Getting Naked: Five Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life (While Fully Clothed & Totally Sober) [NOOK Book]

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From Harlan Cohen, the bestselling author of THE NAKED ROOMMATE: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run into in College, comes GETTING NAKED, an honest, hopeful guide to getting a date, falling in love—or lust—and finding happiness in love (and in life). With a simple 5-step approach to finding the love of your life, Harlan answers the most commonly asked questions from his syndicated advice column, his college tours, his website, and his newest book for Gen Y. He helped a generation make the most of college ...

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Getting Naked: Five Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life (While Fully Clothed & Totally Sober)

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Overview



From Harlan Cohen, the bestselling author of THE NAKED ROOMMATE: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run into in College, comes GETTING NAKED, an honest, hopeful guide to getting a date, falling in love—or lust—and finding happiness in love (and in life). With a simple 5-step approach to finding the love of your life, Harlan answers the most commonly asked questions from his syndicated advice column, his college tours, his website, and his newest book for Gen Y. He helped a generation make the most of college life, now he’ll help them find the love of their lives.


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Harlan Cohen's Naked Roommate, now in its fourth edition, has helped thousands of college students survive and thrive while living in a dorm. His new Naked Dating accomplishes an even more daunting achievement: It teaches single people how to find meaningful relationships without losing sanity or sleep. Cohen's five-step approach possesses a winning clarity that is probably missing when you discuss your love life problems with your best friends. This trade paperback and NOOK Book original is a keeper.

Alisa Schnaars

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“This book should be required reading for anyone looking for a relationship or re-evaluating a current relationship.  Harlan brilliantly delivers common sense relationship advice with a strong dose of humor.  Read this book now so that you can live a realistic 'happily ever after' forever.”—Carol Roth, Business Strategist and New York Times Bestselling Author of The Entrepreneur Equation

“The dating manual everyone should read—I only wish I’d had it sooner!”—Miss Marm, SparkNotes.com

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781429926959
  • Publisher: St. Martin's Press
  • Publication date: 4/24/2012
  • Sold by: Macmillan
  • Format: eBook
  • Pages: 304
  • Sales rank: 127,181
  • File size: 384 KB

Meet the Author



HARLAN COHEN is a nationally syndicated advice columnist, speaker, and author of the bestselling advice book for college students, The Naked Roommate: And 107 other issues you might run into in college, now in its fourth edition. He has been a guest on the Today Show, all Chicago TV stations, and 100+ radio shows, and has been quoted in the New York Times, USA Today, Chicago Tribune, LA Times, and the Wall Street Journal.

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LESSON #1
 
We Learn … Sharing Our Feelings Is Stupid (or Just a Very Bad Idea)
 
 
It all starts with a first crush. That’s when we first smell danger. It’s also when we first learn that sharing our feelings is a VERY BAD idea or just plain stupid. From the first “like” our knee-jerk reaction is to avoid letting anyone know. We might confide in a friend or two, but the only way we are willing to openly share our feelings is if we are 100 percent certain the person we like will like us back.
We’ll flirt, ask friends to ask questions, creep on Facebook, ogle, Google, and investigate, but rarely say what we feel. We get as much information as possible without letting the people we like know we like them. We want to know if someone is available and interested. We ask friends to do our dirty work for us. The reason we use friends is so we can distance ourselves far enough to deny our feelings ever existed should the person we like not reciprocate or others find out about them. Technology and friends give us a safe buffer to cast blame and run like hell should rejection or humiliation find us.
As a result, we have imaginary relationships with people who don’t know they’re in relationships with us (thank you, Facebook). We get jealous of people who like the people we secretly like. We have friends find out information about the people we like, which inadvertently gets the people we like interested in our friends because they are the only ones talking. Most friends won’t date the people we like, but some will. It’s difficult not to blame them. It’s hard to meet people.
If we do share our feelings and our crush shares our interest we breathe a sigh of relief. If a crush doesn’t share our feelings the results can be devastating. It only reaffirms why it was wrong and stupid for us to share our feelings in the first place. We quickly learn that sharing our feelings and not having them reciprocated is about the worst thing that can happen. We can’t stand the pain of not being liked by the people we like. If other people find out it’s that much more humiliating. So we learn to hide our feelings and run like hell when we smell rejection coming.
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Step 1 will give you the power to say and do what you feel without the fear of being rejected and/or humiliated.
My biggest hang-up was me. I was so worried about how I was perceived by other people that I didn’t get involved. It was self-preservation.
—Heidi, twenty-six, married

