The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers: Gentle Ways to Stop Bedtime Battles and Improve Your Child's Sleep

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"A good night's sleep is within reach. Let the great ideas in this book guide you and your child there . . . lovingly."
—Harvey Karp, M.D., author of The Happiest Toddler on the Block

Your toddler isn't sleeping through the night. Your preschooler battles bedtime. And you haven't had a good night's sleep in how many years? Get the rest you all desperately need with advice found in The No-Cry Sleep Solution for...

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Overview

"A good night's sleep is within reach. Let the great ideas in this book guide you and your child there . . . lovingly."
—Harvey Karp, M.D., author of The Happiest Toddler on the Block

Your toddler isn't sleeping through the night. Your preschooler battles bedtime. And you haven't had a good night's sleep in how many years? Get the rest you all desperately need with advice found in The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers.

Elizabeth Pantley's beloved parenting classic The No-Cry Sleep Solution has helped hundreds of thousands of parents gently coax their babies to sleep. Now she gives you tools to help your one- to six-year-old child get in bed, stay in bed, and sleep all night by providing no-cry solutions for

  • Bedtime battles, dawdling, and evening meltdowns
  • Night waking and early rising
  • Moving out of the crib and into a big-kid bed
  • Graduating from the family bed to independent sleep
  • Ending the all-night breastfeeding routine
  • Stopping nighttime visits to your bed
  • Handling naptime problems
  • Nightmares, separation anxiety, and fears
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In this excellent companion to her 2002 parenting classic, The No-Cry Sleep Solution, Pantley debunks many myths about children and sleep, including the prevalent theory that children should be able to sleep independently through the night from the time they are a few months old, supporting her claims with data from the National Sleep Foundation and her own surveys. She also provides a plethora of examples about how perfectly natural it is for toddlers and preschoolers to have sleep issues. However, parents will be thrilled to hear that just because something is normal doesn't mean they have to live with it until things change on their own. She addresses problems and solutions for a wide variety of sleep-related issues, including night waking, nighttime nursing, waking up early, bad dreams, sleeping in the parent's bed, and nap-time problems. This is hope condensed for the tired parent; essential for all public libraries.-Kari Ramstrom, MLIS, Plymouth, MN Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780071444910
  • Publisher: McGraw-Hill Professional Publishing
  • Publication date: 4/25/2005
  • Series: Pantley Series
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 400
  • Sales rank: 169,798
  • Product dimensions: 5.40 (w) x 8.30 (h) x 0.94 (d)

Meet the Author

Elizabeth Pantley is the author of the parenting classic The No-Cry Sleep Solution as well as Gentle Baby Care, Perfect Parenting, Hidden Messages, and Kid Cooperation. She is frequently quoted as a parenting expert and is the mother of four great sleepers.

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the no-cry sleep solution for toddlers and preschoolers

Gentle Ways to Stop Bedtime Battles and Improve Your Child's Sleep
By Elizabeth Pantley

McGraw-Hill

Copyright © 2005 Better Beginnings, Inc.
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-07-150209-2


Chapter One

Learn About Toddlers, Preschoolers, and Sleep

As the mother of four children, I know I don't have to convince you that your life would be easier if your child went to bed easily and slept the entire night—every night—waking up in the morning at a reasonable hour, refreshed and happy. I understand how frustrating it is to end the day with battles over bedtime, and I know the pain of being roused from a sound sleep every single night by a child standing near my bed. But I also know the pleasure of having my four children sleep all night while I, too, have my own good night's sleep.

Bedtime and sleep-related problems are far more challenging than many other aspects of parenting because we parents are directly affected by our children's lack of sleep, since when they aren't sleeping, we aren't either. We simply cannot function well as parents—or, as a matter of fact, even as people—when our own sleep is continually disturbed.

I think you will be surprised to learn that, beyond both the obvious parenting issues and the direct problems associated with bedtime and sleep, your child's sleep habits can affect every single waking moment of every single day. The quality of his sleep (or lack thereof) has a role in everything from dawdling, crankiness, and hyperactivity to growth, health, and learning to tie his shoes and recite the ABCs. Everything.

You are probably reading this book to learn how to end your bedtime battles with your child. Of course, that's the purpose of this book, and I'll share with you many tips for achieving that goal. But even more, you'll learn enough about sleep to be convinced that while the request for "one more drink of water" will fade in memory, the effects of good, healthy sleep in childhood can influence your child's health and welfare not only today, but for his entire life ahead.

