Mid-Life Divorce And The Rebirth Of Commitmentby Jim Duzak
The book is especially useful to people who have been struggling with issues within their marriage, and who have become nearly paralyzed with indecision about whether they should stay
"Mid-Life Divorce and the Rebirth of Commitment - Advice from the Attorney at Love" is a book that takes a hard but often humorous look at marriage, divorce and post-divorce dating.
The book is especially useful to people who have been struggling with issues within their marriage, and who have become nearly paralyzed with indecision about whether they should stay or go.
Divorce lawyer and mediator Jim Duzak (the "Attorney at Love") offers a fresh and real-world perspective on the major issues that can plague even good marriages, including poor communication, arguments over money, in-law problems, sexual performance issues, and fantasies about having affairs. On these and other issues, he offers practical, step-by-step advice on how to nip problems in the bud, and thus prevent minor irritations from becoming "divorceable offenses".
Above all else, he urges readers to make a commitment to themselves, so that, whatever happens, they can live an authentic and satisfying life.
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I set aside my instinctive distrust of self-help books and read Jim Duzak¿s Mid-life Divorce & the Rebirth of Commitment, and I can report that I am glad I did. Not only is it helpful, which is hardly a given in the genre, it is also literate and lucid. Drawing on his decades of experience as an attorney and divorce mediator, Mr. Duzak has written a book which is full of wise counsel on many topics, from marital sex to conflict negotiation to couples counseling to separation, divorce and the eventual return to the world of dating. Mr. Duzak is a realist. As an attorney, he knows the necessity in some instances of litigation. However, he describes concisely the downside of placing crucial decisions exclusively in the hands of a judge. His presentation of the function and limits of mediation is insightful and clear and eminently practical. Equally refreshing are his tips on surviving in the world of personal ads and Internet dating services. The book is balanced in its handling of gender, offering many examples of good and bad behavior from both sides. However, it goes beyond simple balance it is not merely gender-neutral it is gender informed. The particular quirks of the typical male are laid out dispassionately for all to see, as are those of the women who work at being in relationship with them. It is the implications of those quirks which matter, and these Mr. Duzak explores in a sensitive and thoughtful manner. He serves as a translator, explaining men to women and women to men. It is clear that he has been a keen observer of the couples with whom he has worked. Concurrent with the book¿s good advice is its grace Mr. Duzak writes well. His voice is at once wise and touched with wry humor, and he transcends the utilitarian tone of so many guide books. This is a book which is a pleasure to read whether you need relationship aid or not.