Married to the Military: A Survival Guide for Military Wives, Girlfriends, and Women in Uniform [NOOK Book]

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The Unofficial Scoop on Military Life

Whether you're dating, engaged, or married to an active military servicemember or reservist -- or you've just signed up yourself -- you may feel as if you've somehow married the United States military! While there are plenty of orientation books for him, there are almost no handy, user-friendly resources for you. Meredith Leyva, a military wife and founder of CinCHouse.com, the Internet's largest ...
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Overview

The Unofficial Scoop on Military Life

Whether you're dating, engaged, or married to an active military servicemember or reservist -- or you've just signed up yourself -- you may feel as if you've somehow married the United States military! While there are plenty of orientation books for him, there are almost no handy, user-friendly resources for you. Meredith Leyva, a military wife and founder of CinCHouse.com, the Internet's largest community for military wives, girlfriends, and women in uniform, details everything you need to know to manage day-to-day issues and get on with the adventure of military life. From relocation to deployment, protocol to finances, and career to kids, Leyva offers time-tested advice about:

• Keeping your love life together during deployments
• Relocating yourself and your family around the world
• Maintaining your own career when you're expected to move every three years
• Understanding what pay and benefits you're entitled to -- and how to maximize them
• Translating those odd acronyms and jargon

Written by a seasoned military wife, this smart and savvy guide will help you take control at every point of your servicemember's career -- from filing marriage papers as newlyweds to choosing prenatal and child care when you start a family to figuring out his pension when he's ready to retire.
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"For someone new to military life, adjusting can sometimes be overwhelming. Married to the Military provides great information and a commonsense approach that will help military wives and significant others make the best of their experiences." — Sylvia Kidd, director of family programs for the Association of the U.S. Army (AUSA) and spouse of the Sergeant Major of the Army (Ret.)
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781416593225
  • Publisher: Touchstone
  • Publication date: 11/1/2007
  • Sold by: SIMON & SCHUSTER
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 208
  • Sales rank: 154,110
  • File size: 976 KB

Meet the Author

Meredith Leyva is the founder and editor of CinCHouse.com, the Internet’s largest community for military wives and women in uniform. Leyva currently resides with her family in Norfolk, Virginia, where her husband is stationed aboard the USS Enterprise.
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Welcome to the Adventure of Military Life!

Welcome to the sisterhood of military women! We are military wives, girlfriends, moms, and women in uniform. Just like you, we had to familiarize ourselves with military life and get to know the community pretty darn quick, sometimes while getting engaged and planning a wedding and other times while reeling from the shock of our Reservist husband suddenly being sent off to war. With all the crazy acronyms, rules, and bureaucracy on top of finding bridesmaids' dresses, it's easy to get overwhelmed — but don't! You can master this, and we are here to help you.

In effect, this book is an orientation manual on military life based on the collective knowledge of military wives and women at CinCHouse.com. CinCHouse.com is a nonprofit organization and community of military women all over the world. In fact, the name "CinCHouse" is military jargon for "Commander in Chief of the House." That's what you are! And don't you forget it.

You are the CinC of your house because, while your husband is out playing G.I. Joe, you are primarily responsible for raising the kids, managing the household finances, and establishing yourself and your family in the community. This is no job for the faint of heart. Don't be deceived by the feminine looks of many military wives standing next to their macho men; underneath lies the heart of Scarlett O'Hara. Besides, although the military may joke that "if we wanted a servicemember to have a wife, we would have issued one," your needs and personal and professional goals are just as important as your man's.

Just remember this cardinal rule: Success in military life is all about knowledge and perspective. The purpose of this book is to give you information and a well-rounded perspective on military life so that you can make the right choices for yourself and your family, especially if you are starting a new life as a military wife. This book will:

• Introduce you to daily life in the military and what you can expect in terms of services and the community — and what is expected of you. • Help you understand the benefits and how to get the most out of military life (the business of your marriage). • Help you understand and take control of the two primary threats to your sanity: relocation and deployment. • Strengthen your marriage by helping you develop a strategy with your servicemember on how to live together.

DEALING WITH JARGON, POLITICAL CORRECTNESS, AND OTHER NONSENSE

Unfortunately, military jargon has become a language all its own. You can refuse to learn it and find yourself corrected or stuck not knowing what was said, or you can become familiar with the basics. We prefer the latter approach, although we limit our use of jargon as much as possible. After all, our hubbies signed up for the job, not us.

