Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity, and Jealousy

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The national bestseller Odd Girl Out exposed a hidden culture of cruelty that had always been quietly endured by American girls. As Rachel Simmons toured the country, these girls found their voices and spoke to her about their pain. They wanted to talk-and they weren't the only ones. Mothers, teachers, counselors, young professional women, even fathers, came to Rachel with heart-wrenching personal stories that could no longer be kept secret.
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Overview


The national bestseller Odd Girl Out exposed a hidden culture of cruelty that had always been quietly endured by American girls. As Rachel Simmons toured the country, these girls found their voices and spoke to her about their pain. They wanted to talk-and they weren't the only ones. Mothers, teachers, counselors, young professional women, even fathers, came to Rachel with heart-wrenching personal stories that could no longer be kept secret.
Here, Rachel creates a safe place for girls to talk, rant, sound off, and find each other. The result is a collection of wonderful accounts of the inner lives of adolescent girls. Candid and disarming, creative and expressive, and always exceptionally self-aware, these poems, songs, confessions, and essays form a journal of American girlhood. They show us how deeply cruelty flows and how strongly these girls want to change.
Odd Girl Out helped girls find their voices; Odd Girl Speaks Out helps them tell their stories.

I'm always the odd girl out
No one talks to me
I try to be friendly and speak out
But I'm invisible, see?

You know, gossip is a natural thing in high school. I'm one of those girls that will do it right in front of you. I'll whisper at my friends and look at you the whole time.
Then we'll all cut up laughing. You know we're talking about you.

My best friend and I started being friends with this other girl. But she was fat. It was hard because she always wanted to go down the slide second and she would crush us. We didn't want to tell her she was fat, so we decided to drop her. Her mother called my mother and told her we were being mean. But we just couldn't be friends with her anymore.

-from Odd Girl Speaks Out

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Editorial Reviews

ElleGIRL

"A heartening book, and tonic for these politically polarized times."
Los Angeles Times

"She's motivated by the victim's pain, but also aware of the pain of the perpetrators and believes they can change."
Booklist

"Revealing.... Young adults will find support, direction, and even a community in their peers' words."
From the Publisher

Praise for Odd Girl Out
"[Simmons] peels away the smiley surfaces of adolescent female society to expose one of girlhood's dark secrets: the vicious psychological warfare waged every day in the halls of our middle schools and high schools."-San Francisco Chronicle

"This is the book we have been waiting for. . . . Simmons has given voice to the girls who struggle everyday with friendships. She has uncovered a hidden world of aggression that unfolds behind adults' backs."-Susan Wellman, president of The Ophelia Project

"Thought-provoking . . . Probes the emotional underpinnings of girls' aggression."-Newsweek

Publishers Weekly
This sequel to the controversial bestseller Odd Girl Out compiles pseudonymous accounts of bullying, backstabbing and other nastiness that girls say they have suffered or perpetrated on other girls, intercut with brief commentary from political scientist Simmons. Simmons argues that for "thousands of years, women have been barred from showing aggression," although feeling jealous, competitive or threatened are "natural, appropriate" responses to the world we live in. Furthermore, because "girls are taught that expressing anger directly is wrong, many girls (and women) have no choice but to resort to secret acts of meanness." Although there is nothing "secret" about most of the nastiness the girls in this book describe-they're very verbal in their abuse, very obvious and deliberate in their shunning of other girls-there are more fundamental problems with Simmons's model. Since she finds aggression universal, there's no need to look for the happy girls. She does not include accounts from kind young women, even though their insights into living a good life might be instructive. Still, this anthology's target audience is the girl in trouble, and Simmons has some decent advice: e.g., don't take offense right away, don't assume you have an exclusive relationship with anyone, don't try to IM (instant message) your way through a fight, don't accept a bad relationship, get involved in positive activities, be kind when ditching an old best friend, etc. It's not much different from what teen advice manuals have always offered, but some readers may find Simmons's presumption-of-wickedness approach more disarming than the conventional, presumption-of-goodness literature. (Jan.) Forecast: Clearly a companion to Odd Girl Out, this low-priced paperback could find its way into the hands of younger readers, thanks to national author appearances (with contributors) and advertising. Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780156028158
  • Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
  • Publication date: 1/19/2004
  • Edition description: First Edition
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 208
  • Sales rank: 302,536
  • Age range: 14 - 17 Years
  • Product dimensions: 6.58 (w) x 7.98 (h) x 0.58 (d)

