Mentoring
The book Life Giving Mentors: A Guide for Investing Your Life in Others by Tim Elmore is a helpful handbook for anyone looking to refine their leadership-development skills. Though it's written from a perspective of passing lessons and skills along to youth and young adults, the programs he lays out and the assessment tools he provides would work well in any organization looking to increase the rate and effectiveness of voluntary mentor-mentee relationships.
Tim Elmore is the founder and president of a non-profit group called Growing Leaders, which he created to focus on developing young leaders. Through the group's work on campuses and through corporations and community groups, they've had the opportunity to "test" different leadership-development structures and assess several models for mentoring.
Within their organization they've formed a highly duplicable program that includes personality profiling, processes for matching mentors and mentees, guides for agendas and meetings, and even a cluster structure that helps support relationships in bigger communities.
In Elmore's view, the ultimate purpose of a mentoring relationship is for the mentors to teach each protégé and for each to turn around and repeat the process by mentoring their own future protégés. He paints a picture of individuals with experience to impart sharing it willingly and passing it like fire from torch to torch, a gift that keeps multiplying.
I really enjoyed this book because it took the time to explain the advantages of developing leaders in this time-consuming way and exactly how to approach a potential mentee. Not every person you work with would make a good partner in a mentoring relationship, but it's also not about finding a "clone" to work with. He makes a great case for really assessing your motives, selecting the appropriate mentee, and for approaching the partnership in a deliberate way.
The handbook provides models of agreements to be forged at the beginning of any apprenticeship and a structure for setting up a meeting schedule that avoids evolving into mere companionship. I also found the chapters on potential pitfalls and handling conflict to be eye opening. There were handy assessments of common personality types and how to manage challenges. Each example he provided, and the way he illustrated well-known mentoring relationships in history, provided more context for how mentoring holds a very important role in society. The value of this tradition goes beyond the focus he places on helping the young and would translate very well to many business environments, particularly any where teaching others to stand on their own and repeat success is important.
As a former Christian pastor, Elmore's focus on Biblical examples and his references to prayer and covenants may be a distraction for some readers. Yet, it would be a mistake to discount his program altogether because of these elements. The real message is that true mentoring is a gift, a gift of self. It must be given wholeheartedly, generously, and with a focus on the success of the individual being mentored. The references to Christian values are just the perspective Elmore brings to the discussion of a tradition that has existed within and outside of religion throughout history and around the world.
If you've ever found yourself trying to devise a good way to pass on your skills, wisdom, or perspective, you
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