The Newlywed's Guide to Physical Intimacyby Jennie Rosenfeld, D Ribner
Sexuality is a beautiful part of life – truly a gift from God. As a young couple about to embark on one of life’s most important journeys, may you have only joy and success. An important part of this journey is developing physical intimacy – the unique pleasure of the sexual experience. Your enjoyment as sexual partners is more than just physical; you can feel closeness with another person that no other experience can provide. Your sharing of physical intimacy creates an emotional bond that should include feelings of trust, acceptance, caring, and mutuality. Your intimate relationship is the glue that binds your marriage together.Yet advice about the sexual experience that was once passed from parent to child is no longer, and as a result many couples are left to face this critical area of their lives with little guidance or information. This instructive and easy-to-read guide can help you navigate this new and uncharted area of your lives. For chassan (groom) and kallah (bride), as well as for teachers, rabbis, and anyone with questions about sexuality coming from the Torah observant community. It is user-friendly, with clear and descriptive language, and the information and guidance found in this book is not available anywhere else in the religious world.
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This was an informative book that addressed both physical concerns and psychological concerns regarding the intimate relationship. It is also beneficial for those, not necessarily Jewish, but have decided to to forgo a sexual relationship until marriage. There were a few typos in the text in the Nook edition that should be corrected in the future, but all in all, informative and useful.
One of the first books I owned and read about sex was the classic The Joy of Sex by Alex Comfort. I was both riveted and embarrassed even though, in hindsight, that how-to manual did approach the subject with greater sensitivity than many recent books. Most books on sex are really how-to manuals without in-depth context. They speak to the mechanics of sex, but rarely discuss the nuts-and-bolts of physical intimacy of love making within committed relationships. The other book I read as a new bride, erred on the side of the esoteric, citing studies and providing clinical explanations that might have bored some to tears and almost frightened me. For the uninitiated or those with limited experience, but a strong desire or need to go beyond just the possible viable positions and methods of pleasuring one another, there is a lovely solution in Jennie Rosenfeld's and David S. Ribner's new book, The Newlywed's Guide to Physical Intimacy. I was fortunate to receive it through the Library Thing's Early Reviewer program. This book surprised me with its clear and thorough explanations considering it was written by and intended for the conservative and ultra-conservative Torah-observant Jewish community. Even though the text itself is without illustrative photos and diagrams, there is a modest packet of explicit drawings tucked into a sealed envelope attached to the inside back cover. As befits a book intended for a chaste and conservative audience, there is a label on that packet warning of its explicit nature. For some non-conservative readers, this lack of visual aids may seem quaint and non-helpful, but to avoid this book for that reason would be a mistake. This small book contains useful information that not only provides practical advice about techniques and mechanics, but also nurtures a sensitivity that will benefit both sexual partners. Remember, this is meant for newlyweds both as premarital sex education primer, but also an on-going, nurturing manual that will enable and empower a couple to transcend inhibitions borne of ignorance or inexperience. The authors want their readers to find pleasure in both physical and emotional intimacy not only in their first interactions, but throughout their married lives. There are the necessary basics: where things are and how they work; but there is also a strong emphasis on the need for patience and clear communication. To that end, the authors address issues that most people never consider, but which are necessary for an active, fulfilling sex life. Make no mistake, this small book is not one to skirt vital issues: how sex smells, sounds, and feels for both the male and female; how to deal with unrealistic expectations; and, lack or orgasm as well as how to maximize orgasmic potential. There is a straightforward discussion of lubrication, how to deal with the constricts of religious observation as it applies to sex, causes of impotence, sex during and after pregnancy and how external pressure can affect a couple's sex life amongst other issues. Even though I am not Jewish and have decades of sexual experience, I found this book to be informative and engaging. It is well written and thoughtfully presented. I wish I had had access to it when I was an newlywed.