Important Facts You Should Know About Sleep

When parents think of their children's sleep, they visualize a quiet child at rest. Actually, sleep is a dynamic activity: a complex series of phases, each of which contributes important aspects to health and well-being. Table 1.1 shows the various stages of sleep and describes what happens at each phase.

Each of the first four stages of sleep lasts from 5 to 15 minutes, and a complete cycle of the five stages of sleep takes between 90 and 110 minutes. Stages 2 and 3 repeat backward before dreaming sleep is entered, so the sleep cycle actually looks something like this: drowsy, stage 1, stage 2, stage 3, stage 4, stage 3, stage 2, REM (dreaming), continuing through the night by alternating between REM and non-REM sleep in a cyclical pattern. A full and healthy night's sleep that brings the best benefits of restfulness and rejuvenation allows an adequate number of these cycles, usually between four and six.

The Normal Flow Between Sleep Stages

Children (and parents, too) move through these sleep cycles each night, riding them up and down like waves. A child who falls asleep easily and sleeps well all night flows peacefully and contentedly through the stages of sleep all night long.

Now that you understand the concept of these sleep stages and how they work, you can begin to identify and understand some of the common sleep issues that occur with children:

• There must be a preface to sleep—time for a child to wind down and relax. A child simply cannot go from wrestling with Daddy on the family room floor and an exciting, bouncy piggyback ride up the stairs directly to stage 1 of sleep. In that case, a second wind is a likely possibility.

• Children in the early stages of sleep wake easily. So when you have a child who fights sleep, he may begin to drift off but pull himself back just before he falls asleep, even if he's very tired. He may also be easily awakened by the sounds and activity of the household.

• Children enter sleep in a logical progression. If you are reading a bedtime story to a child who is relaxed and entering stage 1, maybe even beginning stage 2, but you get him up to use the toilet or move him to bed, he'll probably wake up fully. You've interrupted the normal flow of sleep stages and must begin the process again. (Oh, joy!)

• If your child requires certain conditions to fall asleep—such as your presence—she will wake easily when she senses she is going to lose the very thing she needs most to feel secure before she falls into a deeper sleep.

• Stages 3 and 4 are called delta sleep, which is regarded as the most restorative time of sleep. If a child lacks sufficient delta sleep, she will be sleepy the next day, regardless of how much stage 1 and 2 sleep she had. A child who fully awakens frequently throughout the night may not be getting enough delta sleep.

• Children spend substantially more time than adults in stage 4 sleep. This is when growth hormones are released, making deep sleep very important for your child's physical development.

• While scientists still debate the exact reasons and purposes for dreaming sleep, it appears to be a mechanism by which your brain sorts through the day's events, processes new information, explores issues that you are worried about, stores memories, and "cleans house." Research has demonstrated that REM sleep is crucial at all ages for proper functioning of the brain and psyche. The duration of REM sleep periods increases over the course of a night, so the longer a child sleeps, the more time he will spend in REM sleep time. An adequate amount of REM sleep enables a child to wake up feeling refreshed, happy, and energetic.

• Normal sleep follows a cyclical pattern throughout the entire night, but periods of deep sleep (stages 3 and 4) are longer at the beginning of the night. This explains why many children have a long sleep period followed by more frequent awakenings during the second half of the night.

• Sleep inertia, which is the gradual awakening process that occurs when a child first comes out of sleep, can be affected by the amount and quality of the child's sleep. The confusion and sleepiness of this state may last longer and be more intense if a child has not had enough sleep. Researchers are still trying to confirm a direct correlation, but if your child remains sleepy and dull for more than a few minutes after waking, it may be a sign that she's not getting the sleep she needs.

Brief Awakenings Between Sleep Stages

All human beings wake up five or more times each night, particularly when shifting from one stage of sleep to another. For a good sleeper, these brief awakenings aren't noticeable or remembered. You might fluff a pillow, straighten a blanket, or check on your child sleeping beside you, and then fade right back to sleep.

These brief awakenings have different consequences in babies and children. While a content sleeper will find a comfortable position and go back to sleep, a more finicky sleeper will become fully awake in search of whatever she needs to go back to sleep. Thus the series of sleep stages must begin anew.

A child can make a very strong sleep association wherein he associates certain things with falling asleep and believes he needs these things to fall asleep. When he begins to fall asleep or comes to the surface in a brief awakening between sleep stages, he may prevent himself from falling back to deeper sleep until he locates what he needs to comfortably ride his wave of sleep stages once again.

