Miss Manners Rescues Civilization: From Sexual Harassment, Frivolous Lawsuits, Dissings and Other Lapses in Civility


With the entire nation screaming for a return to civility, Miss Manners, the highest authority, takes matters into her own properly gloved hands and puts etiquette where it belongs - on the public agenda. Miss Manners Rescues Civilization is a wise, witty and startling examination of how the breakdown of etiquette is contributing to the disintegration of our society. Even the government finds itself battered by our national epidemic of rudeness, yet the very politicians who cry loudest for civility fail to ...
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With the entire nation screaming for a return to civility, Miss Manners, the highest authority, takes matters into her own properly gloved hands and puts etiquette where it belongs - on the public agenda. Miss Manners Rescues Civilization is a wise, witty and startling examination of how the breakdown of etiquette is contributing to the disintegration of our society. Even the government finds itself battered by our national epidemic of rudeness, yet the very politicians who cry loudest for civility fail to understand the roots of the problem. Using a combination of essays and answers to her Gentle Readers' questions, Miss Manners examines society's ever-rising level of irritation, from the classroom to the caucus room. She shows the crucial role of etiquette in such contemporary issues as political correctness, multiculturalism, sexual harassment, educational failure and freedom of speech. Miss Manners leads the charge toward a livable future rather than a return to the etiquette of past eras. But calling for civility without etiquette is like asking for morality without law, she says. Idealists who mistakenly reject etiquette as snobbish, repressive and dishonest fail to understand that manners form the philosophical basis for civilized life. As society's common language of behavior, manners have always functioned as the modest partner of morality to protect the dignity of everyone, especially society's less powerful members.
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Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
"There has been a decided drop in the quality of disgusting things being done in public," Martin observes in this compendium of contemporary behavioral problems. With charm and wit, she minutely examines the rents in the social fabric since the 1960s, when many traditional guidelines for civility were abandoned with little to replace them but self-interest or confusion. She maintains that the basis for a workable society is still consideration for others as well as for self, and that etiquette is not an antiquated set of Victorian rules but an urgent necessity in what can otherwise be a social jungle. In the form of answers to real and imagined letters from readers of her syndicated "Miss Manners" newspaper column, Martin holds forth with more than superficial wisdom on problems encountered in the workplace, between the sexes, between parents and children and in a variety of legal, political, public and private situations. Little is too trivial for her to consider (if you are a vegetarian, how, if at all, should you thank your employer, who gives you a turkey for Thanksgiving every year?), but she does not ignore such larger issues as bigotry and date rape. More than a book on etiquette, this is both entertaining and serious social commentary. (June)
Library Journal
Is the concept of etiquette outmoded? Certainly not, as Martin, a.k.a. Miss Manners (Ms. Manners on (Painfully Proper) Weddings, LJ 12/95), proves in this witty dialectic. Noting that good manners have come under attack in recent years, Miss Manners points out that courtesy is not repression but the indispensable foundation of a livable society. Illustrated by letters from her syndicated column and excerpts from news stories, this is less a how-to manual than a polemic. Cogent and well written, the book provides a fascinating look at modern society. For general collections.-Susan B. Hagloch, Tuscarawas Cty. P.L., New Philadelphia, Ohio
Gilbert Taylor
Conquering the etiquette infractions of a fractious nation, the doyenne of decorum, the princess of protocol, the regent of rules, the dictatrix of do's and don'ts (oh dear, Mr. Reviewer got carried away, he didn't really intend to harangue Miss Manners and immediately apologizes), Miss Manners here conducts her crusade for consideration and politeness. In an era when vulgarity and belching are mere background noise, isn't she tilting at windmills? If good behavior is relative in a multicultural society, isn't she foisting upon us rigid Victorian concern with forks and teacups? No, is her demurely determined answer, and her stalwart stand sustains her millions of newspaper readers discomfited by fender-benders that explode into gunplay or compliments that mutate into sexual discrimination lawsuits. Whatever the original sin, she soothingly counsels, counter-rudeness only compounds the violation. What about demands from exemptions from etiquette because it's elitist and hypocritical? Shouldn't people be natural and honest about their feelings? Miss Manners hears these revolutionaries and confounds them with her charming expressions that a little pretense is usually preferable to a lot of brutal frankness. Indulge as her correspondents might in uttering a scathing retort to whatever mannerly problem they dump at her proper little feet, Miss Manner advises (unfailingly politely, of course) biting the tongue, then allowing the malefactor a face-saving retreat from the scene of the crime. Restoring the world through courtesy, compassion, and respect may be a mission impossible, but by larding the task with mordant humor, Miss Manners makes it worth trying--and her book worth buying.
Kirkus Reviews
Here is Dear Miss Manners once again, scolding and shaking her finger at Gentle Readers who fall short in the task of lubricating the increasing, squeaky hinges of social interaction.

