Not Like Other Boys: Growing up Gay: Mother and Son Look Back by Marlene Fanta Shyer, Christopher Shyer |, Paperback | Barnes & Noble
Not Like Other Boys: Growing up Gay: Mother and Son Look Back

Not Like Other Boys: Growing up Gay: Mother and Son Look Back

by Marlene Fanta Shyer, Christopher Shyer
     
 
A complex, emotionally persuasive family portrait told by a son who knew he was gay but feared to divulge his secret and by a mother who thought he might be "different" but did not know for sure. Both suffered emotional isolation, unnecessary pain, and a deep yearning to reveal. Told in alternating voices, this frank, genuinely moving memoir chronicles the long

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A complex, emotionally persuasive family portrait told by a son who knew he was gay but feared to divulge his secret and by a mother who thought he might be "different" but did not know for sure. Both suffered emotional isolation, unnecessary pain, and a deep yearning to reveal. Told in alternating voices, this frank, genuinely moving memoir chronicles the long journey mother and son took from concealment and shame to acceptance and love.

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New York Times Book Review
What makes this story ultimately heroic is...a reminder of all those who struggle against the stigma of who they are.
Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly
``Mom, I don't know how to tell you this... I'm gay,'' Christopher Shyer, then 26, told his mother, Marlene, on Thanksgiving Day 1987. How he summoned the courage to come out, after years of torment, isolation and self-hatred growing up in the suburbs of New York City, is revealed in a deeply moving memoir, told in alternating voices. Marlene, a novelist, children's-book author and journalist, worried obsessively from the time Chris was five that he'd become a homosexual and dragged him to psychotherapists seeking assurance that he was ``normal.'' She eventually overcame her homophobia, but Chris's father (whom Marlene subsequently divorced) was less accepting of his son's sexual orientation: ``I have no problem with it.... As long as it doesn't show.'' Chris, a business executive in New York, writes forcefully. ``It's those who condemn and deride us, those who are ignorant and misinformed who should be scorned and ridiculed. It is homophobia that should be in the closet.'' (Feb.)
Library Journal
Similar in theme and format to Aaron Fricke's Sudden Strangers (St. Martin's. 1991). (LJ 11/15/95)
School Library Journal
YAIn alternating chapters, Marlene Shyer and her son Christopher present a forthright account of their memories of various stages of Chris's lifefrom the time he was five years old (when Mom first had twinges of suspicion) until his early adult years, when he divulged, first to her and then later to other family members, the fact that he was gay. These accounts are well written: the prose pulls readers along on the whole family's difficult journey. Honesty in expressing fears, the ebb and flow of human emotions, the devastation of self-blame, and, finally, the wonderful joy and release of acceptance make this title a strong choice for any collection serving YAs and/or parents. It is a hopeful book for today's society.Rebecca C. Burgee, Langley High School, McLean, VA

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781555834494
Publisher:
Alyson Publications
Publication date:
09/28/1997
Edition description:
1ST ALYSON
Pages:
260
Product dimensions:
5.27(w) x 8.01(h) x 0.62(d)

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