Remember that although all human beings wake periodically throughout the night, this association process is one of the main reasons that babies and young children call out to a parent in the middle of the night. They need a parent to right their sleeping situation so they feel secure and comfortable and are able to fall back to sleep.

The Biological Clock

Human beings have an internal clock, called a circadian rhythm, that regulates wakefulness and sleep. When it's working properly, people feel awake and alert during the day and sleepy at bedtime. The actual internal clock runs on a twenty-five-hour cycle, but it easily resets itself each day based on the person's sleep habits, timing of meals, and exposure to light and dark.

Some children have internal clocks that set easily; others have a finicky system that can be upset by any kind of external cue: lights that come on after he falls asleep, noise from dish-washing in the kitchen, or the beeping of a parent's alarm clock early in the morning. Haphazard nap- and bedtimes, irregular mealtimes, too much light or activity at bedtime, or not enough light in the morning can skew a child's biological clock as well, disturbing his state of biochemical equilibrium and causing an inability to fall asleep, poor-quality sleep, or too early waking.

The human biological clock needs resetting every day, and the components of a healthy bedtime routine, as will be discussed in the next chapter, will help keep your child's biological clock working properly.

How Lack of Adequate, Restful Sleep Can Affect Your Child

When I began to research sleep and children, an idea began building in my mind. With each piece of research I read, the idea became clearer until I finally reached that "Aha!" moment: for many children, the main reason for temper tantrums, fussiness, irritability, dawdling, and stubbornness is the lack of adequate, restful sleep.

Perhaps an even bigger catastrophe is that poor-quality sleep sets Mom or Dad adrift in that same fog when a child isn't sleeping in a way that allows parents to replenish their reserves. This creates chronic fatigue in the parent—from tending to a child's night waking and other sleep issues month after month, year after year—which can seriously reduce the parent's ability to navigate the day effectively. So the family ends up with a grumpy and non-cooperative child handled by a parent with a very short fuse. In short, everyone in the family suffers.

Fascinating yet frightening new studies demonstrate that children who do not get enough quality sleep may suffer from a long list of problems, including the following:

Mood and Behavior

• Irritability

• Depression

• Exaggerated emotions

• Increased aggressive behavior

• Behavioral problems

• Hyperactivity

Health

• Reduced physical performance of small and large motor skills

• Delayed recovery from illness

• Disruption in natural growth and development

Learning

• Impaired hand-eye coordination

• Memory lapses

• Lack of concentration

• Impaired memory

• Compromised decision-making processes

Sleep

• Unrestful sleep

• Inability to nap

• Increase in nightmares and night terrors

• Increase in sleepwalking and sleep talking

Dr. James Mass, an expert on sleep from Cornell University, writes in his book Power Sleep (HarperCollins, 1998), "Sleep plays a major role in preparing the body and brain for an alert, productive, psychologically and physiologically healthy tomorrow." He sums it up by saying, "If we don't get adequate sleep, our quality of life, if not life itself, is jeopardized."

How Sleep Affects ... Sleep

It's a vicious circle: a consistent lack of adequate, restful sleep creates chronic sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation brings fatigue, but this tiredness is coupled with an ironic inability to fall asleep and stay asleep. The quality of sleep is compromised. Sleep is often fitful, with an increase in nightmares, night terrors, sleepwalking, and sleep talking. Furthermore, in many households the stress over children's sleep issues creates sleep deprivation in the adults, and this stress is felt by the child. So worry and tension add to why everyone in the entire family is short on quality sleep.

How much sleep does your child need? The actual number of hours that your child sleeps is an incredibly important factor for his health and well-being. A sleep study completed by Dr. Avi Sadeh at Tel Aviv University demonstrates that even a one-hour shortage in appropriate sleep time will compromise a child's alertness and brain functioning and increase fatigue in the early evening. That's an amazing finding, and it calls for parents to look very closely at the total number of hours their children are sleeping.

The following table is an important guide to your child's sleep hours. All children are different, and a few truly do need less (or more) sleep than shown here, but the vast majority of children have sleep needs that fall within the range shown in Table 1.2.

If your child is not regularly getting close to the amount of sleep on this table, he may be "chronically overtired." This will affect the quality and length of both his nap- and nighttime sleep, which will directly affect his daytime behavior, learning, and growth.

Your child may not seem tired, because overtired children don't always act tired—at least not in the ways parents expect. Regardless of how your child's actual sleep hours match up to the table (because each child's needs are individual), the following signs may indicate he's not getting an adequate amount of sleep. Do any of these apply to your child?