To help you through, every time a new acronym is introduced, we write it out fully and explain what it means. We explain military jargon in the same manner. Chapter 14 is a glossary entitled "Really Stupid Acronyms and Jargon," for your reference. The glossary is also good for translating lingo when on base, especially with the die-hard Marines.

Also, let's skip the political correctness and just acknowledge that this book is written primarily for women, namely military wives and women in uniform. The Department of Defense (DoD) is required to use the term "spouse," but we use the more accurate term "wife." While the number of military husbands has increased slightly, they still represent only 6 percent of all military spouses, and the vast majority previously served in the military and are already very familiar with it. That is very different from a 20-something civilian woman who is just entering or marrying into the military for the first time. We are women, and we want to act and be treated as such.

Additionally, this book takes a fresh approach by recognizing that women in uniform and military wives have common concerns. While military wives are primarily addressed because there are so many of us, many female servicemembers will find it useful because they share the same responsibilities for raising kids and managing households, finances, and relocation. There are plenty of orientation books on military jobs and protocol, but there are almost no good books about handling the family and personal aspects of military life. Thus, the term "military wife" also refers to those female servicemembers who feel married to the military and want solutions to these issues.

Finally, before I get hate mail from nitpickers, let me say that this book covers the general concepts behind key aspects of military life. Different military services, bases, and offices, however, will do things slightly differently. Form 840 on Base A may be referred to as Form 850 on Base B, even though they say the same thing. The two forms are just printed on different-colored paper. What is important is that the concepts are the same, and the book will give you the tools to get through them.

Your husband, boyfriend, or fiancé may freak out when he sees you reading this book. Why on earth, he'll say, do you need to understand this stuff? He'll take care of everything! And he can explain what you do need to know when you need to know it. Right?

Wrong, bucko! You need to know about military life so you can control your family's destiny, and he may not always be around to explain how things work or to handle the situation. Your gut instinct tells you that. What you can tell your man is that, by reading this book, you will feel better about entering the adventures of military life, and you will be better able to support him in his mission and have a stronger relationship.

The Least You Need to Know • You are neither the first nor the last woman to face the complicated world of military life. • This book is designed to help you succeed in taking control of your destiny and strengthening your relationship with your servicemember. • The key to controlling your destiny is to learn about military life, including all its acronyms and jargon.
Resources • http://www.cinchouse.com — A nonprofit organization and the Internet's largest community of military wives and women in uniform.
Copyright © 2009 by Meredith Leyva
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Table of Contents

