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No More Perfect Moms: Learn to Love Your Real Life
     

No More Perfect Moms: Learn to Love Your Real Life

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by Jill Savage
 

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If you have ever forgotten to pick up your kids, accidentally worn two different shoes to the grocery store, or lost your cool over a messy house, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

In No More Perfect Moms, Jill Savage says it how it is: All moms struggle. We fall short of our own standard of excellence, and then we feel insecure about not being the

Overview

If you have ever forgotten to pick up your kids, accidentally worn two different shoes to the grocery store, or lost your cool over a messy house, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

In No More Perfect Moms, Jill Savage says it how it is: All moms struggle. We fall short of our own standard of excellence, and then we feel insecure about not being the perfect wife with the perfect kids, perfect husband, perfect home, perfect friends, perfect marriage, and perfect body…

Jill speaks to the root of the insecurities mothers feel and points to a better way. 

No More Perfect Moms will help a mom:

  • Change her unrealistic expectations to realistic hopes
  • Give grace and love to her husband and children even during struggles, and discover the beauty of grace when she stops judging herself and others
  • Find freedom from disappointment when she embraces her real family, her real challenges, and her real, but imperfect, life

With refreshing honesty, Jill exposes some of her own parental shortcomings and helps mothers everywhere shelve their desires for perfection and embrace God’s beautiful grace. When moms do this, they can learn to love their real but imperfect lives.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9780802406378
Publisher:
Moody Publishers
Publication date:
02/01/2013
Edition description:
New Edition
Pages:
224
Sales rank:
108,040
Product dimensions:
5.50(w) x 7.50(h) x 0.60(d)

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NO MORE PERFECT MOMS

Learn to Love Your Real Life
By JILL SAVAGE

Moody Publishers

Copyright © 2013 Jill Savage
All right reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-8024-0637-8


Chapter One

THE Perfection INFECTION

The phone rang in the chaos of the "after-school-almost dinner-time" hour. I was making a dinner salad (translated: I poured a bag of lettuce into a pretty glass bowl and threw some cherry tomatoes on for color!), helping two kids with their homework, and trying to keep my four-year-old busy enough not to whine for dinner.

I grabbed the phone and shoved it between my ear and my shoulder, answering with a quick, "Hello, this is Jill!" The voice on the other end of the line was obviously emotional. "Mom, this is Erica. Did you forget me?"

I quickly did a head count: one, two, three ... four—oh my. Erica's not here. I thought all my chicks were in the nest, but there was one at basketball practice, and it completely slipped my mind that she wasn't home and I needed to pick her up!

I couldn't lie. "Erica, I am so sorry!" I apologized. "I completely forgot to pick you up. I will be right there!"

The sniffling on the other end of the phone made my guilt run deeper. How could I forget my own child? What kind of mom does something like that? How will she ever forgive me?

Welcome to real life! If we're honest with one another, we all have stories like that to share. There are no perfect moms.

INSIDES AND OUTSIDES

Like most moms, I entered the motherhood scene wanting to be the perfect mom. I read. I prepared. I planned. I dreamed. I determined to be intentional about everything I did from choosing the laundry detergent that would be best for their skin to choosing the school that would be best for their education. I was going to be supermom. I would do it all and do it all well. Then life happened.

People often say, "Hindsight is 20/20." Looking back on that late-afternoon scene now, eleven years later, I have a valuable perspective I didn't have then. My daughter Erica, who is now twenty-one, isn't emotionally scarred because I forgot her at basketball practice. She's a welt-adjusted young adult who has a great story to tell, especially when she wants to get a little sympathy or a good laugh at family gatherings.

I now understand that my pursuit of being the "perfect mom" set me up for failure from day one. There are no perfect moms—just imperfect women who will fall off the pedestal of their own expectations more often than they care to admit.

A good friend once told me, "Jill, never compare your insides to someone else's outsides." She shared that wisdom when she heard me unconsciously compare myself to another mom after one of my many failures. That powerful statement still sticks with me. I now realize that most moms play the comparison game dozens of times every day. We constantly look to see how we measure up to those around us. And we don't measure up. But how can we measure up? We compare ourselves to something that doesn't exist. We compare our messy insides—our struggles, our failures, our less-than-perfect lives—to other women's carefully cleaned-up, perfect-looking outsides. It's a game we rooms play that we can never ever win.