• Tends to be whiny, fussy, or clingy

• Sucks his thumb, finger, or pacifier at times other than bedtime

• Carries a blanket, stuffed animal, or other lovey around during the day

• Is hyperactive, especially at times when you think he should be tired

• Is overly stubborn

• Has regular temper tantrums or easily becomes upset or angry

• Has difficulty falling asleep when put to bed

• Falls asleep frequently when in the car, bus, or train

• Falls asleep in front of the television

• Sometimes falls asleep on the sofa or floor before bedtime

• Sleeps later in the morning on days when the house is quiet

• Takes a long time to become awake and alert in the morning

• Does not appear to be well rested and full of energy

• Doesn't seem as happy as she should be

Children who are chronically overtired will often resist sleep, not understanding that sleep is what they really need. It's up to you to help your little one get the sleep he needs.

Experts tell us that sleep habits formed in childhood can affect health, mood, learning, and performance—both now and in the future. That's why it's so important to help your children establish good sleeping habits now, so they can reap the benefits for the rest of their lives.

Does Your Child Have Sleep Problems That Need to Be Fixed?

This may seem like an odd question in the first chapter of a book on children's sleep. But before going a step further, take a look at your situation to make sure you are looking at things clearly. I've found that during the early years of a child's life, everyone has opinions about how you should be raising your child, and other people's opinions may sometimes cloud your perceptions of reality. So take a deep breath, clear out all the cobwebs that other people have placed in your path, and first go over what's not a problem.

The Sleep Situation That Doesn't Need to Be Fixed

Your child is getting enough sleep, you're getting enough sleep, and everyone in your household is happy with how things are going. The problem is that your in-laws, your friend, or your neighbor is telling you that something in the way you are doing things is wrong and must be changed. Perhaps your child is up with you until midnight and then sleeps until noon. Maybe your king-size bed is where the entire family sleeps and your toddler's crib holds only his collection of stuffed animals. Possibly Mommy sleeps in the toddler bed, Daddy sleeps on the sofa, or your preschooler sleeps on the floor in your bedroom. Maybe the whole family plays musical beds every night, and you never know where anyone will end up. Or perhaps your bedtime routine is two hours long and includes everything from reading to singing to back rubs. Maybe your two-year-old is still nursing to sleep for bedtime and naps, or your three-year-old sleeps with five pacifiers and the family dog.

Here's the bottom line: if your child is getting enough sleep, you are all sleeping well, and the people who live in your home are happy with the way things are working out, then nothing needs to be fixed, regardless of what anyone else has to say about your family's sleeping situation.

If this is the case for you, then the only thing you need to change is your response to unwanted advice about how you are running your own household. You may want to change the subject when the topic of bedtime comes up in conversation, or do a little research so you can back up your parenting choices more confidently.

(Continues...)



Excerpted from the no-cry sleep solution for toddlers and preschoolers by Elizabeth Pantley Copyright © 2005 by Better Beginnings, Inc.. Excerpted by permission of McGraw-Hill. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
Excerpts are provided by Dial-A-Book Inc. solely for the personal use of visitors to this web site.

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  • Posted March 25, 2013

    Not so much

    How to get a co sleeping toddler into the crib successfully to me wasn't covered with sufficient enough information.

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  • Posted September 11, 2012

    For the most part our son has been a good sleeper, but recently

    For the most part our son has been a good sleeper, but recently he has gotten to the point where if he doesn't sleep with us...he doesn't sleep at all...and neither do we. So, we turned to the No-Cry Sleep Solution book to see if we could find answers. Not only did the book provide tips and guidance on how to solve our particular problem, it provides solutions for a plethora of other sleep issues - all without making your child "cry it out." Sometimes all a parent really needs is an authoritative voice to tell you that everything is fine. We found out that certain behaviors that several well-meaning (though people who should mind their own business) individuals thought was a problem are actually normal. The most important pieces of advice: Make sure they get enough sleep and trust your instincts as a loving parent. You know your kid better than anyone and every child is different. Highly recommended no matter what sleep issues you are dealing with during the toddler phase. One additional warning: If you go with the e-book, most of the page references (and there are a ton of them) will not match up.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 6, 2011

    So helpful! I love this book!!

    We had been having an awful time getting our boys (2 & 3 years old) to sleep at night. I was almost in tears every night it was so stressful. Everyone was telling us that we had to let them "cry it out", put a lock on their door or at least a gate. I felt there had to be another way but I was skeptical of a "no cry" solution. I read through some parts (I'll admit it, I was desperate for answers so I didn't read the whole thing) and came up with a plan. IT WORKED THE FIRST NIGHT!! Since then there have been nights where the boys have tested limits and have not gone to sleep right away but I'm not getting 1/2 as upset as I had been. We're on the right track and we all feel (and sleep) so much better. I love this book!

