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Nice Girls Just Don't Get It: 99 Ways to Win the Respect You Deserve, the Success You've Earned, and the Life You Want

Nice Girls Just Don't Get It: 99 Ways to Win the Respect You Deserve, the Success You've Earned, and the Life You Want

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by Lois P. Frankel Ph.D., Carol Frohlinger J.D., Marguerite Gavin
     
 

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Have you ever felt invisible? Taken advantage of? Reluctant (or unable) to articulate what you really want? If so, join the club. The nice girls club. Nice girls-that's right, girls-are those who are more concerned with pleasing others than with addressing their own needs and who haven't yet learned how to overcome the childhood messages and cultural stereotypes

Overview

Have you ever felt invisible? Taken advantage of? Reluctant (or unable) to articulate what you really want? If so, join the club. The nice girls club. Nice girls-that's right, girls-are those who are more concerned with pleasing others than with addressing their own needs and who haven't yet learned how to overcome the childhood messages and cultural stereotypes that are keeping them from getting their voices heard, their needs met, and the lives they want. This book will turn those nice girls into winning women. That is, women who factor their own needs in with those of others, confront those who treat them disrespectfully, maintain healthy and mutually beneficial relationships with appropriate boundaries-and, as a result, are happier and more successful in every area of their lives. In 2004, Lois Frankel blew the lid off so many of our long-held ideas about gender and success with her bestselling Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office, which went on to become such a huge phenomenon, the term nice girls has secured a place in our cultural lexicon. Here, Frankel teams up with negotiation expert Carol Frohlinger to bring this bestselling advice out of the workplace and to provide a broader set of skills that any woman-whether a CEO or stay-at-home mom-can use to win anywhere, with anyone. Presented in the straightforward, digestible format that helped make Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office an instant hit, Frankel and Frohlinger outline seven practical strategies and ninety-nine supporting tactics that every winning woman should know. By the time you've finished digesting this book, you'll be able to: -Get your husband to do his half of the household chores-without being made to feel like a nag (or any other unflattering term typically used to describe an assertive woman) -Stop overextending yourself by taking on all the unpleasant tasks no one on your volunteer board or your team at work will go near -Win an argument with your mother-in-law about who will be hosting Christmas dinner -Have the courage to send back a meal that isn't prepared the way you'd ordered it -Confront a colleague who is shirking responsibility or taking credit for your work -Convince a salesperson to reduce a fee, waive a surcharge, or honor a store credit -Question your doctor's course or treatment or request a second opinion, instead of simply going along in order to be a "good" patient -Firmly but politely bow out of an extravagant vacation to celebrate a friend's birthday that you simply can't afford-without feeling guilty about it -And so much more. A must-listen for anyone who has ever felt taken advantage of by a friend or family member, unappreciated by a spouse or partner, or exploited by a vindictive neighbor or coworker, Nice Girls Just Don't Get It offers women the indispensable knowledge and skills to get the things they want, the respect they've earned, and the success they deserve.

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly
Frankel (Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office) and Frohlinger (coauthor, Her Place at the Table) provide a broad set of skills women can use to achieve goals when dealing with anyone, anywhere, whether a disparaging sister-in-law, a contractor who can't remember what was agreed upon in previous discussions, or a boyfriend who lets you pay for most of the meals and entertainment. Employing case studies and self-assessment and visualization exercises, the authors urge readers not to let early experiences define them and limit their expectations of themselves or invest equally in every relationship. They advise paying attention to subtle messages given by others, developing a thicker skin, and asking directly for what you need rather than hinting around, as well as avoiding passive-aggressive behavior; learn to interrupt a discussion "with aplomb"; and being proactive in both your personal and professional lives. Despite nuggets of helpful advice, this book feels like an also-ran to Frankel's previous trail-blazing bestseller. (Apr.)
From the Publisher
“Frankel and Frohlinger break down why so many women go through life harboring resentment and frustration: it’s about respect, and no one is going to hand it to us. Bravo to these two winning women – they demonstrate how it’s done, share the expert advice that will earn you the things you want, and the respect you deserve.”
Carolyn Kepcher, bestselling author of Carolyn 101, former Trump Executive V.P., and CEO of WorkHerWay.com
 