So if we insist on playing the comparison game (and most of us do!), then it's time for a new measuring stick. Instead of comparing insides to outsides, we need to compare insides to insides. In fact, that's what I hope to do by sharing honestly in the coming pages.

If we're honest, too many of us wear motherhood masks that keep our insides from peeking out. Sometimes those masks are based o11 outward appearance. We wear fashionable clothes and never leave the house without our makeup done and our hair styled. In other words, on the outside we always look like we have it together. Others of us wear a mask in our conversations with other moms. We would never admit we are struggling in any way, even if others are openly talking about their struggles. Some of us wear masks of pride. We only share the good and never talk about the bad. We pretend we're more confident than we really are.

Authors Justin and Trisha Davis talk further about masks.

We wear masks at church. We argue all the way to Sunday service and paint on a smile on our way in. We pretend to be more spiritual, more put together, more mature in our faith than we really are. We fear that if anyone knew the real ns, they would think less of us ... so we mask our brokenness.

We wear masks at home. We pretend things are okay in our marriage when there is distance. We say nothing is wrong when our feelings are truly hurt. We don't necessarily lie to our spouse; we just shade part of the truth. We don't feel comfortable being our true self with our spouse because we are afraid of judgment or ridicule.

The thing about masks is that they never bring us closer to who we were created to be. Masks always make shallow what Cod has intended to be deep. Friendships. Marriages. Families. Churches. Everything in our lives get cheated when we choose to be fake.

Have you ever thought about the fact that you are cheating yourself by wearing a mask? Have you ever considered that fake smile is keeping you from the depth of relationships you're really longing for?

I'd like to put "being fake" away for good in the journey of motherhood. Masks do not serve us well. They keep us at an arm's length from our friends, our family, and our Cod. Not only that, but wearing masks breeds judgment. It keeps us judging ourselves and others instead of living in and loving through grace.

Are you ready for a new lens through which to view life? Would you like to live a grace-filled life that loves instead of judges? Would you like to leave perfectionism behind and find freedom in authenticity? I know I would!

So where do we start? To understand where we are and where we need to go, it's wise to start with a sense of how we got here. Let's explore this: Just how did our lives become so infected with perfectionism?

HOW DID WE GET HERE?

I noticed it for the first time just a couple of years ago. There was a little box I could check on my boys' school picture order form if I'd like the photographer to provide "touch up services" for their school pictures. You know: remove a zit here, fix an out-of-place hair there. Many of us no longer want a "real" picture of who our kids are. We want them to look better than they really do. Given the option, we choose to remove their "imperfections" because we're not okay with anything less than perfect. After all, we're comparing ourselves—and our kids—to those around us.

The temptation to compare ourselves to others goes all the way back to Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve were two people in the most perfect setting. No worries. All of their needs provided for.

Satan came along and started feeding them lies about themselves and about Cod. They compared their situation to his lies and decided that life in the garden wasn't all it was cracked up to be. They acted on impulse and broke the only rule God had given them—not to eat of just one tree in the garden. Despite their perfect existence, Adam and Eve still felt the need for something else, something more. Their children carried on the comparison game when Cain killed Abel out of jealousy. And the saga continues: Story after story in the Bible illustrates that people have always played the comparison game.

So it's human nature to compare, to be discontent, and to want something different from what we have. But what has driven us to try to attain something as unattainable as perfection? The culprit is in front of our faces every day.

Our generation of mothers is more socially connected than any previous generation. The explosion of media in the past fifty years and social media in the past ten years has connected ns to so many more people to whom we compare ourselves. Think about it: all you and I have to do is stand in the checkout aisle at WalMart and we are assaulted by the headlines, "Lose 30 lbs. in 30 days!" "Meet Brad and Angelina's Perfect Family!" We see pictures of "perfect" houses, "perfect" bodies, and "perfect" families splashed on the front of the magazines we walk by as we pay for our groceries. The hard part of this comparison game is that we aren't comparing ourselves to reality. The photos are Photo-shopped and airbrushed, the stories are edited, and the guarantee of perfection is overpromised in order to sell magazines.

