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The author of Stars of David and a twin herself, journalist Abigail Pogrebin offers a poignant and personal look at what it's really like to live with your mirror image and tells the story of many twins who struggle to balance intimacy and individuality. Writer. Mother. Wife. New Yorker. Abigail Pogrebin is many things, but the one that has defined her most profoundly is identical twin. Pogrebin's relationship with her sister, both as children, when they were inseparable, and today, when she longs for that ...
The author of Stars of David and a twin herself, journalist Abigail Pogrebin offers a poignant and personal look at what it's really like to live with your mirror image and tells the story of many twins who struggle to balance intimacy and individuality. Writer. Mother. Wife. New Yorker. Abigail Pogrebin is many things, but the one that has defined her most profoundly is identical twin. Pogrebin's relationship with her sister, both as children, when they were inseparable, and today, when she longs for that uncomplicated intimacy, inspired her to examine the phenomenon of twinship to learn how other identical pairs regard their doubleness and what experts are learning about how DNA impacts our sense of identity and shapes our lives. In One and the Same, Pogrebin presents a tapestry of twinship, weaving science reporting and personal memoir with the revelatory stories of other twins, such as two sisters who stopped speaking for three years; football stars Tiki and Ronde Barber, who admit their twinship comes before their marriages; a pair of bawdy, self-proclaimed twin ambassadors who have created a media empire around their twinness; and brothers whose shared genetic anomaly wrought unspeakable tragedy. In this stirring account, Pogrebin shows how living identical is both a celebration of sameness and a struggle for singularity that defines us all.
“An immensely satisfying, enlightening read.” —BookPage
“A fresh alternative to traditional how-to guidebooks for parents expecting two or more.” —Twins magazine
“This book about what it means to be a duplicate is smart and revealing and wise—and, well, singular.” —The Daily Beast
“[An] enchanting, fascinating book.” —Lesley Stahl of “60 Minutes” and Women on the Web
“One and the Same is a touching, funny, smart book, written with considerable flair. Though it contains medical, social, political, and historical perspectives, it is at its core a book about love and intimacy.” —Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon
“A goldmine of information and insight into the twin experience. . . . One and the Same is not just for twins or parents of twins. It’s a study of everyone’s individuality. It looks at what makes us who we are and what shapes our identity. It’s a fascinating look at the world of twinship, as well as a compelling read about the search for one’s ‘self.’” —Twins Talk
“A witty and compassionate guide to the myths and science of twinship.” —Honor Moore, author of The Bishop’s Daughter
“Pogrebin’s candor about her own twinship [is] endearing. . . . A juicy read.” —Bookslut
“A page-turner chock-filled with information about twins.” —Pamela Weinberg, co-author of bestselling parent guide City Baby
“Captivating. . . . This fascinating read is as much of a page-turner as the most exciting thriller.” —Bookreporter
“Funny, insightful, and deeply moving—as the mother of twins I found this a must read.” —Kerry Kennedy, author of Being Catholic Now
“One and the Same beautifully captures the complex intriguing elements of identical twins’ unique joys and challenges. This candid exposé of the author’s own twinship experience, and that of others, provides a most delightful and informative look at this special relationship.” —Nancy L. Segal, Ph.D., Professor of Psychology, CSU Fullerton and author of Entwined Lives and Indivisible by Two
And then I immediately regretted it. Because writing about twins felt like I was volunteering to do a public striptease. Because being a twin goes to the core of who I am and I was wary of examining that. Because I knew that my twin sister, Robin, would be both supportive and hesitant; not only is she more private than I am but she writes for the New York Times and always wants to maintain a reporter’s remove. Because I knew that as exhilarating as our twinship was growing up, its impact on Robin’s sense of self was more complicated than mine. Because I knew that for me to be honest about my twinship and ask others to be honest about theirs was not to tell the perfect quaint story of how we all dressed alike, tricked people, or swapped boyfriends.
Being an identical twin—I can’t speak for fraternals—is intense. It’s all the clichés: feeling like you have an unwavering partner in life, knowing exactly what another person feels, wanting to tell her a story before anyone else, confiding with unrestrained—sometimes shocking—candor, valuing her opinion above anyone else’s, taking on someone else’s pain to the point of vicarious depression, being incapacitated by any minor dispute.
