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Posted April 26, 2011
Going through divorce is not easy. In fact, it is harder than I ever imagined. Though my own circumstance is somewhat different (my divorce didn't come until my 40's after children), I could definitely relate to each one of these author's situations. I felt their isolation and grief as I read their well-scribed stories, and I cheered for them as they healed and moved onto more fulfilling, happy lives. This book was inspirational and uplifting for me, and I felt as though I could relate to each one of these beautiful women; I no longer felt alone, as if an outcast.
No one goes into a marriage expecting to get divorced, quite the contrary. But sometimes life throws us a curve ball, one we cannot avoid. How does one adequately share with her friends and family this devastation and overwhelming grief, when everyone expects you to be okay? It created isolation for me, as friends did not understand what I was going through and in an effort to provide support, they said that it would all be okay. Really? How? When? I lost my family, the only family I had. This was not okay.
For me, the healing came as my true friends acknowledged what I was going through, and were willing to do things a different way so as to incorporate my new world, not keep me tied to their old one. Divorce is not easy for anyone. We do the best we can for our families, but most especially for ourselves. I found friendship in each of these stories, one that could relate and support and inspire me to keep moving through the grief and embrace the change I was experiencing. I've learned to filter out the "takers" in my life, and am working on surrounding myself with positive, accepting people, who love me and take the time to truly understand and accept my ever-changing world.
I love the new "face" of the younger, fabulous divorced woman that this book exemplifies, not only for women who are under 30, but for all women, that divorce is no longer a failure in life and a great reminder that better things lie ahead. It is ok to be divorced, and you can remain a healthy, vibrant lady everafter!