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Don’t worry, My Friends, from the Middle School Survival Series, will give you all the tips and secrets you need to make the most of your friendships. In the pages of this book, you’ll find helpful friendship tips like:
* what you can learn about friendships from the Bible
* ways to be a good friend
* how to deal with conflict and other ...
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Overview

Don’t worry, My Friends, from the Middle School Survival Series, will give you all the tips and secrets you need to make the most of your friendships. In the pages of this book, you’ll find helpful friendship tips like:
* what you can learn about friendships from the Bible
* ways to be a good friend
* how to deal with conflict and other tough stuff
* how to make friends, and more

From piles of homework to understanding the variety of “interesting” people working at your school to dealing with the new challenges of changing for gym class in front of everyone, it’s normal to feel a little overwhelmed.
That’s why in My School, from the Middle School Survival Series, we will tackle the things that weigh heavily on middle school students just like you.

This book will address important middle school issues like:
* Dealing with bullies, jocks, nerds, and every other category of student you encounter
* Revealing the truth behind the urban legends of middle school
* Pop quizzes, tardiness, and other survival tips

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Editorial Reviews

Youth Worker Journal
'[This series is] great for students who are nervous about the challenges of middle school in general....Middle school students will enjoy reading these texts.' — Youth Worker Journal
YouthWorker Journal
'[This series is] great for students who are nervous about the challenges of middle school in general....Middle school students will enjoy reading these texts.' -- '[This series is] great for students who are nervous about the challenges of middle school in general....Middle school students will enjoy reading these texts.'
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780310278818
  • Publisher: Zondervan
  • Publication date: 8/28/2007
  • Series: Middle School Survival SeriesSeries Series
  • Pages: 188
  • Sales rank: 1,261,198
  • Age range: 11 - 14 Years
  • Product dimensions: 5.38 (w) x 8.13 (h) x 0.63 (d)

Meet the Author

Kurt Johnston is junior high pastor in Southern California. He's served in middle school ministry since 1988 - longer than most of you have been alive! Kurt was once a middle school student, and when he was in 8th grade he was beaten up by a 7th grader. Kurt and his family live in Orange County where he spends his free time surfing and still avoiding 7th-grade bullies.

Mark Oestreicher (Marko) is a veteran youth worker and former president of Youth Specialties. The author of dozens of books, including Youth Ministry 3.0 and Middle School Ministry, Marko is a sought after speaker, writer and consultant. Marko leads The Youth Cartel, providing a variety of resources, coaching and consultation to youth workers, churches and ministries. Marko lives in San Diego with his wife Jeannie and two teenage children, Liesl and Max. www.whyismarko.com.

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My Friends


By Kurt Johnston Mark Oestreicher

Zondervan

Copyright © 2007 Kurt Johnston and Mark Oestreicher
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-310-27881-8


Chapter One

GOD'S DESIGN

Here's a wild thought: God created you to have friends. And friendship itself is something God thought up first.

See, God the Father, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit are all God, right? (We know this can be confusing, but stick with us.) We call that "the Trinity"-the three different "persons of God" who are still one.

Don't sweat it if that doesn't make sense to you. Just get this: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit all exist together in community-like an intense, committed friendship. So when God says in the Bible that we're made in his image (Genesis 1:26-27)-which just means we, in the deepest parts of who we are, share some similarities with the God who created us-then we must have that deep-friendship thing built into us.

You could say we're "wired" for friendship or we have the "programming" for friendship. But it's up to us to use it.

Think about this, too-God created everything that exists. Actually, first God thought of it, and then God created it. Laughter? Yup, God thought it up, and then created it. Palm trees? Yup, God thought them up, and then created them. Iguanas? Same thing. Families? Check. Friendship? I bet you can see where this is going.

So, when you read this book about friendship, and when you think about how you can be a better friend, and when you try to be a great friend or to make new friends, you're moving closer and closer to who God created you to be!