 
Copyright © 2012 by Harlan Cohen

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Table of Contents

Before Step 1 xi

The Philosophy of Getting Naked xi

This Book Is Written For… xii

The Naked Truth About Getting Naked xiii

Before Step 1… xv

Three Promises xix

Part I Why We Think Men Are Assholes, Women Are Bitches, and Couples in Love Suck: Our Informal Relationship Education 1

Lesson #1 We Learn… Sharing Our Feelings Is Stupid (or Just a Very Bad Idea) 7

Lesson #2 We Learn… We Are All Defective 9

Lesson #3 We Learn… Hooking Up Is Faster and Easier Than Dating 13

Lesson #4 We Learn … We Don't Know Where, When, or How It Happens (But Still, It Happens) 17

Lesson #5 We Learn… Men Are Assholes, Women Are Bitches, and Couples in Love Suck 19

Despite What We "Learn" 23

Part II The Getting Naked Experiment: 5 Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life (While Fully Clothed & Totally Sober) 25

Introduction: The Getting Naked Experiment 27

Step 1 Embrace the Secret Truth 33

Meet the Unspoken and Undeniable Truth 33

Embrace The Truth 36

Thousands of People Will Want You 39

Give Thousands of People Permission to Want You 42

Millions of People Will Not Want You 44

Give Millions of People Permission to Not Want You 47

Put Yourself in More Rooms 50

Talk to People in Rooms 53

Date or Hook Up with People in Rooms 55

Demand Respect In and Out of Rooms 58

Welcome to a Bigger, Brighter, and More Forgiving World 61

Step 2 Train in Your Thong(s) 65

Intro to Training 65

Training in Your Thong 66

Why a Tight Thong? 69

The Naked People in Your Corner 71

Why You Must Train Physically 74

How to Train in Your Physical Thong 76

Why You Must Train Emotionally 79

How to Train in Your Emotional Thong 81

Why You Must Train Spiritually 84

How to Train in Your Spiritual Thong 86

Change What You Don't Love 88

Love What You Can't Change 93

You Don't Need to Creep, Plot, Plan, Drink, or Puke 98

You'll Want a Complement, Not Just Compliments 100

Hooking Up Will Never Feel the Same Again 103

You Can Find Thousands of People Who Want to Date You 105

Assholes, Bitches, and Couples in Love Will No Longer Suck 107

Once You've Trained… You Will Date, but Never Settle 109

You're Almost Ready for Your Getting Naked Experiment to Begin 111

Step 3 Stop Making Excuses 113

Excuse #1 I'm Too Shy to Approach Someone 115

Excuse #2 I Never Know What to Say 117

Excuse #3 I'm Old-Fashioned (aka I Don't Do the Approaching) 120

Excuse #4 It's Hard to Meet People 123

Excuse #5 I Don't Want to Look Creepy 126

Excuse #6 I Can't Tell If Someone Is Single 128

Excuse #7 I Don't Want to Lose a Friendship 131

Excuse #8 I Don't Do Online Dating 134

Excuse #9 I Don't Do Setups 138

Excuse #10 I'm Not "Experienced" 140

Excuse #11 I Don't Want to Hurt Someone's Feelings 143

Excuse #12 I Don't Like Dating 146

Excuse #13 I Don't Like Playing Games 150

Excuse #14 I Don't Want to Get Hurt 152

Excuse #15 I Don't Want to Commit 155

Excuse #16 I Don't Have Time 157

Excuse #17 I'm Too Picky 159

Excuse #18 I Don't Do Long Distance 162

Excuse #19 I Don't Want to Lose My Job 165

Step 4 Take the Risk 169

How to Take Your Risk 170

Risk #1 Do It Online 172

Risk #2 Do It Blind 179

Risk #3 Do It with a Friend 182

Risk #4 Do It on the Job 185

Risk #5 Do It at School 190

Risk #6 Do It Commuting 193

Risk #7 Do It at a Bar 196

Risk #8 Do It at a Party 200

Risk #9 Do It with a Neighbor 205

Risk #10 Do It on Vacation 208

Risk #11 Do It Religiously 212

Risk #12 Do It in a Group 215

Risk #13 Do It Adventurously 219

Risk #14 Do It Voluntarily 222

Risk #15 Do It Randomly 225

Step 5 Celebrate, Reflect, and Repeat 231

CELEBRATE: Finding a Date or Hooking Up 233

CELEBRATE: Not Finding a Date or Hooking Up 235

REFLECT: Don't Be a Hater 237

REFLECT: Don't Be a Hider 240

REFLECT: The Three Forms of Adversity 242

REFLECT: Umm, Is It Me? 243

