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Overview
Families can be complicated, and this reference guide is here to help you get through whatever issue you might face—from frustrations with your parents to what to do if your family is breaking apart from divorce, or even if there’s been abuse in your home. With seventy-five short chapters that cover almost twenty major topics, there’s plenty of understanding, advice, and wisdom to help you navigate issues with your family AND strengthen the bonds that matter most.
Middle school is tough, and figuring out who you are during this time can sometimes mean more issues with your family members—from not feeling understood to wondering why you can’t have a little more freedom and trust now that you’re not a little kid anymore. And maybe your family itself is changing in ways you never thought could happen. In this book, everything from dealing with small frustrations to dating, getting more privacy, handling issues with siblings, and what to do when a parent lets you down or even hurts you physically is discussed and explored, giving you advice and ideas on how to navigate the issues in your family today.
My Family:
- is written by two youth specialists with over forty combined years of experience dealing with the issues today’s preteens and young adults face every day
- contains stories from the authors that add honesty—and where appropriate, humor—to the topics being discussed
- can be used as a reference guide on specific topics or read straight through for a wider experience
- provides a biblical yet candid approach
- is also ideal for anyone dealing with teenagers in a mentoring, teaching, or leadership environment
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9780310863144 |
|---|---|
| Publisher: | Zondervan |
| Publication date: | 08/30/2009 |
| Series: | Middle School Survival Series |
| Sold by: | HarperCollins Publishing |
| Format: | eBook |
| Pages: | 208 |
| File size: | 570 KB |
| Age Range: | 13 - 16 Years |
About the Author
Mark Oestreicher (Marko) is a veteran youth worker and former president of Youth Specialties. The author of dozens of books, including Youth Ministry 3.0 and Middle School Ministry, Marko is a sought after speaker, writer and consultant. Marko leads The Youth Cartel, providing a variety of resources, coaching and consultation to youth workers, churches and ministries. Marko lives in San Diego with his wife Jeannie and two teenage children, Liesl and Max. www.whyismarko.com.
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My Family
By Kurt Johnston Mark Oestreicher
Zondervan
Copyright © 2007 Kurt Johnston & Mark OestreicherAll right reserved.
ISBN: 0-310-27430-3
Chapter One
SECTION 1FIRST THINGS FIRST
WHY IS THIS SO HARD?
Being in a family really isn't anything new to you. The truth is, you've been part of a family for a long time ... ever since you were born! Our guess is that you're reading this book because things are beginning to change, and you're trying to figure it all out. It's not that these changes are bad; they're just different, which means being part of a family is going to look a little different from now on. Because you're growing and changing, your family is going to change, too. Let us make you three guarantees:
GUARANTEE #1: IT WON'T BE EASY! One of the reasons family life can be such a challenge is that there just aren't any easy answers. Sure, this book is going to give you some stuff to think about and some lessons we've learned, but a good family life really can't be boxed up and sold or written down in a book. The family can be a complicated, confusing thing, and making it work takes ... well, it takes work. Lots of middle school students make the mistake of sitting back and expecting everybody else in the family to put in the effort to make it work. Don't make that mistake! God has put you in your family for a reason, and even though it's going to be tough at times, he wants you to play a part in helping yourfamily work.
GUARANTEE #2: YOU CAN MAKE IT! We said it takes work, and it does. But the fact that you're reading this book is proof that you're willing to work at it. You won't be able to change most of the stuff about your family, but you can change how you respond to your family and how you handle the challenges of being a middle schooler. There's no such thing as a perfect family. Yours isn't, and ours aren't. But there is such thing as a family filled with members who love each other and who are working together to make it the best it can be! As you start reading this book, it's important to remember that even though you can't control everything that happens in your family, you can control how you choose to respond and how you choose to help make your family better. It won't always be easy, but together, you and your family can make it!
GUARANTEE #3: SERIOUSLY, YOU CAN MAKE IT! We just wanted to say that one more time because we know there will be times in middle school when you're going to want to give up on yourself and on your family. Hang in there! God has really good stuff in store for you, and your family is one of the things he is going to use to mold and shape you into the person he wants you to become. You can make it! We'll say it again ... you can make it!
WHAT HAS CHANGED?
Big-time change is happening in your family right now! Do you feel it? If you don't yet, you will soon.
There are a bunch of reasons for this-but the biggest reason is that you are changing. And when any one person in a family changes, it forces all kinds of change in everyone and everything.
You're changing in all kinds of cool ways right now. But the change that probably has the biggest impact on your family is that you're now on a fast road toward independence, toward being an adult. Sure, you're still a kid in a lot of ways, and your parents still play a huge role in your life. You still really need them to set boundaries for you and help you make decisions (in addition to needing them to give you a ride to the mall!). But your parents want you to start making your own responsible decisions (whether it feels that way or not). They want you to get to the point where they can trust you to make good decisions on your own.
But that process of getting from "parents make most of your decisions" to "you make most of your decisions" is a tough and awkward process-both for you, and for your parents.
Add to that the fact that you're going through a wild change in your emotions right now. Most teenagers are on a roller coaster of new emotions-super excitement and fl ashes of anger and depressed moments when everything in the world seems against you. That's totally normal; in fact, it's good. It's all part of God's great and loving plan to give you more emotions, so you can really experience the awesome life he wants for you.
But that emotional wackiness can be pretty hard on your parents. They probably feel like they don't even know you some days (you probably feel like you don't know yourself some days!).
So your parents (and your siblings, if you have them) are trying to adjust to this "new person" in their home. Sometimes it's great, because you get to start relating to them more like an adult. But sometimes it's really difficult for everyone.
Here's the survival tip-two of them, actually:
First, cut your parents a break. They're trying to figure out how to help you grow up. And it's not very clear sometimes.
Second, keep talking. Your parents need to know what's going on, how you feel, and what you're thinking. Do this when you're not feeling super emotional, and the conversations will go better.
(Continues...)
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