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  • Posted May 17, 2011

    Highly Recommend, it helped our family

    I found Mrs. Pantley's book very helpful! Reading through the tips I discovered they weren't difficult, I just had to acknowledge each one and incorporate them each and every day. My fourteen month old daughter had to be nursed to sleep and was getting up 1-2 times in the middle of the night and would have to nurse to fall back asleep. After two weeks of practicing tips from the book, my daughter's sleep habits have improved immensely! Now, I'm putting her to bed awake, she fusses as I walk out of the room but then plays for awhile with her `aquarium' on her crib and then falls asleep with no crying. My daughter has also started going to bed earlier and sleeps for 9-10 straight hours. We will continue to work on all eight steps to further improve her sleep habits!

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  • Posted February 15, 2010

    GREAT book- GREAT ideas!

    I love Elizabeth Pantley's approach to parenting/sleep advice. When you read her books you feel like you have the ear of a sympathetic mommy friend who has "been there and done that" 4 times of her own. In my opinion that makes all the difference. I used her first book The No Cry Sleep Solution for my first son back in 2005. It did wonders for my sleep and more importantly for my confidence. It helped me to understand that my parenting instincts were something to cherish and not turn off. Fast forward to a few years later- my second son wasn't a bad sleeper at all because had already benefitted from the knowledge I gained from the NCSS (for babies) but there was one hurdle I didn't know how to cross. I was co-sleeping, he was almost 2, and I was ready to night wean him. The No Cry Sleep Solution had some great ideas for that!!! This book has some great ideas for a lot of different issues and I have it on my shelf in case anything comes up in the future. The No Cry books don't pretend to have the ONE answer or system to make your child sleep because there is no one answer. As a mom of 3 I can tell you that all kids really are different. This book gives you a menu of ideas that you tailor to your own child's personality and needs. I HIGHLY recommend this book to any parent of a young child!!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted June 26, 2008

    From breastfeeding 10 times a night to sweet sleep!

    I can remember not that long ago sitting in my daughter¿s room in the middle of the night thinking I must be the only mum in the world whose baby didn¿t sleep. I was lucky to get three hours sleep on any given night, and never three hours in a row. But thanks to Elizabeth Pantley and her book ¿the no-cry sleep solution¿ my little girl Milla has gone from a baby who breastfed 10 times a night to a gorgeous 18-month-old who sleeps between seven and ten hours straight! Apart from being exhausted when Milla wasn¿t sleeping, I was miserable because of all the pressure being put on me to ¿do controlled crying¿ from extended family. One even said I was a ¿bad mother¿ for getting up at night for my girl and not teaching her to sleep by letting her ¿cry it out ¿ for hours on end. Everything in my heart said controlled crying wasn¿t right for my Milla. She was a sensitive, gentle and caring girl who was very attached to her mummy. I loved my little girl too much to hear her cry because her mama wasn¿t there when she needed her. After applying Pantley¿s gentle and practical tips, Milla is now sleeping peacefully - and knows that I am there for her when she needs me. I treasure every second with my little girl and am so glad I never abandoned her to cry. We have such a close and beautiful relationship. I feel like the luckiest mum in the world. The first key point I learned from Pantley was that as long as Milla and I were getting enough sleep and we were happy ¿ then we didn¿t have a problem ¿ regardless of what anyone else thought. Milla now wakes once a night, between 5 and 6, and I give her early morning cuddles till get-up time. Controlled crying experts told me NEVER to cuddle my daughter back to sleep. I¿m glad I ignored them because I treasure those mornings when I hold Milla in my arms and feel her soft breathing beside me. This is not a problem for us and a lovely start to our day. Pantley¿s eight bedtime tips seemed rather simple and obvious at first ¿ but once I put them into practice they actually worked. Milla no longer has a night light, has a long and quiet bedtime routine at the same time every night, no tv is allowed when Milla is in the room, she is now going to bed when her biological clock says is the right time for Milla 'not what experts say' and while my husband calls me a ¿sleep Nazi¿, it works! And for those with sleep-log phobias, I still keep a meticulous sleep diary. It helps me notice subtle changes in Milla¿s sleep patterns as she grows older and her sleep needs change. The final chapter in Pantley¿s book ¿ Adult Sleep: Now It¿s Your Turn ¿ was also a life saver. When Milla finally started sleeping well, I would lie awake for hours at night waiting for her to wake. I always tended to be a bit of an insomniac, and her tips for babies have actually also helped me! I would strongly recommend this book to any mum who needs sleep and can¿t find it in her heart to do controlled crying. Pantley¿s approach might take a bit longer than controlled crying 'though even controlled crying isn¿t guaranteed to fix sleep problems quickly and for life' but considering babies and toddlers grow up so quickly, it is worth the investment. My little girl goes to sleep with a sweet smile on her face, not tears!