More than ten years ago, I personally had the privilege of being on the cover of a Christian magazine. What an experience! A photo shoot, several outfit changes, a makeup artist—wow! I could never have dreamed I'd get to experience something like that. Imagine my surprise when I discovered that my photos had been edited: a little removal of a blemish here, airbrush the skin there. That's right, even in the Christian media, we've fallen prey to presenting perfection. After all, our culture demands it.

When you see a picture of a kitchen makeover in a magazine, remember those pictures are staged. That's not how that kitchen will look when someone cooks in it. Then there will be crumbs on the counter, something sticky on the floor, and a sink full of dirty dishes that need to be washed. When you see a picture of a family playing together in a magazine, on a billboard, or in an advertisement, remember the picture is set up to create a certain feeling—and those people in the picture probably aren't even related. It's even possible these actors argued with their real spouses before they left the house or are dealing with financial issues in their personal life. When you see pictures of a movie star who has slimmed down to her pre-pregnancy weight just three months after giving birth, remember she's not only likely had a personal trainer and a chef, but the photos have probably been retouched to give an illusion of perfection.

While magazines give us unrealistic visual pictures against which to compare our real bodies and our real homes, we can thank Hollywood for painting unrealistic relational pictures for us. Every sitcom presents and resolves some kind of problem in a thirty-minute time span. Every movie presents some event or season of life that gets tidily wrapped up within a mere two hours. Sure they show conflict or even messy relational challenges, but usually the good guy wins and the bad guy gets his deserved justice by the end of the show. Even the reality shows aren't real. They have been cut and edited so much that they sometimes misrepresent what really happened in a scene.

Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest can be culprits, too! As we look at the status someone posts, we think, I wish my kid would say something cute like that. Or I wish I could say something nice like that about my husband. On Pinterest, we can find ourselves wishing we had more creativity or better ideas as we look at all the great organizational tools or craft projects people share.

The more we compare, the higher our expectations are set and the more the Perfection Infection sets in. Without realizing it, we want our problems to be solved in thirty, minutes to two hours. Unconsciously, we long for our skin to look like the model in that commercial we just watched Instinctively, we long for a pretty house with flowers on the counter and no toys strewn across the floor. Our expectations are fueled by a constant barrage of "perfect" scenes and images we see in our media-saturated society.

Not only does this increase our desire for a perfect house, perfect kids, a perfect body, and a perfect husband, it actually causes us to be discontent with our real houses, our real kids, our real bodies, and our real husbands. Even worse, most of the time we don't even realize that's what we are doing. It's a subtle erosion of our satisfaction. If we don't recognize it, the discontentment can turn into disappointment, and then the disappointment can eventually turn into disillusionment. However, the disillusionment cannot really be resolved because what you are longing for—the perfect house, the perfect job, the perfect husband—silnply does not exist.

A REALITY CHECK

There are so many magical moments in motherhood: when your child is first placed in your arms, when you watch your toddler marvel over holding a caterpillar for the first time, when your preschooler first writes her name, when your fourth-grader wins the spelling bee, when your special needs child overcomes an obstacle for the very first time, when your pre-adolescent says, "You're the best mom in the world!," when your teenager is respectful over at the neighbor's house, and when your young adult walks across the stage to graduate from high school or college. Those are beautiful moments in the motherhood memory bank.

There are other delightful times: watching your kids play in the snow, playing Uno as a family, laughing around the dinner table, playing together at the park, camping for the first time, and enjoying vacations you'll never forget. Sometimes spontaneous and sometimes planned, these joy-filled, memory-making moments keep us going.

