Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior, Freshly Updatedby Judith Martin, Gloria Kamen
An indispensable manual to navigating life from birth to death without making a false move.Your neighbor denounces cellular telephones as instruments of the devil. Your niece swears that no one expects thank-you letters anymore. Your father-in-law insists that married women have to take their husbands' names. Your guests plead that asking them to commit themselves
An indispensable manual to navigating life from birth to death without making a false move.Your neighbor denounces cellular telephones as instruments of the devil. Your niece swears that no one expects thank-you letters anymore. Your father-in-law insists that married women have to take their husbands' names. Your guests plead that asking them to commit themselves to attending your party ruins the spontaneity. Who is right? Miss Manners, of course. With all those amateurs issuing unauthorized etiquette pronouncements, aren't you glad that there is a gold standard to consult about what has really changed and what has not? The freshly updated version of the classic bestseller includes the latest letters, essays, and illustrations, along with the laugh-out-loud wisdom of Miss Manners as she meets the new millennium of American misbehavior head-on. This wickedly witty guide rules on the challenges brought about by our ever-evolving society, once again proving that etiquette, far from being an optional extra, is the essential currency of a civilized world.
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Judith Martin, born a perfect lady in an imperfect society, is the author of the “Miss Manners” columns and best-selling books, two novels, and a travel book on Venice. She and her husband live in Washington, DC.
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but sometimes we have to be reminded. Miss Manners is NOT a snob. Not by any means, and anyone who has actually read this book would have to agree with me. She manages (somehow) to retain clarity and wit while describing good etiquette. I have learned quite a bit about good behaviour from this book, if only because she has postulated scenarios that I hadn't considered or experienced (yet). This book is good, solid advice, period. I am sending a copy each to my two grown sons, and I am keeping a copy in the ready for my young daughter. I only wish that there is a way to get all of my neighbors, co-workers, co-commuters, etc. to read the damn thing. If people weren't so rude to each other, there would be a lot less violence in the world. If you are going to read only one book this year, read this one. Please. For my sake.
In addition to the etiquette, there's a lot of humor. I'll just quote one exchange. 'DEAR MISS MANNERS: June used to be the traditional time for weddings, but customs are so different now. Is there any preferred date for weddings in modern life? GENTLE READER: It is preferable to hold them after the divorce and before the birth of the baby.'
If you have a question on the proper way to handle anything Miss Manners has the answer for you.
To be dismissed as snobbish is an Orwellian canard that etiquette has long endured. The extent to which this view has gained currency in our ¿I, me, mine, winner-take-all and rub everyone else¿s face in it¿ times is the reason for the ¿coarsening¿ of our culture so widely remarked upon but so rarely impeded. In this volume, Miss Manners offers a practical manual for those who wish to be the change they would see in the world. It is a ringing, bracing, funny, and thoroughly enjoyable defense of ¿the holy cause of etiquette¿ that puts to flight the glib belief that manners are snobbish 'the reverse is actually true', and proper behavior obvious or instinctual. Best of all, the book is an absolute field manual for how to make everyone feel comfortable, valued, and respected in a bewildering array of situations and occasions large and small. I suppose there will always be people so self-centered and rude that they insist that they are the measure of all things and dismiss anyone less than delighted by their judgments as ¿not worth my time.¿ If, however, you prefer not to blithely offend others, you will find this work an invaluable resource for assuring that basic dignity is not slighted. What¿s more, it will make you laugh out loud in the process.
It's a good thing this kind of book never influences law.... I refuse to sit back and let others tell me how to act in every single situation. The way I navigate life is to treat everybody the way I want to be treated. Ok, so that sounds too old to be relevant, but it works. And in case it doesn't work, that only goes to show that those who it doesn't work with are not worth my time. Not even that gives me enough of an excuse to treat people like garbage. Plainly put, if you are a nice person, who cares if you read a book like this?