1 Welcome to the Adventure of Military Life! 1

Dealing with Jargon, Political Correctness, and Other Nonsense 2

2 Your First Day as CinCHouse 6

Getting Documented 6

Getting to Know Your Base 11

3 Controlling Your Family's Destiny 15

Getting Started in the Military 16

Understanding Career Tracks 20

The Daily Grind 21

The Reality of Relocation 23

Reservists' Duties 26

Differences Between Military and Civilian Jobs 27

4 Community and Family Resources 30

Government and Nonprofit Organizations 30

Civil Servants vs. Bureaucrats: How to Get Business Done on Base 34

Spouse Clubs and Command Family Support Groups 36

What Are Other Military Wives and Female Service Members Like, Anyway? 38

The Case for Getting Involved 40

5 Protocol, or How to Get Along in a Hierarchy 44

Ranks and Privileges 44

What the Uniform Means 46

Enlisted Rank Insignia 50

And Your Name Is...? 54

What to Wear? The Appropriate Dress for Every Military Occasion 56

6 Your Portable Career 62

Education 68

7 Personal Finances-Military Style 70

How Military Pay Works 70

Reserve Pay 74

How to Read a Leave and Earnings Statement (Pay Stub) 76

Taxable vs. Nontaxable Income 85

Problems with Military Pay 85

Direct Deposit 86

Tax and Regulatory Benefits 87

Lower Your Interest Rates by Going to War 88

Retirement Benefits 89

How Politics Affects Your Retirement 91

Survivor's Benefits and Life Insurance 91

Educational Benefits 93

8 Health Care Benefits 97

Myths About Military vs. Civilian Care 97

Tricare: The HMO for the Military 100

How Tricare's Coverage Rates 102

Tricks for Getting the Best Health Care 103

When a Family Member Has Special Needs106

Tricare Regions and Contact Information 109

Dental Care 112

9 Relocation and Housing 113

Moving Your Household Goods 115

Reimbursement for Your Travel 119

House-Hunting Leave 124

The Logistical Process of Moving with the Military 126

Storage 127

Shipping Your Cars 127

Shipping a Mobile Home 128

Shipping Firearms 129

Relocating Pets 129

Traveling Overseas 130

Moving Out 131

The Big Trip 136

Moving In 136

Housing 139

Easing the Transition to a New Community 144

Pearls of Wisdom for a Great Move 145

Master Relocation Checklist 146

10 Marriage Hoo-ah! 151

Creating a Family Strategy and Lifetime Dreams 151

A Big "If" 158

Calling All Military Men: Better Ways to Communicate with Your Wife 159

Handling Deployment Separation Together 161

Extra Parenting Skills for Military Couples 165

11 The Adventures of Military Life 169

Furnishing a Military Household 169

How to Vacation at Almost No Cost 172

Children's Activities (for Kids from Two to 92) 173

12 What Happens When the Worst Happens-and What to Do 177

When You Must Live Near an Ailing Family Member 177

If you Must Separate from an Abusive Spouse 178

When Your Service Member's Pay Gets Screwed Up and Your Have No Money for Groceries or Bills 178

When You Have Emergency Expenses 178

When You Desperately Need to Track Down a Deployed Service Member 179

When Both Parents or a Single Parent Is in the Military and Forced to Deploy 179

When a Service Member Dies 180

When Your Man Comes Home "Changed" 180

13 Preventing Trouble in Paradise 187

14 Really Stupid Acronyms and Jargon 190

Acknowledgments 199

Index 201

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Interviews & Essays

Oh, Those Men in Uniform!
How to Know if Your Soldier Boy -- and Military Life -- Is Right for You
It doesn't take a war in Iraq to know that men in uniform are sexy. They combine the best of both worlds: the bad boy who kicks butt and the stable, hardworking patriot with husband potential.Military romances tend to be wild and fast. Stories of two-month courtships and Internet affairs leading to brass-studded weddings abound. Boyfriends and husbands calling up their women to say they have port call in Australia, and can she fly out immediately for some sunny days and hot nights?The idea of marrying into military life is also appealing. Traveling around the world, teaching your children foreign languages, and racking up some of the most adventurous cocktail stories your friends have ever heard. One woman tells how she and her fellow wives flew to Thailand to meet their husbands as they were heading in for port. They rented a speedboat and buzzed around the aircraft carrier in their bikinis as their husbands (and the rest of the crew) hooted and hollered from the deck above.But before you agree to meet in him Vegas for a shotgun wedding, consider the myths and hard facts about military men -- and military life -- to make sure you're picking a winner.Myth #1: All military men are stable providers.Remember that kid in high school who couldn't get his act together, so he enlisted in the Army? The military services do a great job at cleaning up kids like that. For starters, these guys get clean-shaven faces, sleek haircuts, a buff new bod, and mandatory fashion. Of course they look good! But the new look may be hiding the old loser inside.Nearly 40 percent of first-year Marine recruits drop out. And most servicemembers only stay in for a couple of years, partly because the services simply don't need a 35-year-old doing what a 20-year-old should be. So ask your dreamboat some hard questions. How long has he been in the military? What has been his career track? Why did he sign up, and what are his future plans? Here's a hint: A 29-year-old first-year recruit probably isn't husband or boyfriend material.Myth #2: Military pay will support me and my kids.Many women deliberately marry servicemembers to find a father and financial support for their kids. What they don't know is that servicemembers typically earn 7 percent less than their civilian counterparts. The military makes up for it with free services like healthcare and education benefits, but the fact remains that nearly two-thirds of military spouses must work to support their families.Myth #3: I've been single so long, I won't mind my husband deploying.A typical length of deployment for sailors is 6 months minimum, and up to 18 months if he's heading for the Middle East. Don't fool yourself -- or let him fool you -- that he is somehow immune. If your boyfriend doesn't deploy now, it's probably because he's on shore duty or the equivalent. In a year or two, he will be moved to a new post where he will be expected to deploy frequently.The first deployment is always difficult for couples, but especially newlyweds. The good news is that experienced military spouses learn to cope with it over time and even look forward to it as an opportunity to go back to school, spend time with friends, or take that karate class they've been looking at.Myth #3: With my husband by my side, relocating around the world will be easy.Moving can be fun if you're traveling together and living in exotic locations. I've lived all over the United States, including the beaches of San Diego and Panama City, Florida, and a quaint New England autumn in Mystic, Connecticut. However, moving is never easy. It tops the lists of most stressful events. It's even worse when you are moving to a foreign country. You not only have to learn a new language and culture, but there are reams of paperwork to deal with. Although the military pays for your moving expenses, the average military family loses $800 with every relocation. Your family may live 10 times zones away, and any valuable collectables are guaranteed to get broken by burly movers. Finally, if you are moving to a post where your husband expects to deploy frequently, he may be shipped out within days of arrival, leaving you to unpack, manage the kids, find transportation, and interview for jobs.Myth #4: I will have no problem progressing in my career as a military wife.The average military family moves every three years, often to rural or overseas locations. As a result, many wives must readjust their skills and career goals just to stay employed over multiple relocations. For women who are focused on only one career track, military life can thwart their dreams. The good news is that, with the help of modern technology, wives are beginning to start up their own businesses and maintain their jobs across geographic boundaries or at each new base.Myth #5: My man's job has nothing to do with combat, so I won't have to worry.Jessica Lynch proves that nearly all positions in the military deploy to combat zones. Troops and ships need medical, computer, logistics, and accounting staff just like they do back home. Like all military spouses and girlfriends, there will come a day when you, too, will be fixated on CNN for any news about your man's unit.These are the hard facts of military life, and not every woman is equipped to handle them. The key is to turn off the recruitment ads and take a hard look at yourself and your man. Women with an independent spirit, a sense of humor, and solid men can certainly have the adventure of a lifetime. Meredith Leyva
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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 21, 2006