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  • Posted January 8, 2013

    Below is a copy of the email I wrote the author of this book I'd

    Below is a copy of the email I wrote the author of this book I'd like to share with everyone. Worth reading if you are considering purchasing the book or want your toddler/preschooler to sleep through the night without more than a few minutes of crying-consider this book a gift to you and your family.
    This book was so life changing for me I want to tell everyone I know about it. I am a smart, well rounded, well read and open minded person as well as a very dedicated mother, but I knew there was more to learn about my son and his sleeping.
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    I'm not sure if these emails get read by Elizabeth but figured I'd write anyway. I want to take the time to tell you how grateful I am for your book, "no cry sleep solution for toddlers." My son was sleeping 11 hours straight from 4-11 months and then the "sleep regression" (as I named it) started. He was getting up 1-5 times a night and the only way I could get him to go back to sleep without serious crying was to nurse him. I never considered letting him "cry it out" but I was willing to let him cry for 5 minutes, max. My son is now 13 months-I was at a point of complete exhaustion on this past 2 week vacation with my family, I was so tired I couldn't keep up with conversations during the day. I came home and decided I needed to find out what I was doing wrong and ways to fix it. I browsed many books online and started reading the "free" pages on amazon from your book. I purchased it the next day but started using tips from what I learned from the "free" pages that night-first one being to remove the nightlight next to his bed. The second I removed it he relaxed his body. That first night I was able to put him to back to sleep without nursing-3 times! I read your book in its entirety the next day, incorporated more of your tips and that night he slept 11 hours straight through!! It's been over a week and he's been sleeping 10-11 hours straight EVERY NIGHT! I also put him to sleep half awake and only had to let him cry 2 times and after 2 minutes he was sleeping (my cut off was 5 minutes before I planned on going into him). I can cry out of happiness while I write this. I believe that sleep is so important for optimal health and mental sanity for my entire family. 
    I want to tell everyone who has a toddler that gets up even once to read your book. It is honest, supportive, written with kindness and GENIUS. The minor things you talk about changing I felt were easy and "no brainers" but they make a world of difference.  
    Thank you so much for writing this book - it has changed my family's life. 
    Best regards,

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  • Posted August 19, 2012

    After struggling for months with our son taking 30-45 minute na

    After struggling for months with our son taking 30-45 minute naps, we
    finally found some good solutions in The No-Cry Nap Solution! Our son is
    now sleeping for 1-2 hours for every nap - we are in heaven!! What's so
    great about Elizabeth Pantley's books is that she doesn't offer THE
    solution, she offers many different solutions and suggests that you pick
    and choose the ones that are right for you and your baby. And there are
    so many solutions to choose from and they are all gentle! I find myself
    going back to the book over and over when our son is doing something new
    and different and I always find something valuable to try. Elizabeth
    Pantley is also available to her readers ... I sent her an email with
    questions about suggestions for international travel and she responded
    right away. It was so nice to have an answer directly from the author!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 30, 2012

    I read the first No-Cry book for infants when my daughter was ab

    I read the first No-Cry book for infants when my daughter was about a year old. After being told by everyone - including my pediatrician- to let her "cry it out," I was desperate for something that felt less traumatic for all of us. Within a few weeks, we went from spending almost 1.5-2 hours trying to get her to sleep to a fraction of that, and her sleeping duration went from 2-3 hours a stretch to 6-7 hours. A year later, we found ourselves with more and different sleep issues. I initially started to re-read the first book to refresh myself but then saw this option. I was so excited when I found out that this book, tailored for older kiddos, existed.
    As with the first book, this one begins by letting you know that you're not alone. That in and of itself was of great comfort to me. For so long, I thought my kid was odd or my parenting was seriously flawed. The author then offers very pragmatic advice on how to identify possible causes of sleep issues followed by ideas with which you can create a sleep plan that makes sense for your child and household. More than once I was surprised at very basic things that as a first-time parent, I simply had not thought about. Tweaking small things can make a huge difference!
    I have been so impressed with this author's suggestions that I have already acquired her titles on parenting and discipline, the need of which was largely illustrated by our responses to the sleep problems! If you can't stomach the idea of your child screaming alone in his/her room at night, this book is a lifesaver.

