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A baby is God's opinion that the world should go on. CARL SANDBURG
Starting a family is an act of supreme optimism. And hope springs eternal in a mother's heart. When things go wrong, our hope for a better future carries us through. We believe in the gifts children offer the world, and we have faith in our ability to raise the next generation. We need to hold on to and nourish this belief, for it can make all the difference in the world, for us and for our children.
I will dream of a better tomorrow where the special gifts of children fill the future, and will work to build a world where those dreams can come true.
The pleasure of being a parent isn't reasonable or objective . . . it is the extraordinary experience of having short people who hang around a while, who can change you as they change, who push and prod and aggravate and thrill you and make life fuller. Who are, more than anything else, irrationally special to you. ELLEN GOODMAN
Motherhood is good, bad, and everything in between. The joy of it doesn't always make sense. The reason we do it makes even less. Here we are, pregnant and expecting, on the verge of great change. Yet, even if we waited until the end of our childbearing years to decide to have a child, the reasons for our choice were ultimately probably not rational. No matter how many lists we made of the pros and cons of motherhood, no matter how much data we collected and analyzed, our final decision had more to do with faith and the desires of the human heart than reason.
I took a leap of faith when I decided to become a mother. My reasons don't have to make sense to others, only to me.
Oh who can tell the range of joy. Or set the bounds of beauty? SARA TEASDALE
There is nothing quite so delicious as having our beloved struck by one of Cupid's arrows. From out of nowhere, it seems, he is dumbfounded by our maternal radiance. Instead of perceiving us as rotund, in his eyes we have taken on the luminosity of Venus. He can't take his eyes off of us. We are the very picture
of beauty. A masterpiece!
This is a rare and wonderful time in our life as a couple. It's great
when we can both thoroughly enjoy it.
I feel as ripe as a melon, and as juicy. MARGUERITE THOMAS
Pregnancy can be an unexpected awakening. We suddenly feel voluptuous, sexy, fertile, and electric. The growth of our baby opens us to our sensual nature, and we may feel aroused by the simplest things: the way our partner straightens his hair, bites into an apple, or brushes against us in the kitchen. The freedom of not having to worry about becoming pregnant is liberating and exciting. We can explore our sexuality without fear of the consequences. We can enjoy spontaneity and our desire for ecstasy!
I will open to my sensual self like a flower meeting the rays of the sun.
God will only give you what he knows you can handle. ANONYMOUS
We wanted a baby, but this is ridiculous! For years we hoped for a child and then we got the news: twins (or even triplets) are on the way! Already, we are panicking. We must buy twice as much of everything: pacifiers, baby blankets, booties, stroller, and cribs. Suddenly our house doesn't seem big enough: the guest bedroom will have to be transformed into a child's bedroom one day, and from now on visitors will have to sleep on the couch. And before we know it, we'll be thinking about paying for two college educations! Prayers are definitely in order.
I prayed for a child and my prayers were more than answered. Now I will pray for help.
Anything worth doing is worth doing frantically. ANNE WILSON SCHAEF
Those of us who do too much are so accustomed to doing everything in high gear that we often rush through our first pregnancy. We forget that pregnancy, like a fine wine, is to be savored and enjoyed. We can sit outside, basking in the spring sunshine. We can float on our backs in a pool, resting our hands on our tummy to feel the baby's movements. Why not walk along the beach or take a leisurely hike through the woods? Instead of folding our pregnancy into the frantic pace of our pre-parent lives, let's downshift and be present for this incredible experience.
I must slow down if I am to absorb and enjoy the novel experience of my first pregnancy.
In a child's lunchbox, a mother's thoughts. JAPANESE PROVERB
During all the excitement and confusion of pregnancy, it is important to remember that our other children can feel left out. They might feel that our special attention is going to the new baby, and fear that when he finally comes out, we won't love them anymore. While it is helpful to tell our children that even when they have a new brother or sister we won't stop loving them, the tiniest gestures of kindness can also help reassure them. Why not place a little note in his lunchbox or drop a little present in her pocket that she'll discover on her way to school? There are all kinds of simple ways to say, "I love you and I am thinking of you." Why not let them know now?
I will take extra measures to make sure my children know I love them as much as ever, even though I am wrapped up in my pregnancy. Little gestures of love go a long way.
You grow up the day you have your first real laugh at yourself. ETHEL BARRYMORE
I remember interviewing a lovely expectant mother who, rather self-consciously, told me that some days she was so full of energy that she made a fool of herself. "I get these surges of energy, I don't know where they come from, but I feel like a frisky cat with spring fever," she said, her eyes lighting up mischievously. "My stomach is heavy, but I feel light."
Have you ever felt so happy you wanted to burst or shout out to the treetops? Expectant mothers often do. Expect it and enjoy it!
I will allow myself to act the fool and be giddy with delight.
My husband was so afraid we would never get to do any of the things we enjoyed once the baby was born that he bought tickets to plays, concerts and the symphony-all in the same month! I loved the performances even though I fell asleep through half of them. AMY REDDING
It's easy to think that "life as we've known it" will all disappear once our baby is born. Although many aspects of our lives will change, that doesn't mean we have to completely give up adult activities forever.
If we haven't already done so, we should start looking for a trusted baby-sitter or a wonderful neighborhood grandmother who enjoys children. Then we can be assured of having plenty of chances to dress up and go out on the town, as adults, and feel confident that our baby is in competent hands.
I will find the help I need so my husband and I can continue to enjoy our favorite activities.
A baby's mother also needs a mother. ERICA JONG
It doesn't matter whether we're pregnant with our first child or our fifth, we still need the support and guidance only a mother can provide. We need to talk to her about our hopes and frustrations; we need her to suggest helpful options to the questions that fill our heads; and we need her to give us a hug when we feel like we're the worst mother in the world.
While we must separate from our mother and become our own person, that doesn't mean we stop needing the kind of help that only a mother can give. If our own mother is no longer around, we need to remember what she taught us-and turn to other mothers for the advice and reassurance we need. Mothering is a big job-one of the biggest-and we need all the help we can get.
I am forever connected to my mother regardless of my age, level of maturity, or personal growth. Our bond is undeniable and invaluable.