    Good Guide for New Military Wives

    I had to smile a bit at the reviews that insisted this was a Navy/Marine Corps book, or that bemoaned the lack of in-depth detail. I felt it was clear from the introduction that this book was largely for new military wives (and as a Navy wife, I thought at first that the author was an Army wife--I did not sense a Navy/MC-centric tone to the book at all). This book does a good job of introducing new military wives to a lot of the idiosyncrasies of military life--and it also contains some info that could be good for the long-term military wife. It is especially strong on the bureaucracy that can drive a military wife crazy--and I say that as a 10-year Navy wife who was also a Naval officer for 7 years. The book deals mostly with generalities, which is appropriate for a book intended for wives in all services, but contrary to a statement in an earlier review, it also includes details such as the rank insignia of all members of the military, officer, warrant, and enlisted. My only problem with this book is that occasionally it takes a very pugilistic tone. Ms. Leyva appears to have had some negative interactions with her husband's commands, and that comes through with a touch of an attitude that the service (and specifically the service member's command) is 'the enemy' to any wife. There will always be bad commands, but in general the commands will not be as negative towards families as Ms. Leyva implies. The best recommendation that I can give is that I will be purchasing multiple copies of this book. My husband is currently a ship's Executive Officer, and will take command in his next tour, and as the XO/CO's wife, I will be handing out copies of this book to the newly married wives in his command.

    3 out of 3 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted July 24, 2009

    Great book for New Military Wives!

    My husband is in the Air Force and I read this book prior to his joining and it gave me great insight into military life. It gave information about what to expect when you are new to a military lifestyle. The author is a Navy wife so some of the information is on the Navy lifestyle but it provides information for every branch of the military including how to set up your insurance and housing and what to expect from others on base. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is a new military spouse or fiance!

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 30, 2008

    Helped a new military spouse

    I am the spouse of a man in the AF, and this book helped me SO much when he was in basic. It really gave me some basics as to what to expect. This may be an older book (back in 2003), but face it, this military never changes! I still find myself pulling this book out to help me read my husband's pay stubs, refresh my memory on rankings, and abbr. help! I loved it!

