Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt

Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt

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by Peg Streep
     
 

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An exploration of the darker side of maternal behavior drawn from scientific research, psychology, and the real-life experiences of adult daughters, Mean Mothers sheds light on one of the last cultural taboos: what happens when a woman doesn't or can't love her daughter.

Mean Mothers reveals the multigenerational thread that often runs through

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An exploration of the darker side of maternal behavior drawn from scientific research, psychology, and the real-life experiences of adult daughters, Mean Mothers sheds light on one of the last cultural taboos: what happens when a woman doesn't or can't love her daughter.

Mean Mothers reveals the multigenerational thread that often runs through these stories—many unloving mothers are the daughters of unloving or hypercritical women—and explores what happens to a daughter's sense of self and to her relationships when her mother is emotionally absent or even cruel. But Mean Mothers is also a narrative of hope, recounting how daughters can get past the legacy of hurt to become whole within and to become loving mothers to the next generation of daughters. The personal stories of unloved daughters and sons and those of the author herself, are both unflinching and moving, and bring this most difficult of subjects to life.

Mean Mothers isn't just a book for daughters who've had difficult or impossible relationships with their mothers. By exposing the myths of motherhood that prevent us from talking about the women for whom mothering a daughter is fraught with ambivalence, tension, or even jealousy, Mean Mothers also casts a different light on the extraordinary influence mothers have over their female children as well as the psychological complexity and emotional depth of the mother-daughter relationship.

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Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780061651366
Publisher:
HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date:
10/13/2009
Pages:
235
Sales rank:
384,338
Product dimensions:
6.30(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.10(d)

Meet the Author

Peg Streep is both the daughter of a mean mother and the devoted mother of an adult daughter. She is the author or coauthor of nine books, including Girl in the Mirror: Mothers and Daughters in the Years of Adolescence and the bestselling Necessary Journeys: Letting Ourselves Learn from Life, both with Dr. Nancy L. Snyderman. Streep holds degrees in English from the University of Pennsylvania and Columbia University. A native New Yorker, she is married and lives in Burlington, Vermont.

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Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt 4.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 9 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book spoke to me like no other. For the first time, I felt my story had been told and I'd been heard. You don't have to have had a Mean Mother to appreciate the findings in this book. Peg Streep presents a balanced look at the issue with stories from women whose experiences share a common thread, yet are unique to the individual, while backing up her findings with the science that helps explain this phenomenon. And there's hope. I am the product of a mean mother. I am now caring for her in her old age. I have also raised two of my own daughters in a most loving environment. I can now look at my childhood and know that my success as a parent is, in part, due to the pain that I suffered and vowed not to repeat. My hope is that this book will open up dialogues among society, and women in particular, that will help us understand, accept and heal the wounds so many have suffered. This is one book that will be kept as a reference for the healing hug and empowerment I never got from my mother.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I read this book hoping that it would be able to shed some light on the relationship between me and my mother, It did just that. It not only showed that my mothers issues are her issues and that the way she treated me had nothing to do with me but who she was and how she was raised. The book also showed the role that the father plays in the situation between mother and daughter. The book had stories and situations from different women within different age brackets and showed that this is a real issue even though it is often kept quite due to the stigma of being called a "Mean Mother".
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Sometimes you just want to know why, and know you aren't alone in your experiences. This book was perfect for that. It is not another self-help book, but goes more in depth as to "why" and depicts many other women's stories. I felt so much better after reading it, and most importantly, no longer felt like it was my fault or that I was alone. If you’re looking for self-help books, you should keep looking. This is a book for acquiring knowledge and understanding of mean mothers, and will help you feel not so alone.
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