However, you and I both know those moments are not the stuff that happens 24/7/365. Life is full of challenges, mundane responsibilities, and difficult relationships. On one of my recent blog posts, I asked my online friends to share a one-word description of how they were feeling that day. Here are some of the responses shared from rooms all over the world:

Worried Anxious Thankful
Stressed Grateful Fearful
Tired Joyful Betrayed
Hopeful Encouraged Confused
Overwhelmed Abandoned Discouraged
Sad Stretched Lonely
Emotional Angry Excited
Exhausted Happy Drained
Scared Busy Vulnerable
Waiting Not-good-enough Broken
Blessed Stuck

Can you relate to any of those words? If so, which ones? Whatever you are feeling, it's obvious that you are not alone. The responses are telling: more than 90 percent of the answers expressed negative emotions. Life is hard sometimes! If you feel this way and think no one understands, I hope you're starting to realize that many other women do understand.

You are not the only mom who feels worthless sometimes.

You are not the only mom who yelled at your children today.

You are not the only mom who is trying to blend two families into one and finding it far more difficult than you thought.

You are not the only mom who has struggled with infertility.

You are not the only mom who has had trouble bonding with an adopted child.

You are not the only mom who wishes her husband would just hold her and listen to her.

You are not the only mom who isn't making enough money to make ends meet.

You are not the only mom who constantly battles a weight issue.

You are not the only mom who struggles with your faith and understanding God.

You are not the only mom who is critical of her husband.

You are not the only mom who has said something to a friend that you later regretted.

You are not the only mom who feels as if she has no friends.

You are not the only mom who is struggling in her marriage.

You are not the only mom who has dealt with depression.

You are not the only mom facing conflict in her marriage about sex or money.

You are not the only mom who has a difficult child or a wayward teenager.

You are not the only mom who has discovered your husband is addicted to pornography.

You are not the only mom who has discovered your husband has been unfaithful.

You are not the only mom who can't seem to keep up with the laundry and the house.

You are not the only mom who carries the title of "single mom."

You are not the only mom who struggled with breastfeeding her baby.

You are not the only mom who sometimes wants to run away.

You are not alone. You are among friends who straggle with these same issues. Unfortunately, most of us just don't talk about these "inside" issues often enough. That's why we feel alone or feel as if we've failed.

We're going to change that starting today. We may be contaminated with the Perfection Infection, but it's not without an antidote. Turn the page to discover the freedom found in authenticity.

Chapter Two

THE Antidote

It all started with the announcement that Michelle Duggar, star f the TLC show Nineteen Kids and Counting, would be the keynote speaker for our upcoming Hearts at Home conferences. I had watched the show a time or two and was intrigued by this mom who, along with her husband, decided to let God determine how many kids they would have. While I did not share their conviction to avoid birth control, I felt no animosity toward them because of their choices. However, that wasn't the case for some women. Once our keynote choice was announced, the "nastygrams" started arriving.

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Excerpted from NO MORE PERFECT MOMS by JILL SAVAGE Copyright © 2013 by Jill Savage. Excerpted by permission of Moody Publishers. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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Meet the Author

JILL SAVAGE is an author and speaker who is passionate about encouraging moms. She is the author of six books including Real Moms...Real Jesus, Professionalizing Motherhood, My Hearts At Home, and Is There Really Sex After Kids?

Featured in Focus on the Family, Today's Christian Woman magazine, and Family Life Today, Jill is the founder and Executive Director of Hearts at Home, an organization designed to encourage, educate, and equip women in the profession of motherhood. Jill and her husband, Mark, have five children and make their home in Normal, Illinois.