REFLECT: Umm, Is It You? 246

REFLECT: It Is What It Is (and It's Called The Universal Rejection Truth) 249

REFLECT: Turn to the People in Your Corner 252

REFLECT: Take Time to Recoup 255

REPEAT: Take the Same Risk Again-or Find a New One 257

Naked Final Exam 259

Part III The Getting Naked Experiment 263

My Getting Naked Experiment-Part One 267

My Getting Naked Experiment-Part Two 273

Your Getting Naked Experiment: A Recap 283

10 Getting Naked Experiment Tips 291

Getting Naked FAQs 293

Naked Acknowledgments 297

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 19, 2012

    The perfect dating book. Extremely realistic, down to earth, an

    The perfect dating book. Extremely realistic, down to earth, and based off of real experiences. Love that it is broken down into steps that each individual reader can take their own time on. Also thought that the anecdotes from real surveys and advice columns made each corresponding part of the book seem like it is possible to find love by completing each step of the process. The Universal Rejection Truth as described in the book really puts everything into perspective and shows that there are always people out there who want to be with you and if someone doesn't, you can easily move on with confidence after reading Harlan's book. Would recommend in a second to any "single & searching" friend.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 10, 2013

    Cool

    Me and my girlfreind took a shower together and had sex

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Posted April 25, 2012

    This book is amazing. I would recommend this book to everyone no

    This book is amazing. I would recommend this book to everyone no matter where you are in your life. This book offers a new perspective to dating and relationships. It's more about finding yourself and finding what you want before rushing into anything and then wondering what happened. If you don't actually listen it's not going to be helpful. I recommend buying this book. It's truly worth it.

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  • Posted April 24, 2012

    Harlan Cohen hits the mark again in his latest book. "Gett

    Harlan Cohen hits the mark again in his latest book. "Getting Naked" is an informative, entertaining look at dating and finding the love of your life. A must read for those wishing to find their partner. Harlan takes you through the dos and don'ts of how to find real love.

    1 out of 1 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 30, 2013

    We all shouldget naked

    Now lets have sex yll & tahja & kaliee

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 5, 2013

    Great book i had sex with my girlfriend and we were naked completely nude

    Oh ya¿AAAAAA

    0 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 16, 2012

    All of those "duh" moments...

    Reading "Naked" was like hearing all the best advice I've ever given or received in my life.
    It'sall thestuff that is so easy and obvious to say to someone else, but the hardest stuff to actually apply to yourself!
    Great read!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 29, 2012

    This book really helps guide you through the world of relationsh

    This book really helps guide you through the world of relationships. It's all about taking a leap, and overcoming the fear of rejection. Following the advice written in this book will undoubtedly help individuals become confident, even in the face of rejection. Reading it made the steps seem like they were always present but I just needed someone to point them out to me. I loved this book and I can't wait to actually start trying to find the right guy for me. This book is all about going at your own pace, step by step.

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    Posted November 13, 2012

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