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 17, 2006

    Waste-O-Time

    As many have pointed out, this is a guide (in the most liberal sense of the word) for Navy or Marine Wives. I'm not surprised to see that many of the reviewers giving high ratings for this book are newbies. Some of the information would seem to be useful and maybe even ingenious, but with a little time and experience, I'd imagine it would be a hard lesson for a newbie to find out that much of the information is incorrect and/or relates only to the Navy or USMC. Most wives with any significant experience with the military will be able to tell you that not only is the information in this book easy to gain by a simple Google search, but it is sorely outdated. Tips on how to advance your husband's career (but not your own!) and use fabric and starch for wallpaper may be a godsend to some, but I feel confident in saying that most of us who read this book were probably looking for information that was actually relevant to the military and dealing with day-to-day issues like healthcare and dealing with the military bureauocracy. The book also seems to be little more than a shameless recruitment tool for the companion website. After reading this book, I had to see what that was about, and again I was disappointed. The members seem to be young, uneducated, and confused about their roles in relation the military. The site is also part of a non-profit organization that is supposed to help military families in need. However, after learning of many complaints and investigations of fraud at certain chapters of this organization, I decided that I'd be better off seeking support online at other (reputable) organizations and on base and my Family Support Center. I only mention this in the book's review because profits from the book help fund the website and organizations associated with it. I would suggest that any military wife, young or old, experienced or new, steer clear of this book, the site, and the 'non-profit' organization involved. If you still want to check it out, take advantage of your local library service instead of contributing your hard-earned money to this book and its associated organizations.

    2 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 7, 2006

    This book was very disappointing.

    My husband is a Colonel in the Marine Corps. Needless to say, I am a 'true' seasoned military wife with vast experience in all aspects of military life. I often find myself in the honored position of mentoring and socializing 'newbies' into military life which is why I was compelled to read this 'informational book' in the first place. I would NOT recommend this book to a spouse who is new to the military. It is clear and evident that Leyva herself does not have the experience and personal knowledge of lending advice to those who marry into this complicated way of life. Her book seems to be more self-promoting than informational. Leyva provides information that is both unrealistic, inaccurate and outdated. Rather, I would strongly advise 'newbies' to use more accurate and updated resources by visiting thier family service centers on base and attending command seminars. Get involved in a spouse club and find out who are the REAL seasoned spouses are and feel free to ask as many questions as you need. Seasoned wives are a wealth of information! Do not take advice from this book!

    2 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 21, 2014

    Great for a know nothing like me!

    These bad reviews I cannot understand. I loved this book! I was totally new to the military life and it really helped me understand some of the things that I wouldn't have known otherwise. If you are already pretty familiar it may not be the book for you. Why would you give a bad rating for something just because you don't fit in the population it was written for? I gained a lot of valuable knowledge and am extremely glad i found this book!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted May 15, 2010

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    Wonderful and Helpful book!!!

    My boyfriend, who is in the Army, bought this book for me before he left for Basic Training. I learned so much about how the military works from a spouse's point of view. Now, my boyfriend has become my husband and I'm turning to this book again to learn about new situations that I will have to handle as an Army wife. I also gave a copy of this book to a friend of mine who started dating a sailor. It was a great help to her in understanding some of the tasks her boyfriend did daily. This book is so informative and written from the perspective of an experienced woman speaking to a world of friends. I'm so glad to have this book in my personal library!!!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 6, 2009

    I wish I had this book a year ago

    I've been a military wife for a little over a year now and I wish I would have know about this book when I first moved on base. It gets a little confusing since every branch of the military opperates differently but is great for general information!

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted June 22, 2009

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    Great For the military Wife

    This book really helped me understand marriage in the military. It was a great book overall and has helped me learn how to deal with the life my husband and I have choose to live.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 1, 2008

    Great book.

    I have been with my Soldier for 6 years. I thought after running a battalion FRG that I knew most everything there is to know about the Army. I read this book to see if it was all I had heard it was. Let me tell you it was!!! I have been recommending this book to everyone I know. I learned a few things from it and I refuse to get rid of it. I love to keep it around for reference. There is no bias in this book towards branch of service nor is there towards officer or enlisted. I think this is something that every new and seasoned spouse should have.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 13, 2006

    Very Informative !