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No More Perfect Moms: Learn to Love Your Real Life 4.8 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 58 reviews.
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WONDERFUL WORDS OF TRUTH OFFERED BY A GIFTED AUTHOR. VERY ENJOYABLE READING. I MUST READ MORE OF THIS AUTHOR. I CHALLENGE OTHERS TO READ THIS SAMPLE AND NOT FIND FURTHER INTEREST IN HER WRITINGS! :) THANKS SO MUCH!!!! KT
StefanieA More than 1 year ago
This is a GREAT book written by amazing ladies with a lot of first hand experience. Not only does it touch base on specific topics, it also gives scenarios and helpful anecdotes to help improve the way we, as parents, can POSITIVELY handle hurdles that our children may run in to. Can you relate to these few excerpts from the book? "We tell a child to 'act your age,' and then we realize he really is!" but "how realistic is this goal when we'd have to admit we don't always act our age?" We can't expect our children to be perfect in anything they do. Nobody is perfect, except God. We need to rid this world of the "Perfection Infection" and give our children, ourselves and our loved ones more Grace. "When we correct our children, we have to let them know we're rejecting their negative behaviors, choices, attitudes, etc., and not them." There are just SO many hints and tips at becoming a better Parent and to not have fewer, unrealistic expectations of our imperfect, yet wonderful, children! You won't be disappointed in this book. There are additional resources in the back of the books, as well as online. I highly recommend you buy this book ASAP!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Jill Savage has done it again, this time with the help of Dr. Kathy Koch. No More Perfect Kids has so many insights that I have taken to heart. I had been "parenting the herd" for a long time, and now I'm better equipped to understand my children's individual strengths and abilities. My children will never be perfect, but I can get rid of the Perfection Infection and have more realistic, healthy expectations. My most important take-away from No More Perfect Kids was the "antidotes" to the Perfection Infection. The authors list Compassion, Perception, Acceptance, and Love as the antidotes, and re-visit these in each chapter. There is also a valuable appendix with feeling words, scriptures to pray for your children, reading lists, and more. I'm highly recommending this book to all of my friends who are in the child-raising season!
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Good tips on pride.
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Love this book. It really is for everyone! Not just Moms. We all stuggle with what we think is "perfect" and how we are not that. I love how honest this book is. Another thing that I love about it was all the responses that Jill used from Facebook comments. Real answers from real women. So many times while reading this book it was like a light bulb going off and I was uplifted. This book is a must read. I am sure I will read it over and over to remind myself to "Not compair my messy insides to some elses cleaned up outside."
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
When I read this book my first thought was that I was going to be able to laugh that I wasn't the only mom who ran from diaper changes and things like that. I started the book and the first two chapters to be honest I considered stopping but I am glad I did not. I continued to read through and realized okay this book is relatable, at first I was worried. This book puts you in reality. It does not put moms on a pedestal that stay home or that work. It is just about being you, and being a mom, especially a christian mom. Life is hard and this book shows that you can make it. One thing I did enjoy was Jill's honesty as writing the book. So often people write books and are hypocrites writing books on fixing marriages when they are okay with theirs falling apart etc. Jill doesn't hide from the hardships she had she embraces them, learns from them, uses them to inspire, and works to have a better marriage. Christians are not perfect, moms are not, and marriage is definitely not. This book is a good eye opener, to be honest I would recommend reading it along with power of a praying wife or mother to apply them together, gave me a good list of things to pray for for my family.
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Lisa_G3 More than 1 year ago
No More Perfect Moms by Jill Savage has been a God-send for me and my family. By letting go of the “Perfection Infection” I am able to grab hold of more grace and mercy. I am free to embrace life and all the opportunities for joy and peace. Most of all, I have the courage to step out and know it is okay if I fall flat on my face! Jill encourages you to focus on what is truly important in life, the relationships and people, not the stuff and unrealistic expectations. This is not an extra item on your to-do list, permission to be lazy or settle for mediocrity. Jill challenges you, through her real-life honesty, to come closer to Jesus and become more excellent in Him.
my_blessed_life More than 1 year ago
