One Small Step:Moving Beyond Trauma and Therapy to a Life of Joy

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One Small Step provides practical, effective, self-help tools the reader can use immediately to move beyond past pain and create a more joyous and satisfying life.

For all those survivors who wonder when they will finally feel good, the answer is now. One Small Step reminds us that living well is the best revenge and provides the knowledge and tools to fully embrace life. Organized into easy-to-follow sections, readers will find help in: * Moving Beyond Survivorhood * Enjoying ...

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Overview

One Small Step provides practical, effective, self-help tools the reader can use immediately to move beyond past pain and create a more joyous and satisfying life.

For all those survivors who wonder when they will finally feel good, the answer is now. One Small Step reminds us that living well is the best revenge and provides the knowledge and tools to fully embrace life. Organized into easy-to-follow sections, readers will find help in: * Moving Beyond Survivorhood * Enjoying the Gifts of the Present * Creating a Joyous Future * Responding to Life's Challenges * How to Start a Small Steps Support Group.

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Product Details

  • ISBN-13: 9780595125357
  • Publisher: iUniverse, Incorporated
  • Publication date: 10/28/2000
  • Edition number: 1
  • Pages: 228
  • Product dimensions: 8.25 (w) x 11.00 (h) x 0.48 (d)

Table of Contents

A Personal Note to the Reader xiii
Introduction: Moving Beyond Survivorhood 1
"It's Time to Get on with My Life" 1
Small Steps to a Rewarding Life 2
Why Viewing Yourself As a Survivor Is Not Enough 2
The Old Stages and the New One 4
How to Use This Book 7
Origins of the Techniques in This Book 9
And Now to Begin 10
Part 1 Enjoying the Gifts of the Present 13
Chapter 1 Getting to Know Your Authentic Self 15
Exploring Your Authentic Self through Words 16
Keeping a Journal 17
A Pleasant Journey to Your Memory Bank 18
A Message from a Guardian Angel 19
The Last Fifteen Minutes of the World 22
Telling Your Life Story 23
A Time Line 24
Creating a Symbol for Your Authentic Self 24
A Coat of Arms 24
An Animal Symbol 25
A Tree That Speaks to You 26
Totem Dolls 27
Other Creative Paths 30
Connecting to Your Authentic Self through Relaxation and Play 31
Taking Time to Just Be 31
Taking a Mini-Vacation 31
Focusing Your Attention 32
An Ericksonian Relaxation Method 33
Chapter 2 Welcome Homel 37
Greeting Everyday Gifts 37
Nurturing Daily rituals 38
The Comfort of Food 41
Surrounding Yourself with What You Love 44
Painting the Walls and More 44
Bringing Nature Indoors 46
Delighting in Textures 47
Art in Your Home 48
Arranging and Rearranging Your Home 49
The Ascetics of Order 50
Designing with Furniture 52
The Ancient Perspective of Feng Shui 52
Challenging the Prosperity Mind-Set 53
Chapter 3 Enjoying Yourself More at Work 57
Enlivening Your Work Space 57
A Sense of Play at Work 58
Living Things Bring Life to Work 59
Your Loved Ones at Work 60
Food (and Beverages) for Thought 61
Other Comforts 61
When Home Is Also Where You Work 62
The Traveling Workplace 63
Changing the Emotional Atmosphere at Work 64
Changing Your Internal Work Environment 67
The Role of Self-Talk 67
Creating a Symbol to Center Yourself 68
Relaxation, Yoga, and Meditation 69
Finding Meaning in Work 70
Do What You Love 70
Thinking of the Big Picture 70
A Higher Goal 71
Part 2 Creating a Joyous Future 73
Chapter 4 Hopes and Dreams 75
A Letter from the Future 77
The Heart's Desire Collage 81
Your Happiness 82
Cultivating the Gratitude Attitude 83
Creating a New Influence for Your Life 84