Meet the Author

Rachel Simmons

RACHEL SIMMONS, best-selling author of Odd Girl Speaks Out and The Curse of the Good Girl, is an educator and cofounder of the Girls Leadership Institute. A Rhodes Scholar, she has appeared on Today, Oprah, and other major shows, including her own PBS special, and writes frequently for Teen Vogue.
www.rachelsimmons.com

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THE SOUND OF A GIRL'S VOICE

Introduction

I was worried about Emma. She'd been at my girls' leadership camp for three days and had barely spoken. She was twelve, with dark hair and soft, downcast eyes. Even though she sat with the other girls at meals, I couldn't tell if she was really making friends. She was short and quiet and easily invisible.

One afternoon, I led a lively discussion about bullying among girls. A few hours later, after swimming, there was a knock at my door. It was Emma. Delighted, I started to welcome her, and before I could finish my sentence she was telling me a story, something she had kept so secret she was afraid that even to greet me might change her mind.

It was Valentine's Day in fifth grade, and Emma had driven her best friends crazy with her crush on Zack. She hoped he knew how she felt, prayed for a card from him, doodled his name inside her notebook.

It was also the day after her best friend sat their clique in a circle at lunchtime and gave them each a grade out of one hundred. It was a weekly ritual that Emma anticipated with a mixture of dread and hope. Each time, she hoped she would make it out of the sixties and into C range. Yesterday, she'd gotten a fifty-nine, a point below passing.

Today, when she went to her locker during social studies, the curling, shiny red paper was there, protruding out of the locker door. Slowly, she opened the card. "Dear Emma," it read, "I love the way your fat spills over your jeans when you wear those tight shirts. Will you be my valentine? Love, Zack."

She looked out my window, then back at me.

"I can't stop thinking of that image, over and over again," she told me. Emma had been making herself throw up ever since.

I began consoling her frantically, but she only nodded. I wasn't entirely sure she could hear me. By dinner, I knew it didn't matter. Emma was talking and laughing with the other seventh grade girls. The next day, she began raising her hand in discussions. When it was time for the girls to run their own discussions, Emma convinced her group to return to the topic of girl bullying. She served as the moderator. Then, standing before more than thirty people, Emma told the other girls exactly what had happened to her.

To write Odd Girl Out, I met with hundreds of girls in groups. We'd sit on the floor in a circle, cross-legged and munching snacks. I figured girls would be more comfortable talking together about bullying, meanness, and conflict. I thought they talked about it all the time.

I was wrong. When I asked them questions about direct confrontation, there was silence. A hand crept into the air, and a girl confided her fear of losing friends. Another confessed she might say something she didn't mean. The others stared at her, hesitated, then raised their hands and started talking. Whispers skittered through the room.

It soon became clear that most girls thought they were the only ones afraid of losing friends, the only ones who felt like their world might end if they did, the only ones with secrets about being bullies and victims, with knots in their stomachs as they entered the cafeteria and wondered where to sit.

As their voices grew more confident, their relief was palpable. They hadn't talked about this at all, and it thrilled them to realize they weren't alone. Sitting with the girls, watching them watch each other, was one of the most exciting parts of the Odd Girl Out project.

I invited young writers to tell their stories of bullying and friendship because I wanted girls to talk directly to each other about the hidden culture of aggression. I wanted to give every girl a chance to be a part of those discussion circles.

In Odd Girl Out, I explored how our culture affects the ways girls show their anger. Through powerful messages sent by parents, teachers, friends, and the media, girls learn that anger will not be tolerated; that they must sit quietly and behave like perfect little angels; that they cannot be ugly to anyone; and that breaking any of these rules will bring swift, severe punishment.