I have spent this last month reading this wonderful book.   It has been completely freeing and life-changing for me. There is so much pressure these days to be the perfect mom.   It comes from everywhere.  We can catch the "perfection infection" every time we're on Facebook seeing those pictures of other moms looking so thin, taking expensive vacations with their families, buying a beautiful new home.   We are prone to catch it when we read inspiring blogs by other moms who seemingly have it so together.  It's practically contagious when we click on Pinterest and see all of those lovely rooms and spaces that we wish we had in our own homes or all of that photo-perfect food that we wish we had the ability to cook for our families and friends.   And what about when we're around fellow moms at our churches, our children's schools, our homeschool groups or playgroups? I have to be honest.  I have felt so incredibly {self}condemned by fellow homeschool moms at times.  We all want to have those well-behaved children that everyone brags on everywhere they go.  We all want to have the smartest and brightest children, the ones who are grades ahead and will probably go to college early.  It's much harder to talk to other moms about the problems you're having with your children.  To discuss that you might have to get your son tested for adhd and that no matter what you try your daughter just struggles with math.   No, we want to put on that good front and put that positive spin on life.  We would never admit to succumbing to tears of frustration and failure nearly every single day. This book touches all areas of our lives: our kids, bodies, marriages, friends, days, homes and homemaking.  Then in the end Jill reminds us that a "real picture of motherhood would include: no expectations, no pride, no fear, no insecurity, no judgment, no comparisons, no agenda, no performing, no more perfect moms ....just imperfect moms partnering with a perfect God."  Some of my favorite parts of this book are in the very back.  Jill shares an incredible list of "Who I am in God's eyes" that is so powerful.  And there's also her challenge to "Knock It Off: Stop the Mommy Wars" where she calls us to stop our judgmental attitudes and talk about other moms.  Very convicting stuff there. So as you can tell, I HIGHLY recommend this book for moms.  Reall all women can benefit from this book, because these are things that nearly all women struggle with.
KathyKochPhD More than 1 year ago
Jill Savage writes accurately about the roots of perfectionism. She then shares the antidote. The book is worth reading just for that. Making the four changes she suggests could save lives, relationships, and families. I’m definitely a better person for applying her wisdom already. She wisely weaves the antidote into each chapter. She’s convincing! It’s an easy read because of Jill’s compelling writing, frequent headings, relevant illustrations, specific suggestions, and Scripture. If you know perfectionism is causing problems for you and your family, please read this book. It will help you. Jill ends with this list of what a new picture of real motherhood would include: no expectations, no pride, no fear, no insecurity, no judgment, no comparison, no agenda, no performing, no more perfect moms, just imperfect moms partnering with a perfect God. Deep down, isn’t this what you want? Read the book!
LloydsLanding More than 1 year ago
No More Perfect Moms is exactly what all PEOPLE need! Growing up in a very nontraditional home has created this challenge inside me to be the “Perfect Mom” raising “Perfect Children” in a “Perfect Home” with a Mom and Dad living in a “Perfect Marriage”. Jill Savage has encouraged me in this book to release myself of perfection and live a life of “realism”. As a working mother, I try to give 100% in my career as well as 100% in my home as a wife and mother. A couple of years ago, I broke and could not keep up with this perfection. This book is a great resource to help readers see the plague that occurs with “Perfection Infection”. Anyone who is planning to be a parent, currently raising children or grand parenting can benefit from Jill’s words that encourage the reader to reflect and move life toward one of inner peace filled with imperfections. Thank you Jill Savage for allowing us to be “real” and encouraging us to lean on our One “Perfect” God as we live an “Imperfect Life”.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
No More Perfect Moms is a very candid look at the unmasked realities of the everyday - The everyday of womanhood, in all of it's seasons. Whatever your stage of motherhood - from newborn to teen to empty nest - this book will meet you where you are, and offer valuable insight as you seek to escape the "Perfection Infection". Jill's vulnerability is touching and her been-there-done-that wisdom is warm and honest. She sets the example of authenticity by pulling back the curtain of her of own life, and in doing so, reminds us that our worth is not measured by worldly standards, but by who we are in the eyes of God. No More Perfect Moms is a timely reminder that there will never be a perfect day, or child or home - but it's okay because we have a perfect God who knows what it's like to be human and who loves us with a perfect love.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
