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Many parenting experts agree that spanking is never a good way to discipline a child. In its stead, they have recommended using methods like time-outs and grounding. Griffin (executive director, Proactive Parenting) goes further: parents should neverpunish their child. Yes, children misbehave, but it's probably because they don't have the skills necessary to behave acceptably. Using behavior management theory, Griffin proposes the following method: impose limits in advance of conflicts; discuss clearly with children what they can do; if the limit established is later pushed, don't argue during the conflict because children will think the limit is negotiable; instead, use simple actions to communicate the message that the behavior is unacceptable. Griffin firmly believes that parents know their children very well and can predict most of their behaviors. Therefore, parents should be proactive and build the skills their children need to behave accordingly. Although at times Griffin's message seems unrealistic, her arguments and repeated explanations will challenge parents to assert their authority differently. This book, rich in anecdotes, will make a great addition to any parenting collection. Recommended for public libraries.