But much as girls try, bad feelings can't be wished or forced away. As a result, many girls hide their anger, using body language (the silent treatment), relationships (ganging up and threatening not to be friends with someone), and indirect aggression (rumors, gossip, the Internet) to express their true feelings. Others stifle their feelings, becoming depressed, cutting themselves, or developing eating disorders.

When girls are mean to each other, most people shrug it off. Determined to keep its girls "sugar and spice and everything nice," society turns a blind eye to girls' aggression. "Girls will be girls," they say. Or, they cluck, "It's a phase all girls go through."

As a result, most girls suffer alone. Their situations aren't addressed, their pain is private, and their problems hidden. Now, that's changing. We're starting to think about what girls do as "aggression," not just a "rite of passage." Odd Girl Out and Rosalind Wiseman's Queen Bees and Wannabees began building a public consciousness of what it means to be hurt in social, relational, or indirect ways.

We must continue that process, this time in girls' voices. Girls need to tell their own stories, to each other and to the world. This book is intended not only to help girls but also to be a powerful declaration, a kind of petition signed by girls.

My strongest memory of being bullied as a third grader was the feeling that no one had ever gone through what I had. If that was true, then it also was true that I was a loser of epic proportions, and that what happened was clearly my fault. Those feelings of responsibility marked me deeply. They had a huge impact on my self-esteem. I know I ended up writing Odd Girl Out because of them.

But I hadn't just been a victim. I did something terrible to a close friend when I was fourteen. As the years passed, I buried the memory deep inside my mind. I lied to myself and others about who I was, convinced I had never been anything but nice. Later in the book, I'll explore how hiding a real, human part of my personality damaged my ability to have healthy conflicts with my friends and nearly denied Anne the dignity of an apology.

When you realize the confusion, panic, pain, hurt, and anger you experienced is something that millions of other girls have gone through, it changes things. First of all, it's a lot harder to blame yourself as a victim. Second, when you understand your situation and see it as something relatively common, it gives you a context for your pain, not to mention some perspective. Finally, if you were a bully, understanding that aggression is normal can help you take responsibility for your actions and grow as a person in significant ways.

Telling her story freed Emma from silence and shame. It gave her back some of the joys of girlhood that had been taken from her. I know I can't erase the searing loneliness of being an odd girl out. Yet I hope this book will give girls a sense of community, an opportunity to share strategies and solace, and most of all, the knowledge that even the worst kind of heartbreak improves with time.

What Girls Do

A shake of the head, a roll of the eyes

The rumors the lies

They no longer play on your pride

But rip you up inside

This is what girls do

This is what they say

It is like this every day

The mothers reply

But that is a lie

Walking in the hall

Taking in it all

All alone no one home

Kids shouting, kids staring

All this torture I'm bearing

No one caring

-age 12

Growing from the Pain

Grammar school is where aggression all began for me. I went to a little Catholic private school, in a little "dandy" town in New Jersey. Everyone was friends with everyone else; it was hard not to be, in a class of thirty-five! But even that had its downfalls.

It all started in the sixth grade when little groups and cliques of girls formed. I seemed to fit in with everyone, not because I was popular but because I was always the "nice girl." I won "nicest" in the yearbook and "most Christianlike" at church. But even being nice had its downfalls. People could easily take advantage of you and in my case this one girl, Alisa, somehow became my nightmare.

It all began when she started to become best friends with all my friends. I loved it at first because it became one "happy group" but little by little I noticed Alisa slowly acting differently toward me. Then the stories started. Lie after lie, rumor after rumor was created as I sat there in awe of why and what she was trying to do to me. It just didn't make sense. Another problem I had was that I was very shy and hardly stood up for myself because even when I tried, Alisa would often "shut me down" and turn things around once again.

My life seemed to be a bad dream playing over and over again in my mind. "Poor Alisa" tried to turn things around and accused me of doing what she had done to me (which of course never happened). Then eighth grade graduation came. I thought I would finally be able to get away from the misery I was put through.

I remember sitting at home crying for hours, thinking how she got away with all she put me through and why she tried to make my life so miserable. Even when I went to my best friends for advice (which were also her best friends, conveniently), they would just say that they didn't want to get involved because no one wanted to get tied up in "Alisa's lies." Half of them had been there and no one wanted to go through it time after time.