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  • Posted March 13, 2012

    I bought the No Cry Sleep solution for babies when I was pregnan

    I bought the No Cry Sleep solution for babies when I was pregnant, and it helped me immensely. Now my daughter is almost two, I thought I would get the No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers.
    I found it's tips and techniques fabulous and so relevant for me and my daughter.

    I love how gentle and child-centred the book - and indeed, all of Elizabeth Pantley's books - are.

    While her sleep is not perfect, I have learnt through the book, there is no such thing. Having realistic expecations for her sleep is one of the many things I have taken away from the books.

    This book, and indeed, any of Elizabeth Pantley's books I would recommend for parents, either first timers, or for those with many children.

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  • Posted January 16, 2012

    Amazing Author, Amazing Book, Amazing Advice!

    My 22 month old had stopped sleeping well for over 6 weeks. She woke at least once a night and took over 2 hours to fall back asleep. She was tired in the morning and if she napped (which took me 1.5 hours of crying and frustration (from both of us) until she finally slept) she was cranky for the afternoon and cried when it was bedtime! I was at a loss. Until I read about Elizabeth Pantey’s Hush Hour in “No-cry Nap Solutions.” In only four days after using the techniques and following the advise in the book I saw great improvement in not only my daughters sleep routine but in her behavior; Even her eating improved!! My DD was quiet and rested for 1 hour every day, she went to bed earlier and slept for 12-13.5 hours a night! If she woke, it was at 5 am where she would then fall back asleep within half an hour for another 3 hours! My little girl is happy again! Thank you Elizabeth! This book is a must read for every parent!

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  • Posted April 19, 2011

    I Also Recommend:

    A gentle, practical guide for parents.

    Like the other books in Pantley's parenting series, this book offers practical, gentle tips for helping your toddler's sleep habits. Although her tips are not magic overnight answers, you will gain an insight into toddler sleep and get some common sense tips about how to make changes, without tears. I also like that she points out at the beginning that you only have a sleep problem if it is a problem for YOUR family - a nice reminder that each family and child is different and if your current sleep patterns are working, no matter how unusual they are, then don't stress about fixing them.

    One of my favorite parts is the last part where she breaks down her advice into sections based on specific issues and problems.

    Highly recommended for those parents who want tips and reassurance outside of the usual cry-it-out literature.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted November 25, 2007

    A true lifesaver

    This book was truly a lifesaver for my family. My 14 month old had never slept through the night and would wake up screaming as if he were terrified in the middle of the night. After only two weeks of using the techniques my 14 month old is sleeping through the night and later in the morning. Best of all he wakes up happy and comfortable. I tried the CIO method for three nights and knew there was no way that was for my son or myself. I went searching for answers and found this book, bought it, applied the techniques and it was like magic. I see dramatic changes in my son¿s energy level and my husband and I feel like new people. I would highly recommend this book. It works!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 16, 2007

    Hope for everyone!

    This book saved our nights! I am mother to three great kids. Our toddler was nursing to sleep ever since she was born and when her baby brother came, she kept right on nursing. She would be unable to fall asleep without nursing in my bed and would often wake 3-6 times a night to nurse. I read this book and followed the suggestion to make a sleep plan. I was committed to change the way our family did bedtime and night-time nursing. I determined it was time to night wean her and I couldn't do that fairly until she was in her own room. A month after we began to implement the tecniques found in this book, we are thrilled to report all of us are sleeping well. Bedtime has become a pleasure instead of an unpredictable chotic time. We successfully stuck to the plan and followed through on our commitment to get more sleep. If you have a particuraly hard case in your home, please read this book- it offers so much hope and many great solutions to many different sleep issues. One thing that made my daughter's falling asleep so hard was that she never took to a bear or lovey to go to bed and thus never learned to fall asleep on her own. I was her only lovey and with gentle reassurance, now she falls asleep without nursing now and I simply get to lay at the foot of her bed and doze while she works out her own way of falling asleep. Its my favorite time of day. I get to see her talk to herself and sing songs as she gets sleepy, all the while she knows I am there (but we don't talk after lights out). Too all the sleep deprived moms and dads, there is hope!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 1, 2007

