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At last, simple physical and psychological techniques that allow men to fulfill their dreams and women's fantasies.

Learn to Separate Orgasm and Ejaculation! Enjoy Increased Vitality and Longevity! Become Multi-Orgasmic Now!

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Overview

At last, simple physical and psychological techniques that allow men to fulfill their dreams and women's fantasies.

Learn to Separate Orgasm and Ejaculation! Enjoy Increased Vitality and Longevity! Become Multi-Orgasmic Now!

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780062513366
  • Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
  • Publication date: 4/28/1997
  • Series: Tree Clause Bks.
  • Edition description: Reprint
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 230,216
  • Product dimensions: 5.20 (w) x 7.90 (h) x 0.70 (d)

Meet the Author

Mantak Chia is a world-renowned teacher of the Taoist arts, from Tai Chi to Taoist sexuality. He is the coauthor of The Multi-Orgasmic Man and The Multi-Orgasmic Couple. He lives in Thailand and teaches in the United States and around the world.

Doug Abrams was Desmond Tutu’s coauthor for God Has a Dream and for his children’s books God’s Dream and Desmond and the Very Mean Word. He also was the editor of Tutu’s Children of God Storybook Bible and Made for Goodness. Abrams is the founder of Idea Architects, a book and media company that works with visionary authors to create a wiser, healthier, and more just world.

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Chapter One

The Proof is in Your Pants

You may already have experienced multiple orgasms. Surprising as this may sound, many men are multi-orgasmic before they enter adolescence and begin to ejaculate. Kinsey's research suggested that more than half of all preadolescent boys were able to reach a second orgasm within a short period of time and nearly a third were able to achieve five or more orgasms one after the other. This led Kinsey to argue that "climax is clearly possible without ejaculation."

But multiple orgasms are not just limited to prepubescent boys. Kinsey continues: "There are older males, even in their thirties and older, who are able to equal this performance." InFundamentals of Human Sexuality, Dr. Herant Katchadourian adds: "Some men are able to inhibit the emission of semen while they experience the orgasmic contractions: in other words they have nonejaculatory orgasms. Such orgasms do not seem tobe followed by a refractory period [loss of erection], thereby allowing these men to have consecutive or multiple orgasms like women."

Why do most men lose their ability to be multi-orgasmic? It is possible that for many men the experience of ejaculating, when it happens, is so overwhelming that it eclipses the experience of orgasm and causes men to lose the ability to distinguish between the two. One multi-orgasmic man described the first time he ejaculated: "I still remember it clearly. There I was orgasming as usual, but this time a white liquid came spurting out. I thought I was dying. I swore to God that I would never masturbate again--which of course lasted about a day." Since orgasm and ejaculation generally occur withinseconds of one another, it is easy to confuse them.1 To become multi-orgasmic, you must learn (or possibly relearn) the ability to separate the different sensations of arousal and to revel in orgasm without cresting over into ejaculation. Understanding how orgasm and ejaculation are different will help you distinguish the two in your own body.

Brain Waves and Reflexes

Orgasm is one of the most intense and satisfying human experiences, and if you have ever had an orgasm--and almost all men have--you will not need to have it defined. All orgasms, however, are not created equal. Orgasm is slightly different for each person and even different for the same person at different times. Nonetheless, men's orgasms share certain characteristics, including rhythmic body movements, increased heart rate, muscle tension, and then a sudden release of tension, including pelvic contractions. They feel good, too. After noting that "orgasm is the least understood of the sexual processes," the thirteenth edition of Smith's General Urology explains that orgasm includes "involuntary rhythmic contractions of the anal sphincter, hyperventilation [increased breathing rate], tachycardia [increased heart rate], and elevation of blood pressure."

These definitions include changes that occur throughout your entire body. However, for a long time orgasm was seen--and for many men is still seen--as strictly a genital affair. In the West, Wilhelm Reich, in his controversial book The Function of Orgasm, was the first to argue that orgasm involved the whole body and not just the genitals.2 In the East, the Taoists have long known that orgasm could be a whole-body experience and developed techniques for expanding orgasmic pleasure.