I finally thought when high school came along it would end! But of course it didn't. Alisa followed me right to high school along with ten other girls from my old school. I made a promise to myself at that point that I wouldn't let her bring me down. This was my time to shine. My high school years were going to be memorable and I was going to be out there making friends, making memories, and making a future that no one, especially Alisa, was going to stop me from having.

The first few months were hell as she tried to hold on to every last strand of me she could. She began to realize that I didn't need to get caught in her little games anymore. I began to meet new people and make new friendships, and Alisa got jealous. Alisa was finally getting a taste of what I had always hoped for: the realization that she couldn't rule me anymore.

Months passed and our paths crossed but I kept my distance and watched what I said. I even began to feel bad for her because I learned what fueled her popularity. It was her meanness, and the only way she thrived was through it. I learned that the only reason she was popular was not because she was smart or nice or athletic or pretty (the so-called ideal popular girl), but because she was cruel. The reason people wanted to be her friend was to avoid confrontation.

I sit back now in amazement of why and how I let things get to the point they did; how I allowed someone to take over my life as she did. I do thank Alisa, though, because she showed me someone I would never want to be. I now treat my relationships very differently. I think before I say something dehumanizing or negative.

Even Alisa has changed. As my senior year comes to an end, I can say that Alisa and I are better now. We occasionally hang out with the same people and even talk now. Alisa seemed to grow out of her meanness, and I guess you could say I grew out of my vulnerable niceness.

Sometimes a person's only way to express their hurtful feelings inside is by trashing it all on someone else. It was very unfortunate for Alisa to leave me with negative memories of our grammar school years together, but it is uplifting to feel that in the end everything turned out okay. Without Alisa in my life, I wouldn't have grown into the individual I am today.

-AGE 18

I Don't Know Where I Stand

I "flapped" my hand over the small square of paper. Hands sweating, face red, throat dry.

"What could I have possibly done?" I thought. My head felt dizzy and heavy. My eyes tight. Jaw clenched.

I pulled the square truth out of my pocket. My hands were sweating and the back of my neck felt tight.

One, two, three. I opened the first fold. My stomach knotted. I opened the entire thing. Skimmed it enough to get the idea of the whole thing. It wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I skimmed it once more and refolded it into my pocket. Now my hands were shaking.

I had found out why. Why Sophie didn't invite me to her party.

It all started on a Monday, during lunch.

"So what do you want for your birthday?" Those were the words that started it all.

I knew Sophie's birthday was soon. But I didn't know if the words meant there was a party or there would be a party.

The next day I asked one of the people I knew Sophie would invite if Sophie was having a party.

"Yeah, this Saturday."

I was hurt. I was shocked. How could Sophie invite two out of the three people she eats lunch with every day?

I thought we were friends. I thought that because we went out to lunch every day we were friends. But I guess she didn't.

The next day I asked Ava if she was going to Sophie's birthday party, half expecting her to say, "Yeah, are you?" and half expecting her to blurt out a secret Sophie told her to keep.

Instead her face turned pale and "innocent-looking."

"Yeah," she said, biting her lip, as if Sophie had told her to keep a secret from me.

The next day, instead of eating with Sophie and her "birthday crew" I ate with Ramona, a friend I knew I could trust. We sat at a table right behind Sophie and her birthday crew, whispering about how they hardly noticed I was gone.

A few days later I asked one of Sophie's birthday crew why Sophie didn't invite me.

He looked as if Sophie had said something really nasty about me.

"Wait, just tell me a little bit," I said, with fear that I would start crying wildly.

"It's something in your personality that she doesn't like. And her mom doesn't like you for that, either."

What could I have possibly done to make Sophie's mom not like me? I don't even know Sophie's mom!

Finally at the last period on Friday I asked one of the birthday crew to write down why Sophie hadn't invited me. I opened the paper, which would reveal the truth. It read:

Sophie didn't invite you because she thinks you'll steal all the attention away from her and control the party. She also thinks you act like you're the only one who's allowed to be friends with Ava. This is the same reason Sophie's mom doesn't like you.