"SCHOOL IS HARD. HOMEWORK IS HARDER. FINDING GREAT FRIENDS ... EVEN HARDER. -TAYLOR, 8TH GRADE

SHIFTING FRIENDSHIPS

Now that you're moving into your middle school years, you may have noticed your friendships are changing. In fact, we've talked to hundreds of middle schoolers who struggle with this. Sometimes they feel guilty because they don't want to hang out with their childhood friends anymore. And sometimes they're pressured (by their parents, usually) to make different friends than the ones they already have.

Here's the scoop: You're changing. (Duh!) But really, you're changing BIG-time! In fact, except for the years between your birth and your third birthday, you're changing more right now than at any other time in your life. You're a change monster!

One thing that's changing the most is your brain (even though you sometimes feel like you've just lost it completely-or at least misplaced it for a little bit). Just like you're growing up physically-your body is changing and stuff like that-your brain is also growing up. One of the cool things about this brain change is that you're becoming unique. When we say unique we don't mean "weird" (although that may also be true!). We just mean you're becoming more different from other people-one of a kind.

Think of it this way: If you put a bunch of five-year-olds in a room with some toys, they'll pretty much all get along and play together (unless one kid is a total jerk-in-training who wants to make everyone miserable). But if you put a bunch of 13-year-olds in a room with a CD player and a big stack of CDs, you're likely to hear, "I love this song!" at the same time you hear, "This song totally stinks!"

Little kids usually form friendships based on who lives near them or with whom they naturally spend a lot of time. But young teenagers form their friendships based on common interests (and this will remain true for the rest of your life). So lots of middle schoolers shift their reasons for having the friends they have from "because they live by me" to "because we like the same things."

This shift isn't easy. In fact, it's often messy. Feelings will probably get hurt. And misunderstandings are likely.

Here's what we want you to understand: The shifting-friendships thing is normal. It would be great for you to be loving and forgiving and all that stuff-both to new and old friends. But it's normal and okay to go through friendship changes during the middle school years.

"I HATE IT WHEN IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL SOMEONE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND, BUT WHEN YOU GET TO MIDDLE SCHOOL THEY SUDDENLY THINK THEY'RE JUST TOO COOL FOR YOU." -HALY, 7TH GRADE

CLIQUES

We wanted to talk about this topic at the beginning of the book because it's such a big deal in middle school. And it's WAY more of an issue than it was in grade school.

Some people call 'em cliques (pronounced "clicks"). You probably don't use that word; you probably call them "friendship groups." But there are different kinds of friendship groups, right? Some groups of friends are open and welcoming to new friends. Their attitude is, "Hey, if you want to hang with us, come on!" They're like a party in a park-anyone can walk up and join, really, because there are no doors or walls.

But other friendship groups are closed and unwelcoming to new people. Their attitude is, "Of course you want to hang with us, but you can't because we don't want you!" They're like a party in a locked room with a security guard at the door and a pit bull tied up out front. These closed friendship groups are what we call "cliques."

Here are a couple of helpful words and ideas: When a group wants to be open to others, they're considered inclusive because they "include" people. But when they're not open to others, they're exclusive because they "exclude" people. Friendship groups can be either inclusive or exclusive, but cliques are usually exclusive.

Okay. Now that we're clear on what a clique is, let's talk about them for a bit.

First, it's normal to want a group of special friends to hang with. In fact, it's not only normal, but it's also good. Remember, God made us for community. (Check out the very first chapter, "God's Design.")

Second, it's normal and okay to have some friends who are really special to you (like, your "best friends"). Jesus also had these. He had 12 disciples who were like his friendship group, but three of these guys were his closest friends.

Finally, the problem only comes up when a friendship group becomes a clique. Cliques aren't good for anyone-not for the people who are in them, nor for the people who wish they were in them. That's why God doesn't like cliques-exclusive groups hurt people, even those who are a part of them.

So just remember that your middle school years will be so much better if you try to be part of inclusive and open friendship groups.

(Continues...)



Excerpted from My Friends by Kurt Johnston Mark Oestreicher Copyright © 2007 by Kurt Johnston and Mark Oestreicher. Excerpted by permission.
All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
Excerpts are provided by Dial-A-Book Inc. solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site.

