Getting Naked: Five Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life (While Fully Clothed & Totally Sober)

Getting Naked: Five Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life (While Fully Clothed & Totally Sober)

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by Harlan Cohen
     
 

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From Harlan Cohen, the bestselling author of THE NAKED ROOMMATE: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run into in College, comes GETTING NAKED, an honest, hopeful guide to getting a date, falling in love—or lust—and finding happiness in love (and in life). With a simple 5-step approach to finding the love of your life, Harlan answers the most commonly asked

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From Harlan Cohen, the bestselling author of THE NAKED ROOMMATE: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run into in College, comes GETTING NAKED, an honest, hopeful guide to getting a date, falling in love—or lust—and finding happiness in love (and in life). With a simple 5-step approach to finding the love of your life, Harlan answers the most commonly asked questions from his syndicated advice column, his college tours, his website, and his newest book for Gen Y. He helped a generation make the most of college life, now he'll help them find the love of their lives.

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“This book should be required reading for anyone looking for a relationship or re-evaluating a current relationship. Harlan brilliantly delivers common sense relationship advice with a strong dose of humor. Read this book now so that you can live a realistic 'happily ever after' forever.” —Carol Roth, Business Strategist and New York Times Bestselling Author of The Entrepreneur Equation

“The dating manual everyone should read--I only wish I'd had it sooner!” —Miss Marm, SparkNotes.com

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781429926959
Publisher:
St. Martin's Press
Publication date:
04/24/2012
Sold by:
Macmillan
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
320
Sales rank:
873,804
File size:
393 KB

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LESSON #1
 
We Learn … Sharing Our Feelings Is Stupid (or Just a Very Bad Idea)
 
 
It all starts with a first crush. That’s when we first smell danger. It’s also when we first learn that sharing our feelings is a VERY BAD idea or just plain stupid. From the first “like” our knee-jerk reaction is to avoid letting anyone know. We might confide in a friend or two, but the only way we are willing to openly share our feelings is if we are 100 percent certain the person we like will like us back.
We’ll flirt, ask friends to ask questions, creep on Facebook, ogle, Google, and investigate, but rarely say what we feel. We get as much information as possible without letting the people we like know we like them. We want to know if someone is available and interested. We ask friends to do our dirty work for us. The reason we use friends is so we can distance ourselves far enough to deny our feelings ever existed should the person we like not reciprocate or others find out about them. Technology and friends give us a safe buffer to cast blame and run like hell should rejection or humiliation find us.
As a result, we have imaginary relationships with people who don’t know they’re in relationships with us (thank you, Facebook). We get jealous of people who like the people we secretly like. We have friends find out information about the people we like, which inadvertently gets the people we like interested in our friends because they are the only ones talking. Most friends won’t date the people we like, but some will. It’s difficult not to blame them. It’s hard to meet people.
If we do share our feelings and our crush shares our interest we breathe a sigh of relief. If a crush doesn’t share our feelings the results can be devastating. It only reaffirms why it was wrong and stupid for us to share our feelings in the first place. We quickly learn that sharing our feelings and not having them reciprocated is about the worst thing that can happen. We can’t stand the pain of not being liked by the people we like. If other people find out it’s that much more humiliating. So we learn to hide our feelings and run like hell when we smell rejection coming.
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Step 1 will give you the power to say and do what you feel without the fear of being rejected and/or humiliated.
My biggest hang-up was me. I was so worried about how I was perceived by other people that I didn’t get involved. It was self-preservation.
—Heidi, twenty-six, married

 
Copyright © 2012 by Harlan Cohen

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Meet the Author

HARLAN COHEN is a nationally syndicated advice columnist, speaker, and author of the bestselling advice book for college students, The Naked Roommate: And 107 other issues you might run into in college, now in its fourth edition. He has been a guest on the Today Show, all Chicago TV stations, and 100+ radio shows, and has been quoted in the New York Times, USA Today, Chicago Tribune, LA Times, and the Wall Street Journal.

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Naked Dating: Five Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life (While Fully Clothed & Totally Sober) 4.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 9 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Me and my girlfreind took a shower together and had sex
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
The perfect dating book. Extremely realistic, down to earth, and based off of real experiences. Love that it is broken down into steps that each individual reader can take their own time on. Also thought that the anecdotes from real surveys and advice columns made each corresponding part of the book seem like it is possible to find love by completing each step of the process. The Universal Rejection Truth as described in the book really puts everything into perspective and shows that there are always people out there who want to be with you and if someone doesn't, you can easily move on with confidence after reading Harlan's book. Would recommend in a second to any "single & searching" friend.
Lunastar1 More than 1 year ago
This book is amazing. I would recommend this book to everyone no matter where you are in your life. This book offers a new perspective to dating and relationships. It's more about finding yourself and finding what you want before rushing into anything and then wondering what happened. If you don't actually listen it's not going to be helpful. I recommend buying this book. It's truly worth it.
eascally More than 1 year ago
Harlan Cohen hits the mark again in his latest book. "Getting Naked" is an informative, entertaining look at dating and finding the love of your life. A must read for those wishing to find their partner. Harlan takes you through the dos and don'ts of how to find real love.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Now lets have sex yll & tahja & kaliee
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Reading "Naked" was like hearing all the best advice I've ever given or received in my life. It'sall thestuff that is so easy and obvious to say to someone else, but the hardest stuff to actually apply to yourself! Great read!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book really helps guide you through the world of relationships. It's all about taking a leap, and overcoming the fear of rejection. Following the advice written in this book will undoubtedly help individuals become confident, even in the face of rejection. Reading it made the steps seem like they were always present but I just needed someone to point them out to me. I loved this book and I can't wait to actually start trying to find the right guy for me. This book is all about going at your own pace, step by step.
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