To say that someone’s “always been there for me” was never meant so literally. Robin was there while I was taking shape in the dark muck of our mother’s belly, before I took my first breath of air, when I was lolling in the crib, learning to grab and chew, teetering on two feet. I have never been alone in the world. I’ve always had someone to tell, someone checking in. Though I’m our parents’ firstborn, I’ve never been an only child. I arrived as a package—the kind that’s self-contained and comes with its own handy playmate, sidekick, advocate, therapist, fan, mentor, and accomplice.
I can’t count the number of people who have asked us, “What was it like growing up as a twin?” The question lost its meaning over the years because we heard it so much and answered so often automatically: “It was great.” “It was great.”
I never mention that my twinship helped me meet people when I wasn’t bold, kept me from ever feeling idle or rootless, confirmed I was deeply known when others misunderstood me, allowed me to dive into theater because I had an automatic “sister act”, and to bypass the normal freshman-year anxiety in college because Robin was in a dorm across the street. It’s hard to explain to people that we never felt competitive, though we constantly compared ourselves; that we couldn’t hate each other, though we could argue bitterly; that we tacitly forbid anyone else to criticize one of us, even though we can be ruthlessly critical of each other; how it is that we never lusted after each other’s boyfriends, though we adopted them affectionately; that we always want to talk to each other, though we don’t always make time to see each other; that we love each other’s children, though not as our own; that we admire each other’s work, yet would never want to switch places.
I never explain that we tell each other everything but that there are things we don’t say.
Or that Robin has spent the last five years pulling away from me.
Or that I want more of her.
I don’t talk about how perfect our twinship was in childhood, why it isn’t perfect anymore, yet that I still believe it’s the best twinship I know.
Though Robin’s and my story is not the focus of this book, it is, undeniably, its spine. It’s the prism through which I listened to every other twin’s experience, the test case with which I tried to deconstruct the elements of individuality, the emotional puzzle I set about taking apart and piecing together.
Our facts, bare bones, are these:
We were born May 17, 1965, at Doctor’s Hospital in New York City. Robin had a lot of hair; I had none.
My mother recalls the names my father was mulling before we arrived: Troilus and Cressida, Anthony and Cleopatra, Julius and Ethel. I was named after my father’s father, Abraham, who was a hat blocker. Robin was named after my father’s cousin, Robert, who died in a car crash at twenty-two.
I came out one minute ahead, but only because we were delivered by C-section—Robin would have exited first in a normal birth, and she constantly reminds me of that fact.
I stood, crawled, and walked ahead of Robin; I don’t constantly remind her of that fact.
We spent our first five years living on the ground floor of a Greenwich Village brownstone; each of us had our own crib; then we shared a bunk bed (Robin was on top and once rolled out, thudding to the floor). Later we moved to the Upper West Side and got our own bedrooms at age fourteen.
Mom dressed Robin in red (like the bird) and me in blue so that people not constantly ask “Which is which?” But we still often ended up in the same outfit—fluffy winter coats, yellow slickers, and OshKosh B’Gosh overalls.
Both of us were instantly outgoing, cheerful, and hammy. We performed constantly, without prompting. No one can say why; my parents weren’t theatrical. They were exuberant, yes (Dad, a labor lawyer, is funny at dinner parties; Mom, a writer, is politically impassioned), but they weren’t performers.
Robin and I had more dress-up clothes than real clothes and our main activity—with friends or more often just with each other—was to dress up and “act.” We used British accents and a lot of flea-market costume jewelry.
We sang and choreographed by ourselves, almost daily. We were each other’s taskmasters, quick to chastise when one of us missed a step or flubbed a lyric.
Our parents were summoned night after night to “buy” tickets to our makeshift show, and in front of the scratchy green blanket we hung between closets, we belted out our latest numbers.
We choreographed a “ballet” routine to Aaron Copland’s Rodeo, complete with pantomimed lassos; we wrote a medley for our annual family Hanukkah party, with lyrics set to Broadway show tunes. (For example, “Don’t cry for me Antiochus; the truth is I burned the latkes!”)
For the annual Labor Day Show on Fire Island, where we spent childhood summers, Robin and I painted on too much red lipstick (the photographs are almost clownish, and I can’t believe no adult saved us from ourselves) and sang duets like “Downtown.” We fronted for the cute Weber brothers, who played guitar and drums while Robin and I slapped tambourines against our nonexistent hips.
When we were nine, we were interviewed by Marlo Thomas on the TV version of Free To Be . . . You and Me, because our mom was an editorial consultant on the project. I got more air time. At one point on-camera, I tell Marlo that I love being a twin because when you have a lot of feelings, “It’s good that I can have somebody to bring it out to—who’s my age.”