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Table of Contents

Contents

INTRODUCTION....................8
SECTION ONE: FRIENDSHIP BASICS....................11
1. God's Design....................12
2. Shifting Friendships....................14
3. Cliques....................16
4. Popularity....................18
5. Should You Have Lots of Friends or Just a Couple?....................20
6. Friendship and Gender....................22
7. Understanding the Circles of Friendship....................24
8. The Power of Friendships....................26
SECTION TWO: FRIENDSHIP ADVICE FROM PROVERBS....................29
9. Proverbs 27:6....................30
10. Proverbs 12:26....................32
11. Proverbs 17:9....................34
12. Proverbs 17:17....................36
13. Proverbs 27:17....................38
SECTION THREE: BIBLICAL FRIENDSHIPS....................43
14. Jonathan and David....................44
15. Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego....................46
16. David's Mighty Men (The Water Boys)....................48
17. Paul and Barnabas....................50
18. The Disciples....................52
19. Job's Friends....................54
20. Jesus' Friendship with Peter....................56
21. Jesus' Friendship with Mary....................58
SECTION FOUR: TYPES OF FRIENDS....................61
22. Best Friends....................62
23. Non-Romantic, Opposite-Gender Friends....................64
24. Typical Girl Friendship Groups....................66
25. Typical Guy Friendship Groups....................68
26. Other Types of Friends....................70
27. Compartmentalized FriendshipGroups....................72
SECTION FIVE: MORE THAN FRIENDS....................77
28. Why Is This Suddenly an Issue?....................78
29. Why Romantic Stuff Can Ruin Friendships (With Your Other Friends), Part 1....................80
30. Why Romantic Stuff Can Ruin Friendships (With That "Special Somebody"), Part 2....................82
31. Physical Stuff (How Far Is Too Far?)....................84
32. How to Break Up Well....................86
33. Getting Dumped....................88
34. What Kind of Dating Makes the Most Sense?....................90
35. It's Okay to Wait to Date!....................92
SECTION SIX: CONFLICT....................95
36. Why Does Conflict Exist in Friendships?....................96
37. Jealousy....................98
38. Selfishness....................100
39. Gossip (Proverbs 16:28)'....................102
40. Insecurity....................104
41. Forgiveness....................106
42. Peer Pressure....................108
43. How to Resolve Conflict....................110
SECTION SEVEN: WAYS TO BE A GOOD FRIEND....................115
44. Loyalty....................116
45. Honesty....................118
46. Encouragement....................120
47. Giving and Serving....................122
48. Compassion....................124
49. Listening....................126
50. Attentiveness....................128
51. Fun!....................130
52. Flexibility....................132
53. Accountability....................134
SECTION EIGHT: WAYS TO BE A BAD FRIEND....................137
54. Competing....................138
55. Using People....................140
56. Ignoring....................142
57. Bossiness....................144
58. Insensitivity....................146
59. Insincerity....................148
60. Smothering....................150
SECTION NINE: TOUGH SITUATIONS....................155
61. When Your Parents Don't Like Your Friends....................156
62. When Your Friends Are Fighting (Stuck in the Middle)....................158
63. When Your Friends Start Making Bad Choices....................160
64. When Your Friends Get Hurt (Something Bad Happens)....................162
65. When You Don't Have Any Friends....................164
66. When Your Friends Turn Against You....................166
67. When You Have to End a Friendship....................168
68. When You Want to End a Friendship....................170
69. What to Do If You're Shy....................172
SECTION TEN: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS....................175
70. Meeting People for the First Time....................176
71. Making Yourself Friendship-Worthy....................178
72. Common Interests....................180
73. Asking Questions....................182
74. Being Aware of Potential Friends....................184
75. Picking the Right Potential Friends....................186
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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 22, 2012

    Great!

    These books are awesome because it isn't a regular book about middle school, it is a book about middle school and the Christian way to handle problems in middle school!
    And fyi, Christianity is NOT a religion, it is having a relationship with God and Jesus.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 4, 2012

    ?....

    Ok i thot it would b more about friends for gurls amd how to keep and make good friends...its also kinda religious and i dt realli like that...

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    Posted April 13, 2012

    Didnt really understand

    Hard to compreheind and random other than that like a lot

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    Posted January 29, 2012

    Sh

    Didnt read it

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