First of all, the guests would come to see her, not me. And secondly, I can't "control" the party. It's her party. And I'm the only one who's "allowed" to be friends with Ava? Ava's allowed to be friends with whoever she wants. I do admit I sometimes (sort of) hog her, but hardly ever.

The Monday after the party I asked a birthday crew member how the party was.

"Good."

"What did you do?" I asked.

"Talked, watched movies."

"What did you talk about?"

"Stuff."

"Me?"

"Um, no."

"Yes, you did!"

"No."

"Come on, you're lying," I said, not really knowing I cracked something open.

"Well, yeah."

"What did you say about me?"

"Sophie asked why you were upset."

"And what did you say?"

"I said you thought you didn't do those things all the time."

"And what did she say?"

"She agreed."

After all that! After all that she put me through. After the worrying and the putting the pieces together she agreed that I don't (always) do the things she said I did. I still wonder if she's sorry she didn't include me in the party.

I still have friendship problems with Sophie and Ava. They leave me out or talk behind my back. Especially Sophie. I don't know where I stand with them. Part of me wants to be all "friendly" and doing everything together, but part of me doesn't. It will take a long time before I can ever even consider forgiving Sophie (or Ava).

-age 13

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Table of Contents


A NOTE FROM RACHEL SIMMONS o vii

THE SOUND OF A GIRL'S VOICE
Introduction

"WHY IS IT MY FAULT THAT
I DON'T WANT TO BE HER FRIEND?":
Moving On, Growing Apart

"A NEVER-ENDING NIGHTMARE":
When Friends Turn On You

"IT'S THE WAY GIRLS SURVIVE":
Aggression, Fear, and Revenge

"I WANTED TO FIT IN SO BADLY":
Life as the Odd Girl Out

FINDING YOUR INNER STRENGTH

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  • Anonymous

    Posted July 17, 2012

    I have been and always be

    I am the odd one out at school. I am 12 years old everyone hangs out after the bell rings while im in the classroom. The other girls call me pregnant and the boys say i have aids and so have my sister, my mom told me that there not the ones with the good grades and the fastest girl on the cross country team and that makes me feel better but still others shouldnt have to put up with this because his is just to much. My friend haley she hung her self and she wrote on facebook before she died "are you happy now that im gone?" his needs to stop now

    2 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 25, 2007

    PATHETIC

    wow i just really did not like this book! the girls in it got me so mad! and im not talking about the 'mean' ones...im talking about the ones who would just stand there and do nothing...i didnt even feel sorry for them, what i really wanted to do was SMACK all the girls who wouldnt do anything. and to think that the stories are real! what idiots!

    1 out of 2 people found this review helpful.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted October 2, 2014

    To odd girl out

    I am so sorry for you if you need someone to talk to i am here i may not have been where you are but i can give a listening ear and friendship hope the bullying stops and i will be praying for you. Christian Girl age13

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  • Anonymous

    Posted April 11, 2014

    Meghan

    This was an wesome book. 999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999 stars!!!!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted August 9, 2012

    Loved it

    This is a great read, makes you very knowledgable in terms off friends

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  • Posted January 20, 2010

    COOL

    This is a really good book. There is a lot of advice that would be very helpful in any relationship. I really like how the author took stories from girls all around the world.By reading this book I have learned a lot about the people around me. But I have also learned a lot about myself. I would recommend this book to girls of all ages.

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  • Posted September 18, 2009

    Life Time Lessons

    Everyone goes through both good and bad experiences in their lives. I've never read a book that had such and important message to get across. In the book ODD GIRL SPEAKS OUT, by Rachel Simmons, many girls write about their problems with bullies, cliques, popularity , and jealousy. While reading about these girls problems, I realized that many people can relate to the problems that they were having.
    Rachel Simmions style of writing is the reason I enjoyed this book. her writing was so crisp that it felt like she was speaking to me as I was reading. She had given me advice that would stick with me for the rest of my life.
    In ODD GIRL SPEAKS OUT, she took entries form different girls with similar but different problems. It shows that everyone experiences similar problems and other people know what you are going through. In addition, it showed you should always stay strong through the toughest parts of you life.
    This book is mainly about numerous girls writing about their problems. These problems end up connecting to each other in someway. There
    problems are eventually resolved and become easier and easier to deal with.
    Over all I loved this book! I though it taught me lessons with out even experiencing them. It can teach you so much about your self and who you want to be. Everything in you life happens for a reason. The experiences learned during your lifetime are what make you who you are today.

