Meet Hotter Gay Guys. The 21 Day Plan To Overcome Your Fear of Rejection, Master the Art of Icebreakers and Snag Guys You Never Thought You Could Get. [NOOK Book]


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Meet Hotter Gay Guys. The 21 Day Plan To Overcome Your Fear of Rejection, Master the Art of Icebreakers and Snag Guys You Never Thought You Could Get.

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“This Book Will Be Responsible For More Hookups And Dates Than GrindR, Manhunt And Put Together!”

Will Arnett,

Learn How To Meet & Attract Guys You've Always Dreamed Of...
From The Host Of The International Hit TV Series, The Sex Inspectors!

Three things stop you from meeting the kind of guys you want to have sex with, date or get into a relationship with...

1. Fear of Rejection
2. Not Knowing What To Say.
3. Not Knowing What To Do.

If you’re like a lot of gay men, you’re in a low-confidence, low-competence trap. Not knowing what to say or do lowers your confidence and the lack of confidence stops you from trying.

What you need is a plan. Whether you’re looking for love, sex, or intimacy, you need something that shows you how to conquer your fear of rejection and learn powerful conversational techniques that makes you irresistible to attractive guys so that gay dating becomes fun again.

Here is Mike’s 8-step plan:

Learn the formula to eliminating “approach anxiety” so you can talk to ANYBODY anywhere without sounding needy or insecure.

With these strategies you’ll be able to walk into a room with seductive confidence and irresistible charisma.

You can do this even if you’re not tall, rich or handsome. By using the concept of “Demonstrating Value,” you can literally get the hottest guy in the room to pursue YOU. All you have to do is understand a few fundamentals about human nature and apply them. Learn how to do it on P. 26-30.

What can you say to somebody that won’t sound like a cheesy pick up line or an awkward, try-hard attempt to sound cool? Try these irresistible, no-rejection openers. They’ll capture the imagination, stir curiosity and set the stage for a real connection. Use them TONIGHT. They’re all on P. 55-75.

By combining the concepts of scarcity, rapport and ‘social proof,’ you can make an unforgettable statement. He’ll remember you the next time you meet and you’ll be drawn subconsciously into the same role that created the first impression. How to do it? It’ll all in the gay dating section, P. 31-36.

Every gay guy you approach has two questions: “Are you hitting on me or just being friendly?” and “How long are you going to be?” Learn how to make yourself more appealing by overcoming these roadblocks. He’ll be more receptive to your company and welcome the conversation! It’s all on P. 37-40.

This series of irresistible conversational strategies teach you how to think outside of yourself, consider other people’s reality, talk from a place of sincerity, understand the underlying humanity behind conversations, connect in meaningful ways, and add value to people’s lives. This works for love, sex, intimacy, hookups or relationships. P. 76-82.

So you scored the biggest date of your life. Now what? Learn how to prevent ‘conversation stalling” and awkward silences by using something called “Multiple Threads.” By talking in a way that creates mild suspense, you’ll create energy, rapport and the feeling that you have a lot to talk about. You’ll never run out of things to say again! P. 83-84.

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Editorial Reviews

William Arnett
INSTANT CLASSIC! Required Reading For All Single Gay Guys!

Packed with wildly inventive ways to meet, attract and date attractive guys, this is the gay version of all those straight seduction books like The Mystery Method or The Game.

Answers the question on every single gay guy’s mind: What can you say to start a conversation with a beautiful guy that doesn’t sound like a cheap pickup line?
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Product Details

  • BN ID: 2940013707641
  • Publisher: Woodpecker Media
  • Publication date: 1/20/2012
  • Sold by: Barnes & Noble
  • Format: eBook
  • Sales rank: 861,506
  • File size: 503 KB

Meet the Author

Mike Alvear co-hosted the first sex makeover series on TV, The Sex Inspectors, which aired in 12 countries (HBO in the U.S., Channel 4 in England). He's been writing about gay sex for the last ten years through a syndicated column to the gay press. He's the author of two other sex books: Men Are Pigs But We Love Bacon (Kensington) and Sex Inspectors Master Class: How To Have An Amazing Sex Life (Penguin, based on the TV series).
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  • Posted January 27, 2012

    WILDLY CLEVER! Has the real potential to turn around your love life

    I was intrigued by the book’s basic tenet (“Competence Builds Confidence, Not The Other Way Around.”) By that, the author means that you can’t simply “visualize” or “think positively” about your love life and hope to turn it around. You actually have to get good at the skills that draw attractive guys to you.

    So he has you practicing some really nifty conversational tricks, first with “Low wattage” guys (guys you’re either not attracted to or just slightly). Then with “High Wattage” guys (the ones you’d leave home, family and career to smell their dirty shorts). This pacing really works. Every day you’re introduced to new concepts while you’re applying the ones you learned the day before.

    I found myself growing stronger and more confident—to the point where I can literally strike up a conversation with almost anyone. At the end of the book I just wanted to hug the author. He took me from a shy, bookish guy who went to bed early –and alone—on a Saturday night to somebody who meets and dates good looking guys on a regular basis. My whole life opened up by learning the skills in this book.

    The only caveat is that it takes WORK. While it’s an entertaining read you’re wasting your money if you think you can scan the book for a few lines and use them at the bar. Remember, competence builds confidence, not the other way around.

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