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Modern Parents, Vintage Values: Instilling Character in Todayy

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What do I do when my son learns phrases in school that he's not allowed to say at home?

How do I teach my daughter caution but not fear?

How do I teach my daughter about gratitude when she believes she is entitled to a cell phone and a laptop and everything else that not only she wants, but that all of the kids around her already have?

Melissa Trevathan and Sissy Goff hear these types of questions and many ...

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Overview

What do I do when my son learns phrases in school that he's not allowed to say at home?

How do I teach my daughter caution but not fear?

How do I teach my daughter about gratitude when she believes she is entitled to a cell phone and a laptop and everything else that not only she wants, but that all of the kids around her already have?

Melissa Trevathan and Sissy Goff hear these types of questions and many other comments from parents on a daily basis in their counseling office and at ministry events. Today, more than ever before, we live in a culture that is at war against our parenting. Between the internet, the media, the sense of entitlement that kids are living with, the disrespect . . . it is almost too much. We often wish we could move back to Mayberry, where our biggest concern was who had set off the firecrackers in the neighbor's garage. While those aren't the issues most parents are facing today, Melissa and Sissy believe we can still raise children who value, well, values. They provide a clear and possible path back to cultivating children who have a sense of character and groundedness, who may not be as rampant across playgrounds and parks as they once were. They paint the picture of how to raise children with manners and kindness and with a healthy sense of fear and respect both for their world and the adults around them—and to do so without totally disengaging from the realities of today's world. In short, they believe it is still possible to instill vintage values in modern kids.

Modern Parents, Vintage Values talks about the specific issues facing kids today, helping parents to more fully understand the challenges being faced. Yet Melissa and Sissy don't stop there. They focus in on nine values that are foundational for the character development of children: kindness, integrity, manners, compassion, forgiveness, responsibility, gratitude, patience and confidence. Each chapter is broken down into a section for children and adolescents, and specific ways to foster the specific value for the particular age. Modern Parents, Vintage Values offers parents timeless truths that can break through the chaos of today's culture and instill these truly vintage and important values in kids.

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  • Melissa Trevathan & Sissy Goff
    Melissa Trevathan & Sissy Goff  

Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781433668814
  • Publisher: B&H Publishing Group
  • Publication date: 10/1/2010
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 958,210
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.40 (h) x 1.00 (d)

Meet the Author

Melissa Trevathan, M.R.E. first became a youth director at the age of 16. Since that time, she has been a teacher, retreat leader, head of spiritual life at a private school in Nashville, and is now founder and Executive Director of Daystar Counseling Ministries that began in 1985. Melissa has spoken across the country, including teaching graduate courses in counseling adolescents and has been a guest on television and radio programs throughout the United States and in Canada. She coauthored The Back Door to Your Teen's Heart, Raising Girls, Mirrors and Maps, and Growing Up Without Getting Lost. She is a regular speaker at LifeWay's You and Your Girl events as well as a popular speaker for parents and kids of all ages.

Sissy Goff, M.Ed., LPC-MHSP has worked as the Director of Child and Adolescent Counseling and the Director of Summer Programs at Daystar since 1993. She also has been a guest on television and radio programs across the United States and in Canada. A sought after speaker to parents and girls of all ages, Sissy is also a regular speaker at LifeWay's You and Your Girl events. She has written for CCM Magazine, ParentLife magazine, and a variety of other periodicals. She and Melissa Trevathan coauthored The Back Door to Your Teen's Heart, Raising Girls, Mirrors and Maps, and Growing Up Without Getting Lost.

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Table of Contents

Foreword xiii

Dear Reader xv

An Introduction 1

Part 1 Modern Parents 5

Chapter 1 The Age of Anonymity 7

Chapter 2 A World of Warning 35

Chapter 3 The Issue of Entitlement 49

Chapter 4 A Lack of Respect 65

Chapter 5 Risky Business 81

Chapter 6 Oceans of Emotions 105

Part 2 Vintage Values 131

Chapter 7 The Value of Kindness 133

Chapter 8 The Value of Compassion l43

Chapter 9 The Value of Forgiveness 155

Chapter 10 The Value of Gratitude 171

Chapter 11 The Value of Integrity 181

Chapter 12 The Value of Responsibility 193

Chapter 13 The Value of Patience 205

Chapter 14 The Value of Confidence 217

Chapter 15 The Value of Manners 233

Part 3 Timeless Truths 247

Chapter 16 Take Heart 249

Chapter 17 Have Life 253

Chapter 18 Seek Hope 257

Chapter 19 Give Love 261

Notes 263

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  • Posted July 13, 2010

    Down-to-earth guide to raising good kids

    Modern Parents, Vintage Values by Melissa Trevathan & Sissy Goff is a powerful resource for parents in a world when values seem to have gone by the wayside. Both authors are counselors at Daystar Counseling Ministries, so they bring a wealth of anecdotes about bad behavior and ideas to raise children in a Christian way in a secular world. The chapters focus on various virtues: patience, kindness, compassion, etc, that our children can be taught. Of course the most important lesson they impart is that our children learn through our example. When we act in a hypocritical manner, we can't expect them to get the message. Each chapter ends with a "Sunday drive" which are realistic exercises to use at home with your children to encourage growth in that specific area. The authors also break up the chapters into sections about younger children and then teenagers, because what works with one group won't necessarily work with the other. I appreciated how the authors never made me feel like a failure as a parent. The book is always encouraging, and while the authors have high aspirations for their readers, they are also recognize that parents are human and therefore fallible. It's a book I would recommend to anyone with children, regardless of age, as I found advice for my seven-year-old as well as my two teenagers.

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