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  • Posted September 18, 2009

    more from this reviewer

    Speak

    Rachel Simmons brilliantly introduces teenagers to others who have gone through hard situations in their lives in her story Odd Girl Speaks Out. It is a nonfiction novel that Shares sotries of teenage girls, all over the country, who have difficult times with bullies and friends. It even includes stories of people who were the bullies. Simmons tries to show everyone that they aren't alone and it gives them hope that things will get better for them.

    Cliques, popularity and bullies affect the girls who share their shocking, devastating, stories with the world. Simmons also thrills us with the pleasure of reading about her experiences. Throughout the book she talks to the readers about her past and gives us advice on how to get through many difficult times. Simmons listened to these girls and published their stories in her book so everyone could hear of their experiences. One girl published a moment in her life when she was an outcast and a reject. When nobody wanted to be her friend and one person even said to her "Seriously, why don't you just die?" She also published somebody else's advice that said "Hurt me once, shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me." Simmons truly respects these girls and tries to help everyone she can. This book is one people will never forget; it will change your life forever.

    In Odd Girl Speaks Out girls who were able to open up about their previous problems and who invited others inside to hear what they had to say, spoke out. Rachel Simmons was there to hear them. She gave them the time to talk about their lives and she gave them her own advice. Those girls will continue to spread the influence that Simmons has had on each of their lives.

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  • Posted September 18, 2009

    Odd Girl Speaks Out Book Review

    I was really inspired to prevent bullying after I read the novel, Odd Girl Speaks Out, by Rachel Simmons. While reading this book, I really felt like I was in the shoes of so many girls who get bullied across the world. This novel talks about girls who are effected by bullies, cliques, jealousy, and popularity. I believe that any teenage girl can connect somehow to this book and that it will change thier outlook on life in some way.
    The novel, Odd Girl Speaks Out, has many important themes and messages, such as "people should be kind to others". This lesson is important because before I read this book, I didn't know how badly some girls were being treated. On page 85, a 14 year old girl describes what it was like for her; "I would go into the bathroom and cry in the stall for twenty minutes or so. It was like I was in a never-ending nightmare. I was buried in a cold black hole where no one cared or understood." I believe that if more people read this novel and become more aware of bullying, we may be able to prevent and hopefully stop bullying. After reading this book, I wanted to make sure that I treated everyone with respect. I enjoyed reading this book because of all the valuable lessons that it teaches.
    In the novel, Odd Girl Speaks Out, there is a lot of helpful advice you can follow if you are ever in a bad situation. On page 52, Rachel Simmons says that if you think that your friend doesn't like you anymore because you are not spending enough time together, you should take time to talk to your friend and work things out. She suggests asking and answering questions, such as "What could I do differently to make our friendship better?" and "What is my friend doing that is making me feel sad, hurt, angy, or annoyed?". I think that this book is very helpful if you are having a problem with your friends, school, or bullying.
    I think that this novel is a good choice if you are a teenage girl who has, or even has not been effected by bullying, jealousy, popularity, or cliques. Odd Girl Speaks Out teaches many valuable lessons and has a lot of good advice. To see what many girls deal with, get advice, or to be inspired to stop bullying, you will have to read this book!

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  • Posted January 20, 2009

    The book from Odd Girls Speak Out, from my point of view i think that is a very good book. The book has stories about girl that have been left out from their own cliques.