“I have read all the Nice Girls books, and they’ve helped me immensely both personally and professionally. Now a new gem in the series appears – this one is the crown jewel!” 
Hamida Belkadi, CEO, De Beers, North America

“This book is a treasure! If you’re looking for smart, down-to-earth strategies for building a fulfilling life look no further.  Frankel and Frohlinger are a winning team whose advice is essential reading for women who want to use their talents to the fullest.”
Anne Fisher, "Ask Annie" columnist, CNNmoney.com
 
“Lois Frankel and Carol Frohlinger have done it again! Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It is easy to read, practical and crammed with great advice for all women. It’s a gentle wakeup call and powerful resource for everyone—from teenagers to top executives. Brilliant!”
Liz Cornish, founding partner, FHD (First 100 Days) Consulting
 
“You don’t have to be a drop dead diva to love this book. Every woman can win the life she wants by following its sage advice.” 
Josh Berman, Creator, Drop Dead Diva

“If you're a nice girl—or even if you're not—you'll want to read this book.”
Peggy Klaus, author of BRAG! The Art of Tooting Your Own Horn Without Blowing It and The Hard Truth About Soft Skills: Workplace Lessons Smart People Wish They’d Learned Sooner

Library Journal
According to Frankel (Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office) and Frohlinger, cofounder of Negotiating Women, Inc., women who are "nice girls" are held back in relationships, friendships, and all aspects of their personal lives. It's not enough to plan a strategy to overcome self-deprecating behaviors; one must envision and enact tactics as well. The 99 tactics they put forward range from assessing the messenger and allowing others to save face, to creating boundaries and avoiding perfectionism. Their common-sense solutions and psychological backup provide a starting place for any woman wanting to overcome the polite "niceness" holding her back and move forward in a more egalitarian fashion. A great shot in the arm for all working women.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781452650838
Publisher:
Tantor Media, Inc.
Publication date:
04/19/2011
Edition description:
MP3 - Unabridged CD
Product dimensions:
5.30(w) x 7.50(h) x 0.60(d)

What People are saying about this

From the Publisher
“Frankel and Frohlinger break down why so many women go through life harboring resentment and frustration: it’s about respect, and no one is going to hand it to us. Bravo to these two winning women – they demonstrate how it’s done, share the expert advice that will earn you the things you want, and the respect you deserve.”
Carolyn Kepcher, bestselling author of Carolyn 101, former Trump Executive V.P., and CEO of WorkHerWay.com
 
“I have read all the Nice Girls books, and they’ve helped me immensely both personally and professionally. Now a new gem in the series appears – this one is the crown jewel!” 
Hamida Belkadi, CEO, De Beers, North America

“This book is a treasure! If you’re looking for smart, down-to-earth strategies for building a fulfilling life look no further.  Frankel and Frohlinger are a winning team whose advice is essential reading for women who want to use their talents to the fullest.”
Anne Fisher, "Ask Annie" columnist, CNNmoney.com
 
“Lois Frankel and Carol Frohlinger have done it again! Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It is easy to read, practical and crammed with great advice for all women. It’s a gentle wakeup call and powerful resource for everyone—from teenagers to top executives. Brilliant!”
Liz Cornish, founding partner, FHD (First 100 Days) Consulting
 
“You don’t have to be a drop dead diva to love this book. Every woman can win the life she wants by following its sage advice.” 
Josh Berman, Creator, Drop Dead Diva

“If you're a nice girl—or even if you're not—you'll want to read this book.”
Peggy Klaus, author of BRAG! The Art of Tooting Your Own Horn Without Blowing It and The Hard Truth About Soft Skills: Workplace Lessons Smart People Wish They’d Learned Sooner

Meet the Author

Dr. Lois P. Frankel is the author of the international bestsellers Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office and Nice Girls Don't Get Rich, which have been translated into over twenty-five languages.

Carol Frohlinger, J.D., a cofounder of Negotiating Women, Inc., is an internationally recognized speaker and coauthor of Her Place at the Table.

Marguerite Gavin is a seasoned theater veteran, a five-time nominee for the prestigious Audie Award, and the winner of numerous AudioFile Earphones and Publishers Weekly awards. Marguerite has been an actor, director, and audiobook narrator for her entire professional career, and has over four hundred titles to her credit.

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