When we were ten, we auditioned together in polka-dot shirts for the role of an orphan in the original production of Annie. The casting directors said they would take one of us; we had to choose which. Neither of us took the role.
That same year, a producer chose us to be in a TV show called Call It Macaroni, which filmed kids learning an interesting profession. Robin and I were taken to Tucson, Arizona, to watch how a movie is made, and the camera made much of our likeness. I was surprised, when I recently dredged up my diary from that trip, to discover that Robin and I had chosen to sleep in the same bed in our hotel room, leaving the other bed empty. On my crude diagram of room 112 at the Desert Inn, I scrawled on one of the double beds, “Robin and I slept in this one together.”
When we were thirteen, we were asked by Channel 13 to shoot a promo for something with Erik Estrada—I can’t remember what. We were dressed alike, and the gambit was that Robin punched herself in the arm and I yelled, “Ouch!”
We wanted to do more professional acting, but our parents didn’t like the idea; they wanted us to have a normal childhood.
Robin and I always shared birthday parties. My mother created elaborate themes—a French party with berets and paper Eiffel Towers, a baseball party with personalized jerseys, et cetera. We always shared one cake.
We made sure we ate the same number of Oreos after school.
We always got the same cavities in the same teeth.
Our brother, David, was born when we were almost three. We were loving to him and cast him in the role of the dog or passenger in our skits, but we also left him out. My aunt tells me we were mean to him. I don’t remember it that way and neither does he, but it’s possible. Today David and I are close: We take an annual ski trip together (he’s divorced), I’ll stop in at whichever restaurant he’s currently managing just to say hello, and I adore his two boys, Zev and Arlo. But we don’t speak a fraction as often as Robin and I do, nor do we rely on each other as much.
Robin and I didn’t think we wanted to go to the same college, but we ended up liking Yale best, and were fortunate enough to get in. We requested to room in separate residential colleges, and made separate friends. We often met for lunch or dinner in each other’s dining halls and spoke on the phone every day (no e-mail back then).
We lived together after graduation in a two-room apartment with a shaky spiral staircase on West Eighty-sixth Street; we alternated who got the bed in the basement and who slept in the living room upstairs.
Both of us ended up choosing journalism. Robin went to the New York Times, then the New York Observer, then back to the Times. I produced television—for Fred Friendly, Charlie Rose, Bill Moyers, and then for Ed Bradley and Mike Wallace at 60 Minutes. One year Robin decided to try television too and left the Times to produce for
Peter Jennings’s documentary unit at ABC News. She pined for the daily deadlines and returned to the paper. I switched to print journalism when I had my first child, and started writing for magazines. Robin asked that I not seek an assignment for the Times, so we could keep that territory separate. I said I understood.
We’re physically similar except that Robin is half an inch taller, wears her hair shorter, and prefers more sedate colors. My voice is permanently hoarse and I can no longer sing because I developed cysts inside my vocal cords at age thirty-seven, which, my throat doctor tells me, were probably caused by “vocal abuse”—a nice way of saying
I talk too much and too forcefully. Robin’s voice is still intact (she’s less voluble) and I sometimes make her sing to remind me of what I used to sound like.
Robin dated Edward for four years and then married him in January 1993.
I dated David for eight months and then married him in December 1993.
Robin gave birth to Ethan in February 1997.
I gave birth to Benjamin in April 1997.
We shared a baby-sitter for the infant boys until we discovered she was taking them to McDonald’s instead of to the playground.
Robin had Maya in December 1998.
I had Molly in July 1999.
We live exactly twenty blocks—one mile—apart on the Upper West Side.
It’s difficult to describe the depth and distance of this friendship. We have been adjacent for so long, there’s a fluency to our coupling, an elemental delight we don’t necessarily let others see. When we’re across a dinner table alone, we never have enough time to cover everything we want to talk about. When we’re on the subway together, I don’t want to get off at my stop. When we’re sitting side by side at a Broadway show and one song swells in a particular way, we know exactly when the other feels moved. She’s vitality to me; I have never in forty-three years been bored by her.
We are in constant communication; not a day passes without a phone call (or four), and too many e-mails and text messages. We’ll impart the tiniest news—a TV episode we insist the other should watch, a newspaper photograph that made us cry, a dessert we regret, a great book we just finished, a clothing purchase we need the other to assess, something hilarious one of our children said. We’re stirred by the same things, annoyed by the same people, tempted by the same vices.
