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Marrying Anita: A Quest for Love in the New Indiaby Anita Jain
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After three years of dating, Anita Jain finally got fed up with the New York singles scene. As her Indian parents continued to pressure her to find a mate, Jain couldnt help asking herself the question: is arranged marriage really any worse than Craigslist? Full of romantic chance encounters, nosy relatives, and dozens of potential husbands, Marrying Anita is a refreshingly honest look at our own expectations and the modern search for the perfect mate.
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In 2005, Jain announced in a New York magazine article that she was tired of American dating and would consider an arranged marriage, an Indian tradition she had always resisted. Only mildly piqued by her parents' endearing obsession with brokering a shaadi, she had ribbed her father for writing her profiles on Indian matchmaking Web sites. In a radical return to tradition, she decides to move to her native India in search of a husband. Pondering the foibles of American dating strengthens her resolve to embrace life in Delhi, even as she adjusts to its new cosmopolitan energy and Western attitudes. Jain struggles to negotiate the security of tradition with the allure of modernity. She is flummoxed by the caste system as well as the stigmas attached to single women. Torn between "old-world" suitors and the confident, latter-day Indian male, she concedes, "Dating in Delhi is no less complicated, perplexing and ego-deflating than in New York." Even the ad her father places in the Times of India matrimonial pages ("thirty-three years old, Harvard graduate... looking for broad-minded groom") fails to arouse much interest. With her world-weary yet earnest voice that finds humor in humiliation, Jain is sure to delight readers. (Aug.)Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.
What if Bridget Jones had taken more drastic measures to find true love? At 32, Indian-born American journalist Jain realized that New York bachelors could project witty and cultured personae over drinks or online but then fell short on personality or commitment. After years of having her relatively progressive California family suggest an arranged marriage, or at least a serious boyfriend, Jain decided to return to India (which her family had left in her infancy) to find a loving and committed man. This is her story, written in a literary yet compulsively readable voice and with remarkably fresh and merciless analyses of dating trends in both New York City and the curiously liberated "New India" social climate of Delhi. Her friends in both countries reveal an array of nontraditional-and occasionally shockingly traditional-approaches to making a living and building a family in strained and colorful global cities. Believe it or not, there are new things to be said about love and friendship, and Jain covers them. Librarians should note the pervasive sexual and drug-related content. Recommended for academic and large public libraries.
“A thoughtful, incisive exploration of the nature of connection.” New York Times
“A lively, irreverent look at the changing societal and sexual mores of newly globalized Indian cities…Richly detailed.” Washington Post
“This is a fun book and a smart, funny woman.” Newsday
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Anita Jain has worked as a journalist in a number of cities, including Mexico City, London, Singapore, New York, and New Delhi, where she currently lives. She graduated from Harvard University and grew up in northern California.
Anita Jain has worked as a journalist in a number of cities, including Mexico City, London, Singapore, New York and New Delhi, where she currently lives. She graduated from Harvard University and grew up in northern California.
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Very disappointing. Had hoped the writing would capture tody's vibrant, evolving Indian culture. Instead the read was nothing more than a trite 30-something blog rag sheet.
A little slow but still a good read!
An easy and quick read, but there's a whole lot of waiting around for something to happen. I didn't find the main character to be particularly likeable and the end of the book left me asking, "So that's it?"
I picked this book up yesterday and couldn't put it down! What a wonderful memoir!
The author wrote in simple and charming language.you cannot resist to read the whole book in one sitting. This author has gone to India and described her experience in interesting way.