Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

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by Tristan Taormino
     
 

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Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships — from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her…  See more details below

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Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships — from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.

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If you are looking for an everyday, run-of-the-mill relationship guide, this introduction to the world of nonmonogamy is probably not for you. Village Voice sex columnist Taormino, who has authored or edited a handful of guides on physical relationships (e.g., The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex), sheds light on the various types of open relations and shares tips on how these relationships can most successfully be maintained. Those put off by the book's premise shouldn't be: this is not so much an espousal of nonmonogamous relationships as it is a comprehensive guide to the phenomenon, offering numerous firsthand accounts from those involved in open relationships. With its modern twist on conventional relationships, her latest title would be best suited for contemporary nonfiction collections.
—Carolann Curry

Product Details

ISBN-13:
9781573444972
Publisher:
Cleis Press Start
Publication date:
05/05/2008
Sold by:
Barnes & Noble
Format:
NOOK Book
Pages:
376
Sales rank:
74,027
File size:
553 KB

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Tristan Taormino is an award-winning author, columnist, editor, and sex educator. She is the editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica series and Hot Lesbian Erotica, and she is the author of Tristan Taormino’s True Lust, Down and Dirty Sex Secrets, and The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. Tristan is a columnist for the Village Voice, Taboo, and Velvet Park, and her writing has also appeared in Vibe, Spectator, The Advocate, and more than 15 anthologies. Tristan has been featured in more than 200 publications, including the New York Times, Redbook, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Entertainment Weekly, Details, New York magazine, Men’s Health, and Playboy. She has also appeared on CNN, MTV, Oxygen, the Discovery Channel, The Howard Stern Show, Ricki Lake, Real Sex, The Big Idea with Donny Deutsch, Scarborough Country, and over 50 radio shows. Tristan directed the adult videos The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, Tristan Taormino's House of Ass, and Chemistry. She has been a popular speaker and teacher at polyamory conferences, workshops, and community groups for more than 15 years. Tristan lives in New York City. Visit Tristan at www.puckerup.com.

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Opening Up: Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships 4.2 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 14 reviews.
Ravenquill More than 1 year ago
I read this book when it first came out, and found it to be a very good read. I was already well-aquainted with polyamory, but this book offered such a wide variety of perspectives on the broader category of open relationships that I learned a lot from it. Very good as an introduction for the curious as well as a good way for those already practicing open relationships to expand their views.
bellykiss More than 1 year ago
Shared a lot of my views on this, and I think it will help me in my current relationship.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Tristan Taormino is an over-achiever, a multifaceted woman with an impressive breadth of expertise and talent. To her long list of accomplishments she now adds this latest book on open relationships. At almost 350 pages, it leaves nothing out. This is a book of amazing diversity with personal stories of people from a wide range of sexual orientations, lifestyles, and styles of open relationship. It was thoroughly researched and includes references to a significant number of well-known alternative relationships experts, sociologists, anthropologists, researchers, therapists and communications and relationship skills experts. Far from a dry technical manual, throughout the book Taormino includes compelling quotes from and the personal stories of many of the 126 people she interviewed. These lend a valuable perspective by which the reader can identify and connect with the information and advice offered. She includes checklists and questions for negotiating the terms of open relationship and explains terminology to help people who are new to open relationships get a handle on what kind of open relationship they want. Chapters that particularly impress me are the chapters on compersion, which is the most comprehensive I¿ve seen on that topic, coming out, raising children in open relationships, safer sex - also excellent - and legal and practical matters. The book is thoroughly annotated and includes statistics about the age, locale, gender, sexual orientation, etc., of the interviewees. There is a comprehensive and up-to-date resource guide that includes a lengthy book list - I have the impression that she¿s read everyone of them! - a list of conferences and events, GLBT/queer resources, local, regional and national and international organizations, online groups, listservs and communities, professional directories, resources on research and activism, spirituality resources, and so on. Opening Up will quickly become a mainstay for those learning how to successfully conduct their open relationships.
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Beverly_D More than 1 year ago
Recommended to me by people in the know, this book examines the many different shapes a non-traditional sexual or romantic relationship can take, from an open marriage where both partners have outside lovers, to swinging relationships, to closed triads or quads, and more arrangements that I never even heard of. How are boundaries set, when, seemingly, there ARE no boundaries? What makes people happy in these relationships, and what kinds of issues arise? Fascinating, provocative, packed with nuggets of solid information, my only beef with this is the pool of interviewees seemed a little small (126) to draw solid conclusions from. But every angle seems explored, from emotions to sexual health and frank talk about STI's. My take-away is that like any marriage or traditional monogamous partnership, every relationship differs according to the individuals in it, and they ALL take hard work, self-examination, and strong, healthy boundaries, in order to be successful. I would recommend to anyone considering a non-traditional relationship, either for him/herself, or for writers looking to include such characters in their work.
Anonymous More than 1 year ago
I think this explains very well the variations of poly relationships. Very well written. It ans a lot of questions.
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This book provide a comprehensive overview for anyone considering open partnerships. A must read. Tristan is a phenomenal writer
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Guest More than 1 year ago
Well-researched survey about contemporary polyamory issues. Authorative references. Many resources and web sites in all national regions. Taormino is a regular columnist for the Village Voice, and attends shows and seminars all over the world.