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On Becoming Babywise

On Becoming Babywise

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by Gary Ezzo

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This is an older version that is medically OUT OF DATE and is currently out of print by the publisher. The authors (27 year Pediatrician Dr. Robert Bucknam, M.D. and Gary Ezzo) & the publisher strongly recommend pursuing the current edition with medical updates with isbn 1932740139 which has a pink banner ribbon on the front cover. The current and most recent


This is an older version that is medically OUT OF DATE and is currently out of print by the publisher. The authors (27 year Pediatrician Dr. Robert Bucknam, M.D. and Gary Ezzo) & the publisher strongly recommend pursuing the current edition with medical updates with isbn 1932740139 which has a pink banner ribbon on the front cover. The current and most recent version of On Becoming Babywise is the 5th edition, February 2012 (isbn 1932740139); the authors highly recommend ONLY purchasing the newest and most current version of On Becoming Babywise for the latest medical updates, 19% more material, and an entirely new chapter.

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Gary Ezzo, M.A. serves as the executive director of Growing Families International. He and his wife Anne Marie have spoken to millions of mothers, fathers, educators and medical clinicians through their best-selling books and weekend seminars. Their parenting concepts are now translated into 25 languages. On Twitter @ wisebooks and online at babywisebooks.com

Dr. Robert Bucknam, M.D., F.A.A.P. is the founder and director of Cornerstone Pediatrics in Louisville, Colorado where he resides with his wife, Gayle, and their four sons. He has served thousands of parents in Colorado for the last 26 years as their Pediatrician. With a targeted interest in preterm and high-risk newborns, Dr. Bucknam's opinions are highly respected within the pediatric community; He has expanded his practice into multiple hospitals in the area where he works closely with 37 licensed Pediatricians. Dr. Bucknam's work on Parent Directed Feeding is being utilized by 6 million parents worldwide in 16 languages. Stay connected to his further findings on Twitter @_wisebooks and online at babywisebooks.com