    The Odd Girl Speaks Out by Rachel Simmons is an amazing book that can make you cry, laugh, and even think. it shows you that you are not alone. The novel contains stories from other girls that are easy to relate too, especially if you are a high school student. This non-fiction book discusses problems that many middle and high school students have. All different kinds of girls with different ages have always gotten bullied, were lonely, and had rumors and gossip spread around about them. If you can relate to girls like these, or if you want to know how they solve there problems and you love reading, read Odd Girl Speaks Out by Rachel Simmons. Trust me; it¿s a really good book. I read this book and I learn lots of things from it like for example how to fix problems with friends.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 22, 2008

    A day in the life of a High School Student

    Gossip¿it is everywhere. Some love it, hate it, and some use it as their advantage to hurt others. In the book Odd Girl Speaks Out by Rachel Simons girls deal with popularity, cliques, alcohol, anorexia, and ultimately gossip. Each person writes about their experience and how it has impacted their life. Teenage girls not only submit short stories, but unleash their opinions and advice about problems everyone can relate to. For example, Janie is a fourteen- year-old girl who is faced with a difficult decision. She wants to go to a party in which she is not allowed to attend, Janie¿s excerpt questions defying her parents or staying home. The author made me feel as though I was in her position. I learned form this book that good intentions can turn into bad situations. We can all connect to these conflicts and give each of the girl¿s sympathy. These letters are dedicated to all ages and each section divides the issues along with a commentary form the editor. In my opinion, I would give this book four stars for its ability to give insight on the daily obstacles faced by an adolescent teen, child, and adult. I would recommend this book to women of all ages. The young authors touched the hearts and helped restore the equilibrium of those who are undeservedly abused emotionally.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 20, 2008

    An addicting novel!

    There were laughs, tears, happiness and insecurity. Every girl in the book Odd Girl Speaks Out, by Rachel Simmons had their ups and downs. This non-fiction novel gave girls around the United States a chance to speak about problems they had with their female friends. Usually their conflicts were at school, and a few were around the neighborhood. Sometimes their problems got so serious that they had to switch schools. The author put all their conflicts in categories and gave advice to each category. When I read the book, I felt like I was put into every girls shoes and went through their conflicts with them. The novel was very significant to me because I could relate to some problems the girls had. Some passages in the book can be very tragic and others can give someone the ¿chills.¿ Rachel Simmons¿ intriguing book can attract female readers who are searching for advice or a way to make all their troubles disappear. However, it can also be a good read for a girl who just wants to read an absorbing novel. Rachel Simmons, the talented author who wrote Odd Girl Speaks Out, had a purpose for writing this book. Her purpose was to give girls a chance to speak about their problems openly and freely, and for girls to feel sympathetic if they saw one of the situations in the book happening in their lives. The reason I liked the novel so much was because all of the pages in the book were real girls speaking about their real problems and how they solved them, or how they are trying to re cooperate from them. On a 1 out of 10 rating, I would give Odd Girl Speaks Out a 10 because the book made me feel sorry for the girls that experienced pain and gave me a different perspective on some things. After reading the novel I¿m more open to new things, and accept people easier than I used to. For Example, if I see a girl in the hallway that¿s called a bully I won¿t judge her for it, because I don¿t know what she¿s going through outside of school. That is one of the lessons this novel can teach somebody. Rachel Simmons did an incredible job with putting the book together. Odd Girl Speaks Out is a grasping book that you wont be able to put down.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 23, 2008

    One word...AMAZING!

    Have you ever thought that you're the only one who is bullied and lonely? Are people spreading rumours and gossip only about you? Are you the only one who didnt get asked out by a popular guy? well think again! Odd Girl Speaks Out by Rachel Simmons is an amazing novel that can make you cry, laugh, and shout with anger. it shouws you that you are not alone. the novel contains other girls personal stories that are easy to relate to, especially if you're a high school student. This non-fiction, well-written novel discusses problems that many have and can show you how to solve them. All different kinds of girls with different ages have always gotten bullied, were lonely, and had rumours and gossip spread around about them. if you can relate to girls like these , or if you want to know how they solve there problems, and you love reading,read Odd Girl Speaks Out by Rachel Simmons. trust me, its a really good book.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 15, 2008

