Not Like Other Boys: Growing up Gay: Mother and Son Look Back

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In alternating voices, this frank memoir chronicles the long journey mother and son took from a relationship of concealment and shame about Chris's homosexuality to one of acceptance and love. Marlene and Chris tell the story of their parallel lives during the troubled years each of them kept silent about their suspicions, all the while yearning to reveal the truth. Their heroic emergence from the closet - a mire of emotional isolation and unnecessary pain - is testament to our potential for emotional growth and ...
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In alternating voices, this frank memoir chronicles the long journey mother and son took from a relationship of concealment and shame about Chris's homosexuality to one of acceptance and love. Marlene and Chris tell the story of their parallel lives during the troubled years each of them kept silent about their suspicions, all the while yearning to reveal the truth. Their heroic emergence from the closet - a mire of emotional isolation and unnecessary pain - is testament to our potential for emotional growth and our need for tolerant and supportive parenting.

In alternating voices, this frank memoir describes the parallel lives of a mother and son during the years that each of them kept silent, even though they both suspected that Chris was gay. In poignant detail, the book chronicles the long journey mother and son took from the shame, fear, and concealment to acceptance and love.

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New York Times Book Review
What makes this story ultimately heroic is...a reminder of all those who struggle against the stigma of who they are.
Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
``Mom, I don't know how to tell you this... I'm gay,'' Christopher Shyer, then 26, told his mother, Marlene, on Thanksgiving Day 1987. How he summoned the courage to come out, after years of torment, isolation and self-hatred growing up in the suburbs of New York City, is revealed in a deeply moving memoir, told in alternating voices. Marlene, a novelist, children's-book author and journalist, worried obsessively from the time Chris was five that he'd become a homosexual and dragged him to psychotherapists seeking assurance that he was ``normal.'' She eventually overcame her homophobia, but Chris's father (whom Marlene subsequently divorced) was less accepting of his son's sexual orientation: ``I have no problem with it.... As long as it doesn't show.'' Chris, a business executive in New York, writes forcefully. ``It's those who condemn and deride us, those who are ignorant and misinformed who should be scorned and ridiculed. It is homophobia that should be in the closet.'' (Feb.)
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Similar in theme and format to Aaron Fricke's Sudden Strangers (St. Martin's. 1991). (LJ 11/15/95)
School Library Journal
YAIn alternating chapters, Marlene Shyer and her son Christopher present a forthright account of their memories of various stages of Chris's lifefrom the time he was five years old (when Mom first had twinges of suspicion) until his early adult years, when he divulged, first to her and then later to other family members, the fact that he was gay. These accounts are well written: the prose pulls readers along on the whole family's difficult journey. Honesty in expressing fears, the ebb and flow of human emotions, the devastation of self-blame, and, finally, the wonderful joy and release of acceptance make this title a strong choice for any collection serving YAs and/or parents. It is a hopeful book for today's society.Rebecca C. Burgee, Langley High School, McLean, VA
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  • ISBN-13: 9781555834494
  • Publisher: Alyson Publications
  • Publication date: 9/28/1997
  • Edition description: 1ST ALYSON
  • Pages: 260
  • Product dimensions: 5.27 (w) x 8.01 (h) x 0.62 (d)

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