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On Becoming Babywise 3.6 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 208 reviews.
notivuga More than 1 year ago
I cannot say enough good things about this book IF you read it from the first to the last page and use your own common sense. I was trying the 3 hour schedule at first and the day I changed to the 2,5 hour schedule, he slept from 11:30pm to 6am. He is now 9 months old, sleeps from 7:30 pm to 7 am, eats very well, is always content and is on the 80th percentile for weight and 90th for height. Just remember that at the beginning they are always hungry. I wish you luck!
G8 More than 1 year ago
I am on my second infant now. I tried to follow the Baby wise approach with my first, and he has done well. Started sleeping through the night at 5 months. This book provides a good starting point. It's hard to know what to do with an infant in those first few weeks. I appreciate having some sort of plan to go by, even if my baby and I don't always follow it perfectly.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Although not a fan of his subsequent books, I applied this approach with my first child and kept my sanity while I breastfed her for 12 months. She was sleeping from 10pm to 5am by about 8 - 10 weeks. Another mother in my playgroup also applied his approach and had similar success. The three other gals were exhausted from the demand feedings and the unpredictable schedules... I did not abide by his recommendations so rigorously with my second child and she did not sleep through the night until 11 months old. We were miserable -- the whole year is blur. We're expecting our third in a month and I've already started re-reading this. I highly recommend.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I purchased this book at the advice of my pediatrician and it was incredible. By following the advice in the book, my son started sleeping through the night at 7 weeks and 1 day! I have already started on the next book! A definite must by for anyone expecting a baby!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I breastfed both of my babies and followed this book, adjusting it to our needs, and it gave me the sanity I needed to continue breastfeeding for so long. It's not for everyone, but it does indeed work for a breastfeeding mother. An overtired, extremely sleep deprived mother who feels like a pacifier due to on demand feedings and is considering 'giving it up' because of this would benefit from this method. We can't all be martyrs. Especially when we have older toddlers to take care of!
Guest More than 1 year ago
I was surprised to read about the negative reviews that state this book is 'in direct opposition with AAP'. Go to the AAP website and look up advice on getting baby to sleep. It mirrors the advice in the book about laying baby down 'while drowsy, but not asleep' and not overstimulating baby. The problem I had with the book is that it reads like a sales pitch. I felt as if Ezzo was trying to sell me on his approach as a car salesman tries to sell the latest model. The book is also mundanely repetitious - the same advice is given over and over again.
JanieinTexas More than 1 year ago
There is not enough space to write how grateful I am that someone took the time to research the wake, eat, sleep cycles of infants and wrote a book on it. Babywise is a must have for all new moms! I can tell you through personal experience that every method the Ezzos write on in this book works!! The argument that children whose wake, eat, sleep cycles are decided by their parents, are psychologically damaged is preposterous. Both of my children weighed 10 lbs. plus at birth and were heavy eaters and both were sleeping through the night by 10 weeks of age. This was no miracle. It was the intelligence of their mother to use the wisdom in this book and apply it's principles on scheduling her child's eating patterns, thus stabilizing the child's metabolism. Can this book be misused by legalist minds??? Yes, it can. But those who heed the warning in this book not to be legalistic about scheduling their child's day can have amazing things happening in their homes. The gift of sleep for a nursing mother/baby are priceless. Knowing why your baby is crying when they cry is incredible! Teaching your children at a later age to eat without pitching their food into the floor is a life skill. Training your children to have self-control and to be content to play alone for a small time each day is giving them opportunities to teach themselves. My children are amazing! But I have to give credit to the Ezzos and others who worked with them on publishing these books. Had I been made to feel guilty if I did not feed my child around the clock, share my bed, hold my baby every second of the day, rock him/her to sleep (which is beautiful, but unnecessary) I would have never had baby number two. Babywise gave me the gift of wanting to bring another precious being into this world, without fear of being burned out within the first four months of her life. To all new mothers out there, read this book, it will bring you peace and sanity!
Guest More than 1 year ago
The book is more of your guideline. Be wise and mindful, otherwise you can get very frustrated. Keep trying and be persistent if you really want this guideline to work. The moment you and you baby get it, you will be very happy. It worked for me and I keep this book on my desk all the time. I call it bible. I always was finding something helpful there.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I thought this book [and the subsequent book] seemed to be quite repetitive: 'Set a schedule. A schedule is good. Your baby needs a schedule. So-and-so's baby did great on a schedule.' I was frustrated because the authors never discussed HOW to set your baby on a schedule.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I bought this book on a recommendation by a friend. I couldn't read past the 2nd chapter. The methods seemed cruel...more like discipline than helpful advice. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. It's extreme, cruel, and cult-like. I'd much more recommend the general idea of Baby Whisperer.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I was really saddened reading this book. The author advocates for things that are in clear condtridiction with humane and safe child care. No research is newer than 1960 and the book seems to want to 'train' babies like animals.
Guest More than 1 year ago
