Office Mate: Your Employee Handbook for Romance on the Job

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The greatest pool of potential mates isn't online, or in a bar, or at the gym. It's on the job. With more than 40 percent of American employees logging over 50 hours each week, where else are people going to find time to look for a date? Work-based romances develop gradually over months and years, allowing people to get to know one another instead of rushing to judgments based on first impressions.

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Overview

The greatest pool of potential mates isn't online, or in a bar, or at the gym. It's on the job. With more than 40 percent of American employees logging over 50 hours each week, where else are people going to find time to look for a date? Work-based romances develop gradually over months and years, allowing people to get to know one another instead of rushing to judgments based on first impressions.

Office Mate teaches readers how to make the most of the office dating pool, offering specific dos and don'ts on what to look for in a potential paramour, how to handle the romance day to day, and how to protect a career if the relationship goes sour. Stephanie Losee and Helaine Olen's practical guide is useful even for those with no eligible candidates in their current nine-to-five gig, with tips for readers on how to expand their professional networks to jumpstart both their love lives and careers. With fun "Instant Messages," fast facts, first-person Water Cooler Confessions, and Famous Dates in Office Mate History, this hip handbook gives singles everywhere the green light to take that office flirtation to the next level.
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Controversial though it may be, workplace romance is flourishing. Both Losee and Olen, contributors to internationally known newspapers and magazines, met their husbands on the job. They here maintain that the office serves as the village of the 21st century, and they offer rules and suggestions for dating coworkers. Some of their dos include being oneself, taking no for an answer, and discussing the worst-case scenario early in the relationship. Among the don'ts are violating sexual-harassment laws, fighting in the office, and dating a married person. The authors deal honestly with the prevalence of office romances and provide helpful advice for keeping them aboveboard. Recommended for all libraries.


—Deborah Bigelow
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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9781598693300
  • Publisher: Adams Media Corporation
  • Publication date: 11/1/2007
  • Pages: 256
  • Sales rank: 1,223,343
  • Product dimensions: 5.50 (w) x 8.43 (h) x 0.66 (d)

Meet the Author

Stephanie Losee is a frequent contributor to the San Francisco Chronicle Magazine and Northern California Public Radio. Her work has appeared in the Los Angeles Times, the Huffington Post, the New York Post, and Child. She's been married for 16 years to a man she met when they both worked at PC Magazine. They live in San Francisco, CA.

Helaine Olen's work has appeared in the Wall Street Journal, Variety, the Washington Post, Salon.com, Working Woman, and the Chicago Tribune. Her essay for the New York Times's "Modern Love" column, "The New Nanny Diaries Are Online," was included in the anthology Modern Love. She too has been married for 16 years to a man she met when they both worked at a publishing house. They live in Westchester County, NY.
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Table of Contents


From the Desk of Helaine     ix
From the Desk of Stephanie     xiii
Introduction     xvi
Why Work Just Might Be the Perfect Place to Find True Love     1
It Takes a Village to Make a Marriage, and the Office Is a Modern-Day Village     3
How the Village Is Built, or Why You Should Love and Adore Human Resources Even Though They're Always Sending You All Those Annoying Memos     15
Office Mate Orientation, or the Anti-Rules     27
You're in Good Company (in More Ways Than One)     41
You Think We're Not Talking about You, But We Are     53
How to Indicate Interest-Without Indicating Yourself Right Out of a Job     61
Let's Give Them Something to Talk About     77
What about the "Office Spouse"?     87
Office Mate Etiquette: Managing Your Workplace Romance     95
So You're in Love: Dos     97
So You're in Love: Don'ts     109
When Do You Tell? Not to Mention, How Do You Tell?     119
Dating the Boss or a Subordinate     125
Dating an Equal     143
Don't Go There, or No, No, No     155
When He's Out of Your Life But Not Out of the Office Next Door     171
Serial Office Dating: Possibly Inevitable but Not Necessarily Lethal     191
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Or, Leaving the Village     199
The Global Office (Mate)     211
Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder     213
When Your Workplace Is a Romantic Wasteland     221
Conclusion: Happily Ever After, Which Is the Point     232
Index     234
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  • Posted December 19, 2008

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    Pleasant guide to finding the right person in the office

    Common ground is a necessary starting point for any relationship. So, why go to a bar to meet a potential mate? Instead, search for love in a more familiar place: your office. An office works like a community where people know each other well. Individuals also act and look most like themselves in the office. Stephanie Losee and Helaine Olen, who met their spouses at work, express their enthusiasm for finding love at the office. They guide hard-working singles through the low-lit halls of the office to find love among the cubicles and conference rooms. getAbstract recommends their warm and practical approach, and praises the care they¿ve taken with sexual harassment issues.

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