No More Perfect Moms is a must read this year for all women!  I am the typical type A personality.  I can do it all myself, I have everything together and expect perfection.  With that being said wow did this book speak to me in all areas of my life.  Jill starts the book out by acknowledging what all women deal with " perfection infection", she defines it, and then gives us practical ways to combat it.  She goes through dealing with perfection in all areas of our life:  our kids, bodies, friends, marriages, days, homemaking, and homes.  What a relief it was to read these pages, and to know that I'm not alone.  Jill amazed me in her transparency and gives real life examples that we can all learn so much from! Just this morning my kids were whiny, wanted to play, and I was getting grumpy because I wasn't getting anywhere with the things I needed/wanted to do then I thought about the chapter on No More Perfect Days and Jill says " We need perspective to keep us from reacting when our plans fall through.  We need the perspective that the moment we are in is just as important as the moment we planned on that didn't happen the way we thought it would..... We need to embrace what is, instead of what could have been."  I just love every part of this book.  This would make a great book study and I intend to host one later this month!  Thanks you so much Jill Savage for writing this book.
IronMomof3 More than 1 year ago
I can’t say enough good things about this book; Jill Savage writes the book from the heart and addresses real life issues for every Mom out there. She touches on our expectation for perfect in our kids, bodies, marriage, homes and so much more. She gives real life examples that made me think that Jill was sitting in a corner in my house, not judging me but actively writing the story about my family. There are many things you can take away and apply to your life and your family. A must read book for any Mom or Dad.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
It is in our nature, as moms, to compare ourselves to those moms who seem to have it all figured out. The problem is that we are often comparing our insides to another’s outsides, and when we do this, we always come up short. Jill’s book reminds me to celebrate my strengths, to embrace my imperfections, and to allow the grace of our perfect God to fill in the missing pieces. I can’t wait to share this book with my mom’s group at church and to be involved in the important conversations about authenticity that will be sure to follow!
ohsmom0407 More than 1 year ago
The mommy wars are in full force in our society: Breastfeed or bottle feed? Stay at home or go to work? In her new book, No More Perfect Moms, Jill Savage declares an end to the mommy wars and calls for a stop of the “Perfection Infection.” So many times, we as moms have judged our own worth on what society deems important, comparing our messy insides to someone else’s polished outsides. These unrealistic expectations are holding us back from being the moms we have been created to be. Throughout this book, Jill encourages us to let go of that expectation of perfection and instead embrace all God has for us- from the beautiful to the downright messy. She addresses a multitude of ‘perfect’ areas of our lives, from children to homes to friends to marriages. Through her personal stories, Jill helps us realize we are not alone in this mothering journey, and that releasing unrealistic expectations will free us as moms, wives and friends. Having read several other books by Savage, CEO and founder of Hearts at Home, I wondered if I might be reading the same material in a different package when I started this book. It didn’t take long for me to realize this wasn’t the case at all. Within the first few pages, I was hooked, underlining comments Jill made and writing thoughts in the margins. By the time I got to Chapter 6: No More Perfect Friends, I knew this was something I needed to share with all of my mom-friends. So many times throughout the book Jill wrote about something that we had talked about, prayed about or worried about. It felt so good to know that others moms struggle with the same things we do! No More Perfect Moms was an uplifting reminder that perfection is impossible and mothering is a lot more fun when you aren’t judging yourself or others along the way—well worth the read!
Megsk21 More than 1 year ago
No More Perfect Moms by Jill Savage is a must read for any mom living in the trenches of motherhood. It contains so many much- needed reminders and nuggets of wisdom like "don't compare your insides to someone else's outsides" or "we need to expect our kids to fail because perfection doesn't exist," or a reminder to focus "on the people living inside my house more than the things inside it." It challenged me to compare and judge less and show grace to others and myself so much more. The subtitle says "learn to love your real life" and this book delivers if you are willing to put the work in of applying its message.
Wanibug More than 1 year ago
No More Perfect Moms welcomes moms in all stages and phases to let go of the stress of trying to be perfect and helps them to embrace just being themselves! Motherhood is hard work that never ends and just doing our best is all we can ask of ourselves or anyone. The stories from Jill Savage and other moms are easy to relate to and give reassurance that we are not alone in our imperfection.
tntcarlson More than 1 year ago
No More Perfect Moms is a breath of fresh air for every woman. Jill Savage encourages us to throw off the masquerade masks and get real! Through her advice to add a little grace to our honesty, we'll find our relationships growing deeper and richer. In this book, you'll find your broken heart uplifted, encouragement for your weary soul and realignment of your thoughts to what truly matters. No More Perfect Moms is a book I am recommending to everyone I know! "[Our] differences are designed to complement one another, not cause us to compete with one another! We need to learn from other moms, but not compare ourselves to them."