This book came highly recommended. Two of the people that recommended it tried it with their second child and say they wish they had known about it for their first. The feed/wake/sleep order works well for us but letting the baby cry does not. Three times I tried to let our little one cry himself to sleep. All three times he became frantic and ended up crying for 3 hours. He was fussy the entire next day. Obviously this works for some people or they would not have recommended it to me. It just did not work for us. If you have a high need baby this probably is not the solution
Guest More than 1 year ago
After 9 exhausive weeks of 'feeding on demand' which meant every 2-3 hrs around-the-clock, I ordered this book on the recommendation of several friends. With-in 3 nights I got the first 6 hour sleep I had gotten in weeks.(and being in my late 30's, this was sorely needed). On a personal note: This is my third child, I thought I knew what I was doing and didn't need a 'book',but was I wrong. Sean wasn't happy, no one else was happy, and me a 'breast feeding expert' was having trouble feeding because my body was producing milk at all the wrong times,which lead to painful engorgment. Once a schedule was established I began to enjoy the Breastfeeding experience and it is no longer painful. Sean sleeps 8 hrs,nurses, then sleeps another 4-5 hours. The book taught me how to schedule our day, which has given my time to enjoy the rest of my family. I am also an RN in a top ranked NICU. Our babies in the NICU are on strict schedules which is proven to decrease feeding intolerance and increase deep sleep which in turn promotes growth and development. I have recommended this book and many of its guidlines to new parent, and have purchased additional copies for shower gifts. Now at 4months: When it's nap/bedtime Sean lies down in his bed, and goes to sleep, I can rock him, sing to him as often as I want, but I know when I lay him in the bed, he's going to GO TO SLEEP. I haven't used a pacifier in over 2 months, and when he does cry, its only a short time then he's off to sleep. This is establishing what I hope to be a lifetime of good sleep habits.
Guest More than 1 year ago
All the comments are interesting.......I used it with my first born in Dec 1998 as far as the eat/wake/sleep cycle. Believe it or not she just slept through the night and I never had to decide if I was going to let her cry it out. He does take Biblical passages out of context. Anyway, I now have another newborn and just using the things that makes sense to me. The combination of his ideas and a mother's common sense have given me an all most 4 year old with no sleep problems and a 4 month old who has been sleeping through the night for awhile now. By the way, I believe the first month is so important to give your child complete attention to WHATEVER he/she needs regardless of where they are in a so called schedule. But after that, gradually trying the eat/wake/sleep cyle works!!
Guest More than 1 year ago
While the information in this book may sound appealing to nonparents or new parents, it is bad news. It attempts to remove any and all emotion from the parenting process-- how can doing so possibly allow the child to later on develop relationships with other humans. It values having a well 'trained' child over an emotionally healthy child, and an orderly life for the parent over a psychologically sound beginning for the infant. When bashing attachment parenting, this book fails to mention that just as in the Ezzo book, these methods change and grow with the child. Picking up a crying two month old does not mean the same parent will give a toddler everything he wants. Parts of this book gave me a sickening feeling. In addition to the links between following Ezzo's advice and failure-to-thrive in some newborn infants, the advice handed out in this book seems adamantly against establishing a mother-child bond. According to Ezzo, a new baby should be viewed as a new couch or perhaps a new dog-- to be noticed, perhaps enjoyed, and trained to 'fit in' with the rest of the family. The book even suggests that if a two-week old infant refuses to eat at one feed, 'make her wait until the next' one (a few hours later). The rationale is that the infant will learn to eat on a schedule, but a two week old child has no understanding on this level. She will just know she is hungry and no one is responding to her. The book also contains many medically incorrect improtant, such as the claim that tears release stress-producing hormones. Young infants do not yet have tears. Biblical references are also taken out of context. If you are considering following ANY of the advice in this book, please, please balance the information with a William Sears book or your maternal instinct (which says it is NOT okay to let a newborn cry for extended periods of time, among other things). Please be aware of the potential dangers of this book and consider these dangers carefully when deciding how to care for your child.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
There is a very good reason the AAP has spoken out against this book - it is DANGEROUS! It creates detachment, causes failure to thrive, causes breastmilk to decline, makes for a very very distraught bby whose brain grow normally, a child who has severe difficulties  forming good relationships, it btters cnfidence to death...all so the prents hve to alter their lives for their child  Rather treat your child kindly and d h bst for them that yu possiby can  Google Dr Sears and follow his methods!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
If I could give this book 0 stars I would. This is the most dangerous kind of parenting I have ever heard of. babies are taught that it is dangerous to love their parents and to ask to have their needs met. Babies have been left catatonic and suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. If you want to treat your child like a piece of worthless gargage, buy this book. It will tell you how. :(
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Anonymous More than 1 year ago