    Insight Into the Life of a High School Student

    A realistic, non-fiction novel, Odd Girl Speaks Out is a collection of drama-filled short stories and poems. Written by teenage girls, the stories expose the hardships of high school and middle school. Each story is original and personal, and has a different author. Rachel Simmons does an excellent job of finding a variety of stories that each teach it¿s own moral and theme. Simmons allows the reader to gain insight as teenage girls over come their problems and learn to cope with bullying, jealousy, popularity, and being the odd girl out. Odd Girl Speaks Out can be enjoyed by all teenage girls. In addition, the readers can connect to the problems their peers face throughout the book. Each story leaves new footprints in the hearts of its readers and leaves them thinking, ¿why do these problems occur?¿ and ¿why does no one stop these bad things from happening?¿ The reader may be rooting for the troubled teenager to stand up for the bullies, make friends, and prove her enemies wrong. The issues explored in the different stories can be magnified to larger issues faced in politics today. When the new kid in school gets bullied, this can be compared to the younger countries in the world getting bombed by older, more established nations. All together, the numerous stories teach the reader life lessons that may never be forgotten. The book is an excellent written record of the lives of teenage girls. Readers are able to travel through the school day with the authors and experience what they went through and what teenagers all around the world face daily: peer pressure, cliques, and being left out.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 15, 2008

    The Ultimate Headline

    The book Odd Girls Speak Out by Rachel Simmons is an interesting book. It is a variety of autobiographies filled with drama of many tennage girls. It makes you stop and think about yourself as a person and the people in which you are equainted with. This book definately gets you hooked on is putting yourself in the shoes of the different characters because the experiences in the stories make you feel as if you knew exactly what was going on. If you are the type of person looking for connections top the author's context of living a rough lifesyle and a socially stressed tennage girl, then this is the book for you. This book is overall showing a plethora of veiws from a multitide of different individuals telling their stories while keeping it confedential. It shocks you to see what some of these girls do to one another. For instance, back-stabbing a best friend and rapidly becoming enemies is a big part in this novel. When I put myself in one of the stories I then can understand why some of these girls get picked on but definately not from the girls that look for trouble with others. What is definately annyoing about the book was that absolutely anyone could hae written the book. The author really had no part in this book besides editing the girls' stories and publishinhg the book itself, to me, that was a big turn off of the novel overall. Honestly, this isn't a book I would reccommed, but that is just my opinion. For yours, you'll just have to read the book yourself.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted September 15, 2008

    Hardships Teenage Girls Face

    Have you ever been through a period in your life where you've felt left out or you felt like people were making fun of you? In the book, Odd Girl Speaks Out by Rachel Simmons, it tells us about many different teenage girls'stories where they encountered problems and felt like they didnt belong. In this autobiography, different teenage girls explain what led to them being made fun of and how they resolved their problems. The book shows how differently people can see and go about similar situations. In some of the stories, the person who was ridiculed would stick up for herself, but in others the person would just go home and cry. In most of the stories, there was a girl who lost her friends because they got sick of her or she did something to upset them. The lessons I learned from reading the book is that even if I'm facing a difficult situation and I seeminly have no one to turn to, I have to learn to stick through it because in the end, everything will eventually get better. This book really affected me because it put me into so many different girls' shoes. It made me understand how horrible it is to feel like you have no friends or no one to turn to. I would reccomend this story to any teenage girls because many people could relate to the people in the stories. However, even if you can't relate to the girls' in the story, you can now understand how important it is to help those who can relate to it.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 18, 2008

    odd girl out review

    This book didn't interest me only because I am in high school and i'm not into reading or hearing about other people's drama. I can relate to some of the girls in the book but it isn't a book that I would recommend unless you want to really witness the stories of how mean girls really are.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted March 15, 2006

    Great book for parents of girls

    Every parent with a daughter should read this book. Rachel Simmons has hit girl behavior right on the head. She validates how the victims of this covert aggression feel. I highly recommend this book.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted January 21, 2006

    2 words best book ever!!! o0o wait thats 3 srry =)

    i love this book so much i recommend this book to other people and that you should see the movie odd girl out it's really deep and soooo interesting

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    Posted March 1, 2012

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