Many sex researchers are now arguing that orgasm really has more to do with our brain than our brawn. Brain-wave research is beginning to reveal that orgasm may occur primarily in the brain. That you can have an orgasm in your sleep--without any bodily touch--seems to confirm this theory. Further support comes from neurologist Robert J. Heath of Tulane University, who discovered that when certain parts of the brain are stimulated with electrodes they produce sexual pleasure identical to that produced by physical stimulation. Many sex therapists are fond of saying that sex takes place in the brain. There is some truth to this statement--especially when it comes to orgasm.

Unlike orgasm, which is a peak emotional and physical experience, ejaculation is simply a reflex that occurs at the base of the spine and results in the ejection of semen. Michael Winn, senior Healing Tao instructor and coauthor of Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy, explains: "A lot of men are freaked out by the very idea of nonejaculatory orgasm because they've been having ejaculatory sex for such a long time, often decades. So the first thing to do is demystify ejaculation, which is just an involuntary muscle spasm."

With practice, you can learn to experience the peak feeling of orgasm without triggering the reflex of ejaculation. In the next two chapters we will explain, step-by-step, exactly how to separate orgasm from ejaculation and how to expand your orgasms throughout your body. But first let's look at the evidence that men, like women, can have multiple orgasms.

Prove It

Probably the most extensive laboratory investigation of male multiple orgasms was made by sex researchers William Hartman and Marilyn Fithian. They tested thirty-three men who claimed to be multi-orgasmic--that is, to be able to have two or more orgasms without losing their erection.

While these men had sex with their partners in the laboratory, Hartman and Fithian monitored their heart rates, which the researchers had chosen as the clearest method of identifying orgasms. At rest, the average heart rate is around 70 beats per minute; during orgasm it almost doubles, rising to about 120. After orgasm, the heart returns to its resting rate (see figure 1). They also measured pelvic contractions (most obvious in the involuntary squeezing of the anus), which coincided with the peaking of heart rate at orgasm. What they found was pretty surprising: the arousal charts for these men were identical to those of multi-orgasmic women.

Male and female sexuality may be more similar than is usually thought. Developmentally, this similarity makes sense, since male and female genitals come from the same fetal tissue. In their famous book The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality, Alice Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John Perry argued that male and female sexuality were almost identical. In addition to their much-reported discovery of the female "G spot" (which we will discuss more in chapter 4), they also suggested that men can experience multiple orgasms just like women.

During Hartman and Fithian's research, the average number of orgasms a multi-orgasmic man had was four. Some men had the minimum of two, and one had as many as sixteen! In a study by Marion Dunn and Jan Trost, most men reported having from two to nine orgasms per session.3

It is important to mention here that Taoist sexuality is not about numbers and keeping score, it is about satisfaction and cultivation. You can feel satisfied with one orgasm, with three orgasms, or with sixteen orgasms. You cultivate your sexuality as you deepen your awareness of your body's pleasure and increase your ability for intimacy with your partner. Each person and each sexual experience will be different, and the "right" number of orgasms will depend on your and your partner's desires at the time. When you become multi-orgasmic, you will never have to worry about how long you can last or how many orgasms your partner has, because you will both be able to have all the orgasms you could ever want.

The Little Death

As doctors, the Taoist masters were interested in sexuality as part of a larger concern for the health of the entire body. They practiced Sexual Kung Fu because they discovered that ejaculation drains a man's energy. You have probably also noticed this loss of energy and general feeling of fatigue after ejaculating. Even though you would like to be attentive to your partner's sexual and emotional needs, all your body wants to do is sleep. As one multi-orgasmic man put it, "Once I ejaculate, the pillow looks better than my girlfriend does."

The image of the unsatisfied woman whose lover ejaculates, grunts, and collapses on top of her is so common that it has become a cultural joke, but the exhaustion that men feel after ejaculating is as old as the first coital groan. Peng-Tze, a sex adviser to the famed Yellow Emperor, reported almost five thousand years ago: "After ejaculating, a man is tired, his ears buzz, his eyes are heavy, and he longs for sleep. He is thirsty and his limbs feel weak and stiff. In ejaculating he enjoys a brief moment of sensation but then suffers long hours of exhaustion."

Western folk wisdom agrees with the Taoists regarding the importance of conserving sexual energy. Athletes have long known the weakness and lethargy that follow ejaculation, abstaining from sex the night before the "big game." Artists have also felt the lingering effects on their work. Jazz musician Miles Davis explained in a Playboy magazine interview:

Davis: You can't come, then fight or play. You can't do it. When I get ready to come, I come. But I do not come and play.