I admire her from a distance—as a journalist, a parent, a wife, a hostess, as someone who, when she does confide, does so with a frankness and intelligence that feels rare to me. She is the person with whom I laugh the hardest: it sometimes escalates to the point where we can’t breathe or utter a sound, and only we know exactly what’s so funny. I look forward to our lunch dates as if they were parties; we dress up for each other, compliment excessively. I seek her advice before most major decisions, before I submit any piece of writing to an editor. Her approval matters because I just think she’s smart and I trust her.
The fact that our kids are buddies seems too good to be true. She’ll take mine for a weekend; I’ll take hers. There’s a private thrill when we see the four of them put on a show together, when our husbands play a good tennis match, when our families sit down to a big summer meal. The three years that we all went on Christmas vacation together felt idyllic to me.
Why do I love Robin so fiercely? Because on some level, we’re fused; because I take enormous pride in her; because she listens, lifts, and surprises me even now; because I have a certainty that she wants the best for me; because, at the risk of cliché, we’d do anything for each other; because of the enormity of our history; because we know each other to the bone. And for all those reasons, I miss her now, the way we used to be together.
I wanted to try to write the twins book I couldn’t find on any shelf: one that strips bare what it’s really like to grow up as a matched set. I knew that meant I would have to unpack my private memories as truthfully as I could, but also to listen closely to other twins in my life and some I hadn’t met before. So I tracked down the Langner twins, whom Robin and I were friends with in fifth grade and haven’t seen since. And the Lord twins, one of whom went to college with us.
I interviewed the debonair Barber twins, football stars Tiki and Ronde, who exemplify twin symbiosis, and former Baywatch regular Alexandra Paul, who grew up competing athletically with her identical twin, Caroline, who ultimately became a firefighter.
I spoke to virtually all the twins thrown in my path, embracing the “I know a twin” approach. If someone heard I was writing a book on the subject and proffered a pair, I usually interviewed them, on the grounds that every set would shed some light. If they were willing to excavate their personal twin psyche, it would tell me something about twinship. It would help explain my own experience to me. It would answer the widespread curiosity—and prevailing fantasies—about growing up with a doppelganger. It would instruct the countless new parents of twins about what to avoid or aspire to when raising their pairs—or at least offer an insight into how “the twin thing” (as many of us call it) plays out over a lifetime.
I wanted, above all, to explore identity: how it’s forged or hamstrung in the face of doubleness; how you go about finding singularity when you are both unique and alike, your own person and someone’s other half. I believed before I started—and now that I’m finished, I believe it even more strongly—that twins put into high relief the central challenge for all of us: self-definition. How do we each plant our stake in the ground, decide how sensitive, callous, ambitious, conciliatory, or cautious we want to be every day? Do we even get to decide those traits? Are we actually at the mercy of our genetic predispositions to be combative, shy, addictive, antsy, or intelligent? Twins come with a built-in constant comparison, but defining oneself against one’s twin is just an amped-up version of every person’s lifelong challenge: to individuate—to create a distinctive persona in the world.
In addition to meeting twins, I also sought out “the experts”—the eclectic roster of psychologists, geneticists, obstetricians, behavioralists, social workers, artists, and philosophers who make twins their life’s work. They include the ponytailed obstetrician who, with his brother—an army veteran—created the first Center for the Study of
Multiple Birth; the plastic surgeon who believes he started life as a twin and who takes photographs of naked identical twins to home in on their parallel anatomy; the cultural historian who wrote a five-hundred-plus-page book about copies; the lactation nurse who, after having her own IVF twins, decided to specialize in preparing parents—bluntly and bossily—for twins chaos; the fertility specialist trying to reduce the number of multiples he creates; the biologist trying to determine if homosexuality is imprinted in utero; and the woman who lost one of her twins at birth and created a national resource for grieving parents of twins.
In September 2007, I was working on my laptop when an e-mail popped up in my AOL account from Proactive Genetics, a California lab that provides DNA testing for two hundred dollars a pop. My heart leaped. “The results,” I whispered to myself. “The moment of truth.”
I had asked Robin, a few months before, to swab her inner cheek with a Q-tip, as I had done, and then mailed in our DNA samples so we could finally know for sure if we were identical. People had always assumed so—most couldn’t tell us apart—but there was no biological proof: Mom’s obstetrician had died, his medical records were lost, and since we were a C-section birth and delivered in an emergency “Get these babies out now” situation, no one seemed to have noticed placenta differentiation (the mark of two eggs).
