Not Like My Mother: Becoming a Sane Parent After Growing Up in a Crazy Family

Not Like My Mother: Becoming a Sane Parent After Growing Up in a Crazy Family

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by Irene Tomkinson
     
 

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Not Like My Mother is a bright light on the path to being an effective parent.

This book is a gift for anyone who has ever said, "I am NOT going to raise my kids the way I was raised!!" If you are trying to be the parent you always wanted and didn't get, Irene will teach you why it is more effective that you be the parent your children need - not the one you needed

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Not Like My Mother is a bright light on the path to being an effective parent.

This book is a gift for anyone who has ever said, "I am NOT going to raise my kids the way I was raised!!" If you are trying to be the parent you always wanted and didn't get, Irene will teach you why it is more effective that you be the parent your children need - not the one you needed. How to separate what belongs to your history and what belongs in your present life is some of the rich, practical advice you will take away from Not Like My Mother.

In the early distribution of Not Like My Mother readers reported they couldn't put the book down. It reads like a compelling novel with a human and spiritual insight that makes you feel a part of the conversation.

A successful holistic therapist, Irene is a gifted teacher and communicator. She takes complicated psychological constructs and puts them into language that is easily understood. She weaves her own powerful story of recovery and spiritual unfoldment into her teaching. Find a comfortable chair, let the phone go to voicemail, and give yourself the gift of Not Like My Mother.

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781434322630
Publisher:
AuthorHouse
Publication date:
02/11/2008
Pages:
180
Sales rank:
1,189,666
Product dimensions:
6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.41(d)

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Not Like My Mother - Becoming a sane parent after growing up in a CRAZY family. 4.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 20 reviews.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Wasn't sure what to expect, but what i got was a great story that could have been my own. All of us that grew up in a "crazy" family should read this book! Reai, sound, in your face honesty with much sound advice. I will read it a second time and ponder the great questions she has at the end of each chapter. A great safety line to sanity!!!
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
After a lifetime of couseling, I finally have the answers I was looking for. Thank you this book. The title caught my eye because my mother had Borderline Personality Disorder. We lived with extreme behavior every day, as well as, being raised in Catholic school with shame and guilt as a way of life. Your story explained things to me in a way so I finally reached that "a ha" moment of clarity. Thank you so much for this book. It has made a world of difference in my outlook.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Glad this book was available...good read.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Everybody needs to read this amazing book. So, trie to read this if you get the chance too.
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If you had a crazy childhood, you need to read this. It'll show you the tools you need to deal with your past and protect your future.
batjargon More than 1 year ago
This was essentially a self- help book. It has some good advice interspersed with stories about the authors mother, step fathers, and her own daughters. Nothing particularly new but if you are new to the self help genre this might give you some insight.
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book has really opened my eyes on my childhood and how i bury everything far inside of me. It was very hard to put this book down. If you dont read this book for yourself then maybe you can use it to help others!
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Guest More than 1 year ago
Not Like My Mother is an easy read that is written with wit and humor. Irene relates her life story with total honesty. As I read Irene¿s story, I saw how I too parented to make up for what I didn¿t get growing up, instead of what may have been in the best interest of my daughter. I wish I had found this book when my daughter was younger so that I could have come from a state of awareness instead of trying to give my child what I didn¿t get growing up. I was fortunate enough to attend one of Irene¿s parenting workshops and I was able to heal deep seated parenting guilt. I recommend this book for anyone raising children.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Irene¿s personal, humorous, and insightful writing style allowed me to initially romp through the pages picking and choosing what resonated on the surface, while her presence and heartfelt stories motivated me to explore my own life more deeply by both rereading the text and writing in response to the offered prompts. Irene¿s willingness to share her stories allowed me to look inward at my behavior as a child and my expectations of my parents, as an aunt and my expectations toward my niece and nephew, and as a counselor and the stories my clients share and my response in return. There is something for everyone regardless of being a parent or not. Irene offers herself not to say, 'Here is the right way to do it,' but rather, to say, 'Here¿s how I did it and what worked for me and what didn¿t, and perhaps some reasons why.' Irene¿s honesty was infectious, and I found myself willingly looking inward with the same courage to reveal my shadow side with humility and grace. I learned from Irene¿s experiences and with awareness I have the ability to truly change. Nancy Eichhorn M.Ed., M.A.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Not Like My Mother is an inspirational and candid observation of parenting from accomplished holistic therapist, Irene Tomkinson workshop leader, motivational speaker, and first-time author. Throughout this thoroughly enjoyable book, Irene draws upon experiences from her intimate life journey and decades of professional knowledge. Her chronicles impart a realistic yet humorous look at both the pitfalls and joys of parenting. However, this is not just another book about parenting. It is also a book for non-parents loaded with heartfelt experiences and nonjudgmental guidance about learning to unconditionally love yourself and others. Irene is truly an exceptional teacher and her book is a rare gem - so take some time and treat yourself! Everyone has something to learn and grow from in Not Like My Mother. Once you pick it up, you will have a difficult time putting it down it is simply that good!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I read this book in two days. It was quick and easy. I¿m now going to re-read it slowly, and to take the time to do the questions and exercises at the end of each chapter. First time thru I was so intrigued to see what happened next that I just didn¿t take the time for those. I¿m not a parent (yet!) and I got A LOT out of Not Like My Mother. I have a better understanding of what my parents were going thru and as such, I bring more compassion to my relationship with each of them. I also have some interesting thinking to do about what kind of mom I plan to be when my kids start to arrive soon. I love how the author was able to draw on her own experiences with her addiction and her relationship with God without being preachy or putting it in my face. I hope she does a workshop near me! I¿d stand in line for tickets.
Guest More than 1 year ago
How many times have we said, 'I will never parent like my mother' and then we proceed to do just that? Irene's book explains why we try to be the parent we needed rather than be the parent our kids need. It also gives us hope that all is not lost. 'Not Like My Mother' is a quick and easy read that is a must have for every parent or for anyone who will become a parent.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Not Like My Mother - a brilliant book that reads like story instead of a tedious, self-help manual. What's most amazing is that you do NOT have to be a parent to enjoy this book and learn a thing or two from it. I have no children and found it to be extremely enlightening in the discovery of many traits and behavioral patterns I exhibit in my own adult life. Irene hits the nail on the head with her knowledge and insight, and she delivers it with humor and an easy-going writing style. There is something here for everyone, and you will want to read Not Like My Mother more than once. I hope Irene is already working on her next book!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Interesting but not my type of read...