Playboy: Explain that in layman's terms.

Davis: Ask Muhammad Ali. If he comes, he can't fight two minutes. Shit, he couldn't even whip me.

Playboy: Would you fight Muhammad Ali under those conditions, to prove your point? The Multi-Orgasmic Man. Copyright © by Mantak Chia. Reprinted by permission of HarperCollins Publishers, Inc. All rights reserved. Available now wherever books are sold.

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgments xi
Introduction xiii
Chapter 1 The Proof Is in Your Pants 1
Brain Waves and Reflexes 2
Prove It 3
The Little Death 5
Chapter 2 Know Thyself 10
Your Body 10
Your Energy 15
Your Arousal 20
Your Ejaculation 23
Your Orgasm 25
Chapter 3 Becoming a Multi-Orgasmic Man 32
Breathing Basics 32
Increasing Your Concentration 36
Strengthening Your Sex Muscles 36
Self-Pleasuring and Self-Cultivation 41
Learning to Control Ejaculation 48
Learning to Control Your Sexual Energy 54
The Cool Draw 55
The Big Draw 63
The Finger Lock 73
When to Stop 79
When to Ejaculate 80
Chapter 4 Know Your Partner 85
Her Body 87
Her Orgasm 96
Her Arousal 101
Chapter 5 Becoming a Multi-Orgasmic Couple 104
Pleasuring Your Partner 104
Thrusting Techniques 109
The Advanced Art of Screwing 113
The Big Draw for Two 117
Positions for Pleasure and Health 119
Sexing the Spirit 124
When to Stop 132
When to Start: A Few Words About Safer Sex 134
Chapter 6 Satisfaction Guaranteed: For Women 140
Multiple Orgasms for Men? 141
Why Me? Why Him? Why This? 142
Helping Your Partner Become Multi-Orgasmic 145
Helping Yourself Become Multi-Orgasmic 153
Overcoming Difficulty 166
Chapter 7 Yang and Yang: For Gay Men 173
Can't Stop Till I Get Enough 174
Cultivating Your Sexual Energy 175
Being Versatile 176
Monogamy and Multiple Partners 178
Safer Sex 178
Sexual Healing 179
Chapter 8 Before You Call the Plumber 182
It's Not Over Till It's Over: Ending Premature Ejaculation 183
Snake Charming: Overcoming Impotence 185
Please, Sir, May I Have Some More: Enlarging Your Penis 192
How Many Sperm Does One Man Need? Raising Your Sperm Count 197
My What? Preventing and Helping Prostate Problems 199
Sex Is Not Like Pizza: Healing Sexual Trauma 200
Chapter 9 Making Love for a Lifetime 204
Sex and Aging 204
Keeping Love Alive 209
The Seasons of Our Sex Lives 211
No Free Love 215
Teaching Our Sons 217
Sexuality, Secrecy, and the Tao 221
Notes 223
List of Illustrations 229
List of Exercises 231
Appendix Healing Tao Books and Instructors 233
Select Bibliography 235
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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 21, 2002

    Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know

    My experience obviously may be different than others, but I didn't bother much with the breathing exercises or all the Taoist exercises or concepts, except maybe the visualizing of the energy flow. I simply regularly practiced becoming very aware of the whole process of excitation in my body through to just before ejaculation, and used the book's explicit advice on stopping stimulation a bit before the point of no return by pressing on the perineum area to learn to prevent ejaculation both during regular masturbation practice and when making love with my fiancée. Eventually after two months I was able to slowly but surely be able to experience more and more of the orgasmic experience without having to ejaculate and with just using contraction of my perineum muscles. I found like many have before me, that orgasm is indeed separate from ejaculation, with some short period in between. I am now able to have as many orgasms as I want to in a love making session, and my fiancé has learned to do the same. Although mine are no longer accompanied by the additional pleasure of the genital focused ejaculation spasms, except for the once every ten days that I do choose to ejaculate at the end of a session, per the book's advice, my orgasms are full body now and I am clearly aware how the pleasure is brain based, not genital based. Believe me, it's way beyond worth the effort. Sex the way I experienced it previously doesn't even rank on the same scale. It's kind of like the absurd fantasy that is presented in porno movies become real, and I'm not kidding! I'm a somewhat average male in most respects, although I would say I do live an alternative lifestyle. I do not have any specific previous 'spiritual' or body awareness training. This book was astoundingly practical and allowed me to become a Multi-Orgasmic male in about two months of regular, although by no means particularly strenuous practice. It has revolutionized my experience of sexuality, and allowed me to leave genital focused orgasm and ejaculation goal orientation far behind, and take a quantum shift in intimacy and ecstatic pleasure for both my lover and I. She found it extremely quick (in a couple of days) and easy to learn how to not 'crest over' and remain multi-orgasmic continuously without getting over-sensitized and not wanting to continue, as many women do after a full orgasm. This book can honestly change your life experience radically!!! I recommend a beginners mind here, and you will definitely be rewarded, even though there may not be an extensive amount of details in the book about the experiential progression of the practice, and even if, as the authors indicate, it may take up to six months of practice to get the hang of it. I just trusted my own experience as I went along and took what was valuable and understandable for me, and left the rest like water off a duck¿s back.