    Elizabeth Pantley is a lifesaver

    The way that Elizabeth Pantley approaches parenting is with love for the child'ren' as well as the parents. She does not demonize other methods, but for those of us who feel instinctively that allowing your young child to 'cry it out' is wrong,she provides useful and effective tools. Furthermore, she gives a lot of support to parents who are desperate and sleep deprived. My son is two, has slept beautifully since he was 5 months old, and I still keep her books nearby for much needed advice when we have a rocky patch. I recommend all of her books to everyone I know who is pregnant or has a young child. Her no-cry series of books is the single best resource I have found for parents. She reminds us that it is good to love and nurture your child in a world where that often needs to be defended.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 9, 2006

    Grateful To Be Sleeping Again

    I have such a better understanding of my toddler's sleep patterns. I thought if I kept our dtr up later at night that she would sleep through the night and actually after reading the book it is quite the opposite. The author also takes the time to praise your efforts of parenting and acknowledges the challenges. She provides encouragement to parents.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 6, 2006

    Worked for us!

    This is by far the best sleep book out there. I have read others and tried other methods without any luck. What I liked best about this book is that she understands that every family is different and has different problems. She spends time addressing many common problems individually. She also believes that if everyone in the house is getting enough sleep and is happy with their sleep patterns there is not necessarily a sleep problem. In our house my almost 4 year old has never been a good sleeper and my 2 year old has slept through the night since 4 months. The improvement I have seen in my older daughters sleeping is unbelievable. I'm not saying she sleeps perfectly, but in the past month since we read the book we had much more improvement than with anything else we have tried. For the first time since she was born everyone in the house is sleeping through the night five or six nights a week. My only regret with this book is that I didn't pick it up 3 years earlier!!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted May 23, 2006

    IT REALLY WORKS!

    This book was our saving grace and recommended for everyone! Our daughter began waking during the night when she was 6 months old. It was a real concern since sleep is so important for children. We all went sleep deprived (mainly mommy and daddy) for a year. We thought we tried everything. Then we read this book and incorporated several ideas. And they worked! Within one week our daughter was sleeping through the night. And so were we! Thank you Elizabeth!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 12, 2005

    I am so excited about this book!!

    I am so excited about this book!! For anyone out there with kiddies between 12-ish months and 6 years or so who is frustrated with sleep issues ... I can not recommend this book highly enough!!! IT IS WONDERFUL!!! I have a toddler and a preschooler with entirely different sleep issues, and this is working for both! I'm just not a 'cry-it-out' mom. I've tried once or twice out of utter desperation, but it just isn't a solution for our family. It just doesn't feel right for us. I read this book in a day (ok I was obsessed and driven by desperate fatigue LOL) and we've been following some suggestions for less than a week. Already our boys' sleep problems are improving (almost gone in fact!) & their day times are better now too! We are having fewer mood swings and 'spats' (we don't usually have full blown tantrums to begin with, but even the mini - strops that we sometimes get are gone!) They are both more settled and content, all due to new routines and better quality of sleep. I am more rested and better able to cope in the day too! I'm no moron LOL - I hate being told how to do my job! I consider myself a great parent who does an amazing job ... we've simply been struggling with sleep issues for a while now, and the whole family has been tired as a result. IMO, sometimes when we get so wrapped up in our own difficulties, it becomes a 'forest for the tress' situation. This book helped us get back to basics without preaching rights from wrongs. I find the whole attitude and approach straightforward, gentle and encouraging, without being condescending. I guess what I'm trying to say is that it isn't 'Parenting 101 for Idiots' like some parenting self-help books can be. The advice and suggestions are simple and basic, and more importantly kind and gentle to our children! No quick-fix-child-training, more of a new perspective for the whole family. It's great to get back to the basics without being made to feel an idiot for needing a little help. AND IT's WORKING!!! Our neighbours have noticed a difference already (in all of us!) and are lining up to borrow it ... I don't want to part with it though!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 14, 2005

    Commonsense solutions

    In 'The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers,' Elizabeth Pantley sweeps through the clamor of parenting philosophies with commonsense solutions. Not sure how to solve your little one's sleep problem -- or if it's really a problem at all? Pantley provides objective, non-judgmental questions to help guide you toward answers that work for you, your child and your entire family. Her genuinely family-centered approach balances the demands of parents and children alike with respect, flexibility and humor. Pantley's inclusive strategies offer alternatives for all sorts of families and all sorts of parenting styles. You won't find a more realistic, practical approach to solving sleep dilemmas.

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