Chapter 5 Yes, You Can Transforming Hopes and Dreams into Authentic Realities 89
A Miracle Bridge 89
The Miracle Question 90
Small Signs of a Miracle 92
Making It Real 93
The Next Small Steps 95
Charting Your Progress 96
Chapter 6 Time on Your Hands 99
Changing Perspectives about Time and Your Life 100
Practicing Dying 101
A Symbol for the Time of Your Life 103
Making Time When You Don't Have Time 105
Getting Control of Your Time 105
Uncluttering Your Life 106
Following Your Internal Clock 108
Your Natural Rbythms 108
Timelessness: Taking Time to Do "Nothing" 109
A Child's Perspective of Time 111
Spending Time with Pets 112
Part 3 Responding to Life's Challenges 115
Chapter 7 Partners, Parents, Kids, and Extended Family 117
The Couple Relationship 117
Complementarity: The Attraction of Opposites 118
The Relationship Resource Inventory, or Remembering the Good Times, Especially When You're Having a Bad Time 120
Who Are You Apart from All Relationships 121
Enhancing Differentiation from Your Partner 124
Your Family of Origin 125
Enhancing Differentiation from Your Family of Origin 126
Moving Beyond Old Issues with a Parent 127
Strengthening Your Relationship with Your Parents 128
When Parents Continue to Be Hurtful 129
Your Children 131
The Effect of Past Pain on Current Relationships 132
Overidealization 134
Abusive and Exploitive People 135
The Trap of Cynicism 136
Chapter 8 Coping When the Past Rears Its Ugly Head 137
Flashbacks 137
Write, Read, and Burn 138
Drawing Relief 139
Rewriting Negative Messages 141
Unfinished Relationships 143
Your Healing Letters 144
Healing Letters in Action 147
Benefiting from Your Past 149
Recognizing a River You Have Crossed 150
Harvesting Your Past 152
Chapter 9 Dealing with Rainy Days and Dark Nights 155
Taking Care of Yourself 156
Eat a Decent Meal 156
Get Some Rest 156
Take a Bath 157
Take a Break 157
Exercise 157
Get a Massage 157
Give Yourself a Foot Rub 158
Get a Medical Checkup 158
Listen to Yourself 158
Remember Other Rainy Days 159
Consider a Personal Ritual 159
Declare a "Snow Day" 160
Get Out of the House 160
Don't Just Sit There, Pound a Pillow! 160
Call a Friend 160
Reconnect to Your Hopes and Dreams 161
Reconnect to the Present 161
Make Your Favorite Comfort Food 161
Plan a Vacation 161
Lose Yourself in Great Music 162
Enjoy Armchair Travel 162
Give Yourself a Spa Day 162
Plan a Garden 162
Learn Something New 162
Pray 163
Help Someone Less Fortunate Than Yourself 163
Clearing Away Your Outdated Expectations 163
Figure Out Who You Are Apart from Your "Shoulds" 164
Mend an Emotional Fence 165
Check Your Personal Boundaries 165
Reorganize Your Home 166
Preparing for Future Rainy Days and Dark Nights 166
The Rainy Day Comfort Box 166
The Rainy Day Letter 167
Part 4 Support and Further Resources 171
Chapter 10 How to Start a Small Steps Support Group 173
The Group Structure 173
General Guidelines 174
The Mechanics of a Small Steps Support Group 175
Ending the Group 176
Basic Group Questions 176
Selected Group Exercises 178
The Miracle Question 178
A Message from a Guardian Angel 179
A Letter from the Future 180
Creating a Symbol to Center Yourself 181
The Heart's Desire Collage 182
The Last Fifteen Minutes of the World 183
Creating a New Influence for Your Life 184
A Tree That Speaks to You 186
A Time Line--Your Life Story 187
A Coat of Arms 188
A Rainy Day Letter 189
An Animal Symbol 190
Challenging the Prosperity Mind-Set 191
Figuring Out Who You Are Apart from Your "Shoulds" 192
A Symbol for the Time of Your Life 193
Practicing Dying 194
Rewriting Negative Messages 195
A Rainy Day Letter from the Group 196
Suggested Reading List 197
Bibliography 199
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