    4 out of 5 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted December 2, 2004

    I'm a woman and I LOVE this book!

    My husband bought this and didn't tell me about it. He tried out everything on himself before trying anything with me and I can tell you that the sex now has never been better. It's more than sex. It's euphoria! I think alllll men and women should read it! He presented the book to me and I read it cover to cover and I loved the chapter for women! I am now recommending this book to all my friends and even family! For the authors: BRAVO!

    3 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 21, 2002

    Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know

    My fiancé picked up this book when we were going through a rocky phase in our relationship. Although the book didn't make our problems go away, it did enhance our intimacy and improve our sexual relationship a billion fold. I'd always heard that there were women who could have multiple orgasms, but I never dreamed I could be one of them. Of course, I never even knew it was possible for a man to have them. It took him two-and-a-half months of regular practice to master the techniques described in the book. It took me one day. The experiences this book inspired have turned our ideas of what sex can be, upside down and inside out.

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 11, 2004

    Can't wait for the audio book !

    This will be a great listen while driving my long commute. Women will now learn to appreciate us men more.

    1 out of 4 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 6, 2003

    Lousy and I'll tell you why

    I enthusiastically ordered this book as I have enjoyed multiple orgasms for years and I wanted to find other ways to pleasure my boyfriend. I began reading this book hoping to learn many exciting and tantalizing tips on how to be a better lover and instead I found many derogatory and extremely demeaning remarks about women. Can't men have enough self confidence to write about sex and not criticize and belittle women. An example: on page 113 in the Chapter entitled: 'Becoming an Orgasmic Couple' it says that when penetrating a woman during intercourse, 'Strike left and right as a brave general breaking through the enemy's ranks' and it further discusses what the author terms as 'Battle of the sexes' throughout the book. Great. This is what I get for trying to read about sexual tips and practices and look for more ways to please my lover. This is one of many examples of not so nice comments about women in this book. This book makes fun of female ejaculation, performing oral sex on a woman and the way women supposedly 'smell'. The book also essentially states that women's multiple orgasms are 'mini-orgasms' and are inferior to a man's orgasm. NOT! He wishes! I hope to find some truly sex-positive male authors that do not feel the need to compete with women when it comes to sex.

    1 out of 6 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 22, 2001

    Buy it

    With a little bit of patience and concentration I was able to separate my orgasm from my ejaculation. And after learning how to move my sexual energy I experienced the very satisfying whole-body orgasm. <P> I recommend this book for everybody (except maybe small children). The techniques are clearly explained and relatively easy to execute. It takes a respectful view toward love-making, and the knowledge and suggestions it contains are invaluable. Even though the title might make you believe the book is just for men, it has a chapter dedicated to women as well, and I think women might profit from picking up this title just for all the information it gives on male sexuality. <P> Buy it.

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  • Posted April 9, 2012

    Highly Recommended!!!!

    this is a really good book, it has improved everything and my wife and I enjoy it. this is a must read book.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 26, 2005

    I had a scary experience!

    I read the book and was not pleased at all from the vague explanation of most of the techniques. However, I tried the so called ¿Big Draw¿ and within few minutes got heart palpitations, hot flashes all over my back and a very strong headache. I immediately discontinued the practice with zero intention to do anything whatsoever described in this book again. Seeing from over 2 pages with possible side effects I was lucky to get only few complications which within half an hour disappeared. I do not recommend his book because the author does not explain precisely how to circulate the released energy throughout the energy channels in the body.

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