Studies have shown that it is physically unhealthy to leave a baby to cry alone when they are under 4 months of age. I don't understand how someone can take a brand new precious newborn and think it is "wise" to leave them to cry alone. They do not understand what is going on, and their heart rates and physical stress responses are real. Inside the womb they are warm and cozy, and then they come out and under this teaching they are left alone. They don't understand and that is why they scream. Their trauma is real to them, even if we are trying to "teach" thems something. When they have studies on babies of drug moms-who also leave them to cry it out-the babies grow up with long term trust issues. There are many methods to raising babies...use your heart, not just what is convenient for the parents. Some babies may work with this system, but not all babies are the same...just like how not all people are the same. One mom read this book and left her baby to cry for 7 weeks-the baby never took a nap just cried the whole time. Finally after 7 weeks the baby found their thumb and sucked on it for comfort, and was finally able to nap. How is this right?
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I am truly grateful for this book. I was losing my mind with my son. He was crying all day long and not getting much sleep. He seemed to need to eat all the time and other times he was so colicky that I had to carry him for hours. I was following the La Leche League demand feeding schedule and could not handle having to feed him constantly. I was so sleep deprived that I was losing it. I actually gave up breast feeding. A friend told me about the book and how she modified it to meet the needs of her son. I tried the eat, play, and sleep routine and it was a miracle! He was no longer colicky and sleeping the entire night in two days. The book unlike the bad reviews is not advocating to stop feeding your child when he is hungry but use a mixture of demand feeding and routine. I was able to anticipate when my child would be hungry and feed him before the screaming began. I began to recognize the subtle clues that he was tired and set up for sleep time ahead of time. I did not put my child to sleep cold turkey but transitioned him to sleeping on his own without any crying. I rocked him to sleep shorter amounts of time each time until he no longer required me to do it. He was so tired after play time he just went to sleep. I watched the clock for when he should be hungry and fed him ahead of time before the screaming that he would do to let me know he was hungry. I wake up and feed my son every four hours in the night because he is hungry and not ready to drop a midnight feeding yet. Everyone remarks at how amazing he is and happy unlike other cranky babies. Everyone is shocked that he is one of the few babies who is always happy and smiling and rarely ever cries anymore. It is amazing what a change this book had for my son. I believe in modifying this book to meet your needs. You may not even need to purchase this book if you take the time to watch and track your child's behavior and follow an eat, play, and sleep routine but I did not know how to do this before reading the book.
Neverbuyhereagain More than 1 year ago
Horrible service!
CentralVaMom More than 1 year ago
I am so disheartened to read the negative reviews that bash this book with claims like "child abuse" and "psychologically damaging." I am currently raising my third son using the principals in Babywise, and I couldn't be more pleased with the results! My twin sons (who are now 9 years old) slept through the night at 11 weeks, and continue to be excellent sleepers to this day. Our newest addition, nearly 6 weeks old now, has gradually increased to six hours of restful sleep at night. For naps and nighttime sleep, he falls asleep contentedly, sleeps peacefully, and wakes happy and ready to eat. I am saddened by the false and hideous claims that some reviewers have made that Babywise calls for parents to ignore their screaming babies, condemning them to simply lose hope as they wait in dark rooms for the attention that never comes. As a parent who has experienced first-hand the long-term benefits of implementing the eat-wake-sleep routine recommended by Babywise, I can surely say that any nighttime (or any other time, for that matter) screaming would certainly be met with loving attention. I will add that the first chapter of the book, which focuses largely on family values as determined by the authors, is take it or leave it. Honestly, you could skip the preface and first chapter entirely and get great value out of the rest of the book. I'm so grateful Babywise was recommended to me nearly a decade ago! I give it much credit for our happy and well-adjusted boys!
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
This book helped me get my baby on a schedule, which was exactly what I was looking for! I read the negative reviews of this book and I think those readers completely ignored what the author wrote. He very clearly states that you should use the ADVICE that works best for you and your lifestyle. If there was anything in the book that you did not agree with, skip it. After reading this book and following the guidelines set forth, my child was on a flexible schedule and she was a very happy, healthy baby.
Just_Learning More than 1 year ago
I am a mom of 3 and used this technique on all of them. I truly believe it helped to save my sanity. KNOWING that my baby was hungry instead of wondering what was wrong was such a comfort. I've seen moms struggle to comfort a crying baby by nursing them when they did not want to eat then the mom getting frustrated as well. It really helps to teach them day from night and without fail they were all sleeping through the night by 2 1/2 months. They were happy, I was happy, it was wonderful! Don't believe all the negativism out there. This works!
Mayfair76 More than 1 year ago
I was given this book at my baby shower and it was suggested that I read it and take it with a grain of salt. She told me some things are good, some not so much. This was the ONLY book I read before my little man was born and boy howdy am I glad I did! It seems natural to want to feed them before they go to sleep but the schedule suggested in this book has worked fantastically. He got his days and nights figured out within days of coming home from the hospital. He is so happy all the time and only cries when he really wants something (eat, sleep or dirty diaper). There is no fussiness in our household and at five months he is still taking 3 naps during the day. When he wakes up and smiles big at me, I know the stuff I learned from this book has worked. As with any book, yes there are things that would not apply. But, take the basic principles and adjust them to your needs. If you learn nothing else from this book - please learn about the 45 minute intruder!It is absolutely real though it doesn't happen all the time. I am looking forward to reading book II and learning about 5-15 months and baby sign language.