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Narcissistic Predicaments
     

Narcissistic Predicaments

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by Renee Pittelli
 
PLEASING GOD WHILE PROTECTING YOURSELF

Adult Children of narcissistic families often find themselves in predicaments that people with normal families never have to face. They spend a lifetime being stuck in no-win situations, forced to make uncomfortable choices, and then being made to live through the consequences with no support and no appreciation. Offering

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PLEASING GOD WHILE PROTECTING YOURSELF

Adult Children of narcissistic families often find themselves in predicaments that people with normal families never have to face. They spend a lifetime being stuck in no-win situations, forced to make uncomfortable choices, and then being made to live through the consequences with no support and no appreciation. Offering encouragement, comfort and wisdom, and filled with helpful suggestions, step-by-step guides, and just-right scripture verses, Narcissistic Predicaments is exactly what you need to help you set boundaries and free yourself in accordance with biblical principles. Including The 21 Rules of No Contact and 102 Questions to Ask Yourself When Deciding Whether to End an Abusive Relationship, here are the answers you've been looking for.

When you try to set boundaries, have you been accused of not being a "good Christian," because:

- You are not honoring your father and mother?
- You have to "forgive and forget," even though your relatives refuse to stop their abuse?
- You must forgive unrepentant evildoers because Jesus said "Father forgive them, for they know not what they do?"
- You are taking revenge by enforcing consequences?
- You have to "love your enemies?"

In Narcissistic Predicaments, the author will help you let go of the guilt, learn effective strategies for protecting yourself, and find out what the Bible really says about dilemmas such as:

- Should you let your estranged relatives have contact with your children?
- Dealing with the family meddler who tries to intervene between you and your abuser
- Working in the family business
- What to expect when you upset the apple cart by getting married
- What to do about holidays, weddings, and family celebrations
- Does your abuser's apology automatically cover those who took her side against you?
- What to expect from estranged relatives who want to drag you back in
- Reconciling on your terms, not theirs
- If you leave, who will take care of your abusive parents in their old age?
- Visiting a dying abuser
- When your abuser or estranged relative dies- funerals, condolences, obituaries

Just as a single narcissistic abuser refuses to allow others their autonomy apart from him, the narcissistic family does not see and accept its members as separate individuals. The uniqueness of each person and their differences are not celebrated. Instead, individuality and free-thinking are perceived as threatening and not allowed. Anyone who breaks from the group mentality will be shut up or shunned. There is one way of thinking, one opinion for all. If you offend one of them, you offend them all. If you set a boundary and say something to one, it's as if you said it to the whole clan. If one is mad at you, they're all mad at you. If one isn't speaking to you, they're all not speaking to you. And if one suddenly decides that they are speaking to you again, then everybody is speaking to you again. The only wild card they never consider is whether you will want to speak to them again. They simply assume that you will passively go along with whatever the group decides, just like all of them do.

In the Bible, God instructs his children on how he wants them to relate to and live in peace with each other. He is not instructing the children of God on how to be loving and forgiving toward, live in peace with, and maintain relationships with the children of Satan. As Christians, we are to take up the full armor of God and fight the dark forces of evil, not peacefully co-exist with them. A breath of fresh air for Adult Children of abusive families, this compelling book will help you find the peace our heavenly Father promised you, His beloved child.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781432750442
Publisher:
Outskirts Press, Inc.
Publication date:
04/29/2010
Pages:
374
Sales rank:
955,512
Product dimensions:
5.80(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.80(d)

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Narcissistic Predicaments 1.3 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 24 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Talk about calling the kettle black. Waste of money. Would have been better to see it at the library instead. Definitely not self-help (for the reader)...although no doubt it helped "Sister" Pittelli to vent her frustrations throughout the book. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
No actual help, just pages and pages of personal drama stories. 
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I understand not accepting abuse and that it's important to have a backbone when dealing with toxic individuals (family-related or not), but to call some people especially family members "children of Satan"?? Yikes. Who made "sister" Rene pitelli the judge? Herself apparently. As a Christian, it should be obvious that something of that caliber is not for a human to decide. Only God can make that righteous judgment since only He can look into people's minds, hearts and overall behaviours. This book is so fundamentally flawed.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Was this book written by a narcissist?
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I wanted to help out a friend dealing with family issues, so I came across this book and bought it for them for a Christmas gift . My friend informed me that the therapy group she was in did not think highly of this book. When I skimmed through it after she returned it to me, it seemed like the author writes from a pompous angry standpoint.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Cringe-worthy.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book didn't work for me. Instead it was better to go to a trusted church elder and had a therapeutic talk about bothersome family issues.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Not sure what is meant by "just-right" Scriptures. Sounds like picking and choosing. "Anyone who breaks from the group mentality will be shut up or shunned. There is one way of thinking, one opinion for all. If you offend one of them, you offend them all. If you set a boundary and say something to one, it's as if you said it to the whole clan. If one is mad at you, they're all mad at you. If one isn't speaking to you, they're all not speaking to you." Does the author act this way to others? Are there separate rules for us plebs to follow? I guess this book is tailored more to those who enjoy irony.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Good concept, failed delivery. Hoped the main character would not remain such a bitter, immature person with a chip on their shoulder by the end of the book, but sadly that was not the case. The search for a better book on this topic continues...
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CarolAnne1958 More than 1 year ago
A no nonsense book. This book has been a life saver, and I will continue to share it and recommend it! There are so many of us out there who need to know we are not alone. Easy to read, couldn't put the book down! I am also looking forward to Sister Renee's new book coming out soon called Breaking The Bonds Of Adult Child Abuse. Please keep the books coming! CarolAnne1958
Jeannie3doxie More than 1 year ago
I have lived an entire life thinking there was something wrong with ME. Everyone loved me except two what I considered "important family members". The mental abuse was horrible. This book has helped me so much to see that I didn't do anything to cause this, I was a victim of a Narcissistic parent with a goldenchild that could do no wrong. It has changed my life so much, it's a book you will want to refer too time and time again. Can't wait for the newest release later on this spring. Sister Renee Pittelli has saved me and started repairing my broken heart with this book.