This time, Martin (Miss Manners on [Painfully Proper] Weddings, 1996, etc.} adopts Miss Manners's familiar, self- mocking pseudo-Victorian persona ("totally besotted with the idea of proper behavior") to address a host of millennial dilemmas in etiquette. These range from legislating protection for the American flag to netiquette on the Internet. She deplores the first (the power of etiquette is sufficient safeguard, she maintains, siding with the Supreme Court) and hails the second as a resurgence of standards to guide the new electronic community. In between, she fearlessly, but politely, tackles issues of date rape, sexual harassment, public protest, political correctness, dress codes, and even proper behavior in the operating room. Why, she wonders grumpily, should a nervous patient or even other members of the surgical team be subjected to the surgeon's taste in music—or any music at all, for that matter? That, like smoking in an unventilated room, is inflicting a possibly offensive personal whim on a defenseless public. Incidentally, etiquette does not preclude that public, individually or collectively, from protesting strongly—but politely, of course. As amusing (or irritating, depending on your tolerance for those who refer to themselves in the third person) as Miss Manners may be, she takes her subject seriously enough to equate manners with morals. Etiquette is more than social convention—it promotes orderly and predictable behavior that enhances human dignity and reduces conflict. It is worth preserving, she feels, even as traditions evolve.

With civility as the foundation of civilization, Miss Manners evokes a kinder, gentler lifestyle that still packs a (ladylike) punch.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780517701645
  • Publisher: Crown Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 5/21/1996
  • Edition description: 1st. Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 544
  • Product dimensions: 7.88 (w) x 9.51 (h) x 1.63 (d)

Meet the Author

Born a perfect lady in an imperfect society, Miss Manners considers it her duty and privilege to lead the way to a more civilized and possibly even pleasant society.

In her Miss Manners column, distributed by newspapers nationwide by United Features Syndicate since 1978, Judith Martin answers questions on etiquette three times a week. As readers accept her view of life as a comedy of manners, they have increasingly sent her not only their table and party questions, but those involving the more complicated aspects of life romance, work, family relationships, and child-rearing.

In contrast to Miss Manners, but with her indulgence, Mrs. Martin is also a novelist, journalist, lecturer and frequent guest on national television and radio shows. She recently presided over her own PBS television special, "Miss Manners and Company."

She has been called, by George F. Will, "the National Bureau of Standards." Mrs. Martin gives advice, in the words of People magazine, "as if she had access to the stone tablets that Moses mislaid." Miss Manners explains the etiquette element that can be found in just about every aspect of life.

Born in Washington, D.C. and reared there and in foreign capitals, Mrs. Martin spent 25 years at the Washington Post, where she covered social life at the White House, embassies, and the zoo, before becoming a film and drama critic. A graduate of Wellesley College, Mrs. Martin has been awarded several honorary degrees.

Mrs. Martin is a member of the Editorial Board of The American Scholar, the Board of Directors of the Washington Concert Opera, the National Advisory Council of the Institute of Governmental Studies of the University ofCalifornia at Berkeley and the Board of Management at the Cosmos Club.

Judith Martin and her husband, a scientist and playwright, live in Washington, D.C. They have two perfect children.

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"Watch out. Miss Manners is now going to argue that manners, far from being a weak and optional virtue, much less a nuisance in the way of morality, is the oldest social virtue and an indispensable partner of morality. Rather than being an optional luxury, a sort of hobby virtue, this is a key virtue one that can hold its own with the biggies and civilization's first necessity."
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Table of Contents

Ch. 1 The Case Against Etiquette 1
Ch. 2 A Brief Definition of Etiquette 29
Ch. 3 Etiquette's Pedigree and Credentials 76
Ch. 4 The Fifth Freedom: Freedom from Etiquette 133
Ch. 5 The Law Takes Over from Etiquette 153
Ch. 6 Etiquette's Defense System 196
Ch. 7 Applications for Etiquette Exemptions 216
Ch. 8 Moving Toward an Etiquette-Free Society 230
Ch. 9 Jettisoning Professional Behavior 253
Ch. 10 Protecting Children from Etiquette 317
Ch. 11 The Good, the Bad and the Vulgar 357
Ch. 12 The Unauthorized Reinvention of Etiquette 395
Ch. 13 Tradition Moves Ahead 456
Index 489
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