I thought I should know, before I started this book, my official twin status. The dirty little secret of identicals is that we all feel slightly superior to the fraternal brand. We’re the gold standard: rarer, more identifiable, more mysterious. We happen only by accident. We are exact DNA replicas of each other—facsimiles, clones. I have always felt that my closeness to Robin is authenticated by our sameness. I didn’t want it to be otherwise. And I also worried that after a lifetime of presenting ourselves as the genuine article, we’d be exposed as a fake.
“We are pleased to report to you the results of the twin zygosity test that you requested. Analysis of the DNA indicates that Abigail Sara Pogrebin and Robin Jennifer Pogrebin are monozygotic, or more commonly referred to as identical twins.”
Staring at my computer, tears filled my eyes. How ridiculous. To be moved by an answer you already knew. Yet I was. Something about seeing our two full names there side by side—as they appeared on our birth certificates, the two Pogrebin babies, born on May 17, 1965, in a dead heat, one minute apart: 6:18 p.m. (me), 6:19 p.m. (Robin)—
reminded me of what a run we’ve had side by side. After four decades,it was nice to have our intimacy confirmed. What a relief, I thought. We’re the same. I didn’t want to be sort of the same; I wanted to be fully the same. Because it represented a communion I’d already claimed and boasted of. Because it was how we’d been perceived. Because I didn’t want our connection to be just emotional; I wanted it to be factual. Psychology professor (and fraternal twin) Dr. Nancy Segal states plainly in her book, Entwined Lives, what all of us identical twins already know: We’re more connected. “Fraternal twins are not as close, nor are their lives as intimately entwined.”
Whom is this book for? Anyone who is a twin, has a twin, might have twins, married a twin, knows a twin, or is simply curious to get deep inside this extreme intimacy. It’s for anyone who wants to understand why twins serve as scientists’ ultimate petri dish, why twins’ infancy can be so uniquely demanding, why their quest for individuality can be thwarted by the person closest to them. It’s for anyone—all of us—trying to hammer out a separate, clear sense of self.
I think I started this book to get inside my own twinship. Or maybe to get outside of it—to approach it as a reporter, trying to untangle all the intricacies of being born two. I spoke to twins who cherish each other, resent each other, advise, prod, and protect each other; I spoke to parents who wanted twins, fertility doctors who make them, obstetricians who birth them, artists who photograph or are inspired by them, psychiatrists who study and counsel them, scientists who deconstruct them, coaches who prepare for them.
What did I come away with? Confirmation that twins, despite their recent ubiquity, still fascinate and confound. Evidence that twins will always play a key role in decoding what differentiates all of us—emotionally, temperamentally, and physically.
I envied some pairs and judged others. I met twins who had let go of each other, others who hold on, twins who exult in their twinship, others who wouldn’t wish it on their own children. Along the way, I listened for the recipe for healthy twinship—to guide not just me but also the countless parents now raising two. Why do some twins end up feeling confined by doubleness, while others wear it like a medal? How does one start as a set and end up successfully single? Not just single meaning solo but single meaning singular: differentiated, distinct, particular, confident in one’s separateness. How had Robin and I each become One when we started out as the Same?
From the Hardcover edition.
Who knows what makes each of us feel distinctive in the world, understood, really known? If individuality is a hurdle, it's raised that much higher when you're a twin. I started my book, One and the Same, to plumb the depths and intricacies of growing up as a double, but also because I knew that twinship is just a magnified version of everyone's challenge: individuality.
What made it complicated for me and my twin, Robin, are the same elements that can make it complicated for any person: a sense of being blurred, over-compared, generalized; an uncertainty whether the people in your life truly know you apart from others. Psychologist Joan Friedman, a twin and parent of twins (who counsels both) talks about the difference between "being noticed, and being known." I know that difference. As an identical twin, you definitely get noticed; my sister and I were kind of famous just by virtue of looking so alike. (And okay, we were kind of cute before we hit the merciless stage of adolescence.)
But the inherent "star power" in twinship has a short shelf life. Ultimately you need to feel sure of a separate worth, an identity beyond twinship. If I'm not mistaken, we all need the clarity of uniqueness. What do I bring to the table? How will I leave my mark? What do I have with this friend that's unlike what they have with someone else? It's not that we spend all our days self-obsessed, asking how we're special, but there's some fundamental need to know we're singular.