    I am a new Air Force Wife and this book is great ! It is so informative and definitely is preparing me for what to expect when I move on base with my husband. All the jargon is a little confusing but the book breaks it down for you so it is easy to understand. Thank you so much for writing this book, I searched everywhere for a book that would help me out and this book, I HIGHLY recommend to ALL military wives.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted February 6, 2006

    Good For NEW Marine/Navy Officers Wives

    I am a soon-to-be Officers Wife. And I found the book 'somewhat' informative.. BUT comming from an Air Force Brat.. Not something that should have been targeted towards all brances of the service. This book should have been Called 'Married to the Department of the Navy: A reference point for young Wives & Girlfriends of Officers in the Marine Corps and Navy.' So, if you are in the Market for a book to assist Officers spouses in the NAVY or Marine Corps.. Buy it. If your are looking for something for ARMY, Air Force or Coast Guard. Dont waste your money, Try Chicken Soup for the Military Wives Soul.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 4, 2005

    A wonderful resource

    This book is nothing short of amazing. I couldn't ask for a more informative book for wives of servicemen. It covers every topic I can think of.Something I would def reccommend to another military wife.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 19, 2005

    Great Book

    I just got married and I was very clueless about the military and everything they have to offer. This book is great. I loved it. I recommend it to all the new military wives. Does anybody know about any other books that will help me?

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 21, 2004

    Great look at the life

    I want to thank the author for a job well done...being newly married to a 'boot' Marine, I found this book as helpful as he found 'Stand By to Fall Out' for his on base and in the bushes time.... these two books allowed us both to learn...and grow together

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 23, 2004

    It REALLY gets you prepared

    This book has really gotten me prepared for what to expect in the Military life. It has made me understand that you make it what you want. My husband and I realize that this is a chance of a lifetime; this is going to be a great journey! I can't wait to take advantage of the benefits of the military as well, a lot of people don't take advantage of them.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 16, 2004

    'Married to the Military' ROCKS!

    I knew this book was going to be very useful and fun to read. I also knew that it would be jammed packed with information! The correct information! I also knew that I would feel very comfortable with it even though I am 'just' a girlfriend. The reason I knew these things is because I am a member of CincHouse.com. I was so glad that the title to the book includes everyone. I wasn't surprised that it did because the web site is so welcoming of everyone. When I received my book I read it cover to cover that very first day. I have also purchased a copy to keep in my car!! I loved the 'Did You Know' sections and of course the 'War Stories'. I am now re-reading it with my yellow highlighter and with my sticky note flags!! I would suggest that anyone with a service member in their lives to read this book. Many of the male service members are reading it also! I knew that Meredith Leyva would write a book that was straight to the point with lots of humor just like talking to your girlfriend! I am so thankful that I found the web site and I am so grateful to Meredith for writing 'MY' Survival Guide!!! THIS IS A MUST READ!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 25, 2004

    Jam packed with great info!

    Married to the Military has helped me understand a lot of things that my husband didn't have the time to explain before. The USMC puts everything into terms and codes and I before I just didn¿t get it and I think I was driving him nuts trying to understand. LOL This book has broken it down so well that even the most difficult aspects on military life are explained with ease. This book should be handed out at the front gate to all new military wives! :) I just wanted to send out a huge thanks to the author for writing it and for her military wives support site CinCHouse.com they have both been a great help to my new found role as a military wife!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 20, 2004

    Ignore the Other Reviews!!!

    As a newer marine corps wife I can tell you that this book does really answer all your questions. Other people seem to have a very different opinion, yet I can understand why. The author has very accurate info and even though it may differ from each branch of the service, I think she covers most of the bases needed. As far as her being a Navy Officers wife Who Cares!!!! My husband is a 'lowly' enlisted MP and I seem to get what I need done on base and off. It seems like the other reviewers need to carefully re-read the entire book. It is a reference guide! And is not meant to teach 'wives' how to divorce their husbands- It clearly states that some of the crud wives put up with is because of the few other wives that used the previous system to their advantage. This book is also written for the enlisted female, since she may still be a wife and mother and is definately married to the military. As a Key Volunteer and Military Housing Resident Volunteer I strongly urge you to read this book, several times. It gives advice I could not live without, and can definately pass on to other wives in our unit.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 25, 2003

    Handy Dandy Book!!

    I find this book full of information I would be glad to pass on to anyone who is taking the step of getting married to the military. So many helpful things... from purchasing uniforms to reading your LES. Its a kind written book, and the real life wives who are in there... leave you with the impression that you are not alone, and you can do this!! I keep it handy to help others or refresh my experience to date! I am getting one for my niece who is getting married to her military man. I totally without reserve recommend getting this book, and passing it on to others. Give it as gifts to girlfriends and fiances of military men! It can only serve to make them an asset to their career!

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