily projects, even though my sweetie and I have not yet planned out our twenty-one day project.

    I enjoyed reading The Marriage Project , look forward to working through it with my sweetie, and would recommend it for any married couple.

    Thank you to Kathi Lipp for providing me with a free copy of this book to review.

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  • Posted April 17, 2010

    Fun Marriage Project

    The Marriage Project is by far the most fun marriage book for both men and women. There is a good balance of loving gazes into each others eyes and sex. It is a great way to get to know your spouse better, have a fun filled experience, repair a strained relationship, or re-ignite those honeymooner feelings. The best part is the projects are easy and it's only for 21 days! I absolutely love it, especially the stories and testimonials Kathi includes throughout the book.

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  • Posted April 13, 2010

    Great book!

    While my marriage doesn't really need any help, I was pretty excited to read this book to see what fun activities it would suggest. The basic premise of it is every day for 21 days you and your spouse do the project for the day. Easy, right?

    Let's talk aesthetics first. I am, sadly, one who judges a book by its cover. I like a book that looks pretty, something that sticks out on the shelf, and when you open the pages it looks easy to read. This book had all of that, thank goodness. And I was pleased that it wasn't super long!

    Now, the content. The first third of the book is in preparation for the marriage project. It outlines what to expect, why you're doing this, and everything in between. While I found this part a little too long, it was also helpful. Throughout the whole book she injects personal stories of either her marriage or others and ties them into the whole Project.

    The rest of the book deals with the Projects. There are 21 projects, 3 major projects and 3 bonus projects. Basically each day there is a project to do and every week there's a major project, which is a date with your spouse. The projects are so easy to do I couldn't believe it. For example, Project #6: Get Active Together, turn off the TV and connect through exercise; Project #11: RESPECT, write down the reasons you respect your husband; and Project #19: Text or Email Sweet Nothings. These are all things we can do every day with our spouses but we can never "find the time" to do them.

    I only have one complaint, and this is just me... it is a Christian-centered book so the entire thing is filled with Bible passages and prayers and talk about God. This does not mean that if you're not Christian (just like me), you can't read it. You definitely can! I knew when I was getting the book that it was being published under Christian non-fiction so I wasn't surprised. Anyway, I guess it isn't much of a complaint, just something I wanted to get out there!

    In the end, this book was really well written and I was excited as I was reading through it. I'm hoping in the next couple of weeks to jump right into the Marriage Project and see how it works for us. I recommend it!

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  • Posted March 1, 2010

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    The Marriage Project

    I absolutely loved this book! It's an easy and fast read, is well formatted, and is chock full of great information. I haven't formally done all of the projects yet, but it already has had such a wonderful impact on my marriage. Kudos to Kathi!

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  • Posted February 12, 2010

    The Marriage Project

    I found this book a great workbook to help fill a marriage with more spice. There are 21 projects in 21 days to do with your spouse. There are also 3 major projects and bonus projects. These projects are set up to be fairly simple and actually doable. Kathi Lipp, the author, has put together the best advice from every marriage book she had on her shelves and put it together in this book. So, yes you might have read it before somewhere else, but Kathi makes it very fun and rewarding to strengthen your relationship with your spouse. The book is a fast read and is especially great for couples that have been married for a while and need that fire rekindled. I have yet to do the projects with my husband because he is really not that much of a romantic and I haven't really asked him yet about what he would think about doing the projects with me. This is a book that works a lot better if done together, but can be worked alone.

    My marriage isn't perfect, but it IS wonderful and I love my husband dearly. My husband and I would love more time together and maybe if we worked on this together we might be able to do all the projects mentioned in this book. My husband and I do a lot of "dates" with the kids in tow because we have a medically fragile daughter and three other kids. We have planned out some really fun activities and outings that are kid friendly and work very well for our family, but every once in a while it is very nice to get a date night with just my husband. If we could do this together and make the projects work for our family I think that it would be a success, it is just that I have it a bit more complicated than most moms. The 3 Major Projects, dates once a week with only my spouse, are going to be a bit of a challenge in finding a babysitter that can watch all 4 of my kids and know a thing or two about my special needs daughter to not freak out if an occasion arose where they needed to call 911 or be able to give her medication or a bolus on time. I tried to teach some supposed willing church ladies the ins and outs of my daughter's medication, bolus feeding schedule, all about her diagnoses and what she likes, dislikes...etc. It was too mind boggling to them and far more than they bargained for. They ended up backing out and wondering if I was a kin to Wonder Woman doing all that I do with her and having three other children of whom I homeschool. Oh well, I'll have to see if I can arrange something if I am ever to do this with my husband.

    I received this book free from FIRST Wild Card Tours and Kathi Lipp to review.

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  • Posted February 8, 2010

    Spice things up in your marriage

    I think this is a great book to spice things up in your marriage. To get you out a of rut and into some "couple" time. This book delivers exactly what it promises to do: it helps couples be intentional about how they spend time together. The projects are practical and completely do-able. As with any project, you get out of it what you put into it and this book gets you to the place where you can focus on being a couple.

    When you pick up this book, don't let the number of chapters be daunting. They are quick reading so you can get started on spicing things up.

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  • Posted January 30, 2010

    A Good Place to Start Working on Marriage

    "The Marriage Project: 21 Days to More Love and Laughter" by Kathi Lipp caught my eye immediately because of its adorable cover. This book is a thought-provoking non-fiction read with ideas for 21 days worth of activities to spice up your marriage whether it is simply tired or if it is actually suffering.

    Personally, I have read so many marriage and relationship books lately that such a book has to be really spectacular to get kudos from me. "The Marriage Project" is a good book, and I am sure it will help many relationships by teaching people to be more thoughtful and encouraging of each other. But I've seen these ideas in other resources, so I am looking for something a bit more intense. Still, for those who are new to this subject matter or who just need a little help and a few basic ideas, this is a good read.

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