My parents could not have been more loving, stimulating, or "modern" in their childrearing, but it literally never occurred to them to spend time with Robin and me separately and that omission backfired at the end of the day. When I interviewed my mother for my book, and asked her why she and Dad never took us anywhere separately, she looked pained. "Because we didn't think that way," she told me. "We just thought in terms of doing things as a family. I should have been aware of it because I should have been smart enough to figure out that something is gained when you're alone with a person. I should have realized that. But it never occurred to us. It always was a matter of "Let's." Not: 'You come with me and you go with him.' "
She said they realized their mistake in one powerful instant when I was eighteen and they invited me to go with them for a weekend at a bed-and-breakfast. "You said you were uncomfortable coming along because you'd never been alone with us. It was like somebody shot us between the eyes; we couldn't believe it. 'How could this have happened?' We never noticed that we had never been with one child."
"It was clear that you felt you had a performance level you had to keep up," my father recalls, "and you felt that, without Robin, you wouldn't be able to hold up your end in terms of pleasing us, as if that was anything you had to do. So that was a real realization that we'd missed something. I think we were always so careful to have equality of treatment that it turned out to be undifferentiated."
Psychologist Dorothy Burlingham wrote in her 1954 study of identical twins that mothers can't connect to their twins until they get to know them apart from each other. "Several mothers have plainly said that it was impossible to love their twins until they had a found a difference in them," Burlingham wrote. That could be rephrased for all of us, twin and non-twin alike: it's impossible to feel loved, acknowledged, understood, valued unless we're sure people have "found a difference" in us. Unless we're sure we're uncommon or particular in some way.
One and the Same is a window into the truth about twinship. But it's also, I think, an unpacking of how we each ultimately find a way to say, "Look at me alone."
Posted August 8, 2012
My identical girls (part of triplets) were about 4 when I read this book. I wanted to hear another person's opinion on how it was to grow up a twin, in the hopes that I save my kids from years of therapy doing what I think is best, but finding I'm more harmful than helpful.
The author tells the story of her sister and her lives intertwined throughout educational bits of different researchers, papers, and events. She obviously did her homework, as she has extensive interviews with twins and professionals alike, both of which offer significant insight into why they became who they are in adulthood. Her writing was at times funny, sorrowful, thoughtful, but never once did she pass hurtful judgement on any one person for their personal beliefs or doctorate work.
I found it to be a fascinating read; it wasn't amazing, but it wasn't boring either, and it really did give me a lift of my mom-guilt for having to care for 4 kids aged between 4 and 6, and to know that I'm not going to damage them too badly. ;)
Bottom line, I'd highly recommend it for moms of identical twins who are young; moms with older twins might already have children mature and grown enough to see how their kids are shaping up. If you're just looking for a light read, go with something else. This is fairly twin-club specific.
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Posted November 13, 2011
I have identical twin daughters and I loved reading this insightful memoir that also shares other stories of identical twins, including famous heros, infamous villains, and the kids next door. Loved it.
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A True look into Twinship
As part of an ethnographic video project on the individuality and struggle for uniqueness among twins I chose to read the book “ One and the Same”. I don't think I could've picked a more informative and insightful book to capture the relationship between identical twins and their daily struggles. Initially, I chose this book in hopes of finding out about the experiences of the author and her life as a twin in order to better prepare myself for investigating the minds of twins I would be interviewing. Not only does the author detail her childhood and early adult life with respect to being a twin, but also includes extensive information, statistics, and interviews from dozens of other twins in the world. The vast diversity of the interviewees creates a broad spectrum of answers to the authors underlying question, what is it like to be an identical twin but also an individual? Along with the plethora of information provided the writing style of the novel helps in keeping the book flowing and interesting. Bits of statistics and quotes are interwoven with medical information and the authors personal opinion, all creating a story for the reader but also providing educational context. One of the best parts of “ One and the Same” is that variance in topics by each chapter. With each chapter the author highlights different aspects of the life of twins. Individuality, separation, death, birthing twins, and parenting twins were just a few of the topics covered throughout the novel, with informative interviews included within each chapter. The one con of the novel was the slight repetitiveness throughout. Some thoughts and topics were mentioned and elaborated on in multiple chapters which lead to a trend of repetition. Overall I enjoyed reading the book, found the stories intriguing, and the interviews educational.
Posted May 14, 2012
I have twins who are quickly approaching adulthood, so I was looking for some new insight at this stage. This book just rehashed what I had read years ago, it seems writers about twin topics can't keep from focusing on Twinsburg Ohio, Mengele's horrific experiments and the Twin restaurant. Save your money.
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